I hope that you shove your success in your fathers face, and never let him meet his grandchildren. Okay. A bit harsh.

Omg that is seriously twisted. Your mother is a sick woman

How often have people said: You could be so pretty if you just lost the weight.

yes. the opp happened to me though. dad was sick for years (cancer). did everything I could and I couldn't. dropped out of a Ph.D. program to get a stable job to support his treatment and family costs. waited for years to hear him say for once that he was proud of me. never said anything...now it's too late. sometimes I wonder if I would view my life and career choices differently had he been actually proud of me, or if he cared.

hey. u r beautiful. words can b harsh, but they can never strip u off ur beauty. glad u have found a good therapist. hope u continue to see the beauty of life and ur beauty too

God he is a sociopath. Hope you distanced yourself from him

Your parents didn't deserve you

It's never too late

That is abuse, poor girl

Wow, brutal

Which means sadly you were :(

Have you noticed how parents will utter any stupidity because they can't manage their own stress and will take it out on their children because no one else is around to hear them rant?

These are not parents, they're terrorists.

That's gaslighting and my father did it all the time to me. Still does and I'm almost 50.

Nothing like getting belittled to make you feel better, right? Ugh

Oh, s**t. I'm so sorry.

Any parent who tells their child that they hate them does not deserve children and they deserve to be alone in a nursing home when they are older.

Oh man. No mom should every say that.

At least you have no reason to regret cutting her out of your life. When she’s old & needs your help you can ignore her with a clear conscience.

Good grief!

My mom gaslights me saying that i hated her when my brother was born. i was FOUR. and she blames me for her depression if i have problems studying

Soul crushing

That is horrible.

My father told me at age 11 that I was more trouble than I was worth.

Hugs

Wow, just sadistic -

I'm truly sorry for this.... *sad sigh*

I am so sorry. I am 74 and have many bad memories of childhood, teen years and even early 20's. My life is ok now but you can never forget .

i wonder how many times my mom has told my that

Some people should not be parents.

She’s 9 dad. She’s playing soccer which involves a lot of running (assuming she’s not the goalie) so back off!

People fail to realize that self-harming is a coping mechanism toward pain and anger. Mom made it worse by telling you should be ashamed of yourself. I hope that you were able to find the help you needed.

My mom is like this. She doesn't say she doesn't care, but she shows it by not showing interest and changing the subject. Meanwhile, she can blather on for 30-40 minutes about the toast she had for breakfast or how she sat out in the sun for awhile.

When I was growing up, and even into my teens, family friends would say how pretty I was. My mother would say, "Nah, she's not." And, then start to list all my faults. I'd either walk away or stand there, rolling my eyes. So, yeah, I feel you.

I'd need therapy if I had to go through that rubbish too. Of course, I had my own battles with my mother.

Aspergic. Demanding and yes, draining.

Thankfully we wear masks now so we don’t have to look at the faces of ugly trolls like your mom

Ah, I do that too, because of my ADHD. I really hate it, sometimes I say things that make people uncomfortable because I didn’t think before I spoke.

Yep, I only know too well what sort of mom you have.

Nagging for whatever reason never works. It only builds resentment.

This isn't quite the same, but my mother told me that I had no patience for young children. She said this to me when I was 10 years old. I'm surprised that I turned out this well despite her negative attitude.

Don't let her put you off !!