I hope that you shove your success in your fathers face, and never let him meet his grandchildren. Okay. A bit harsh.

Omg that is seriously twisted. Your mother is a sick woman

How often have people said: You could be so pretty if you just lost the weight.

yes. the opp happened to me though. dad was sick for years (cancer). did everything I could and I couldn't. dropped out of a Ph.D. program to get a stable job to support his treatment and family costs. waited for years to hear him say for once that he was proud of me. never said anything...now it's too late. sometimes I wonder if I would view my life and career choices differently had he been actually proud of me, or if he cared.

hey. u r beautiful. words can b harsh, but they can never strip u off ur beauty. glad u have found a good therapist. hope u continue to see the beauty of life and ur beauty too

God he is a sociopath. Hope you distanced yourself from him

Your parents didn't deserve you

It's never too late

That is abuse, poor girl

Wow, brutal

Which means sadly you were :(

Have you noticed how parents will utter any stupidity because they can't manage their own stress and will take it out on their children because no one else is around to hear them rant?

These are not parents, they're terrorists.

That's gaslighting and my father did it all the time to me. Still does and I'm almost 50.

Nothing like getting belittled to make you feel better, right? Ugh

Oh, s**t. I'm so sorry.

Some people should not be parents.

She’s 9 dad. She’s playing soccer which involves a lot of running (assuming she’s not the goalie) so back off!

People fail to realize that self-harming is a coping mechanism toward pain and anger. Mom made it worse by telling you should be ashamed of yourself. I hope that you were able to find the help you needed.

My mom is like this. She doesn't say she doesn't care, but she shows it by not showing interest and changing the subject. Meanwhile, she can blather on for 30-40 minutes about the toast she had for breakfast or how she sat out in the sun for awhile.

When I was growing up, and even into my teens, family friends would say how pretty I was. My mother would say, "Nah, she's not." And, then start to list all my faults. I'd either walk away or stand there, rolling my eyes. So, yeah, I feel you.

I'd need therapy if I had to go through that rubbish too. Of course, I had my own battles with my mother.

Aspergic. Demanding and yes, draining.

Thankfully we wear masks now so we don’t have to look at the faces of ugly trolls like your mom

Ah, I do that too, because of my ADHD. I really hate it, sometimes I say things that make people uncomfortable because I didn’t think before I spoke.

Yep, I only know too well what sort of mom you have.

Nagging for whatever reason never works. It only builds resentment.

This isn't quite the same, but my mother told me that I had no patience for young children. She said this to me when I was 10 years old. I'm surprised that I turned out this well despite her negative attitude.

Don't let her put you off !!

Pick up the guitar! Don't let your toxic mom ruin your dreams. You are never too old to do anything.

Listen--you PICK UP THAT GUITAR. You deserve music. If an instrument calls to you, then you must listen. I always wanted a piano. One was given to me a couple of years ago. I can't read music, but I now play the piano. HEED THE CALL OF MUSIC.

PROVE HER WRONG!!!! I took up the guitar less than a year ago. I'm 54 years old. Left music 30 years ago and missed it terribly. Learn for yourself. It's really hard, but really worth it! DO IT!!!

Do it for YOU!

What has being good at something got to do with it? I started to learn belly dancing 10 years ago. I love it, people ask me to show them how, I danced at a friend's wedding. And I'm NOT good at it! Go for it and have fun my dear

Go for it! I’m 76 and learning piano. Thoroughly enjoying it.

My dad is 67 years old and is trying to play the guitar. Never too late!!

Age and potential ability are never reasons not to pursue a new hobby and/or interest.

My husband is 67 and is just learning to play the ukulele

i started at 45 ... so go for it!

prove her wrong

pick. up. that. guitar. prove that ur mom is not doing a good job at crushing dreams

I also wanted to play guitar, I have teach to my self a lot of stuff but when I told my mom I was going to learn guitar by myself she laughed at me, I have my guitar still in the box it came in.

I'm 47 and just picked up learning guitar. It's never too late

1. Pick up that guitar and play. 2. If your mom wants to come over, tell you are busy. If she says, "Call me when you're free." Then do - how many years before you think you'll be free of her?

Some people suck the fun out of being alive.

You pick up that guitar and have fun! Don't let that negative bitch undermine your confidence.

The only thing to fear is fear itself - NEVER let ANYONE tell you that you are too "old" to do something you want!

You’re never too old to learn something new. Do what you love, for you. It will take so time but be patient with yourself and don’t compare yourself to others.

She's wrong. There are so many things to learn and experience in this world- enough to keep you interested in something new your whole life long. How foolish to think only what you do when you are young has merit! Or that you have to be "good" to make it worth learning! Be a lifelong learner and take joy in the process.

The best revenge is success

I'm 44 and a week ago started learning to play the guitar! It's never too late!!

My friend, punk is waiting for you. Go back to your guitar and play to some Ramones. You CANNOT suck at punk. And then, once the dam breaks, i will see you in the blues, and the funk, and the melo. Music doesn't judge.

Don't tell her stuff. Just do it.

There will always be people trying to bring you down, ALWAYS. It has nothing to do with you, they do it to everyone. Misery loves company