So feeding the child and keeping him happy is other people's responsibility??

This smart kiddo will never see that money again. And this is a painful lesson to learn. When others find out you have and they want, especially if they’re family, they’ll take. And her mom did this to give to a friend? Kiddo needs to pocket as much cash as she can and once she’s 18, get her own account. And consider moving asap. Or get a rental agreement. Money between families is almost always ugly.

I think it's wrong to take your children's money that they earned through work to "help a friend". If you want to help a friend, spend your own money. If you can't afford it, then you can't afford it.

I have no problem with almost adult children with jobs being expected to contribute to the household in a small way if money is tight, but you make it clear up front what is expected and you absolutely do not take money in retrospect. That is theft, plain and simple.

I answered this on Reddit. Kid needs to find out from the mom what the $$ was for that she gave her friend, then sue the mom and the friend for the money back.

That parent would never let you get your own house until they are able to get their hands on your money. It would be better to either move out asap or keep your money in a safe place (away from your parent's reach) until you are able to move out. You did not ask to be born, your parent made that decision on their own and they cannot use "I fed you" against you all the time.

my parents used to do this kind of stuff and it infuriated me, just take stuff I bought with money I earned or take money out of a joint account and use the excuse of it's my house or I take care of you. the parents chose to have a kid and knew the legal and fiscal responsibility it would require. they have no right to ask for you to pay them back, but you have no responsibility to give them anything so if they take something you earned you have every right to ask to be repaid.

anything a parent pays for you when you are not legally an adult is up to them to pay. any money you make on your own as a child also belongs to you. your mom is a b***h.

Poor kid! She really looks smart and resourceful and I'm so sad that probably because of her mom she will turn to bitter adult who doesn't trust others :(

It wasn’t even to some how benefit her and her household, but the moms friend, yes if let’s say they are late in rent or need food ( you still have to pay your child back) it’s still your parental duty to take of them, I would be so proud if my child at that young age saved that much money

The mom is LEGALLYL in the right but a right a-hole. The girl is legally in the right to ghost her in a few months when she turns 18. My ex wife did something kind of similar to my two daughters. They were all awarded some money in an insurance settlement regarding a truck that smashed into them. After spending hers, my ex found reasons to 'borrow' the money set aside for my girls. I think one of them got some or most of it back by being persistently verbal about it and the other didn't bother. It was something like 5 or 10K each. And that money I think they didn't even get until they were legally adults so she borrowed from her young adult daughters and then screwed them over

call the police

Take the rest of the money out and put it in anew account with only your name on it. A different bank would be a good idea, too.

Turn about is fair play. She needs to close her account. Then steal moms jewelry and such to sell and recoup from moms theft.

Yeah. The mom is the AH. The fact that she worked hard to earn that money as a teenager, while in school..I mean you just don't do that to a child.

Definitely NTA. She choose to have you. Feeding and homing you are her responsibility! What a b***h your mom is! And it wasn't for a friend. Please get a separate bank account ASAP or you will have no money left. Do you have a father or trusted aunt/uncle/grandparent you can talk to. I am so mad she did this to you! Make her pay you back! You don't owe her one cent for her doing her job!

NTA This is your mother stealing from you. Suggest you move banks and accounts ASAP with no access for your mother at all. Sorry you had to learn this lesson, and please remember it for tge future, because she will likely play financial games in the future with you. Never allow her access to anything ever again.

This sucks. I'm so sorry for the kid.

Questions: was it actually cash the kid had on his room? Or was it in a bank account on his and his mother's name, or just in his name?if in a bank account on his name, bank had no legal right to give $ to mother

I would be a lot more sympathetic if she said she paid for rent and groceries...

I don't see this as being entitled at all. It's the parents responsibility to care for a child the decision was theirs to have them. Her mother stole from her period.

Never keep money where other people can get to it.

No, you are not. She should pay you back.

Take her to small claims court. AND - why is she able to access your money in the first place? I had my own private savings account when I was 16 and that was a LONG time ago.

Talk to an attorney and see if you can take your evil mother to court

"Paid". On my honor, that's is how it is spelled.

OMG my kids are my responsibility. My money goes to them because it's my duty to raise them. Any money they make on their own is theirs. Full stop. My kids have offered to loan me money before when, for instance, my car has broken down. Thanked them for being so thoughtful and giving and then politely declined. I would NEVER take 5k from them. Disgusting.

Kid needs to report her for theft.

If parents rant, they usually wouldn’t normally do it.

Why does her mum have access to her account? My kids have bank accounts entirely desperate from me and it is staying that way, their money is theirs, not mine

The idea of talking about what your child owes you in terms of what it cost to raise them is horrifying to me. I love my kids, it can be expensive to raise them but I get a return on investment in love and pride and happiness and macaroni pictures. I don't want them to pay me back financially some day, they have already given me the most wonderful part of my life.

Children do not owe parents for having them.

The girl CHOSE to work and save that money. The mom CHOSE to have a child and knew how much money that it would take…

This is so sad. This girl has an amazing work ethic, and did not squander her money. I doubt there was a friend in need; at the very least, her mother should have discussed it with her. If it's really for a friend, aren't they expected to return it at some point? Why should a 16 year old be responsible for an adult's problem? If I were her, I would speak with the bank to make the account require BOTH signatures, not just her mother's.

I feel so bad for that kid having a mother like that. I hope she can get away from her and I hope she cuts off all contact.

The mom probably knows she won't have access to the account soon so she took her opportunity to steal the money. What an awful person!

I would have taken $20 and bought new locks and replaced them while she was out and claimed that the 5k was rent and as the renter of the property have her pay 5k to get back in,then pack your s**t and leave when she gets angry and leaves, now she can pay for a locksmith with her own money or try explaining stealing 5k from your kid.

Ugh this list is rotting my brain

Why didn't she jump out of the plane? Plenty of fresh air out there

I...agree with this?

Comprehension level of an infant 😕

And householdphobic too! Shame!

Can I have some of y'all money? You don't need all of it yourself.