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She’s the girl who believes she’s the best choice and who is never in the wrong. She sees herself as a delicate flower whose heart often gets broken by vicious, toxic men. She’s also convinced that all the male population cares about is how to take advantage of women’s bodies and throws passive-aggressive fits on social media when she gets rejected.  

Sounds familiar? If so, chances are you have encountered at least one ‘nice girl’ in your lifetime. She’s the male equivalent of a ‘nice guy’ and can be equally as toxic and frustrating a persona as these knights in digital armor. 

Luckily, the ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit is set on calling out such behavior in hopes that it helps men and women distinguish fake nice behavior from the real thing. Scroll down to find their most cringeworthy posts, and be sure to share your own ‘nice girl’ encounters below.

While you’re at it, don’t forget to check out a conversation with a women's transformologist, Carolina Stukenberg, who kindly agreed to tell us more about how seeking validation from men can contribute to women becoming ‘nice girls.’

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Manipulation To "Humble" Him

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Manipulation 101 : Guy Becomes A Backup Plan

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In a previous interview for Bored Panda, the moderators of the ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit explained that women who embody this term tend to be jealous and lack maturity and experience. 

In their ‘About’ section, they additionally write that 'nice girls' are the women who complain guys are only interested in ‘females of easy virtue.’ They also are the “women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. The women who hold others to the highest possible standard but have no standards for themselves.” 

However, they note that ‘nice girls’ shouldn’t be confused with ‘female incels,’ ‘crazy girls,’ ‘nice guys,’ or women who believe 'men are trash.’

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Guy Politely Acknowledges Break Up Message And She Gets Mad At Him For It

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Nice Girl Setting Standards

Nice Girl Setting Standards

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This Is A Perfect Example Of Someone Being Overly Dramatic. It's Amusing How Some People Think So Highly Of Themselves

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In another interview for Bored Panda, the moderators distinguished ‘nice girls’ from ‘nice guys,’ saying that the latter tend to be more intense than the former.

"As a woman, I've never heard of a self-proclaimed nice girl turning violent," one team member said. "However, most women I've known have met at least one self-proclaimed nice guy that made them genuinely fear for their safety. Which is not to say that women don't have the potential to be dangerous, or aren't dangerous-but I personally have not heard of a woman stalking a man and committing acts of violence because he spurned her advances."

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Guys, I Think I’m In Love

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Compliments Are Insulting

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The moderators also emphasize that the purpose of the subreddit is not to hate on women. Therefore, they kindly ask their members to refrain from making sexist comments. Their actual aim is to educate women on their internalized sexism and prevent them from becoming the ‘nice girls.’ "We like to believe that female visitors to our subreddit have been pointed in the right direction," they shared.

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This Just Happened On My Alt Account Lol (Now With Less Username)

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Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling (Xpost From R/Boneappletea)

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Couldn’t Be Bothered To Wait When Told He Was On His Way

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The issue of ‘nice girls’ seems to arise from women’s hard-wired need for validation from men. This means that females often seek the approval of males, whether it’s received in the form of compliments, praise, affirmations, or sexual attention. The tendency to seek such validation stems from our patriarchal society, where men’s opinions and perspectives are valued more than those of women. 

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“Many women find themselves seeking validation from others, particularly men, as a way to feel good about themselves,” further explains women's transformologist, Carolina Stukenberg. She notes that such behavior can also derive from deeper issues, such as dysfunctional family dynamics or childhood adversity, which can result in low self-worth and self-esteem in women. 

“In such environments, love and affection may have been conditional, leading to the belief that these must be earned through pleasing others,” says Stukenberg. 

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Girlfriend Cheated On Me. Broke Up With Her Then She Sent This

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I Get What I Want, Always!

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She adds, “Another aspect that creates the need for seeking validation is that from a young age, women may learn to prioritize the needs and expectations of those around them, often at the expense of their own authentic selves. This "good girl syndrome," rooted in the desire to be loved and accepted, can lead to a pattern of self-abandonment. Women may mold themselves to fit the projections of others, masking their true essence in the process.”

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I Too, Love Being A Trashy Person

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She's Mad The Man She Rejected Moved On

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Constantly being conscious of how a man sees you over focusing on how you feel about yourself can greatly damage a person’s self-esteem and result in emotional dependency and unhealthy relationships in which deeper emotional needs are unmet.

Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology also suggests that individuals who thrive on external validation tend to experience higher levels of stress and have a lower overall well-being.

Stukenberg additionally notes, “Women who constantly seek validation from others may experience self-doubt, negative self-talk, burnout from prioritizing others, and a tendency to people-please. These behaviors not only diminish a woman's sense of self but also create a cycle of dependency on others for approval and worth."

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Imagine Being This Self Absorbed

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Happened A While Back, But Being Threatened Still Cracks Me Up

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Next Week She’ll Be Asking “Why Am I Single?”

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However, an individual's need for approval can be so deeply rooted in them that they don’t realize that they’re seeking it. “The first step is to break free from the need for "external" validation, women must first become aware of the patterns that hold them back,” says Stukenberg. “Recognizing these behaviors is a crucial step toward healing and liberation. Women need to understand that self-worth and self-esteem are not fixed; they can be transformed.”

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When the pattern of external validation is recognized, then the person can start working on addressing it. To combat seeking approval from men, women should find ways to seek out self-validation by focusing on their strengths and accomplishments and spending time with people who build them up and make them feel better about themselves. 

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She Seems Nice

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“Women need to prioritize their own needs, set healthy boundaries, and raise their emotional intelligence. This involves learning to say "no" without guilt and communicating their needs and opinions in a healthy and assertive way.

Women should also take time to establish their own values and affirm their self-worth. If breaking these patterns feels challenging, seeking support from a professional or a proven method can be transformative. Healing these wounds and building confidence doesn’t have to take years; it can be achieved through focused work that brings about lasting change,” concludes Stukenberg.

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My Cousin Posts This Nonsense, But Then Goes And Hits Her Ex-Boyfriend With A Car

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