I'm also kinda confused about "the least I can do after everything". What is everything? Dating his fiancee when she was single and didn't even know about Rick's existence?

Good lord, his future wife dared to have a life before him, what a shame is that! And of course that's all her ex boyfriends fault... Rick has major trust issues, a total lack of common sense and if you need couple counselling even before the wedding, you might as well call it off... (and I would never leave the house unattended, god knows what drunken wedding guests might do to the place)

This is so crazy that I almost admire Rick's super natural levels of self of entitlement. I mean who demands that a guy leave his own house so that he could use it himself to throw a wedding? "I don't want that man anywhere near my wife, just tell him to leave the key under the mat and to go for a drive for a few hours"

Tell them, OK you can have the wedding here. But you need to have insurance, get a bond and pay me rent of 10,000 bucks AND sign a contract drawn up by my lawyer that you will NOT hold me or my family responsible for ANY accidents, deaths, losses or unforeseen actions.

The other reason I would want to stay is to keep an eye on the place. No way would I want a load of strangers traipsing around my property without me and my other half being there to to make sure things go smoothly and people behave themselves. Plus, what about if there was an accident? No insurance company would pay up if there was an accident and somebody sued and the insurance company realised that the owners weren't there.

If this doesn’t scream red flag, idk what does. Carla needs to cut those strings now while she can

It's a bit odd that Carla didn't mention dating this guy. She had nothing to be ashamed of, but it was worth a mention, all things condsidered. The wedding needs a new venue.

Rick wants the wedding there as a petty "victory" over the ex (the OP), IMO, and this is why staying friends with some exes is *never* a good idea. There's a reason you broke up, after all.

It amazes me when these situations have clear and cut solutions. First, say no. Second, say hell no if they pester you about it. Third, say f**k you and close the book of that chapter of your life and move on.

Why didn't she tell her fiancé they dated in the first place? That's an odd thing to keep a secret. My maid of honor was dating my ex's best friend. When my husbands friend declined my ex's best friend became the best man and it worked out for the best! We all got along great! My husband knows I married him, that's why they're exes.

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This guy has a lot more patience than I. I would have pretended to begrudgingly say yes and then when the big day came and people started showing up, politely say "Uh... what is this? Get off my property or I will call the police" Then again, I can be a vindictive bastard when someone really messes with me. Hey, at least I'm aware of it ;P

lol NTA.

Easy solution m, if they are going to treat your home as a weddings venue the send them a bill including hefty security deposit incase of damage to property

Kinda unique drama. Cool story bro.

No way and I can't believe the male fiancé would want to have it in your property anyway is he's so jealous.,

It's real simple. You tell them in no uncertain terms that if they want to use your home and property you will be attending the wedding regardless if Rick is uncomfortable about it. You tell them it is non-negotiable. They are saving a boatload of money by not having to pay for a venue. Many thousands I'm sure. The only other option if you were agreeable would be to tell them they now have to pay for a security service inside and out to ensure security and that no one goes anywhere off-limits. They will also have to pay for an after-event cleaning crew. If they want to treat your property like a venue? Then they can pay you as if it is. No matter what happens, that friendship is over. Rick has nuked it. And couples therapy over that? Rick is not marriage material for anyone as he is too emotionally immature. Everyone has a past...

a bunch of two year olds, it seems to me.

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Knowing that the woman you love had sex with other people before you, in my opinion, is different than actually meeting those people who have f**ked her before you. If you dont want to be friends with some guy who "have been there before" i totally understand. Claiming their place for your wedding is not ok.

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Here's the issue. You say it wasn't your obligation to bring up the relationship, but it became your responsibility when they asked if they could use your place for their wedding. First thing I would have told my ex when she asked was "Have you told him we used to date?" If she says no...then she needed to tell her fiance before committing to the venue. It would have been more honest and truthful. If he's jealous, then you don't get invited to the wedding...who cares. But because both of you kept your mouths shut, you're now in a situation where the fiance isn't sure he can trust either of you any more. And you were foolish to think it wouldn't have come out on the day of the wedding. That would have been a disaster. You're not totally the A**hole, but your hands aren't totally clean in this either. As far as letting them still use the venue...that's a big time "nope." If you aren't allowed to be at the wedding to monitor people's comings and goings in your home, then they will have to find someplace else to say their "I do's."