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Interable Couple Goes Viral After Detailing How They Do The “Deed” And Debunking Stereotypes
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Interable Couple Goes Viral After Detailing How They Do The “Deed” And Debunking Stereotypes

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An interabled couple went viral after candidly explaining how they did the “deed.” Taking to their TikTok page on September 20, Amber Cogbill and Neven Hart, who uses a wheelchair, opened up about their intimacy. By sharing an informative video, the pair left many people grateful for the opportunity to learn.

“We know that there’s young people going through the exact same thing that we are, and we want to be here to educate them and let them know that things are still possible,” Amber started.

Highlights
  • Amber and Neven, a paralyzed man and his fiancée, shared their intimacy story on TikTok.
  • Neven uses Trimix medication to help achieve an erection before intimacy.
  • The couple uses the IntimateRider to enhance sexual mobility.
  • Neven is paralyzed from his T6 vertebrae; the couple educates others on intimacy with a disability.
  • Their viral video sparked appreciation and increased awareness for interabled intimacy.

Neven went on to explain that before having sex, he injects a medication called Trimix into the base of his penis. Within five minutes, he becomes fully erect. 

In the video, Neven revealed that the second part of the process of getting ready to fool around involved “positioning.”

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    An interabled couple went viral after candidly explaining how they did the “deed”

    Image credits: amber.cogbill

    The couple clarified that just because Neven was paralyzed, he wasn’t a “pillow princess,” contrary to popular belief, adding: “That is far from the truth.”

    Neven and Amber further highlighted the rehab facility that helped them find different techniques for getting frisky.

    The pair said that they used a sex aid called IntimateRider, a device that helps improve sexual mobility and “enables partners with disabilities to have an active sex life.”

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    Image credits: amber.cogbill

    A slew of people were appreciative that the vulnerable revelations were made public, as a TikTok user commented: “Is my bf paralyzed? No. Did I stay because I’ve always been curious how? Yes.”

    One person wrote: “Love how Neven was pushing ~the intimate rider~ like a swing at the end of the video lmao it’s like a fidget toy.”

    Someone else penned: “Y’all are awesome to explain this stuff.”

    Taking to their TikTok page, Amber Cogbill and Neven Hart, who uses a wheelchair, opened up about their intimacy

    Image credits: ambercogbill03

    “As a nurse thanks,” a netizen added. “I’ll recommend your videos.”

    A separate individual chimed in: “I have never seen this topic on the internet, this is so important. Thanks for sharing.”

    Despite being in their early 20s, the pair has already overcome a lot together after a dirt bike accident left Neven paralyzed two years ago, BuzzFeed reported on Wednesday (October 9).

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    Image credits: ambercogbill03

    Amber told BuzzFeed: “We are unsure of exactly how he crashed because no one saw it actually happen and he knocked himself out. 

    “Neven is paralyzed from his T6 vertebrae and below. The T6 vertebrae is located mid torso, he cannot feel or move anything below his injury.”

    Sharing an informative video, the pair left many people grateful for the opportunity to learn

    Image credits: amber.cogbill

    The couple, based in Southern California, USA, admitted that even though Neven can’t feel his penis, they want people to know that sex and intimacy are possible and enjoyable.

    Amber recalled: “We decided to share our explainer on how we have sex because when Neven first got injured, that topic was one of the main things that we wondered about and wanted to know if it was still possible.”

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    Image credits: ambercogbill03

    “Unfortunately, there was no information on the internet geared toward this, and no one was willing to answer such personal questions. 

    “Knowing what we know now, we are posting this information so we can help other young couples or individuals who are going through the same thing.”

    Research shows that people with physical disabilities tend to have less frequent sexual activity compared to their non-disabled peers, but the differences are complex. 

    You can watch the video video below:

    @ambercogbill03 How does a paralyzed person do the deed? #questionoftheday #fyp #paraplegic #paralyzed #loveyouguys♥️ #wheelchair #wheelchairlife #spinalcordinjury #spinalcordinjurysurvivor #spinalcordinjuryrecovery #fiance #engaged #wedding #fylpシviralシ #educational #motivation #howto #dirtbike #moto #racing #foryoupage #craighospital @Neven ♬ original sound – Amber & Neven Hart

    @ambercogbill03 Are babies still possible for someone paralyzed? #questionoftheday #fyp #paraplegic #paralyzed #loveyouguys♥️ #wheelchair #wheelchairlife #spinalcordinjury #spinalcordinjurysurvivor #spinalcordinjuryrecovery #fiance #engaged #wedding #fylpシviralシ #educational #motivation #howto #dirtbike #moto #racing #foryoupage #craighospital @Neven ♬ original sound – Amber & Neven Hart

    Studies suggest that people with disabilities are often perceived as less sexual, which can affect their sexual experiences and relationships.

    For example, a study found that 43% of people with physical disabilities reported being sexually active, compared to 70% in the general population. 

    However, factors like a lack of access to sexual health resources and societal stigma also play a significant role in these disparities​.

    The viral video continued to ignite positive responses

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    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anything that helps people live their lives fully—-in EVERY respect—-is good news in my opinion. No one should have to give up whole important sections of life because of one glitch in their health/mobility. More power to this lovely couple and to every single one of us, for that matter!

    John Harrison
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1. Slow clap for Andréa Oldereide for posting this. 2. So awesome that this sort of information is being made widely available by wonderful people like this adorable couple. Decades ago, you either talked to your doctor about this stuff or you never learned about it at all. (And of course the technology probably wasn't even available)

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who is on the way to being bedridden, content like this is very helpful. We are left invisible and treated as though we aren't just people wanting to live life as best we can.

    Badulesia
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Error in the title: : it should be "fiancée" as the fiancée is female. Fiancé withouh ending e is male.

    PeachPossum
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. The extra e is only slightly better than autocarrot spelling it "finance"

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    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s awesome that they’re so open about all of this - I genuinely hope they achieve everything they want to do. They’re so clearly on one page and they’re not going to let a “little” thing like partial paralysis throw a wrench in the works - many couples could learn from them ❤️

    Caridina
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, we are talking about intercourse lately? Is Boredpanda kindergarden time over finally, Can we use words like penis, sex, fart, s**t, a*****e finally??

    Ash
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the word you want in the title is "interabled". I saw "interable" and thought, "interrable? Like you can inter them????"

    talliloo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so glad to see them sharing information with others. you can see that they really want to share information for education rather than for prurient purposes. for years this would have been a taboo subject. there is a great documentary out there about people who have greater disabilities than neven and how they cope with their sexuality. it was very explicit, including the fact that some people hire escorts if not dating regularly and other have nurse/assistants actually physically help them and their partner achieve intimacy by assisting with positions, movement, etc. it's about damn time that society stops treating sex and sexuality as something dirty. it's a part of being human.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I may over share so fair warning! But when you're suddenly disabled, mine is spinal bruising in the lower L3-5 roughly, you can lose sensation 'down below'. I remember a guy at the physiotherapy hospital 😄 Oh gosh! Look, we'd talk, discuss anything at all with each other! He said, "I achieved an erection this morning! I didn't know whether to have a w*nk or hang a medal off it!" We're all cracking up and I said, "I don't think Hallmark does cards for that one!" 😄... This couple are inspiring! Because you can lose your sense of sexuality, I did for a while. I had catheters and everything else... Nurses rummaging around 'down there' a lot! So you can start to disassociate your 'down belows' with being sexual. It takes time to re-adjust to, not only your new disability, but also with different sensations, loss of sensation etc. Mine... Ok, here's the overshare! I achieved an orgasm when I was back home! I'd felt something down there and so tried "self pleasure"! It worked!...

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told two of my closest friends and they were "Omg, that's fantastic! You're healing!" 💜 I was - "Yeah, don't feel the need to send me a card or anything btw! 😄" but when you regain that sensation? Achieve that? Yups, it's a huge thing and should be celebrated! 💜💜💜

    Load More Replies...
    Marcos Valencia
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me some time to understand that -able was a lexeme and not a morpheme.

    Evagating Beewolf (she/they)
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Improtunity? Is Andrea even reading the A"I" output? edit: and interable, did they change the title, because I didn't notice it.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anything that helps people live their lives fully—-in EVERY respect—-is good news in my opinion. No one should have to give up whole important sections of life because of one glitch in their health/mobility. More power to this lovely couple and to every single one of us, for that matter!

    John Harrison
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1. Slow clap for Andréa Oldereide for posting this. 2. So awesome that this sort of information is being made widely available by wonderful people like this adorable couple. Decades ago, you either talked to your doctor about this stuff or you never learned about it at all. (And of course the technology probably wasn't even available)

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who is on the way to being bedridden, content like this is very helpful. We are left invisible and treated as though we aren't just people wanting to live life as best we can.

    Badulesia
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Error in the title: : it should be "fiancée" as the fiancée is female. Fiancé withouh ending e is male.

    PeachPossum
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. The extra e is only slightly better than autocarrot spelling it "finance"

    Load More Replies...
    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s awesome that they’re so open about all of this - I genuinely hope they achieve everything they want to do. They’re so clearly on one page and they’re not going to let a “little” thing like partial paralysis throw a wrench in the works - many couples could learn from them ❤️

    Caridina
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, we are talking about intercourse lately? Is Boredpanda kindergarden time over finally, Can we use words like penis, sex, fart, s**t, a*****e finally??

    Ash
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the word you want in the title is "interabled". I saw "interable" and thought, "interrable? Like you can inter them????"

    talliloo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so glad to see them sharing information with others. you can see that they really want to share information for education rather than for prurient purposes. for years this would have been a taboo subject. there is a great documentary out there about people who have greater disabilities than neven and how they cope with their sexuality. it was very explicit, including the fact that some people hire escorts if not dating regularly and other have nurse/assistants actually physically help them and their partner achieve intimacy by assisting with positions, movement, etc. it's about damn time that society stops treating sex and sexuality as something dirty. it's a part of being human.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I may over share so fair warning! But when you're suddenly disabled, mine is spinal bruising in the lower L3-5 roughly, you can lose sensation 'down below'. I remember a guy at the physiotherapy hospital 😄 Oh gosh! Look, we'd talk, discuss anything at all with each other! He said, "I achieved an erection this morning! I didn't know whether to have a w*nk or hang a medal off it!" We're all cracking up and I said, "I don't think Hallmark does cards for that one!" 😄... This couple are inspiring! Because you can lose your sense of sexuality, I did for a while. I had catheters and everything else... Nurses rummaging around 'down there' a lot! So you can start to disassociate your 'down belows' with being sexual. It takes time to re-adjust to, not only your new disability, but also with different sensations, loss of sensation etc. Mine... Ok, here's the overshare! I achieved an orgasm when I was back home! I'd felt something down there and so tried "self pleasure"! It worked!...

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told two of my closest friends and they were "Omg, that's fantastic! You're healing!" 💜 I was - "Yeah, don't feel the need to send me a card or anything btw! 😄" but when you regain that sensation? Achieve that? Yups, it's a huge thing and should be celebrated! 💜💜💜

    Load More Replies...
    Marcos Valencia
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me some time to understand that -able was a lexeme and not a morpheme.

    Evagating Beewolf (she/they)
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Improtunity? Is Andrea even reading the A"I" output? edit: and interable, did they change the title, because I didn't notice it.

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