From what was written, it is clear he thinks he is normal, and does not recognise al the the signs of sociopathy. His updates are all about control. He mentions how he was 'being honest', and wonders why he isn't getting brownie points for that. Being honest is the base level - you get no brownie points for being honest. he is accepting no responsibility for his lies, and fails to understand lies of omission are just as much lies as saying you went to an Ivy League university when you didn't. And, yes, sociopathy can be inherited.

This guy is a serious threat. He's all about power and control, major red flags throughout his posts...I'm feeling nauseous and hoping this isn't real. If this is a real story, the dude needs major help, his wife needs to leave, and their child needs serious professional help, as do the parents, but intervention in early childhood, 4 is still quite young, the better outcome for the child.

OP never stopped being a sociopath. That's not how that works. You are one or you aren't. What he did was learn to mask it well. In this case, so well he let himself forget what he was. But he literally lied and withheld information from his wife. And now that the mask is failing, he's showing who he's always been. In his mad dash to try to fix his situation, he's likely to spiral into worse behavior if he doesn't figure out how to get control over himself. She needs to get out fast. Being a sociopathic isn't necessarily a bad thing. Or more accurately doesn't guarantee you to be a bad person. But you need to learn to be open about who and what you are so that you properly address your issues and motives in real time with those you know and love.

This guy is reverting to his original state, so to say. He worked hard to get his sociopathic traits under control and, if all else would have been fine, he could have had a very good marriage for years. However, I have the feeling that genetics is catching up with him and he just can't sustain his learned behaviour anymore and is reverting to his original state, so to speak. Generational trauma? Perhaps. On the other hand, some mental illnesses are hereditary and that is why there are people who have decided not to have children in order not to perpetuate that cycle. Reading this, his wife needs to get out ASAP because OP is losing control and will do anything to regain it. It it not unknown for psychopaths/sociopaths to kill in order to regain that control.

So much manipulation in this writing, I can't finish it. Reminds me of the abusive ex I escaped and my former-mother, who he very much mirrors.

This is a case study in sociopathic behavior. This mask is off and he's just being his actual sociopathic self for the first time in years as the newest persona doesn't work anymore and his wife is in DANGER.

Ugh, imagine getting stuck with a sociopath for a child because your partner was too selfish to bring up their family medical history? What a nightmare that would be.

Holy c**p I hope she succeeded in escaping and got her son away from him and into therapy...

Poor woman.

He withheld very pertinent information, claims his wife is now unfit to care for their son with no basis, and words things like he needs advice to "resume control of my marriage." He would like to think the issues are in his past, but they're still there. He's paranoid and delusional and needs professional treatment.

Omg... The part where he asks for help from others whose wives have fled similarly? Or what patterns to look for?... Please everyone NEVER answer that question. There's absolutely no doubt in my mind that he's going to look for them, "hunt them down" and try and stop her... She needs to go and go now. I really hope that she has with her son. I also hope noone actually helped him with how to gain access, find them if they have left... The son needs protection and professional help. I really hope that the son gets the helps he deserves and needs...

Holysh!holysh!holysh!t I usually enjoy doing a deep dive on reddit for posts here that are interesting but I feel like I just went through the car wash naked, sans car. That dude is scary.

Lost me at "resume control of my marriage".

Genetics is only one factor, but sociopathy is just another neurodivergence, one that can't be diagnosed until late teens at the earliest. The biting and violent behaviour, isn't "normal" but it isn't uncommon. That's one of the most common issues for kids at that age. Empathy is taught, and you may have to spend more time on that if he's not picking it up. Surgeons and CEO's often score high on sociopathy scales, so it's not like his chances in life are limited if this is the issue. More likely OP and his wife's awful behaviour are reinforcing any bad tendencies the kid has. She's looking for a scapegoat and blaming, he's trying to control everything. Even with great genetics, how can dysfunctional people expect to raise a healthy kid?

Absolutely terrifying.

This gene pool needed a lifeguard and he is one step towards being Ted Bundy.

Omg this guy is sick. Imagine being pissed off at his wife for feeling betrayed for both her and her son. What an extreme sence of entitlement. You never wanted to deal with the issue you just wanted the euphoria blurting out the truth gave you. What a complete loser you are. And then to accuse her of being unfit to raise your child and talk about controlling the situation? Man if I were her I'd run from you so fast. And by the way, she wouldn't be abducting HER child. There isn't a court anywhere that wouldn't see her as having justification for leaving you with him. All she'd have to do is show them this post. You're sick and you need help.

Either a fake post, or OP is sociopath (probably other mental health conditions as well) who cannot acknowledge that his family's mental health history is the cause of this.

Wow, if this is real, he is also a psychopath and while he might have stopped doing the things he did in the past, he clearly is still a psychopath and grasps at straws trying to sound like he somehow got better but he’s still doing the same behavior of living as someone else. He should check himself into a psych ward ASAP and the wife. Should get mental help for the child.

As I soon as I read that you didn't tell your WIFE about your CRIMINAL PAST! Not only are you the biggest a*****e, but you're also manipulative, abusive, and a con man.

Is this even real??

This guy is honestly terrifying. I hope she RUNS.

Wow, those updates. How long ago was this posted? Has anyone seen or heard from this woman to know that she's okay?

This was terrifying to read...he doesn't see the big issue of his 'lie by omission' and wants to know how to tell when his wife is about to jilt so that he can pre-empt her and use the son as leverage?! This must feel like being in a horror/psychological movie. I hope to God she makes it out alive.

If I guy had told me ANY of that, I would have never married him, let alone had his child. And I would try to get out of that situation as quickly as possible

Either the husband or the son is gonna end up killing her. Sociopaths can't be fixed. Run girl.

I wonder if his wife is still alive.

I don't know what y'all r yappin about, he clearly just didn't want to have to make his wife think that he was untrustworthy, and he didn't want to tell her just in case she starts to doubt him but if she can't accept something that was not OP's fault, then that woman needs to see where he is coming from. also JayWantsACat, I agree with you on that one to, he still has a bit of work to do on the sociopath thing.

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Let your wife leave. She doesn't want to take responsibility for your child, and she's looking for anyone to blame instead of how to move forward. She's not concerned about your child, she's not concerned about her spouse, she's displaying sociopathic tendencies and cutting her losses when people are no longer useful to her. It doesn't matter where this comes from, time to focus on your kid. Even if he is a sociopath (and you can't diagnose that until early twenties) he can have a normal life, he's not destined to be a serial kill3r. Most sociopaths are successful and often well liked. Surgeons, pilots, high ranking military, tech bros etc. Definitely consult behaviour specialists but don't panic. Get a few opinion, talk to your kid and see what helps.