I'm with the guys on this one, she is a controlling psycho. Why tf should someone block previous romantic partners if they are still friends? I'm friends with two of my husband's exes and I've never had a reason to feel insecure in my relationship. If you can't trust your partner not to cheat on you, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.

Insecure much?

Why do people enter into relationships with partners they don't trust? If you think the only thing stopping him from cheating on you is a list of rules you've made, you shouldn't be with him. Period. And if you're that insecure that you you get jealous if he has a female friend, you aren't ready to be in a relationship. Work on yourself first.

I find it funny how many times "we all know" or "everyone knows" is mentioned as I didn't know any of them.

So if ur bi, pan ect and in a relationship u aren't allowed friends? Really controlling honestly

“If you’re like 'oh my god, I could never', It’S oKaY, sOmEbOdY eLsE WiLl.” Really? Will someone?

I went into this thinking these would be rules like speaking to her respectfully, or splitting costs on things. But WOW. This is beyond crazy. Has she never had a platonic guy friend in her life?? Because it sure sounds like she wants her boyfriends to cut all ties with any female friends they have or may make. The support she's getting for this preposterous list is absolutely wild.

Wow these seem extreme. All I hear is I’m insecure and look at meeeee! If you can’t trust the person your with then you shouldn’t be with him/her. I give everyone the same level of trust once you break it I’m gone but I cant assume your going to do it just because my ex did. That’s just putting your c**p on someone else who had nothing to do with it. Yes Im sure your bf’s can follow these rules for a time, but eventually they will get sick of it cause it’s irrational and crazy in the end. The older you get the more you realize these things.

Given I've never used Twitter and rarely use social media at all, by itself this wouldn't necessarily bother me. That said, given how specific and strict these rules are, I would worry how jealous someone making them would be with other things

I'm saying this as a woman, God help the poor men who get into these kinds of relationships, the guy friends were absolutely right in saying she's a psycho!

Oh right, because if he follows a girl it must be because boobs, not that she can have interesting content... Internalised misogyny much?

"So if you're like, "Oh my god I would never." It's OK someone else will." Excuse me? Thanks for telling someone right from the get go they're completely replaceable. nd why do you know what's on their search page? I have no clue what's on my guy's search page. I only get any idea that he's surfing for porn if I find the oil next to his computer. All I ever ask is, Don't disrupt the life I have with you. Treat me as you would have me treat you. But the day I find out you've laid lips on anyone else, one of us is finding a new place to live. End of.

Every. Single. One. Is. TOXIC! And huge red flags! Horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE person with horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE tendencies! You're in a relationship and now you can't have female friends?! No guy should date this girl as long as she's this possessive and controlling and manipulative. Worst part is her assurance that if one guy won't put up with her abuse someone else will - fellas, let's work together to change that. Doesn't matter if she's hot and you don't think you can do better, rest assured that yes you can! And needless to say, this goes for women and LGBTQIAP+ people too. Don't let ANYONE awful ruin your life like this!

I don't understand... Clicking on a "like" is the equivalent of cheating on you? I mean, the ppl I follow are miles away or in a different country... Will a LIKE instantly transport me to that person's place so we can shag? What's the big deal about a like???

She can just take her happy a*s on down the road. I've got nothing for her.

someone sounds insecure... like that commenter said, if you can't trust him to have female friends then that's a toxic relationship. Let people have friends, not everything has to be romantic.

If she follows her own rules, there should be no problem. But if she does what she wants but he has to follow her rules . . . red flag.

What if she dated someone who was bisexual? Would he have to stop following EVERYONE? This is controlling and insecure behavior. I can't in a million years imaging asking my partner to follow any of these rules. He has his own life, and one of the reasons I'm with him is because I trust him. Also, I follow almost all my ex boyfriends, chat with them occasionally, and most of them are married. I'm not particularly close to any of them, but we were important parts of each other's lives at one point, and I would be sad if their wives made them cease contact with me.

I think the problem isn't really what she wants, it's that she has rules rather than finding a partner and discussing boundaries they both agree on. Every couple has different comfort levels with different things/different definitions of what constitutes cheating and it's fine for those to be more or less restrictive than typical relationships as long as they're things that couple agrees on rather than a lost of rules imposed by one of them.

Boundaries are a good thing, but this is way beyond normal boundaries to me. It reeks of insecurity and controlling behavior. I have known girls like that and they do it out of pure jealousy. The type who can't even handle it if he even so much as looks at another woman. Especially if she's dressed in a way they don't approve of, like halter tops and shorts, etc. Because even if it's a normal glance they think it's cheating. However they had no such rules for themselves.

I'm a woman and I find this to be absolutely absurd and controlling. If you can't trust the person you are with, move on or be single. She's one step away from banning use of all social media. What's next? Can't have a phone that dials anything other than her number or 911? Yikes.

Ridiculous. I bet he isn't allowed to watch any Fas & Furious movies because of how the girls at the races are dressed or he'd be told to FFwd past those scenes. I guess he is not allowed to go to the beach because, well, bikinis of course. It is possible to remain friends after a breakup so if he has EXs he's still friends with, why should he block and ghost them for your insecurity? Let's see, what else is affected by those over-the-top rules? No following female celebrities and musicians on social media, no watching female sports, I guess all James Bond movies are out. I guess he won't be buying you any gifts from Victoria's Secret because there are other women in there and he might accidentally look at one. No talking to or socializing with female coworkers on lunch break. Yeah, that girl is nuts. You don't want to step in front of that bullet.

I listened to her talk for about ten seconds, and I can’t help but wonder why any guy would date her at all. She has a revolting personality.

I see multiple cats in her future.

She needs to be following the exact same rules, with no exceptions,

Me as female would NEVER agree to these rules! If he don't trust me that bit, then he's free to go. And i would NEVER ask him to do any of those either, if he wanna cheat he will find the way anyways and if he does that, it tells our relationship was what he needed.

So if this is the case, then it would have to go both ways, right? Does that mean that she won’t ever search for guys, add any guys after they started dating, never comment on a guy’s post who puts shirtless pics, etc? Why shouldn’t she make a point to say that she’ll do the same? That’s the only way I could even begin to rationalize any part of this kind of control, but I’m not seeing or hearing it…

I read this as "don't interact with women at all", which is BS. Also note that she requires "ALL" her boyfriends to follow these rules. I wonder how long they stick around...

If she was not psycho, like she claims, it would be boyfriend not “boyfriendS”.

I don't like those rules because it implies there is no trust and no man should ever be trusted ever and that's just so toxic. Also, do those rules apply to her in reverse? Does she block all ex's too? Does she block all men on her stories? If he's required to do that, then she should do the same or she's a huge hypocrite.

This is just her rules for social media, imagine her offline rules. Probably one of those girls that flips out if the guy so much as glances in another girl's direction. If she were a man everybody would be ripping her apart for this.

She sounds like the kind of crazy who would flip out about her boyfriend texting female relatives.

Yeah, as a woman, I agree with maybe two or three. At least two. The rest are horse s**t and controlling. The kind of woman who makes us women look bad.

Tell me you are controlling, possessive and jealous without telling me you're controlling, possessive and jealous. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Edit, spelling Edit 2: and I have to say, I'm concerned with how many people think this is OK 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I predict her being single her whole life

Was this how Jada and Will started? Definitely toxic...

A great foundation for a Coercive and Controlling behaviour charge on your rap sheet. Do people like her not realise that in some countries this sort of behaviour is against the law? It is in my country and the UK as well as some European countries.

She obviously has trust issues, but she also has control issues. I hope, for her sake, she finds a Harry to lead around by the nose and control, but if not, she's going to spend a very lonely old age. Discussing these points with a man and agreeing together what is upsetting and/or acceptable is fine, but to simply demand these things from a guy is wrong. Think about it the other way. What if this was a guy demanding all these rules from his girlfriend? Everyone would be flipping out with rage at how controlling he was being, etc., etc.

This girl has obviously been burned very badly. There has to be trust, or you have no relationship. It is where the foundation is. And trust can only be built over time. People have pasts that come with all different kinds of baggage. You have to be willing to be vulnerable enough to each help the other unpack...you will NEVER find a perfect person. They don't exist. Humans are flawed. They make mistakes. And no set of arbitrary rules are going to prevent mistakes or potential problems in any relationship. Boundaries yes, RULES no....

This is BS. Are you his girlfriend or his mother? And is he like, 9? I think you must unfortunately, be very insecure. Do you not look at other guys? "Follow" them? Maybe you don't. But if your guy sincerely cares for you, and you KNOW it, you shouldn't care if he still has his ex as a contact, or if he looks at other women in bikinis. He's a guy, right? Let him be a guy. Do you want to be "controlled". Unlikely.

Guess this is why she is still single.