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The internet can be a wonderful tool to use to connect with people that are like-minded, that can help you with your problems or that can become your romantic partners in the future. There are numerous apps which can assist you with the latter. But if you have any experience with those apps, you realize that there are so many people who don’t share the same values as you and it turns out that you just wasted your time getting to know a person with whom you can’t see yourself.

But after some time, you find some tricks and control questions that immediately reveal if the conversation is worth continuing. TikToker Amanda N went viral with 9 million views for sharing her method of asking the other person to tell their most controversial opinion and showing their answers. Other TikTokers joined the trend too and we found out that this simple question actually reveals a lot about a person.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never trust a person that doesn't like animals. (Unless they have a verifiable bad experience with one, like being bitten. I guess they get a pass)

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Amanda N posted her video earlier this month and 9.4 million people were interested to hear what she said. And apparently people thought that her advice is really useful and is a time-saver when it comes to finding out if the conversation is worth continuing and if the person is worth their time because the video also has 1.4 million likes and has started a bit of a trend. 

Other people on TikTok started creating videos similar to Amanda’s using the same song in the background and showing what their matches on dating apps were saying were their most controversial opinions. 

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    Jacin Larkwell
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The "Unwind" Series is based kinda like a what if around this opinion. Very good and thought inducing

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    Shadow_TheArtistDemon
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will probably get downvoted, and I’m sorry if I am misinterpreting this, but I kind of agree! (I swear that I don’t mean to say anything rude, ever!)

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    We can’t know if those people who were sharing the answers showed everything they received or just the ones that were actually controversial and borderline concerning, but even if they showed the worst messages they got, there were too many of them.

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    Some of the answers were more lighthearted, like liking a specific movie or having an opinion about food. But others were highly political, racist or sexist, immediately indicating that person's core values.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well that's just science. Is it controversial to say that there are physical differences between men and women? I teach anatomy - am I about to get cancelled?

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    Foxxy (The Original)
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too bad that wouldn't work for many jobs like construction, transit, people on call etc.

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    NsG
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm a woman and I don't get the almost comically long nails some women have. The ones about as long as half their finger again. They're not practical for anything; you could literally have someone's eye out and fingernails on a keyboard is way more annoying than fingernails on a chalkboard - the latter is limited by the size of the board, you'd have a brief pause while they reposition their fingers. But on a keyboard they could theoretically be at it for 8 WHOLE HOURS (theoretically, because I'd have thrown their damn computer out the window before the first hour is up)

    Ray_gunn
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a man and I know men are insecure too, it's not a 'woman thing' it's a human trait.

    Luke Oakridge
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But the difference is that when women are insecure, they get sympathy, but when men are insecure, they get mocked.

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    Foxxy (The Original)
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like the look of slightly long fake nails (not stupidly long). I've had them done a few times. Honestly they are a pain in the f*****g a**e. They get in your way and make some of the simplest tasks, more difficult. Plus you need to get them refilled every few weeks which ends up costing you a s**t load over time. Will never get them done again.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have naturally strong nails but I don't let them get too long. About 4mm length? If they are too long I can't do a bloody thing.

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    Chiuki
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Insecurity isn't gender-based. We *learn* to be insecure or confident. Yes, we are all born different, but being female doesn't inherently make someone insecure. That's bull$hit.

    Marnie
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course women are not inherently insecure. But insecurity in women is a HUGE problem at least in the US. Unfortunately, with the "girl power" junk of my son's youth and the unrealistic body images that men see, I think men have probably caught up. A country full of very self-conscious and insecure people (not all of them, of course, but far too many). So much bad sex or no sex going on nowadays due to this compared to in the past.

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    H Edwards
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the question and the answer are slightly at odds with each other. The question was trying to goad him into making a negative general statement about women, and what he has done is named two qualities that he doesn't like in a woman. So he's not saying that all women are insecure and have long fake nails, he's just saying that he doesn't like it when they do, which is a fair opinion.

    Me Oh My
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm AFAB, and I don't get it. What the HELL is up with the dino claws?

    Laura
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally I have kid hands, really small, and short nails. I never had my nails long because for me are uncomfortable and not my cup of tea so I always wondered how they manage to wipe after... well... you know... Totally honest question, not to be disrespectful. Just curious.

    Shaylynne Gosnell
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    whats wrong with fake long nails? i love them my hands are really small compared to some people and it makes me feel a lot less insecure about my hands because it makes my hands appear skinner and longer instead of short and fat.

    Candia Lee
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some of us don't care what our hands look like. I inherited thick knuckles, not much I can do to improve that look.

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    JessRS
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a woman and I agree with the fake long long nails there, they freak me out and make me think about giant spiders or monsters that will rip your flesh off your body and let you bleed to death

    Inclusion 2020
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men are just as insecure as women lmao. Anxiety, fear, and trauma are human experiences not gender-specific experiences.

    Luke Oakridge
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But the difference is that insecure women get sympathy from people while insecure men get mocked.

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    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are so dumb with that “insecure” shít as an insult. Everyone is insecure about something. And even if everyone wasn’t, insecurity is a normal feeling. Acting like a bìtch because you’re insecure isn’t the same as being insecure.

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    Bexxxxx
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a woman I too don’t get the weirdly long unnatural looking trend BUT! LET 👏 THEM 👏 DO 👏 It 👏 AND 👏 SHHH. It’s not for you, no one cares if you don’t like it.

    Luke Oakridge
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He never said they couldn't do it. He just said didn't like it. Why attack him for that?

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    Orion C.
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ah yes, negative blanket statements. but the nails arent a very popular thing but they kind of are a little bit weird. not everyone has them tho.

    Mayrene Chester
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do people with fake long nails, the sharpish kind, put on their contact lens?

    Alexis minnix
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men can be insecure to. Anyone can. It’s not just a women thing. And not all women are insecure neither are all men. And about the nails, growing really long, strong and healthy nails takes a long time so getting fake nails is just easier.

    Samantha Power
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I teach Jewellery making to a group of people in a drop in Centre. One lady has these ridiculously long nails, she can barely use her hands for anything, and it very much restricts what she can do.

    michael dill
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my friend has those nails and they are weird but i love it when they scratch my back for like no reason. weirdly i think those nails were supposed to be back scratchers

    Jasmine Hufflepuff Henderson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree with the long nails. I like short to medium nails. I can't do anything with long nails, but I like fake nails because I work with my hands on a daily basis and they help protect my natural nails.

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    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not really controversial. We all land on a spectrum in oh-so-many areas. :-)

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    People are often skeptical towards the odds of finding a long-term relationship through dating apps. But both in real life and online, there are different people who you just wouldn’t get along with and people who you really click with.

    According to Imperial College Business School’s data, in the UK, 32 percent of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 originated online. This is quite a significant increase from 19 percent during the period recorded earlier between 2005 and 2014.

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    NsG
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not really original controversies, but the most egregious is the misspelling of lettuce.

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    The Imperial Business School predicts that by 2035, more people will be in relationships that started online rather than meeting through friends, family or at other social gatherings. Online dating definitely has its pros and cons and to make the experience smoother, tips like Amanda’s will surely come in handy.

    What is your experience with dating apps? Will you be trying to ask for controversial opinions from now on? What is your take on the answers TikTokers got there? Leave us your thoughts and reactions in the comments!

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    Chiuki
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a cyclist who has been hit by a car, AND lived in the Netherlands, I agree that we can't safely co-exist on small roads - car drivers get impatient when they have to (god forbid) slow down to safely pass a cyclist. But it's not like they are suffering - they're just sitting there in a comfy seat, shaking their fist at someone who ALSO pays taxes for the same road.

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    Susie Elle
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess you're allowed to feel weird if you get hit on by someone from the same gender? I mean, as long as that doesn't become a reason to treat someone else like crap.

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    Yula Lopez
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also could be viruses and diseases which have been frozen in Antarctica which are melting, but sure, real estate is a priority as opposed to a second pandemic and destroying the planet

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    Thorfin Wolfsbane
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    when someone says "free will is a lie", run away! They are just laying the groundwork for not having to take any blame or responsibility for their actions. And don't we all know at least one person who is NEVER to blame?

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    Thorfin Wolfsbane
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    don't worry, I won't get you started because I know all I need to from that one statement.

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    Ebony
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is body shaming when you feel the need to put someone down for their appearance based on of what YOU believe is a standard for beauty or health. If that's the case, you're an a-hole

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    Bacony Cakes
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Black Lives Matter is racist" "Hate crimes need to have stronger consequences" this man's a living contradiction

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    Thorfin Wolfsbane
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, of course. A global conspiracy that killed millions just to get Trump out of office. Makes too much sense (sarcasm)

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    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My controversial opinion is that Trump lost, but if you believe he won, then he cannot by 22nd Amendment run in 2024, so he's just scamming for cash, it's all a con, and it always was and will be.

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    sofacushionfort
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know! Here I had plans for the weekend, but now they’re wrecked because I have to supply my horse and weapons and retinue for some stupid siege.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see anything wrong with that if it's something that they both agree to do and if the couple fulfills their end of the bargain.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    sometimes i wonder if LGBQT people complain about all the "straight stuff" that's pushed on society today.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Besides how hawkish Kennedy was to begin with, Eisenhower specifically named/warned of it in his farewell address. And once again, it speaks volumes of Dunning-Kruger-type ignorance to sooner believe there was some sort of super-secret inside job instead of the obvious fact that it was carried about by terrorist exploiting obvious loopholes and getting lucky (ex. one of the hijackers was actually pulled over in MD for unrelated reasons) with the whole post-9/11 reaction on multiple levels further proving that ignorance and incompetence.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let me guess, they are a bully themselves and just trying to excuse their behaviour. Bullying is NOT okay.

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Donald Trump is a hot dog and in today's world a sandwich would have been a better president. Fixed it!

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