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The internet can be a wonderful tool to use to connect with people that are like-minded, that can help you with your problems or that can become your romantic partners in the future. There are numerous apps which can assist you with the latter. But if you have any experience with those apps, you realize that there are so many people who don’t share the same values as you and it turns out that you just wasted your time getting to know a person with whom you can’t see yourself.

But after some time, you find some tricks and control questions that immediately reveal if the conversation is worth continuing. TikToker Amanda N went viral with 9 million views for sharing her method of asking the other person to tell their most controversial opinion and showing their answers. Other TikTokers joined the trend too and we found out that this simple question actually reveals a lot about a person.

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Scagsy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never trust a person that doesn't like animals. (Unless they have a verifiable bad experience with one, like being bitten. I guess they get a pass)

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Amanda N posted her video earlier this month and 9.4 million people were interested to hear what she said. And apparently people thought that her advice is really useful and is a time-saver when it comes to finding out if the conversation is worth continuing and if the person is worth their time because the video also has 1.4 million likes and has started a bit of a trend. 

Other people on TikTok started creating videos similar to Amanda’s using the same song in the background and showing what their matches on dating apps were saying were their most controversial opinions. 

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Jacin Larkwell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "Unwind" Series is based kinda like a what if around this opinion. Very good and thought inducing

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will probably get downvoted, and I’m sorry if I am misinterpreting this, but I kind of agree! (I swear that I don’t mean to say anything rude, ever!)

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We can’t know if those people who were sharing the answers showed everything they received or just the ones that were actually controversial and borderline concerning, but even if they showed the worst messages they got, there were too many of them.

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Some of the answers were more lighthearted, like liking a specific movie or having an opinion about food. But others were highly political, racist or sexist, immediately indicating that person's core values.

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May
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well that's just science. Is it controversial to say that there are physical differences between men and women? I teach anatomy - am I about to get cancelled?

Hot Babushka
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like the bad thing would be if someone said one gender is better than the other. Its 100% true there are differences, but using those differences to discriminate is not good. But I agree with you btw :)

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Susie Elle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because when we talk about equality, what we mean is similar physical strength?

Lily Mac
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah there are quite a lot of people out there that seem to think that when people advocate for gender equality what they mean is that they think men and women are physically the same. I don't know where they get that idea from though. It's pretty obvious that advocates of gender equality are talking about social and legal equality, not physical.

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Seabeast
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The trouble is, many people use the biological difference as an excuse for social differences.

Felicia Dale
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are all kinds of physical differences between all humans. We are also all burdened with weaknesses and gifted with strengths. These things change as we live our lives. Why should this play any role in basic rights? Why should this matter to the idea of equality for all humans?

Aduain Captor
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The word "equal" here is unnecessary. There are physical and biological differences between male, female, intersex and numerous other sexes, but not one single individual fits in the same physical definition box neatly. There are female individuals who are larger and stronger than common males (I fit in that category) due to more natural testosterone. There are some males who are more "traditionally feminine" as well. And then there are more differences between gender expression, but the word "equality" is about offering proper opportunities, treatment and rights. There is literally no need for the word "equality" here unless this person really means that there are inferior and superior sexes which is questionable.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well duh. That’s not even what equality means. It doesn’t mean “same.”

Viv Justviv
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women grow life inside of their bodies and then birth a 7 pound human - don't tell me we aren't physically strong! Don't even get me started on what many women endure physically every 28 days or so.

Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Different kind of strength. In general men can lift and carry heavier loads than women and that is due to their testosterone effecting their muscle mass. Strength comes in many ways.

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Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In generalizations, yes, most men are physically stronger than most women. But not all men and not all women. And so what is the point of the opinion? You think you are better than someone because you are physically stronger?

Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think we're equal but different. Male and female bodies both have their pros and cons.

Mich
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can’t hate on this guy. I mean he doesn’t come right out and say that women will always be superior, but it’s implied, right?

Cheyenne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw a hilarious video of guys strapped to a machine that simulated a labor pain. They couldn’t even even take one.

Mayrene Chester
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean that's quite obvious, it's not really controversial. I mean men are never going to be able to give birth right?

Faith Love-robertson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do men think they are superior physically? Females generally live longer ( no matter what species you're looking at), they create life within their own bodies, and they create food with their own bodies to sustain that life. I would say that females might not run the 100 metre race as fast as men, but the human race doesn't replicate itself by running on a track. Different but equal- IMHO.

Jan Bregulla
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If men can be women and vice versa, where is the difference anyways?

Rob Bob
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We are at a time when it's controversial to say that there is a man and a woman.

Christel Nellemann
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what does that mean, physically not equal- so one is considered inferior to the other , is what it means. - and i BET that he ment, that the body capable of creating a human child and carrying it to term for 9 months is the inferior one. f**k that. having different bodies is not the same, at not being able to be equal.

Tony Reynolds
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Equality" is a term that asks people to make value judgements about traits that they find important, such as physical strength (where men, on average, excel) or emotional intelligence (where women more often excel). It's a terrible goal for addressing our current patriarchy-entrenched society that traditionally places men above women. More appropriate for addressing this situation is striving for equal opportunity, equal respect, equal representation, etc. No one is "equal" to another in ALL ways, because someone is always smarter or stronger or more talented, etc so seeking "equality" is the wrong goal because its not feasible.

Mischa Puschelchen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True, men are simply not able to produce a human being and squeeze it through a usually tiny opening. Their bodies are too unflexible, they would die. Their bodies are useful for certain hard labour, but not more than that, I'm afraid.

Riley Quinn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Screw equality. Too much time has been wasted on equality. I'm after equity. When we all have equity, life will be much more egalitarian.

Cydney Golden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Equal implies one is better than the other. Let's assume that biologically we are all different with different assets and flaws.

DetongLhamo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So misogyny and patriarchy are justified because some men are stronger than some women? Men get paid more than women in office jobs, for instance, because they’re potentially physically stronger even though that’s irrelevant? If physical strength is a measure of superiority, shouldn’t one of those numb nuts who pull aircraft along runways to get into the record books be World Leader?

Finola Cat
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he should have said they can never be the same thing, and that is true. Equality is a different concept, and he does try to make himself clear later. Vive la difference!

Christoph
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess that depends on how much you value physical strength.

Sirena Ross
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So males are physically inferior because they are unable to bear children? Fascinating. (Biological superiority is a dangerously stupid idea)

Jess Thompson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are we trying to be physically equal? 😂 I thought we were fighting for equal treatment, not outdated Neanderthal strength that we don’t need because machines are a thing.

Mayrene Chester
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men and women are never going to be equal I agree, but we should be given equal opportunities and access.

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Inclusion 2020
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On a large scale, we are probably never going to achieve social equity either. Sad, but I think it's true.

Paizleypie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think if a parent doesn't want their child anymore they should be able to surrender them like a newborn. Too many $hitty parents destroy their children's lives.

QueenMiri
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree. Yes physically we are different obviously. But not every men has the same physical strength either. Equality can only exist by taking equity in account. Every group of people has their specific needs and only by taking that in account we are creating equality. Barely anyone even talks about that.

DC
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Equal is not equal to equal. People hitting on egalitarism never understand that ... equality towards animals, for example, cannot go further than involving rights they can execute. My cat being allowed to issue a newspaper or run for office or vote is pointless, her being protected from violence just as a child of her size and weight OTOH is the bare minimum owed to her by anyone even close enough to violate it - which I honestly wouldn't advise, there is nothing granted towards people doing her any bad...

Quaumsy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean he’s not wrong, it just came off a little…sexist

BoopBoop
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It comes off sexist because he's implying that men having greater muscle mass than women makes them physically superior, which is stupid of course.

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Capelli rosa e patate
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Equality is the wrong word. We’ll never be the same as one another but we can definitely be equal. He’s not wrong y’all, physically men are naturally stronger 🤷🏻‍♀️

Laura Pantazis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think that men and women are ever going to be equal socially. There is just too much corruption and strongly held beliefs preventing that from happening and that is not going away in my lifetime. I hate that it is always going to be a fight to get women equal rights worldwide.

Grant Barlow
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think people should read “Harrison Bergeron by Kurt Vonnegut Jr.” It’s a short story about how equality isn’t always fair. Really good,

Simply depressed
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is a fact. Women have a uterus, for example, and men have a prostate. How can they be physically equal?

Dwight k schrute.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is true and unfortunately it's a conversation not a lot of people are willing to have.

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How about just admittin that you put not just your foot in your mouth, but your entire leg, or better yet, just said something else in the first place, instead of trying futilely to save your mistake?

Monday
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's right. Men and women will NEVER be physically equal. It's simple biology. We have different body parts and different hormone levels, it's not a measure of ability at all.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too bad that wouldn't work for many jobs like construction, transit, people on call etc.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I'm a woman and I don't get the almost comically long nails some women have. The ones about as long as half their finger again. They're not practical for anything; you could literally have someone's eye out and fingernails on a keyboard is way more annoying than fingernails on a chalkboard - the latter is limited by the size of the board, you'd have a brief pause while they reposition their fingers. But on a keyboard they could theoretically be at it for 8 WHOLE HOURS (theoretically, because I'd have thrown their damn computer out the window before the first hour is up)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not really controversial. We all land on a spectrum in oh-so-many areas. :-)

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People are often skeptical towards the odds of finding a long-term relationship through dating apps. But both in real life and online, there are different people who you just wouldn’t get along with and people who you really click with.

According to Imperial College Business School’s data, in the UK, 32 percent of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 originated online. This is quite a significant increase from 19 percent during the period recorded earlier between 2005 and 2014.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not really original controversies, but the most egregious is the misspelling of lettuce.

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The Imperial Business School predicts that by 2035, more people will be in relationships that started online rather than meeting through friends, family or at other social gatherings. Online dating definitely has its pros and cons and to make the experience smoother, tips like Amanda’s will surely come in handy.

What is your experience with dating apps? Will you be trying to ask for controversial opinions from now on? What is your take on the answers TikTokers got there? Leave us your thoughts and reactions in the comments!

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a cyclist who has been hit by a car, AND lived in the Netherlands, I agree that we can't safely co-exist on small roads - car drivers get impatient when they have to (god forbid) slow down to safely pass a cyclist. But it's not like they are suffering - they're just sitting there in a comfy seat, shaking their fist at someone who ALSO pays taxes for the same road.

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Susie Elle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess you're allowed to feel weird if you get hit on by someone from the same gender? I mean, as long as that doesn't become a reason to treat someone else like crap.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also could be viruses and diseases which have been frozen in Antarctica which are melting, but sure, real estate is a priority as opposed to a second pandemic and destroying the planet

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

when someone says "free will is a lie", run away! They are just laying the groundwork for not having to take any blame or responsibility for their actions. And don't we all know at least one person who is NEVER to blame?

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Thorfin Wolfsbane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

don't worry, I won't get you started because I know all I need to from that one statement.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is body shaming when you feel the need to put someone down for their appearance based on of what YOU believe is a standard for beauty or health. If that's the case, you're an a-hole

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Black Lives Matter is racist" "Hate crimes need to have stronger consequences" this man's a living contradiction

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Thorfin Wolfsbane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, of course. A global conspiracy that killed millions just to get Trump out of office. Makes too much sense (sarcasm)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My controversial opinion is that Trump lost, but if you believe he won, then he cannot by 22nd Amendment run in 2024, so he's just scamming for cash, it's all a con, and it always was and will be.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know! Here I had plans for the weekend, but now they’re wrecked because I have to supply my horse and weapons and retinue for some stupid siege.

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Ebony
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't see anything wrong with that if it's something that they both agree to do and if the couple fulfills their end of the bargain.

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Thorfin Wolfsbane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sometimes i wonder if LGBQT people complain about all the "straight stuff" that's pushed on society today.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Besides how hawkish Kennedy was to begin with, Eisenhower specifically named/warned of it in his farewell address. And once again, it speaks volumes of Dunning-Kruger-type ignorance to sooner believe there was some sort of super-secret inside job instead of the obvious fact that it was carried about by terrorist exploiting obvious loopholes and getting lucky (ex. one of the hijackers was actually pulled over in MD for unrelated reasons) with the whole post-9/11 reaction on multiple levels further proving that ignorance and incompetence.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me guess, they are a bully themselves and just trying to excuse their behaviour. Bullying is NOT okay.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Donald Trump is a hot dog and in today's world a sandwich would have been a better president. Fixed it!

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