Mother Of The Groom Convinces Her Son That His Bride Has Turned Into A ‘Bridezilla’, Cries When She Stands Up For Herself

A wedding during the COVID-19 era looks different. So does its preparation. Couples have to follow the news closely and maintain an open conversation with their vendors and guests. Navigating everything is exhausting. And some people just can’t catch a break. Reddit user u/Jolly_3772 is one of them.

She and her partner had to cancel their wedding twice during the pandemic. And when things finally were looking good for her, a new problem arose, in person. Her mother-in-law. Not only did the lady completely hijack the planning of the big day, but she also made u/Jolly_3772’s fiancé think his bride began turning into a bridezilla. Not knowing what to make of it and how to react, u/Jolly_3772 turned to the subreddit r/AmItheA**hole, explaining the entire situation and asking for advice.

Mother Of The Groom Convinces Her Son That His Bride Has Turned Into A 'Bridezilla', Cries When She Stands Up For Herself

Image credits: Samantha Gades (not the actual photo)

Mother Of The Groom Convinces Her Son That His Bride Has Turned Into A 'Bridezilla', Cries When She Stands Up For Herself

Image credits: Jolly_3772

Wedding planner Lisa Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, thinks that brides and grooms need as much understanding and empathy as one can muster during these difficult times. “Last year during COVID has been one of the most stressful we’ve ever experienced as a world, can you even imagine planning a wedding in the midst of all this? Some of my couples have now postponed their wedding twice,” Burton told Bored Panda. “Hopes and dreams are being crushed and emotions are raw. Remember, this is supposed to be one of the most joyous times of the couple’s lives so if they want something that you are not fully onboard with I suggest holding your breath and keeping your thoughts to yourself. After all, it’s the couples’ day.”

Burton said that stories like this one are fairly common. “Unfortunately, this happens more than you’d imagine,” she said. “We see a lot of moms thinking the day is as much about them as it is about the bride. They can overstep boundaries and try to influence the bride and groom into doing something they’re not happy with.”

It’s good to have someone by your side when this happens. Someone who has experience in resolving these conflicts. As a wedding planner, Lisa wears many hats. Along with planning, she’s the source of advice when the couple is struggling to balance difficult family dynamics. “I’m a shoulder to cry on in stressful times and sometimes I even do a bit of light counseling if you can call it that,” she explained.

“In general, my couples are strong and confident and their weddings are self-financed, but even then there have been occasions where I’ve had to work with them to get them to assert their confidence and plan the day that they want and not the day their parents want!”

Let’s hope that u/Jolly_3772 finds a way out.

People think the mother-in-law is way out of line

Mother Of The Groom Convinces Her Son That His Bride Has Turned Into A 'Bridezilla', Cries When She Stands Up For Herself

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varwenea 3 years ago

I like the last advice. NTA. Take the money and leave the apron-string useless not-future husband. Life with him and MIL will be hell.

62points

Hans 3 years ago

The husband probably is a victim himself of a narcissist. Realising this and leaving it behind can be a long and painful process.

19points

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Raena Celis 3 years ago

I agree with the last advice as well, in fact halfway thru reading the post I'm shrieking "Lose Him!" That's a Mama's boy right there, and although I've never dated one, my sister was married to one and f**k that

4points

Otter 3 years ago

Yeah, that comment wins the thread! Seriously, they don't want a big wedding, the wedding planning is causing endless conflict, they ought to just get married at the courthouse, throw a party, and move.

3points

lara 3 years ago

Leave. This marriage is already broken. There is no fixing it. If you have to demand that he choose, then you have already "lost him." Living with his mother gives her a chance to deluge him with propaganda. Even if he "chooses" you he will always resent you making him choose. You have a child, your heart will mend. Leave.

33points

Otter 3 years ago

Since there's a child, they really do have to try to fix it. Couples counseling would be a good start, and so would cancelling the damn wedding and using the money to move away from the MIL. But mainly the counseling.

10points

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StrawberryParfait 3 years ago (edited)

Couple's counseling is a sham. It never works, and just teaches the problematic partner how to better manipulate the partner in distress. If a grown man needs to be convinced to back up his own fiance, he'll never agree it's an important point he needs to respect. He already knows. But he's counting on the fact that she will put up with it. If a relationship gets to the point of needing counseling, it's better to cut the losses and move on. Temporary fixes only delay the inevitable. Also, children do better in single parent homes where there is no emotional stress, than growing up in a home where the parents are always arguing.

2points