She never was wrong, nor did she apologize. She would say that I was yelling (when I wasn’t). She would say I had said hurtful things and that I “don’t even realize what I’m saying”.

I ended up seeing a psychiatrist at her suggestion and was put on medication for 7 years (still together with her). I then was hospitalized on psychiatric hold when I mentioned to my psychiatrist that I felt like ending it all because clearly I was hurting someone I loved emotionally and never realized it.

When I got out, someone mentioned I was being gaslit.

We broke up 7 years ago and I am no longer on medication and in a happy relationship with a beautiful son.

I feel like a fool for not realizing that she was doing that.

Sharing this is an embarrassment, I might end up deleting it. I’m just keeping it here in hopes that it might help someone.

Edit: *I always thought I was alone until today. I am overwhelmed. Thank you for all the kind words and I do have quite a few DMs to respond to, so please bear with me. If my experience sounds familiar, please seek support from someone outside of your relationship and unbiased to your situation. You’re not crazy and it’s not always your fault.*.