Definitely NTA I distanced from my mom because she was taking advantage of my finances instead of getting herself a job. My dad already paid her more than enough in alimony. That plus she ran off every guy I ever liked and built the house my dad paid for and gave her in the divorce as a “kangaroo “ house so I could stay at home and take care of her without ever having a life of my own. Point is: If your mom and stepdad expect more or less the impossible from you I’d decide that I have more chances in Phoenix than going over to their place. I find it even more selfish of them that you’ve gone out of your way to help your mom but she won’t do sh*t to better your current situation. It’s your choice what you do with her but as far as I can see it I’d say “goodbye “ and live your own best life. I know I did…..

Hey Pandas, AITA?

NTA. Firstly I'd like to say how proud I am of you for taking steps to better your situation. You have been through so much, yet you still do your best to maintain a relationship with your mum. That speaks volumes about your character, and I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through. You need to really distance yourself from your mum and stepfather. You owe nothing to either of them, and you need to put your own health and wellbeing first, otherwise you will be abused by your mum and stepdad for the rest of your life. Family isn't always blood, and you are under no obligation to your mum, just because she happens to be the one who gave birth to you. You have fought hard to get to where you are, and I'm afraid that your mum will likely drag you back to square one, whether that's her intention or not. Please update us on your situation if you can! I wish you the very best in the future.

Hey Pandas, AITA?

In my opinion, NTA. Why do you even help her anyways, when you have such bad history with her. I get that you're family, but I wouldn't help my mom out if she didn't help me. She didn't tell step father of this move, and doesn't support you. She just sits there and doesn't care. I'd say she's using you a bit.

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