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Claire Parent • commented on 7 posts 2 years ago

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She gave some money and specifically told me she did not want it to go towards the wedding, home improvement only.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

Honestly, that probably would have saved a headache or two, or three...

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She gave some money and specifically told me she did not want it to go towards the wedding, home improvement only.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

Honestly, that probably would have saved a headache or two, or three...

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She didn't want to pay for a hotel room, period. So, if we were uncomfortable having her sleep outside our bedroom on our wedding she wanted us to go to a hotel.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

Thank you! It was incredible! The weather was beyond perfect and everything went as planned

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

We helped all of our guests from out of town find close hotels, but yes, they otherwise all made their own arrangements and ALL guests from out of province even asked how they could assist us on our big day! 🥰

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She (my mother) and her sister (my aunt)....

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

My husband is amazing and super supportive!

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Claire Parent • upvoted 10 items 2 years ago

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Wow! Your own mother? Sounds like getting off easy only having to get a motel room for a night. Traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding and since she is such a cheapskate I doubt she is. She should want to do whatever is necessary to attend her own daughters wedding. NTA!

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

When your mother gave you the ultimatum of her attendance or a gift, you should have said 'You know what? Nevermind.'

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Wow! Your own mother? Sounds like getting off easy only having to get a motel room for a night. Traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding and since she is such a cheapskate I doubt she is. She should want to do whatever is necessary to attend her own daughters wedding. NTA!

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

When your mother gave you the ultimatum of her attendance or a gift, you should have said 'You know what? Nevermind.'

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Uh... No! You are 100% NTA. That's so weird! What is her reasoning for suggesting that you stay at a hotel on your wedding night while she stays at your house? Do you mean the night before your wedding, or your actual wedding night? I'm just curious, it doesn't matter. Either way you are not in the wrong. It's your wedding. If you don't want alcohol or a DJ, that's fine. She sounds horrible and entitled, sorry if that's harsh but I think you should brush her off. You invited her to a wedding. Your mother can choose to come or not. Besides, your requests are hardly unreasonable. I hope this doesn't affect your wedding day, try not to let it. Congratulations on getting married! Best of luck to you and your spouse!

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

I hope you had a lovely day.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Abso-friggin-lutely NTA!!!! Is she kidding????? Her attendance or a gift???? Screw that...tell her where you're registered and call it a day. You are absolutely under no obligation to host them in your home if they come in to town for your wedding. I am assuming that all of your other guests are making their own travel and lodging arrangements, she can as well. It would ve a different story if the two of you were close, but from what you have described, it doesn't seem that way. NTA NTA NTA NTA......and did I mention, NTA?

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

100% NTA. Your mother doesn't deserve to have a daughter who is kind and considerate enough to even question for a moment if she is a jerk in this situation. You are completely valid here, and she is just absurd.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Absolutely not. That request is disturbing and ridiculous.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

NTA. Red flags with that woman. Also does your husband support you in this situation?

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Definitely NTA. Your mother and her sister are the a$$holes!

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Nta. Sounds like your family is entitled if that's the right word im looking for.

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Claire Parent • commented on 7 posts 2 years ago

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She gave some money and specifically told me she did not want it to go towards the wedding, home improvement only.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

Honestly, that probably would have saved a headache or two, or three...

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She didn't want to pay for a hotel room, period. So, if we were uncomfortable having her sleep outside our bedroom on our wedding she wanted us to go to a hotel.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

Thank you! It was incredible! The weather was beyond perfect and everything went as planned

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

We helped all of our guests from out of town find close hotels, but yes, they otherwise all made their own arrangements and ALL guests from out of province even asked how they could assist us on our big day! 🥰

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

She (my mother) and her sister (my aunt)....

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

My husband is amazing and super supportive!

Claire Parent • upvoted 10 items 2 years ago

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Wow! Your own mother? Sounds like getting off easy only having to get a motel room for a night. Traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding and since she is such a cheapskate I doubt she is. She should want to do whatever is necessary to attend her own daughters wedding. NTA!

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

When your mother gave you the ultimatum of her attendance or a gift, you should have said 'You know what? Nevermind.'

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Uh... No! You are 100% NTA. That's so weird! What is her reasoning for suggesting that you stay at a hotel on your wedding night while she stays at your house? Do you mean the night before your wedding, or your actual wedding night? I'm just curious, it doesn't matter. Either way you are not in the wrong. It's your wedding. If you don't want alcohol or a DJ, that's fine. She sounds horrible and entitled, sorry if that's harsh but I think you should brush her off. You invited her to a wedding. Your mother can choose to come or not. Besides, your requests are hardly unreasonable. I hope this doesn't affect your wedding day, try not to let it. Congratulations on getting married! Best of luck to you and your spouse!

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us? (Closed)

I hope you had a lovely day.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Abso-friggin-lutely NTA!!!! Is she kidding????? Her attendance or a gift???? Screw that...tell her where you're registered and call it a day. You are absolutely under no obligation to host them in your home if they come in to town for your wedding. I am assuming that all of your other guests are making their own travel and lodging arrangements, she can as well. It would ve a different story if the two of you were close, but from what you have described, it doesn't seem that way. NTA NTA NTA NTA......and did I mention, NTA?

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

100% NTA. Your mother doesn't deserve to have a daughter who is kind and considerate enough to even question for a moment if she is a jerk in this situation. You are completely valid here, and she is just absurd.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Absolutely not. That request is disturbing and ridiculous.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

NTA. Red flags with that woman. Also does your husband support you in this situation?

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Nta. Sounds like your family is entitled if that's the right word im looking for.

Hey Pandas, AITA For Saying No To My Mother Spending Our Wedding Night With Us?

Definitely NTA. Your mother and her sister are the a$$holes!

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