Commenting on my weight.

Making comments when you are doing something productive.
I had a depressive episode when I was a teenager and one day i had finally the strength to clean up my room and it felt sort of liberating. I was actually enjoying it until my mother came into my room said "oh you are cleaning your room like I told you a thousand times".
It killed all my drive. Suddenly i wasn't doing it for myself but for her. It made my depression just much worse.
When your kid is doing something productive, don't say anything. Don't mention it, don't make a comment, just treat it like a normal thing.

Telling me I’m angry when I raise my voice but complain they can’t hear me because I’m quiet and mumbly. I can’t help constantly talking in a whisper, but if I speak louder apparently I’m being rude. And now I question if I have anger issues or not because everything I do is me being “angry” according to them.

They talk all the time about how smart I am. As if I were a child prodigy, a Sheldon Cooper. It bothers me because they place too many expectations on me.

I work a full 40 hours a week but if I spend my saturday playing video games, its all i do.

"I can't find that cat WHAT IF SHE ESCAPED?" "I can't believe you said that, you're totally going to get bullied" "Are you SURE you know where your classes are? I know you checked twice already, but check again" "Why didn't you respond to my text fifteen minutes ago? I was about to call the police!" "Don't go that far up the driveway, someone might kidnap you" "Those pants look baggier on you, have you lost weight? Are you sick? What are you hiding from me?"

... guess who just got diagnosed with anxiety at age 20!

I’m now in my 20s but my mom started doing this whenever I was a teenager and still hasn’t stopped. She’ll say something like “you’re probably going to get mad at me for saying this, but…” and then tell me something unnecessarily rude about my appearance or weight that is entirely unhelpful and uncalled for. I’ve started cutting her off and telling her that maybe she just shouldn’t say it then, but it was a lot harder to stand up to her when I was 14.

Turning everything into a lecture. if im telling you that something bad happened, i dont always need it turned into a life lesson😐.

When my parents commented negatively on anything i said or did as their first reaction. It taught me to keep secrets, tell lies and avoid informing them of anything until right before or after it happened.

They once wanted me to get a job, so i did. It was full time seasonal and paid well, just 30min drive. Scolded me for not finding something closer. Made me call my manager and apologize for wasting their time and resign. THEN got mad at me for that and made me call back my manager and ask for my job back, within 10min. I was 16 or 17 at the time.

Next time i got a job i told them as i was leaving the house to said job.

It was really frustrating growing up and always expecting a negative reaction out of the gate.

All the books!