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Society puts pressure on everyone: most are expected to be someone, do something and whatever else. But that does not mean that those expectations are valid, or if the pressure is really necessary. Who knows, perhaps we're forced to chase after goals that don't really reflect our true self, or even worse, we can lose our true selves whilst chasing them.

If that's the case, perhaps we need to do the opposite It's very important to continually deprogram ourselves from things that are not true, and in some cases even harmful. Therefore we need to find ways to heal ourselves from the harm that modern life may cause.

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Which is why it's great to have artists like Lainey Molnar, who help others to do exactly that. She has a mission to point out all of the wrong and right things of what it means to be a woman at this day and age, and illustrates these things in a very accurate and aesthetic way. In her comics, she explores the topic of femininity, double standards, societal pressures, expectations, and various other problems that modern independent women face every day.

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Tigerpacingthecage
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. It's never about the clothes. You should be able to control yourself and your thoughts.

Ahmed Akram
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Controlling myself is absolutely necessary. But how can I control my thoughts. Being a starting guy wouldn't a girl wearing something sexy or nothing at all cause me to have sexual thoughts? Isn't this natural?

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Asswipe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's not be hypocrite. You don't have to have decent thoughts, you just have to stfu and mind your own business.

Blackadams
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im not trying to go against any side,but as a guy wo has no problems with the way people dress...revealing dresses are sometimes hard to not look at or have sexual thoughts about....i think its more about how well you can control yourself to not be rude or intruding.

Kate Koppen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can have as many sexual thoughts as you want as long as you keep them to yourself and not make delusions like "oh she wears this sexy thing only for me, the dude she doesn't even know exists because we never talked!"

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RandomFrog
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do you guys see how she has stretch marks? I love how she’s just putting it in as a design and not as part of the joke or plot. Let’s keep normalizing things like this!!!

Shivani Ward
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES THANK YOU!! “Was it really my fault?” Asked the short skirt. “No it happened with me too” replied the burka. The diaper in the corner couldn’t even speak… Darshan Mondkar

Jędrzej Franek
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thoughts? So you want men tocontrol their thoughts or even control them yourself? LOL, If someone looks attractive (or indecent - if you like that word), it's normal to feel attracted (or horny). It simply doesn't allow you to ashame someone or make unsolicited opinions.

Sofia Murat
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially when high school girls aren't allowed to wear whatever they want because "Boys get distracted " why are girls responsible for boys disgusting thoughts about their bodies?

Leslie Anthony
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That the dumbest s**t I have ever seen. Its denying the fact that women do dress provocatively, to attract the attention of men. And then... pick and chose which men's attention they want... its like putting up a sign saying "look here, I want you to look here" and then going apeshit at the men they don't want to look, but open invitation to those they do. its a stupid premise.

Kim Northrop
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm both glad that we're having this conversation and sad that we're STILL having this conversation (I am 60).

Tomasz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a human being, I have an issue with this one. 1. Orwell in his novel wrote about a thought crime - the moment, thinking becomes a crime and we'll be allowed to think only in one, "correct" way - something will be very wrong in the world. 2. Why one right to wear "whatever they want" is in opposition to the right of another "think whatever you want"? 3. Let's make the roles reverse - what about a man that keeps half of his balls or part of his di*k out? When a guy's a**e crack is visible, it is disgusting. When a man would wear leggings that will get so close to the body that everything will be fully visible, including his genitalia - it will be disgusting. Why's that? Every time I go to the gym, excluding a few weirdos, most men wear loose (or quite loose) t-shirts and shorts. Women on the other hand - in most cases I can see every single curve on their bodies. Including sometimes breasts and camel toes...

Tomasz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Continuation: Most popular women's gym clothes are leggings and tops with visible shoulders and cleavage. Sometimes without a bra, making their breast visible. Don't get me wrong - it's just a body - but I have the right to think whatever I want about it. It still not changing a fact that none should molest, attack rape, or whatever anybody else, but... They should be allowed to think and speak their thoughts. I've never heard that a woman who wears a suit isn't decent. On the other hand - I haven't heard too many good opinions about shirtless guys or the ones with visible crotches/cracks. As a final thought - reading many comments online - you can clearly see that in many cases "clothes shaming" is women's domain. Men aren't putting that much pressure on how you're dressed or how many times you wear the same skirt. Women do. All men can wear the same suit/clothes and nobody will have an issue with it. Most men don't need to stand out from the crowd.

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Nikam Mangfi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol... Don't wear decent cloths and don't ask people to have decent thought either. Thoughts is comparatively much harder to control.

Denise Maurer-key
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We should do all of this because we care about the fact there impressions minds all around so don't need to do this stuff I want to for the hood of society. I live in.

Josh Tall
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it so frigging hard to just shut up and admire beauty, when you see it?!!!!

Susanne B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read some time ago about a 64 year old woman who was raped. Wonder how she was dressed.

Bjorn Heinesen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One can't exclude sexual thoughts without pain and still they come, woman and men influence each other.

Priscilla Rink
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can only say its because had an opinion. We are all entitled to one. She just didn't care for it. As for thoughts..sorry..uncontrollable.

Ashley Bonner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah I'm on the fence about this, everybody has indecent thoughts when they see half naked people, women and men included. That's why there is a term about guys wearing grey sweatpants. It goes both ways. And this isn't a good representation....he has on a full business suit and she has on what? Like girl read the room and go change.

Zoe Krishel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe they are at starbucks, he is working and she is going to the store? The point of this comic is that other peoples thoughts are not responsibility of the wearer (male or female). Its OK to have thoughts about peoples clothes as long as you dont judge, advise, assault, shame or act on them.

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Cécile V.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is right.I see women ridiculously dressed as if they were teens. What about their thoughts?

Floyd-the-Queer
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet u also think that if someone is dressed like that, she can be raped right?

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Harry Chordist
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely ridiculous. Dress like a s**t, get treated like a s**t. There's a reason why girls with masculine, involved, and loving fathers don't grow up like this.

Alex Charles
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Can’t dress like a skank and expect to not be treated as such 🤷🏼‍♂️

Chimmels
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So you would wear that to a white collar job

Zoltán Gyökeres
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A woman's body is tempting to a man no matter what and it has nothing to do with thoughts at all. We were created or evolved (depending of what you believe) this way. So this whole idea of control your thoughts is a b******t. I believe that both sexes should wear decent cloths so do not tempt the other sex.

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if one has decent thoughts one would wear decent clothes.

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And many people are grateful that she's raising awareness on the aforementioned issues. In fact, she's really popular both amongst her fans on Instagram, and you, our beloved Bored Panda readers. Her Instagram has a whopping 896k followers and the two posts (which you may find here and here) were viewed by millions on our page. Lainey an important voice.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, where are the people who do this? Raise your hand. No one? And there you have it folks, another problem. No one wants to admit they said that

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What's great about these illustrations is that their tone isn't restricted to criticism and negative stuff. While she criticizes, which is an important and a difficult task in itself, she also promotes body positivity and mental wellbeing. She kindly reminds us not to follow norms which don't suit your natural needs, she reminds us that we're all beautiful and normal in our own special way. No size is wrong, no height is wrong, and no habit is disgusting. All of it is you, and you should accept that first and foremost. And if the other's can't accept that, we'll, sucks to be them.

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Though the expectations and the pressure for women in our society may sometimes feel like they're crushing you, don't give up, girls. Just remember, diamonds are made under pressure. They're also a woman's best friend. This might be that extra bit of inspiration you may have wanted to hear to get out there and take over the world. Tread on, women!

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Otter-Popsicle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! So unfair! You capture the most unseen stuff in this world and put it out there! You are now my new favorite artist

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Tigerpacingthecage
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never. My therapist said "your progress is not lost just because you had a bad moment". Better to let it out rather than let it eat you up from the inside. It's just a bump in the road, not the end.

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Ellis Tamura
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! I may not feel that I can care for children now, but hopefully one day!

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Yurie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have big breasts but have long hair down to my butt. I definitely pick food out of my hair sometimes 🤣

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Tamra Stiffler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And yet, every time Madonna is featured on BP, she's roasted like a Christmas turkey.

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IsABELLA
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom is a super human: she raised two kids ,had a full time job in phycology, was in charge of a building and had her own separate company yet still made time for us.

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Skeeter rats she/they
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bro yes. I get really sweaty between and behind my thighs and oddly enough my inner elbow it’s uncomfortable so I always gotta cool down.

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Jennifer Norton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our differences are what make us beautiful. The world would be boring if we were all the same!!!!!!

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Otter-Popsicle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, yeah. But some people do not like people knowing their personal stuff that is going on. Good memo, though

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ChimeraBubbles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All except pee in the shower...I didn't even know that was something people do until a few years ago. No judgement.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Translation: How could I not be enough when past versions of me only got to dream about the life I am living now

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Amy Broderick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've learned to do most things alone. I actually prefer it. Once I get rid of this ball and chain around my neck I will be happy to be alone again.

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Nadine Bamberger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love to be the "cool" aunt, I know I would've been an unhappy and overwhelmed mom, but helping raise my niece and nephew is awesome, I think I do a good job.

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Scarlett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or discount chocolates that you bought for yourself because you’re too depressed to self love

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