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I Share My Personal Experiences As A Gay Man In My Pride Month Comic
Hi everyone, I’m Doodlemancer and I enjoy telling stories. I usually draw light-hearted comics but today, I would like to share my personal struggles as a gay man for Pride Month.
I’ve always been afraid to talk about my sexuality and that left me feeling isolated for years. I hope by sharing my story, I can reach out to others who are struggling just like me.
And to everyone who was bullied or has suffered for being different, know that you are wonderful just for being you and that no amount of prejudice and hate can change that. Thank you and I hope you enjoy my story.
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Wistre Vist 5 years ago
I feel you- I'm also gay, and a Singaporean. It's alright! Hang in there, ok? Pinkdot is coming up too! so that gives us a kinda voice. :)
It's Still Me, Doodlemancer (Post author) 5 years ago
Thanks! I'm looking forward to Pink Dot as well! This is gonna be my first time there so I'm pretty excited
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Foxxy 5 years ago
I truly hope that one day you feel confident enough to no longer hide the truth from your family and friends. It saddens me that homosexuality is still taboo in many countries and that some friends and family can turn their back on the people they supposedly love because of their sexuality. I wish you peace and all the best for the future.
Carolina Piazzarollo 5 years ago
I'm sorry to learn that your country isn't respectful of people's sexuality and that you have to live a life where you don't feel safe to be open about such an important part of yourself. Things are changing worldwide, but unfortunately not as fast as it should. I hope one day you'll be able to live the life you wish and deserve to live. There's nothing wrong with you. Love from Brazil β€
It's Still Me, Doodlemancer (Post author) 5 years ago
Thank you! I heard about how you guys are fighting hard to defend LGBT rights against the homophobic Jair Bolsonaro. Keep up the good fight!
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Paul K. Johnson 5 years ago
I've noticed that homophobes tend to spend a lot more time obsessing on gay sex than actual gays do. In fact, male homophobes seem to be particularly obsessed with the intricate details of male homosexual sex acts. Frankly, if I find something to be off-putting or "disgusting" I try to spend as little time thinking about it as possible.
Jace 5 years ago
The exact same is done to polyamorous people. Everyone constantly focuses on the sex, when polyamory isnβt about sex. Itβs about having multiple and concurrent ETHICAL non-monogamous relationships; sex is incidental.
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Evelyn Moon 5 years ago
What is going on with these downvotes? Usually bored panda people aren't a steaming pile of bigots. Did the bigots bring a tour bus here or what?
Dave Roger 5 years ago
It's a bunch of f*****g right-wing trolls who just can't stand that not everyone is a conservative with conservative views.
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Tor Rolf StrΓΈm 5 years ago (edited)
One of the many reasons we need pride. 60 or so countries, it's forbidden by law. Completely sick. And how about God huh, creating people who are born sinners, how f****d up is he!? Or she, or whatever.
debrina blackmoon 5 years ago
based on my life and what i have observed , i can't decide if i'm atheistic or agnostic
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WΕciekΕa Milka 5 years ago
Same in Poland. Old polish are like rocks. Without brain... They think, that homosexuality is a disease. It's sad and I am ashamed of this country.
Poly Amorous 2 years ago
One thing that I like to remember is that one operative word... old. It's a bit grim, but the bigots are largely older people, while the ones who struggle are generally younger. We will outlast then, and we'll make it our world.
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K Scott Huntley 5 years ago
Just sending you some quiet support Doodlemancer. Keep being awesome.
Fairsher 5 years ago
I will never ever understand a father or mother rejecting their child for being gay. I am 58 and have 3 grown children and all I want for them in this life on earth is happiness!! Consenting adults don't need anyone to be in their bedroom and if people would stop focusing on the sexual part and see how truly happy and in love and how we are all wanting the same things out of life, this divide will end!!
WΕciekΕa Milka 5 years ago
The same in Poland... Old polish(30/40+) are like rock... With no brain π
Magpie 5 years ago
Australia has just legalized gay marriage. It was a scary time, with an "optional postal vote". Some of the anti-gay stuff was very mean. Love is love. I am not christian, but try this on your parents. - Does God make mistakes? Because God made me. I am not a mistake. My love is not a mistake. - Hold on! the world is getting better.
Jace 5 years ago (edited)
They donβt think βgod made you gayβ. They think βyou chose to beβ and/or βyou went against godβ. Religious belief itself already requires mental gymnastics, so this isnβt a stretch for them.
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AnnieLaurie Burke 5 years ago
Try as I might, I've just never understood homophobia. Homosexuality among consenting adults does not hurt anyone, does not harm any living creature. OK, I grew up in a family where there were a few gay folk, but no one talked about them. They also didn't talk about the numerous abusive alcoholics in the fam, who caused a lot of harm to themselves and others, but they seemed to be more "acceptable" (i. e., "integrated" into family) than the gay folk. I also married into a fam with gay members, but didn't know at the time. And I have had gay friends over the years -- many. These were wonderful, kind, smart, talented people -- immediate fam, in-laws, friends. Homosexuality is by no means a universal "taboo" over culture/location/time. Why does it bother some people so much? Also, I grew up Catholic, but gayness never came up in a religious sense. Maybe because the environment in which I grew up said that the 11th commandment is "Mind your own business".
wren scribbles 5 years ago
I'm pansexual and I have the same sytuation in my country. Polish government hates LGBT community. Hopefully my family supports me. I hope that people from our countries will be more liberal. Be who you are. Love fromPoland.
PΓ‘l LΓ‘szlΓ³ 5 years ago
I'm straight and have two kids. If any of them turns out to be gay and anyone is talking sh.it about my kids because of their sexuality I'll beat the cr.p out of him/ her. It's not a disease, it's not something that needs to be healed. I'll raise my kids never to have fear to accept themselves and never to have fear to trust me enough to talk to me about their problems. The world is bad enough without us making it more miserable to the ones we are supposed to love. My only requirement for my kids is to be good people when they grow up. Gay or not. There is nothing else that really matters.
Mary Jaye 5 years ago
THERE ARE SO MANY REAL ISSUES AROUND CAN''T THEY LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE???? WHO CARES WHAT SOMEONE ELSE LIKES SEXUALLY. I SURE DON'T. I CARE ABOUT GLOBAL WARMING. SOCIAL SECURITY MEDICARE INFRASTRUCTURE POLITICAL CORRUPTION BY INVOLVEMENT IN POLITICS. I THINK THESE AND MANY OTHER ISSUES ARE FAR MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHO SOMEONE ELSE LOVES!!!
Ralph Burton 5 years ago
I'm not gay but I have gay friends, as Chuck Berry said, "Live like YOU wanna live baby"
Vintage_Misery_Business 2 years ago
Is it just me or do those two girls in the last two scenes look like Marceline and Princess Bubblegum from Adventure Time?
Samuel Zhao 3 years ago
I used to be Christians until I found out that they donβt like LGBTQ. Upon finding out, I destroyed my cross and almost burnt my Bible. I was told I would go to hell. I replied with hell before homophobia
LucarioSage 5 years ago
as a fellow singaporean who is bi, this comic pains me, and yet at the same time, i feel comforted knowing that there are people around me who feel the same
NanZ 5 years ago
Why can't everyone just accept each other and how they live their lives instead of judging each other and how they live their lives? Who cares who loves who and what they do in their bedrooms. I don't want to know what anybody does in their bedroom. It is nobody's damn business! Everyone should be treated equally and especially by their families for God sakes. God created each and every person just as they are. There is no choosing your sexuality because you are born that way. The only choices the LGBTQ people have to make is when do they feel safe enough to let family and others know who they were born to be. I am just appalled that there are still countries and laws against homosexuality. It sickens me and pisses me off royally. We are all the same damn it! Get over it so everyone is free to live their lives without hatred. Unless you are f*****g perfect just shut the hell up about everybody else.
Jace 5 years ago
Saying βIβm sorry, I hope things get betterβ is really unhelpful, but I wanted to acknowledge you as a human being. I see you. I see your plight. I hear you. I hear your suffering. If it were within my power to vote for an equal rights law (or equivalent) in your country, I would be one of those people who would do so. I live in a place that is much more progressive on this issue (though we have our conservatives who want to undo all progress made), so Iβm maybe more apt to have this position. However, there are probably many more people like you in your own country. Being seen and heard is a good way to be recognized, so long as youβre not at immediate risk of harm for doing so.
RoseTheMad 5 years ago
I wish that one day, worldwide, there would be no repercussions for being gay, we wouldn't have to come out, we would just say that we're in love, much like "hey mum, dad, this is _ my partner" and the gender wouldn't make a difference. Yet sadly, there are still countries where being gay is a death sentence... where it's safer to pretend than to be yourself. No one should have to live like that. :( That said, be proud, but never come out to people unless you are certain you are in a safe place or have a safe place to go. I came out to a "friend" in school who humiliated me, outed me to the school, and had me beat up. But I'm one of the lucky ones, my parents were ok with me being a lesbian. Many people out there are kicked out of their homes for being gay. It's not right. :( PS: Why is no one mentioning the panels with what looks like PB and Marceline? xD
Ur_Fave_Midget 3 months ago
Aww- I hope your family will accept you one day. And if they donβt, YOU ARE STILL AMAZING β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ stay strong :)
sho-haru here 9 months ago
this is the comic that helped me come out to be honest even though my family isn't very accepting this was what gave me comfort so i hope your doing okay and i thank you so much for this comic
Lynnea-Marie Loomos 1 year ago
i feel you too i used to be gay and i got harrased for it. im currently a gay paragirl and my family accepts, but i hate to see others go as far as to kick their own children out of the house just for being lgbtqia+.
Lily Cowart 2 years ago
I'm so sorry. It's so brave of you to make this comment and come out to us. thank you. this isn't important but is the couple supposed to be bubbline?
the Me_greatest 3 years ago
I hope gay marrige gets legalized soon! Iβm bi and live in America.
Laura Drillenburg 4 years ago
Hello! I know that this is a very old comic, but I just want to say how I relate from most of the comic panels :) I am bisexual, havn't told my parents, scared about it all. I just love this TOO much! Thank you for making my day :D
Narfy T. Barfy 4 years ago
I hope your parents accept you for who you are! I am pansexual, and questioning. Wishing you love (not in a weird way)!
neighbor.no13 5 years ago
My very best friend also gay. I don't know what his family think. But definitely not against. Didn't know how many relationship he had and this few years he find his love. Hong Kong also on the same situation, he cannot get married. The important thing is he is happy.
Michelle Rudd 5 years ago
You're fantastic and God loves you just the way He made you, part of the vast rich diversity of His kids, humankind. Stay strong β€οΈ
MΓTH 5 years ago
Why shouldnβt we have unconditional love and acceptance
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M O'Connell 5 years ago
Honestly, if more people felt this way as opposed to being violently in-opposition, the world would be a better place.
Load More Replies...
Wistre Vist 5 years ago
I feel you- I'm also gay, and a Singaporean. It's alright! Hang in there, ok? Pinkdot is coming up too! so that gives us a kinda voice. :)
It's Still Me, Doodlemancer (Post author) 5 years ago
Thanks! I'm looking forward to Pink Dot as well! This is gonna be my first time there so I'm pretty excited
Load More Replies... Foxxy 5 years ago
I truly hope that one day you feel confident enough to no longer hide the truth from your family and friends. It saddens me that homosexuality is still taboo in many countries and that some friends and family can turn their back on the people they supposedly love because of their sexuality. I wish you peace and all the best for the future.
Carolina Piazzarollo 5 years ago
I'm sorry to learn that your country isn't respectful of people's sexuality and that you have to live a life where you don't feel safe to be open about such an important part of yourself. Things are changing worldwide, but unfortunately not as fast as it should. I hope one day you'll be able to live the life you wish and deserve to live. There's nothing wrong with you. Love from Brazil β€
It's Still Me, Doodlemancer (Post author) 5 years ago
Thank you! I heard about how you guys are fighting hard to defend LGBT rights against the homophobic Jair Bolsonaro. Keep up the good fight!
Load More Replies... Paul K. Johnson 5 years ago
I've noticed that homophobes tend to spend a lot more time obsessing on gay sex than actual gays do. In fact, male homophobes seem to be particularly obsessed with the intricate details of male homosexual sex acts. Frankly, if I find something to be off-putting or "disgusting" I try to spend as little time thinking about it as possible.
Jace 5 years ago
The exact same is done to polyamorous people. Everyone constantly focuses on the sex, when polyamory isnβt about sex. Itβs about having multiple and concurrent ETHICAL non-monogamous relationships; sex is incidental.
Load More Replies... Evelyn Moon 5 years ago
What is going on with these downvotes? Usually bored panda people aren't a steaming pile of bigots. Did the bigots bring a tour bus here or what?
Dave Roger 5 years ago
It's a bunch of f*****g right-wing trolls who just can't stand that not everyone is a conservative with conservative views.
Load More Replies... Tor Rolf StrΓΈm 5 years ago (edited)
One of the many reasons we need pride. 60 or so countries, it's forbidden by law. Completely sick. And how about God huh, creating people who are born sinners, how f****d up is he!? Or she, or whatever.
debrina blackmoon 5 years ago
based on my life and what i have observed , i can't decide if i'm atheistic or agnostic
Load More Replies... WΕciekΕa Milka 5 years ago
Same in Poland. Old polish are like rocks. Without brain... They think, that homosexuality is a disease. It's sad and I am ashamed of this country.
Poly Amorous 2 years ago
One thing that I like to remember is that one operative word... old. It's a bit grim, but the bigots are largely older people, while the ones who struggle are generally younger. We will outlast then, and we'll make it our world.
Load More Replies... K Scott Huntley 5 years ago
Just sending you some quiet support Doodlemancer. Keep being awesome.
Fairsher 5 years ago
I will never ever understand a father or mother rejecting their child for being gay. I am 58 and have 3 grown children and all I want for them in this life on earth is happiness!! Consenting adults don't need anyone to be in their bedroom and if people would stop focusing on the sexual part and see how truly happy and in love and how we are all wanting the same things out of life, this divide will end!!
WΕciekΕa Milka 5 years ago
The same in Poland... Old polish(30/40+) are like rock... With no brain π
Magpie 5 years ago
Australia has just legalized gay marriage. It was a scary time, with an "optional postal vote". Some of the anti-gay stuff was very mean. Love is love. I am not christian, but try this on your parents. - Does God make mistakes? Because God made me. I am not a mistake. My love is not a mistake. - Hold on! the world is getting better.
Jace 5 years ago (edited)
They donβt think βgod made you gayβ. They think βyou chose to beβ and/or βyou went against godβ. Religious belief itself already requires mental gymnastics, so this isnβt a stretch for them.
Load More Replies... AnnieLaurie Burke 5 years ago
Try as I might, I've just never understood homophobia. Homosexuality among consenting adults does not hurt anyone, does not harm any living creature. OK, I grew up in a family where there were a few gay folk, but no one talked about them. They also didn't talk about the numerous abusive alcoholics in the fam, who caused a lot of harm to themselves and others, but they seemed to be more "acceptable" (i. e., "integrated" into family) than the gay folk. I also married into a fam with gay members, but didn't know at the time. And I have had gay friends over the years -- many. These were wonderful, kind, smart, talented people -- immediate fam, in-laws, friends. Homosexuality is by no means a universal "taboo" over culture/location/time. Why does it bother some people so much? Also, I grew up Catholic, but gayness never came up in a religious sense. Maybe because the environment in which I grew up said that the 11th commandment is "Mind your own business".
wren scribbles 5 years ago
I'm pansexual and I have the same sytuation in my country. Polish government hates LGBT community. Hopefully my family supports me. I hope that people from our countries will be more liberal. Be who you are. Love fromPoland.
PΓ‘l LΓ‘szlΓ³ 5 years ago
I'm straight and have two kids. If any of them turns out to be gay and anyone is talking sh.it about my kids because of their sexuality I'll beat the cr.p out of him/ her. It's not a disease, it's not something that needs to be healed. I'll raise my kids never to have fear to accept themselves and never to have fear to trust me enough to talk to me about their problems. The world is bad enough without us making it more miserable to the ones we are supposed to love. My only requirement for my kids is to be good people when they grow up. Gay or not. There is nothing else that really matters.
Mary Jaye 5 years ago
THERE ARE SO MANY REAL ISSUES AROUND CAN''T THEY LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE???? WHO CARES WHAT SOMEONE ELSE LIKES SEXUALLY. I SURE DON'T. I CARE ABOUT GLOBAL WARMING. SOCIAL SECURITY MEDICARE INFRASTRUCTURE POLITICAL CORRUPTION BY INVOLVEMENT IN POLITICS. I THINK THESE AND MANY OTHER ISSUES ARE FAR MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHO SOMEONE ELSE LOVES!!!
Ralph Burton 5 years ago
I'm not gay but I have gay friends, as Chuck Berry said, "Live like YOU wanna live baby"
Vintage_Misery_Business 2 years ago
Is it just me or do those two girls in the last two scenes look like Marceline and Princess Bubblegum from Adventure Time?
Samuel Zhao 3 years ago
I used to be Christians until I found out that they donβt like LGBTQ. Upon finding out, I destroyed my cross and almost burnt my Bible. I was told I would go to hell. I replied with hell before homophobia
LucarioSage 5 years ago
as a fellow singaporean who is bi, this comic pains me, and yet at the same time, i feel comforted knowing that there are people around me who feel the same
NanZ 5 years ago
Why can't everyone just accept each other and how they live their lives instead of judging each other and how they live their lives? Who cares who loves who and what they do in their bedrooms. I don't want to know what anybody does in their bedroom. It is nobody's damn business! Everyone should be treated equally and especially by their families for God sakes. God created each and every person just as they are. There is no choosing your sexuality because you are born that way. The only choices the LGBTQ people have to make is when do they feel safe enough to let family and others know who they were born to be. I am just appalled that there are still countries and laws against homosexuality. It sickens me and pisses me off royally. We are all the same damn it! Get over it so everyone is free to live their lives without hatred. Unless you are f*****g perfect just shut the hell up about everybody else.
Jace 5 years ago
Saying βIβm sorry, I hope things get betterβ is really unhelpful, but I wanted to acknowledge you as a human being. I see you. I see your plight. I hear you. I hear your suffering. If it were within my power to vote for an equal rights law (or equivalent) in your country, I would be one of those people who would do so. I live in a place that is much more progressive on this issue (though we have our conservatives who want to undo all progress made), so Iβm maybe more apt to have this position. However, there are probably many more people like you in your own country. Being seen and heard is a good way to be recognized, so long as youβre not at immediate risk of harm for doing so.
RoseTheMad 5 years ago
I wish that one day, worldwide, there would be no repercussions for being gay, we wouldn't have to come out, we would just say that we're in love, much like "hey mum, dad, this is _ my partner" and the gender wouldn't make a difference. Yet sadly, there are still countries where being gay is a death sentence... where it's safer to pretend than to be yourself. No one should have to live like that. :( That said, be proud, but never come out to people unless you are certain you are in a safe place or have a safe place to go. I came out to a "friend" in school who humiliated me, outed me to the school, and had me beat up. But I'm one of the lucky ones, my parents were ok with me being a lesbian. Many people out there are kicked out of their homes for being gay. It's not right. :( PS: Why is no one mentioning the panels with what looks like PB and Marceline? xD
Ur_Fave_Midget 3 months ago
Aww- I hope your family will accept you one day. And if they donβt, YOU ARE STILL AMAZING β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ stay strong :)
sho-haru here 9 months ago
this is the comic that helped me come out to be honest even though my family isn't very accepting this was what gave me comfort so i hope your doing okay and i thank you so much for this comic
Lynnea-Marie Loomos 1 year ago
i feel you too i used to be gay and i got harrased for it. im currently a gay paragirl and my family accepts, but i hate to see others go as far as to kick their own children out of the house just for being lgbtqia+.
Lily Cowart 2 years ago
I'm so sorry. It's so brave of you to make this comment and come out to us. thank you. this isn't important but is the couple supposed to be bubbline?
the Me_greatest 3 years ago
I hope gay marrige gets legalized soon! Iβm bi and live in America.
Laura Drillenburg 4 years ago
Hello! I know that this is a very old comic, but I just want to say how I relate from most of the comic panels :) I am bisexual, havn't told my parents, scared about it all. I just love this TOO much! Thank you for making my day :D
Narfy T. Barfy 4 years ago
I hope your parents accept you for who you are! I am pansexual, and questioning. Wishing you love (not in a weird way)!
neighbor.no13 5 years ago
My very best friend also gay. I don't know what his family think. But definitely not against. Didn't know how many relationship he had and this few years he find his love. Hong Kong also on the same situation, he cannot get married. The important thing is he is happy.
Michelle Rudd 5 years ago
You're fantastic and God loves you just the way He made you, part of the vast rich diversity of His kids, humankind. Stay strong β€οΈ
MΓTH 5 years ago
Why shouldnβt we have unconditional love and acceptance
Load More Replies... M O'Connell 5 years ago
Honestly, if more people felt this way as opposed to being violently in-opposition, the world would be a better place.
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