And she pays 125% of court ordered child support, much more than she needs to. There are many absent fathers doing their best to avoid paying any child support to single mothers, sometimes even despite court orders. Honestly, if the roles were reversed, I'm not sure the court would have ordered him to pay any child support at all or at least not as much because they weren't even engaged and she (if the roles were reversed he) doesn't have visitation or any other rights concerning the child. He seems very immature; he needs to learn he can't force her (or anyone) to care and change her life according to his wishes. He should be happy she didn't sue him for coerced birth, manipulation and harassment and that she agreed to pay any child support at all and very grateful she gave him the child he allegedly so much wanted and didn't get an abortion despite his wishes or give it up to someone else for adoption.

He CHOSE to bully her into having his baby and he CHOSE to make a legal agreement to raise the son he CHOSE to make.

Probably it's what this guy was planning to do. It just backfired, and he's lucky she didn't sue him for abusive behavior.

Absolutely. The difference is that she sacrificed more than the men who walk away. She actually carried a child she did not want to term. There has to be emotional suffering involved, on top of what her body had to endure. She opened herself up to emotional and physical trauma to give him what he said he wanted – a child – and then she even paid more child support than she was ordered to by the court. This guy should be thanking her. If he really wanted to be a dad, he would. But for him this kid was just a means to an end, a tool to manipulate her. I feel bad for the child.

In the US the number one way women get into poverty is through dissolution of marriage and trying to raise kids. The numbers will show you that men, by far and away, drop the ball and walk away from kids and run from responsibility. If women were as deadbeat as men in this arena, our mostly male congress and senate would clamp down on the issue. Right now it ends up being the state that helps support families because women sacrifice for kids and marriage and when it ends, they aren't on a career track. This guy is just a whiner. I do, too, pity the child. Sounds like he wants out. Poor kid.

Mostly no but somewhat. Most of the time when men abandon their families, it’s under the dishonest pretense that he was going to be there. Then he changes his mind on a whim and bam, she’s a single mom. Then he doesn’t pay child support later. In this case the woman never agreed to be there and yet she still pays support. So nah. Not the same thing. And it does make you sound like a sod for not having sympathy for the woman in this situation as she continues to be harassed by her ex even though she did nothing wrong.

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Well, yes, Mark. Exactly. I don't know why your comment would make you a misogynist... you hit the nail on the head, 100 percent.

thank you--it is so nice (& refreshing) to see a man that sees it from that point of view. not saying there aren't more like you, but it would be great if there were a LOT more like you!

Agree almost totally. Also feel sorry for the woman, as she was forced to go through with the gestation, almost as if a surrogate (might be getting wrong English terms) and not only pays child support (even more than the court demanded) but has to fend off the scumbag... if he had adopted a kid or hired a surrogate none of his complaints would be paid attention to. He made the woman's life hell and continues to try doing it

1/3 of dads don't pay child support, so yeah. Next time, maybe he should wear a rubber. Freaking A stupid people procreating all the time and adding to the problem. Dunning Kruger in full effect.

Mark Fuller and Night Owl said exactly what I thought!

tu quoque is not your friend.......it is the refuge of the emotional person, not a rational person

The poor kid, yes. But for the sake of the little one people should actually try to help this guy.

I want to up vote this a few hundred times Bud.

BP had something not to long ago that explained this point exactly! Woman can only make a baby roughly 2 days of the month but men can all day, everyday. It sounds to me he wanted to be a Daddy but underestimated the work it took. Hopefully the child grows to be a well adjusted adult. Honestly, the kids is the one that's going to be hurt the most by his father's actions.

I feel so sorry for that child. Too young now, but when he is older and wants to meet to meet his mum, to be told she wants nothing to do with him. Or worse, to attempt contact and be further rejected.

if he didn't want to be a father he should have at least worn a rubber

No. That is false and it isn’t even relevant to the story. People can have sex with ejaculate and not want to be parents. I do it all the time. Consent to sex or ejaculate is not consent to pregnancy or parenthood. The issue isn’t about who brought the child to life. The issue is that he stopped her from having an abortion.

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AMEN!

Can I just get an Amen for this guy?

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WHAT AN IDIOTIC RESPONSE...HOW ABOUT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO ejaculate in women than don't spread your legs.