that is awesome, heal all of it!

So hard to forgive yesterdays me

Unfortunately, we live in a culture now where the new bullying is looking up ancient tweets, posts, past episodes, etc... and trying to destroy someone's life without regard to personal growth. I personally know a number of people who served time with swastika tattoos and an entire train of baggage that are clean and sober, giving back to their communities and working to get tattoo cover ups/removal or leave them to open a dialogue about change and hope. I refuse to be defined by my trauma or past. Shame on those who think that is their right to do so to others.

I love this. 50-something me is waaay different to 20-something me, and I'm tired of being held accountable for things I may have said or done back then.

We deserve to be allowed to grow, to learn and to reinvent ourselves..

Why looking up tweets from 12 plus years ago and punishing or cancelling that person based on how they thought 12 plus years ago is a pretty low form of humaning.

Wow I needed this....But I still won't let go...

I spend too much time thinking about what I should have done differently 5 years ago

If you can look back on your past & cringe at a few things, know that you have grown as a person. So you ARE better than you were then. Be nice to yourself.

Got an example here: I have homophobic parents. When I was young, they told me nothing but that LGBTQA+ was bad. I was a wee little one, and had no idea what that was so I naturally agreed with them. I learned more about it later in life, and became gay myself. I now regret ever being that way.

"Sometimes a hypocrite is merely a man in the process of changing." -Dalinar Kholin

In today's world how many of us would be cancelled for things in our past that we have learned from?

Yet some people insist on digging up things from others past and beating them senseless with it

I do this all the time. The worst is when I think "man I did such a stupid thing that one time. Thank God I got better since then." And my other part of me is just "Tiddlez, that 'one time' happened literally last week."

You should do whatever you want to do

Louder for the ones in the back!

I full heartedly agree with this 😌😌😌

And if I'm annoying to these guys, it means that I'm doing it right.

Takes way less energy to be nice. Oh, cashier messed up? My order is wrong? No worries, all fixable. Screaming and ranting is exhausting.

I know it’s stupid but I actually just wish for those people to understand not necessarily to experience the same pain

Make "so I can move on from this, please do not contact me" also an option

I honestly feel better reading this. I was always the "gullible" one, and hated when people would mess with me and think it was funny.

So true. I have a degenerative neuromuscular disease that will eventually leave me bedridden and unable to even swallow. I laugh and joke about my struggles and people say how strong I am... no. I just have no other option.

...and here I am with my brain telling me that I would never deserve to use such a great invention...

if only I could believe this

How about we stick to little things and avoid the global-scale kind of things?

No

Did the parents know that though? People only do what they know, if they knew better, they would do better. "Victims, aren't we all?", Brandon Lee, The Crow.

Cookies

We were raised to think that this was a 'fault' (being introverted) That we were rude to people by being 'quiet' and that we should change and be 'normal' Since I've been online I've discovered that introversion is not a minority pursuit it's just that (as you'd expect) the extroverts shout loudest..

I snort laughed at work. God damnit.

Well that hurt

Give me some time to think about whether I relate to the question.

Just like the rest of us in our own unique way. If you can accept it,everything gets much easier.

How do you know when you aren't in survival mode?

Mooooooooooo

I breathed out through my nose rather fast. I recognize this!

Yes this is me, but with more bad language

Since 2019.

Criticism isexpected. Compliments...they either want something from you, or are just raising you up so they can watch you fall harder.

Similarly, never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

What about cheese though

Get that Men in Black zapper jobber

You, had a friend group? Bragging much?

That's fine as long as you don't expect others to let things you do slide.

This is why d***s are addictive

#ACCURATE

But ... does it work?

2 sides of the same coin

Oh, I like this!

And then I also hurt my own feelings.

same, giant yellow Lab LOL

Agreed, it's getting really annoying that "how are you" has basically become the new hi.