This is their second Christmas together, so he must have seen how busy she was the previous year. He's moved into her house, had plenty of warning she will be too busy for chores for a couple of months but has either blanked or ignored or not believed her, she'd already meal prepped rather than rely on him to cook, and is spending the majority of her time working not making messes and he thinks she has to grow up and take care of chores? Well, seems to me the only chore which OP needs to do is get rid of the piece of rubbish who's calling her names.

Aside from the chores, a partner that can't handle you being busy for a set period of time during which you earn a lot of money (and also no kids are involved) is not a good partner. He didn't take you seriously, and he still doesn't.

If OP lets the Boyfriend continue living with her suggest that he is welcome to pay for someone to come weekly to clean any thing he was not able to. He needs to pay as OPs mess is minimal. Or he can grow up and wash and clean himself. Yelling and calling names is a justified reason to boot him to the curb. Taking action is not an a$$ hole move in any way. Men acting like children is very unattractive.

What an ahole. No time for people like that.

How does that guy do his chores when he doesn't have anyone to split them with? Pray? Wave a wand? Also - as one commenter said - one "b**ch" or anything in that lane and my partner would be my ex.

Here's the proper response. "Oh..ok. I didn't know you were unable to pick up after yourself and that you wanted a mommy, not a girlfriend. There's the door. Get out!" why debate it. If he's moved into your home and expecting you to drop your normal routine to cater to him...he can go live a life where he is only responsible for himself and where he'd have to do 100% of the work himself anyways. Sounds to me like he needs to put his big boy underwear on and suck it up.

Boyfriend is pissed off that SHE is not cleaning up after HIM. That’s all. If he felt that damned strongly about doing all of his own chores, then HE could’ve hired a maid for two months. But I’m willing to wager she makes way more money than he does, so he can’t afford it. Since it’s HER house, she holds all the cards for booting HIM out. If she doesn’t want to wait until January, then she needs to call in the troops—-family and friends—-to help her get him TF out of HER house, and to stay away, so she can do her job without both wading through his accumulation of filth, and him being a spoiled brat constantly trying to distract her by yelling obscenities outside her closed office door. A man whose SO works will very often get himself in a snit and retaliate by undermining and outright sabotaging her job by creating conflicts to distract her and break her concentration on her professional life—-which is just as important as his, FFS!

Time to throw the whole man away...

Sure want an up date on this one

When my ex-girlfriend had a small part-time business she ran until midnight every day after her official working hours, I did every chore, prepared meals, and walked the dog without question. I can't understand why women choose an adult child / spoiled kid or an AH abuser for their partner.

Welp, this one's easy. It's her house, he didn't listen, was downright dismissive of her, and he is now verbally abusing her. Kick the f****r out.

He would only have to call me a bit#h once and his A$$ would be out the door. That shows his true color and disrespect for you. Kick him to the curb. He is not going to change at his age. Send him home to mommy.

She's obviously doing more than 50% of the chores the other 10 months of the year & he's expecting her to continue. PLUS, and this a direct quote from one of OP's replies: "I typically do a deep clean in January. He earns a lot less to an I do though so while we split the bills, I cover all our fun expenses so he benefits from my work as well." She's not only paying 50% of the bills, she's paying for ALL of the 'fun stuff'! This guy is so far out of line, he's beyond the horizon. I really hope she kicks this a$$hole out!

2 months? Hope he never has a partner with a major illness or injury, because 2 months is a short amount of time to have to do all the chores.

Red flags everywhere! One, he doesn’t listen despite you telling him multiple times which means he doesn’t care which also means he doesn’t respect you. This goes to number two which him calling you a lazy bîtch. This reiterates the lack of respect and the audacity. He lives in YOUR house and he really called you that? Break up. It’s only going to get worse.

NTA, why does he think he can complain about something she warned him about. Also this is her house, her rules. He's already showing a red flag as he appears to behave like he owns the place.

NTA. This is your income, the core of your existence and independence. He needs to groww up and accept that seasonal wrok is, indeed, a thing and without people doing it there would be no pre-christmas shopping or tourism. I was in a similar situation with a roommate and eventually just would not sublet my place in my busiest months (May/June) because my place does look like a pig-sty, at that time.

The instant he called you the b word you should have kicked his lazy a*s out.

Any sympathy I would've had for this guy vanished when he started cussing her and standing outside the office door screaming. NTA

Time to send manchild packing. He doesn't have the maturity to be in a relationship

NTA. but the house can get messy even if you dont use it. the shelves still need dusting,carpets vacum cleaning, there can be spider webs etc. Still he can lower the standard and instead of dusting the shelves twice a week he can do it once a week. chores usually dont need to be done every dday so i dont understand so many posts here about how much work they are. like you dont need to clean the bathroom every day or wash your clothes.picking all the chores for 2 months in exchange for more money and having less chores the next month for example is a normal thing. partners should support each other. what if OP gets pregnant or ill? he doesnt listen to her, cannot support her and calls her names. not a keeper. dump him

I need to know that she kicked him out. Dude's an a*******!

so why are you still with this POS it's not like you are married kick him out of your house and working full time is 40+ hours he works part time f**k this dude

He's moved into HER house, but he's acting like it's HIS because he's clearly of the mindset "he's the man, it's his house regardless" and because of that, he expects her to clean up chores that aren't hers because she's obviously stated that she barely makes any mess and that since he moved in it's gotten A LOT worse. She told him months in advance, and it's their second Christmas together. This wasn't about not taking her seriously or not knowing, it was him blatantly disregarding her work because she's the woman of the house and should do the cleaning of both parties, and since she works from home he isn't taking the job seriously in the first place. She makes more in those two months, and that pisses him off, it's not about her not doing her chores. He called her a lazy b*tch because he expects her to do all the chores for both of them because she works at home and he doesn't, so her job isn't as important to him despite what he's seen in the previous year NOT living in HER house.

I can't believe that she saw the need to ask if she's in the wrong. Girl, put that foolish a*s out of your house!

In hindsight, moving in with her wasn't such a good idea. If she wants to "save" the relationship (which I honestly wouldn't recommend), he'd better move back into an apartment by himself. Apparently he hasn't really learned what it means to live with a partner and then actually listen to him. He even knows from his own experience, how much she works in these two months... and he suddenly acts, as if he had no idea. Also, he makes her life even harder (making more mess and complaining about it), when she's in the most stressing phase of the year, instead of being supportive. After all, moving in together should be "more advantageous" for both partners, than living separately.

Get rid of him asap.

If she makes a s**t load of money, why doesn't she hire a maid for her half for two months? Bfs being a t****r, but it's understandable that he hates living in a shithole for two months. Why hasn't this occured to her?

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Ladies, choose your men better.

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While he is totally the AH here, the work/ life balance question is valid. WTH is going to happen when she has kids? How long can you do this kind of work load until you crumble?