My life is terrible, I am just glad I am not subjecting a helpless child to it. Probably the most responsible thing I have done with my life.

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40, have never wanted children, and my life is great. I get to travel and have expensive hobbies and live in blissful silence. There has never been a single moment in my life I've regretted not having children.

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I feel lucky I'm the youngest of 4 and my 3 siblings all have children and would regularly offload their little ones on me at their convenience and I knew then that parenthood was not for me

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I am 38 and quite happy that I don't have kids, I can barely take care of myself.

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I don't have enough time in the day to get everything done let alone take care of a child

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34. It’s like your 20’s but back pain and money to enjoy your hobbies.

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I’m in my 30’s and childfree, honestly, I couldn’t be happier with the decision. My life feels so full. I’ve been able to travel, focus on my career and dive into hobbies that bring me joy. I love the freedom to plan my days exactly how I want, wether it’s spontaneous weekend getaway or just enjoying some quiet time with my partner or pets.. that’s not to say I don’t occasionally wonder about the future like who will take care of me when I’m older. But those thoughts are fleeting because I know I made this choice intentionally. I’ve built a life that feels meaningful and true to who I am and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Being a childfree has given me the space to grow, experience and live fully in my terms.

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Just because you have children doesn't mean they will care for you in your golden years. If that was the case, we wouldn't have so many senior homes. yup, "Merica.

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Wife and I travel every year, we're both in our early 40s, don't struggle with staying fit and healthy and we have a sizeable savings account that we expect will help cover our retirement when we get there.

So yeah, we're perfectly happy.

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I’m 35 and married, no children by choice. When I see my friends with children it’s lovely, I love being an auntie, but I really value my freedom. I don’t know if that makes me selfish but I don’t think I’d be a great mom so why put a kid through that? I don’t feel like I’m missing something or that there’s an empty piece of my life in any way. I get to work, enjoy whatever hobbies I like, travel without kid stress. I have 2 cats and a dog and that’s enough responsibility for me!

Edit to clarify the ‘selfish’ comment - I mean selfish in that I am not giving my mom the grandchildren she so badly desires. But reading these comments helps me to know I’m not selfish in this decision so thank you all 🤍.

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I work, hike, volunteer, do hobbies, maintain my house, and rest.

I'm happy with it. I never wanted to be a mother and I still don't. I couldn't imagine my life _with_ kids. I'm glad I don't have to worry about a child when bad things have happened to me in the past and future, too.

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37, happily married, happily childfree. Not having kids was the best thing we ever did. Working full time it already feels like we barely get enough free time to ourselves, I can't imagine spending it taking care of a kid.

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41. My life is awesome. A couple years ago I picked up and moved across country.

I saw one of my favorite bands on Friday night, then Saturday morning went mountain biking with some friends. Then Sunday I slept in, got stoned all day while watching dumb movies and spent a bunch of time with my dog.

I have never been in a situation where I thought "this would be better with a child".

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I'm torn. There's a deep want in me to have a kid. However, I don't know if I'd want to bring another soul into this world to suffer. It'd be very selfish on my part. Although everyone has always told me I'd be a good mother, I think, for now, that love will go to my dog, my nieces and nephew, my partner, and my friends.

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Very happy. Don't get me wrong, I love my friends' kiddos. But I'm glad I get to hand them back to their parents and move on with my day.

I've watched good, solid relationships be ruined by the stress of having kids. I've watched people fall into financial trouble from having kids.

Some people want to take that risk, or the reward of having children is worth it to them. That's their choice and I will help any way I can.

But I'm a big no on the having kids myself front.

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Love it. Kids are so difficult and I don't even like em.

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40 y/o here.

So so happy. all my friends come to me they are exhausted and do nothing but vent. I get to go to nice restaurants whenever I like - for them it's a logistical nightmare.

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I'm a 40 yr old woman and honestly I'm starting to have some regrets. Not life changing woe is me I ruined my life regrets, just dang wouldn't it be cute if I had some art to put on the fridge. My husband is younger than me so it's still feasible to have one soonish so I'm not an ancient parent, but the chips aren't falling that way at the moment.

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If your whole reason to have a kid is to have some cute art to put on a fridge, don’t have kids. Having a kid means raising a whole other human being, which is a HUGE task. It’s not just about the bits that are outwardly cute.

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Amazing of course, but to each their own. I personally cannot understand why anyone would want children. I don't have a paternal bone in my body, except for my four legged friend. My fiancé and I can do what we want, when we want, I just cannot imagine bringing up children. I am very capable and would make a responsible dad, I just simply have NO interest, at least in this lifetime. People may say, 'well who will look after you when you're very old' however there is no guarantee for those with kids. In fact it probably ensures I take much better care of myself with older age in mind, that there is a high chance I will be alone, but aren't we all, at the end of the day.

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Taking care of myself, pets and a husband is enough responsibility for me. So glad with my choice. I'd be miserable otherwise.

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There are fewer freedoms greater than being child-free as a man. No regrets.

My life isn't great. It's a sh**show, actually. But, unlike literally all my predecessors, I wasn't stupid enough to create another life to inherit my problems.

Whatever happens ends with me.

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I want to suck out the marrow of life and try every little thing I can, every hobby, every country, every experience.  


If I had a kid, rightfully, they'd be the center of my world. And I would forever be on the knifes edge trying to provide for us both. 


I love the concept of having a tribe to come home to, as someone else phrased it. But unless you're especially energetic, rich, or lucky, that world doesn't exist anymore. So - what? What will you sacrifice to make it a reality? Because having kids is very much a sacrifice anymore, a frustrating and expensive one that may or may not pay off. 


I had a friend that his parents poured their life into. Expensive family vacations, private school, yada yada. He died on a fentanyl overdose two years ago. All he did was bring pain to his family. Having kids is no guarantee that you'll have a loving family.

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Living the dream: sleep, travel, brunch, repeat. No regrets here!

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37 here and absolutely loving my decision. I travel whenever I want, my home is a peaceful sanctuary, and I've built an amazing career in marketing without juggling mom duties. Sure, my parents still bug me about grandkids, but I just send them pictures of my succulents instead. Zero regrets!

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My mom has granddogs.

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I'm 48f and childfree; not really a conscious choice, just never happened and I'm okay with that. Honestly, I lack the energy and patience to handle parenting anyway. I'm a proud Auntie of 4 nieces & nephews, who I love dearly and have been fairly involved in their lives. I have my pets to keep me company, and the money (from not raising kids) to pay for elder care if/when the time comes.

I love my freedom! I can do what I want when I want, for the most part, and enjoy traveling on my own. In fact, I'm going on a solo cruise + trip to Europe next spring. Can't wait. :-).

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Honestly, no. I hate to admit it but life feels very empty.

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I absolutely don’t regret it. It was the right call for me as well as any “potential children”.

I’m someone who would have had a child to feel like I had a family. Someone that was my family and that thought did occur to me a few times over the years. But it would have been selfish and led to misery, for everyone.

Then I look at the news see what’s happening to our civilization and I KNOW I made the right choice.

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31 year old.
Here are things I wouldn't have been able to do had I decided to have children:

1) Managed to move into other country on my own.
2) Found a great workplace.
3) Educated myself and been upgrading my professional knowledge through many courses (which would have been impossible with kids).
4) Healed my past wounds through therapy.
5) Visited exotic countries.
6) Spent many peaceful and lovely afternoon naps with my partner
7) Saved money so I can have a car of my own.

I basically left my toxic circumstances, educated myself, earned money, did meaningful investments, met the love of my life...

And I will continue to do courses and be exceptionally professional.
I will continue to be there for people.
I will do whatever pleases my heart... Without children.
Because being a mother wouldn't please me.
My partner, friends, my grandmother, my colleagues, animals fill my heart with joy and happiness.

I am actually very proud of myself that I managed to buy my first car ever. It's such a relief and it made me realise that I would have probably been a struggling mom who would have to go back to work when the child is 1 year old.
And I don't think I can do that to a child.

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Honestly, I feel a deep sense of regret. I've realized too late just how much of a blessing it would have been to have children and to not grow old alone and to always have family around me. As I get older, I can't help but think about how my loved ones, my sisters, brother, husband, will eventually pass, and I'll be left by myself. Of course, there's always the chance I’ll go first, but I fear outliving everyone I care about. The thought of being alone in my later years, with nothing meaningful left to show for my life, no family line to leave behind, and no one to love and care for me, is something I worry about. I mean, I’m only 36 but already having symptoms of menopause, so.. yeah.

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39M. Single, no pets. California based.

Digital nomad who works in Client Services. I travel the world for about 3-4 months a year (Europe, Latin America) while renting my place out in California to a friend who’s also a nomad. Essentially we’re splitting my apartment.

The freedom is amazing - I do anything I want when I want. When I’m traveling in South America I wake up at 10am usually, start work at noon and end at 8pm (depending on where I’m at), mostly just joining client or internal calls, making sure the team is hitting deliverables.

I love seeing new cultures and places and exercising my brain with new languages.  

But it’s very lonely. Sometime I fly out an old flame from home to come stay with me for a week or two somewhere fun if I get really lonely or homesick (that’s expensive).

But the harder part is when see adorable little kids walking down the street with their parents and start to wonder if I made the right decision. I see the amazing young adults coming into their own that my friends created years ago (they made people! How crazy is that!) and I again wonder if I’m living the life I should and could enjoy the most.

I worry that I’ll look back in 30 years and regret it all. I’ll guess time will tell.

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In my 40’s. Happy with the decision because I generally don’t like kids. Spending a couple of hours with my nieces and nephews is more than enough to remind me I made the right decision.

Aside from that, I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. Me and my wife love going to restaurants, I see my friends when I can, we go to a lot of concerts, I go see a decent amount of live sports, I play video games when I want, I drive a sports car instead of an SUV, I travel (but still not enough), my house isn’t destroyed, and my stuff isn’t sticky.

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I’m 39, and an American with the American healthcare and childcare systems, American political system, and American society. I can’t even f*****g imagine having a child in this country.

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I'm definitely happy with no kids but I've seen children empower people who were complete messes and turn them into full blown adults. Meanwhile, I'm just a kid who never grew up. That is fundamentally the tradeoff - parents are (usually) forced to grow up whereas I've spent my life trying to do it.

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I'm in my late 30's If I have kids, I cannot retire in a few years, cannot travel, cannot have toys. Having Kids takes so much away. Life is short, I refuse to be bound by walls.

Now if I won the lottery, I would adopt 10 kids...because I have the means to do everything.

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I also think this way. If I have children, I will have to work like a hamster wheel to raise children. I will not dare to quit my job and travel for a period of time. I will also be afraid that unemployment and illness will penetrate my wallet.

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I'm 44 and my husband is 48. We've been together for 27 years. He was indifferent to having kids but was happy to if I wanted them, and I thought we'd have kids but was undecided for a very long time.

We got to 2019 and thought if we're going to do it, we better do it now. We tried for exactly 2 menstrual cycles. Leading up to my period was terrifying, and we were both incredibly relieved when it didn't work. That alone was telling.

Then Metallica announced a tour with Slipknot to Australia (which got cancelled) and Slipknot announced their Knotfest by Sea Cruise ship festival in Spain (also cancelled) and we realised we were not going to be able to go to things like that anymore. The cost aside, I would have been pregnant or with an infant so it was not going to be possible.

We stopped trying after that and haven't regretted it so far. We go to concerts frequently and travel a bit. Since 2019 we've built our dream home, my husband got the garage he's always wanted with a hoist, and I got my natural swim pond.

There are children in our lives by way of nieces, nephews and friends kids and that's enough for us. We had friends over a few weeks ago and they brought their two pre-schoolers with them. They were great kids but a handful - our house is not kid proof, we had to lock a room so they wouldn't get into my collectables which look like toys to them, and one of them turned all the dials on my husbands welder that he'd spent time setting up for a project he was working on. Again, great kids, but exhausting. When they left my husband and I bumped fists, just quietly celebrating our choice. I really admire people who have kids, but it's not for me.

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Overall, yes - I am at peace with this decision. I am infertile so, options for having children that aren't the "natural" way are extremely expensive. As a result of this infertility and the associated costs of adoption, IVF, etc - I lost the woman I loved because she wanted children. That was difficult to bear for a long time. However, when I consider the *cost* of everything associated with raising children and the reality that I would likely be working myself to death or living in or close to poverty, it puts my mind at ease.

I ran into a friend at the grocery store this weekend. He as three children ages 8 months, 5 and 7 - they spend $1200/month just on childcare. That's the equivalent of a second mortgage payment ***every single month***. I asked him how they do it and he said they're barely hanging on. I couldn't live with that sort of financial anxiety all the time.

Add in emergencies, medical issues, extracurriculars, climate change, the risk of gun violence, etc. Wages overall remain stagnant, inflation continues to rise... Then consider the cost of sending a child to college without setting them up for a lifetime of financial hardship due to student loans, the possibility that they will be living with you long term due to the job market, et al. It just seems totally unfeasible to me to raise children with a quality of life they deserve without working yourself to death.

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***Extremely***. Wife and I are living our best lives. We get to just...do whatever the f**k we want, whenever the f**k we want. We don't have to consider anybody but us, expensive hobbies aren't a bad thing. Zero regrets at all. Every time a friend says "no, I can't go to because of the kids" I am even happier.

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40's here and yes, i'm happy and have no regrets, i've never wanted kids, even when i was little, I hated having baby dolls and in high school when they handed out those crying electronic babies, I paid someone else to watch over the one I was assigned. I have a good career, I own my own house and I do what I want with my time and am financially comfortable. None of that would have been possible if I'd had kids.

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31m. I grew up poor in a family that had been poor for generations. I knew I wanted to break the cycle and have kids only when I felt confident that I could provide more than just the basic necessities. So far that hasn't happened, and at this point I'm not sure I would choose to have kids even if I felt financially stable enough to do so.

I am happy. I live with my partner, we save a lot of money by living in a small space (which wouldn't be possible with kids). I am able to work 2 jobs and work slowly towards my master's degree. My partner has a demanding career that she loves. I know with kids we'd have to set our ambitions aside and I know our relationship would suffer for it. Nothing wrong with having a nuclear family, but it's not for everyone.

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40 and never had a regret. Nothing about seeing my nieces and nephews or friends' children makes me want any... I am always relieved to come home to my quiet apartment and to spend time with my dog. My husband feels the same. 


There have been maybe 2 times in the last year that I have irrationally been like "I want a baby!" And it's so weird because it's very clearly my body doing it. My head is like "no, what the f**k" while there is the other message for like 2 days.

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Hormones or information in genes tell you to have a baby, just like hormones that cause us to suddenly have a strong sexual desire on a few days every month.

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I legitimately don’t understand how people have children and remain dedicated to their work. I’m glad I don’t have to juggle more than work already is.

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35 and married, childless by choice. I'm happy with it, I'd just like to know why I'm still poor as s**t when I keep hearing that we're all loaded LOL.

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Married, no kids. It's great.

We've got two cats. They're pretty cool when they're not being tiny terrorists.

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I am very happy with my life. I have a partner, I have money, I travel.

This week we are visiting family for Thanksgiving. We just now decided instead of going back home we are going to spend a week on vacation after this. Things like that are not possible with kids.

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Yes, this kind of life is very free and cool. I am living this kind of life too.

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Form believer that children should be wanted, the amount of sacrifice required to raise a child will only make you resent the child if it wasn’t completely what you wanted to begin with.

That said, my husband and I are late thirties and early forties and we do not for one second regret the decision. We do literally whatever we want! Caribbean cruise? Sure, followed by an expensive golf experience? Why not.

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42, no kids, married 12 years. We never wanted children. I had my tubes tied so it would never happen.

We're gonna pay off our house we custom built to retire in in 2 years if not before. I have a pool. I have awesome friends and a dang full social calendar.

I will admit most of our friends we see very often are much younger because they don't have the child obligations. But they're amazing friends!

I tell my husband ALL THE TIME that I'm so glad we don't have kids. I mean this economy is C**P. How can anyone afford it? And we love all our free time. We just like to spend our evenings hanging out doing our own thing. And Lord help all the sicknesses going around!

He's a big gamer. I'm a big crafter/maker. We collect board games.

So happy to be child free.

ETA: I do have a cat. Also, don't tell my MIL about the tubes being tied. Not her business.

I have been called selfish as I would be an amazing mom, but I don't want to be. If God wants me to raise a kid, he'll shove one in my life and I'll take them home like a found kitten and tell my husband they live upstairs now.

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Selfish to who!? I've heard that too and you know what; Mother Nature is hurting due to the way us humans have treated her. Not bringing a kid into this!

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My life is awesome. I have a kick a*s partner, weekends to myself and I'm picking up new skills and trying to break into new careers.

Currently hand sculpting my own little range of fantasy miniatures as well as writing a graphic novel, even have an artist for it who's done a few pages.

My life is amazing.

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31F here. I’d rather saw my arm off than take care of kids. My nieces are enough for me if I need my fix of being around kids. I went as far as to get a Salpingectomy done at age 25. Nooooo regrets. I hardly even want to take care of myself and I want to sleep in and be absolutely undisturbed on my weekends off lol.

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WatchShop BD, your ultimate destination for premium timepieces in Bangladesh Explore a Wide Range of Watch Brands https://watchshopbd.com/category/mens- We stock a broad selection of watch brands, catering to all tastes and preferences. From timeless classics to the latest trends, our collection spans luxury brands like Rolex, affordable yet stylish brands like Casio, and a wide variety of other international names. Whether you're searching for a ladies' watch to complement an elegant evening outfit, or a rugged watch for men that can withstand the rigors of an active lifestyle, we have something for everyone. Among our most popular offerings are the Rolex watches, renowned for their impeccable craftsmanship and enduring prestige. If you're curious about the Rolex watch price in Bangladesh, we have all the information you need to make an informed decision. Our Rolex collection is carefully curated to ensure that you have access to authentic, high-quality models at competitive prices.

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100% do not regret being childless. (late 30s male)

Everytime I see my friends with kids, I cannot understand how they do it, why they put up with it and where do they find the energy. I can never wishthat to me. I never once sat there and thought "I wish that was me".

As Marc Maron said, yeah I get lonely. But I never thought a kids would make that better.

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Nearly 40 and ZERO regrets. I dated a women that I believe tried to babytrap me and each time I regret the relationship I have to remind myself that I could have gotten the psycho manipulative b***h pregnant and been stuck with her for 18+ years.

Now I own a house, plan on retiring in less than 10 years, and have zero desire to be anything other than uncle towards children.

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36, no kids, getting a vasectomy soon to make sure of that.

Kids are nice and at one point I wanted them. But for a lot of reasons, it just doesn't make sense to me to create life. My parents had me when they were too old and as a result, my childhood was a little robbed. I buried my parents in my mid 20s. I don't want to do that to my potential child. I believe there's a point in like where you go from being your parents child, to their friend. You just hang out and talk casually, grill up, have a drink, whatever your thing is. I never got that opportunity and I feel robbed.

Other reasons.. they're costly, it's a thankless job, the world kinda sucks and keeps getting worse. You sign them up for a life of work, taxes, illness, war, disease and an eventual death. My genes suck and I wouldn't want to pass a ticking time bomb on to my potential kids.

I have selfish reasons not to, but mainly selfless.

If I ever really want to, I'll adopt and save a kid from being forgotten in a system people claim to care about in theory, but don't really in practice. There's nothing magical about a kid that has my genes, to me.

(Forgot the main question) But my life is pretty good. I travel when and where I want to. Maintain friendships and hang out with people (other childless people are easier to hang out with). I'm enjoying life, don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything. I'll probably be in the same nursing home as the parents who expect their kids to take care of them someday.

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Wife and I are in our late 30's and every few months we're reminded how different things would be if we had kids. The current example is that we need to move for her job for the second time in two years and I couldn't imagine pulling that off with kids. The expenses, logistics and emotional labor involved would be much more difficult with kids involved.

We have to travel three hours to go see houses near my wife's new office. We can pack up and drive down now and again over the next few weeks without trouble largely because we don't have to worry about kid stuff. Our next week consists of driving to see family for Thanksgiving and then doing an extended weekend in NYC for a concert and some other shows/sightseeing. That's just not really viable with school aged or younger kids to deal with.

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I’m 39, female, and married with a cat. Never wanted kids and I’m so immensely happy with my decision. I can do whatever I want whenever I want and never have to think about someone besides my wife. We have more money to do things like travel, and we don’t have to only go places that are kid-friendly - like Disneyland. I am happy to say I will go my entire life without changing a kid’s diaper. The idea of kids just makes me feel sad. I like my freedom and peace and quiet, and I hate how this is seen as “selfish” in society. Such BS.

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Honestly I cannot imagine having to plan every aspect of your life around a kid.

Also, kids ruin practically everything (such as planes, restaurants, theatre shows, quiet public spaces etc).

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Someone once told me: even though I don’t regret my decision not to have kids, I still grieve not having that life sometimes. That quote opened up so much headspace for me. I always worried that fantasising about having a life with loads of kids would make me regret my choice and that made me scared of my own thoughts. Now I can ponder freely once in a while without questioning my life choices!

Happily childfree btw, I knew this when I was 15 and am 33 now.

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Same but at 14 then confirmed it at 25. I'm now 67 and no 'regrats'! 😂😂

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I don't like it. i feel like I'm wasting time.

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It's not a decision. I don't connect with people socially so a family has simply never been in the cards.

On the one hand, there's absolute freedom. No real responsibilities or worries about the future since I'm going to be extinct anyway. Money is easy to manage, I have plenty of free time, and can pick up and start a new life any minute.

On the other hand, I'm lonely. Life is meaningless and pointless. It's a slog and I have no motivation to do anything because what's the point? Anything I do in my life will be lost to obscurity. All that free time turns into way too much free time as I'm just sitting around waiting to die.

so ya know... it's complicated.

edit: should be worth knowing that the whole second point may not actually be cured by having a family, and would just be a problem to have kids AND be a depressed mess. So... complicated.

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Im 43, no kids. This is the best. Everyone i know who has kids never has time for anything. Im sure they love them but you rarely hear them talk about the positives the kids have had in their life. Its always complaining and the things they talk about make me even more glad i havent.

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Tail end of 41, married, very happy. I have a dog, a house, 2 jobs, we travel a lot, I play a lot of video games, I teach martial arts, and have a very full life. I honestly just never felt a paternal instinct. I never wanted children. I remember my brother who is 5 years older telling me he wanted kids back when I was 13 or so, and I didn't want kids just because I was so young and it would kick in when I got older and it just.... Never did. I stayed open to the idea but I never felt that want. Having kids was something I always saw as something I should only do if I 100% wanted it and wanted to be fully invested in, not because of anything societal or otherwise, and it just never clicked that way for me.

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Heading to my 30s soon and was always the guy that was always 110% not having kids. But ever since my sister had a kid and seeing the joy that could come out of it has made me second guess it. Now it's more like 70-30.

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36f, married to 43m. 3 dogs. 3 houses. $ in the bank. Do whatever we want whenever we want. Travel often. Relax when we want.


Hard to be happier.

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40’s. Never wanted kids. I’ve always had the freedom to do whatever I want. I sleep to completion every night. I moved across the country on a whim when I was 29. My 20’s were so fun. I went out every night and had fun with my friends for years and years.

Wouldn’t change a thing.

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Yes I am focus on my career and personal growth. without the distractions or limitations that come with parenting. This might mean advancing in a career, changing industries, or starting a business.

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I love my childfree life and would not change it for anything! I have a wonderful career, supportive family and friends plus the freedom to travel and do what I want. I actually like kids but once I hit 35 realized I didn’t want to be a mother so I embraced my childfree lifestyle. I also considered the world I would be bringing kids into if I did have them and I just couldn’t do it.

I do love being an auntie though and babysit often but I also love giving the kids back to their parents at the end of the day too! It’s not a lifestyle for everyone but it’s definitely the one that made me happiest.

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Amazing! I'm dogfree too! Which makes it even better. I go where I like. I have savings. My house is clean. Honestly its awesome. I don't see the appeal at all in having kids. Everyone I know who has kids just seems to have issue after issue. I guess it keeps them from being bored tho. But I never get bored, I have enough hobbies and interests. Work keeps me busy. Infact I actually dont know how I'd even have time to have kids.

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Absolutely. My (37f) husband (40m) and I are childfree by choice.

We have a nice house, two reliable cars. We're maxing out our retirement accounts (hoping to get to bail early!!!), get to spend our money on whatever we want (vacations, donating to non-profits, doting on my nieces and nephews and kids of our friends). I get to spend my spare time doing whatever I want, when I want (hobbies, vacationing with friends, volunteering around my community).

If it were easier to have a kid here, we may have made different choices but I couldn't imagine doing it any other way now. Our lives are comfortable, very little stress and so much fun.

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36 and chillin' on the couch enjoying my whole week off. Hell no I don't regret it and am very happy with that decision.

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As someone in my 30s/40s, being childfree has allowed me the freedom to focus on personal growth, travel, and career, and I’m happy with my decision.

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I’m 34, I would like to meet someone and do the family thing. I don’t want them enough to be a single parent, I won’t be getting a doner or adopt alone.

I also love my life, I do what I want when I want and never have to think about putting a child before me. Some of my friends with kids do sacrifice aspects of their life, but they knew they would need to do that when they had them.

Sometimes I feel I’m ok either way having them or not but I don’t want to get to 40 and think am I missing out.

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Yep, 100%.

Always dreaded the thought of eventually having to have kids, then i found out that I didn’t have to, and even found a wife that felt the same way. So all in all it worked out great 👍.

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53, no regrets. Currently playing on my phone with my dog snoring next to me.

I got the COVID vax on Saturday. I was able to sleep almost all day Sunday.

I also travel a lot. I recently started to scuba dive, which I love!!

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Ask me when I wake up from my nap taken whenever I wish.

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I will say that I’d be immensely unhappier with children. I have issues. Those issues wouldn’t get any better with the added stress and financial burdens that children bring. It’s the best passive decision I’ve ever made.

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I’m 36 … no regrets whatsoever. Being able to fly business class (occasionally) is far more fun than cleaning up after a tiny human all the time. Not to mention - pregnancy seems like it would be *awful.*.

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Ugh I’m so happyyy to sleep in and be high whenever I want. Too selfish to give that up.

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Apparently I’m in the minority. I wish I had a kid.

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I just turned 35 and i’m child free immaturity and bad decisions ruined the few romantic relationships i had and worse decisions have made that state of being permanent. i wanted a wife and kids. im not happy.

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