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“I Strictly Said No Kids”: Wedding Guest Ignores No Kids Rule, Is Offended When She’s Kicked Out
Interview With AuthorRecently, a woman turned to the AITA community to ask if she crossed the line when she kicked out a friend from her wedding.
“I strictly said no kids at my wedding, & my really good friend decided to bring her 2 year old who is a biter!” the author wrote and added that her friend couldn’t get a sitter for the day. “Her husband recently left her and I feel terrible but her child was crying before my wedding while I was trying to have my makeup and hair get finished,” the author recounted.
While everyone was preparing for the ceremony, her friend’s baby kept crying in the background, which triggered the author, who had warned the guests that it was a no-kids wedding. What followed afterwards made everyone turn against the bride, who now wonders if she was wrong to react that way.
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A bride wonders if she was wrong to kick out her dear friend from her childfree wedding because she brought her toddler who was crying all the time
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Bored Panda reached out to the author of this story who wanted to remain anonymous and who told us that she’s been to many weddings for friends and family and seeing how some children can act during these special events, she decided to make her child-free. “Respectfully though,” the Redditor said.
“My first reaction was confusion,” the author said recounting the moment she heard the toddler crying during her wedding. “I really was just assuming it was her child screaming because I could tell by his cry. Once I had known it was her child for sure I was a little annoyed but understood since she said the sitter would be picking him up in 45min.”
Having said that, the author said that her wedding was absolutely beautiful and she had a wonderful night, and so did her now husband. “If I could change anything I wish I wouldn’t have been so stressed about preparing for this wedding and having anxiety. I wanted it to go perfectly because it’s something I’ve dreamed about since I was a little girl.”
The Redditor also said that having to ask a good friend to leave was hard. “I care about her but her child was way too disruptive and loud. If I have to be honest she doesn’t discipline her child causing my vowels to get disrupted.”
For people thinking of having a child-free wedding, the author’s advice would be “do it as I did, I planned my wedding 1 year in advance and sent the invitations out 6 months in advance.”
“This gives people the time to decide if they will be able to attend or not. I said specifically on the invitations ‘child-free, if you and your loved one are having trouble finding a sitter please contact me 24 hours in advance.’”
The reason she did this was “to reassure them that I still want them at my wedding and I will do everything I can to help with the sitter situation. My friend on the other hand didn’t do any of those things.”
Someone asked for more details about the whole situation and the author replied
Many people expressed their support and said that the bride did nothing wrong
Other people thought that the author was to blame in this situation and questioned the childfree wedding concept
What do you think ?
Aisling Raye 3 years ago
I swear you could put "child free ceremony and reception" on an invite to a wedding ceremony in a BDSM dungeon followed by a reception at a swingers club while offering complementary sex workers and cocaine to your guests prior to a celebratory pre-honeymoon orgy and people would still still show up with their kids.
Scott Crowe 3 years ago
I really hate these "my kid's the exception" mentality of some parents. Their wedding, THEIR RULES !!!!!! Get over it.
Max 3 years ago
Somehow, it's always the parents of the kids you wanted to exclude because they're horrible, screaming, violent brats.
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Deborah B 3 years ago
Childcare emergencies happen, but this guest should totally have contacted the bride, (or one of the bridesmaids, if she wanted to avoid stressing the bride) to explain, and ask for an exception. If an exception was made, the minute the kid made noise at the childfree ceremony, the mum should have taken him outside. Also, calling gives the host a chance to help find a solution. I've seen this happen from a friend-of-bridesmaid perspective, when childcare fell through at a couple of hour's notice. The mom called the MoH, and in under 15 minutes, the bridesmaids had lined up a teenager to babysit a three- or four-year-old in the Sunday School room so that the mum could attend the ceremony without the kid. The bride was paying £20K for her dream wedding, she was more than happy to pay £100 for an emergency sitter to keep it from being disrupted by a bored pre-schooler.
Honu 3 years ago
Yes to all of this. I was shocked that the mom didn't take her child out when he was fussing. That would be the normal thing to do at a wedding where children were allowed.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I've posted this story a few times - We had a "child free" wedding. A good friend asked if she could bring her kids (3 of them under the age of 10). I said no, but had a funny feeling ... Day of the wedding we post a groomsman near the church door. Sure enough, here comes little Miss Entitled with the kids in tow. He told her she wasn't allowed to bring the kids. She tried to tell him that I had made an exception for her. He was like, "No ma'am, she didn't. You're the reason I'm standing here". I literally returned her gift and ended our friendship over it. I don't need people with no respect for my boundaries in my life.
Marian Moore 3 years ago
No Kids, Mean No Kids! That is not hard to understand. Her and her husband-to-be's wedding, they set the rules. Don't like the rules, decline the invite. There, now isn't that simple?
Michael Largey 3 years ago (edited)
This guest brought two disruptive children to the wedding - her child and herself.
Batwench 3 years ago
Bride was NTA. The mam could have asked the kids dad to take their child for the day.
LapCat 3 years ago
Not to excuse her behavior, but maybe the dad isn’t around at all anymore. Either way she should have respected bride’s child-free request whether it meant she attended the wedding or not.
Load More Replies... Aisling Raye 3 years ago
I swear you could put "child free ceremony and reception" on an invite to a wedding ceremony in a BDSM dungeon followed by a reception at a swingers club while offering complementary sex workers and cocaine to your guests prior to a celebratory pre-honeymoon orgy and people would still still show up with their kids.
Scott Crowe 3 years ago
I really hate these "my kid's the exception" mentality of some parents. Their wedding, THEIR RULES !!!!!! Get over it.
Max 3 years ago
Somehow, it's always the parents of the kids you wanted to exclude because they're horrible, screaming, violent brats.
Load More Replies... Deborah B 3 years ago
Childcare emergencies happen, but this guest should totally have contacted the bride, (or one of the bridesmaids, if she wanted to avoid stressing the bride) to explain, and ask for an exception. If an exception was made, the minute the kid made noise at the childfree ceremony, the mum should have taken him outside. Also, calling gives the host a chance to help find a solution. I've seen this happen from a friend-of-bridesmaid perspective, when childcare fell through at a couple of hour's notice. The mom called the MoH, and in under 15 minutes, the bridesmaids had lined up a teenager to babysit a three- or four-year-old in the Sunday School room so that the mum could attend the ceremony without the kid. The bride was paying £20K for her dream wedding, she was more than happy to pay £100 for an emergency sitter to keep it from being disrupted by a bored pre-schooler.
Honu 3 years ago
Yes to all of this. I was shocked that the mom didn't take her child out when he was fussing. That would be the normal thing to do at a wedding where children were allowed.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I've posted this story a few times - We had a "child free" wedding. A good friend asked if she could bring her kids (3 of them under the age of 10). I said no, but had a funny feeling ... Day of the wedding we post a groomsman near the church door. Sure enough, here comes little Miss Entitled with the kids in tow. He told her she wasn't allowed to bring the kids. She tried to tell him that I had made an exception for her. He was like, "No ma'am, she didn't. You're the reason I'm standing here". I literally returned her gift and ended our friendship over it. I don't need people with no respect for my boundaries in my life.
Marian Moore 3 years ago
No Kids, Mean No Kids! That is not hard to understand. Her and her husband-to-be's wedding, they set the rules. Don't like the rules, decline the invite. There, now isn't that simple?
Michael Largey 3 years ago (edited)
This guest brought two disruptive children to the wedding - her child and herself.
Batwench 3 years ago
Bride was NTA. The mam could have asked the kids dad to take their child for the day.
LapCat 3 years ago
Not to excuse her behavior, but maybe the dad isn’t around at all anymore. Either way she should have respected bride’s child-free request whether it meant she attended the wedding or not.
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