Why isn't it the answer? This is how social animals work: when a type of behavior is antisocial, the society responds by making the misbehaver suffer consequences for their misbehavior. It's not like the guy has been bullied for nothing or assaulted.

I understand the idea of shaming within your own social circle. But outside of it, you prove no point. At least this is what I think

lol ... seems you=be-hiding stuff-too lol

I wish I could upvote this many many times. I'm so over the "shaming" culture we live in. No one cares about truth anymore.

You are right Jace, he shouldn't have cheated. However, she shouldn't have revealed this conversation altogether and if so she should have hidden the name (fully). This is a bad example of behaviour on both sides, really. She is clearly not taking his cheating habit, that's good, but why making him go through all this? This guy is in Uni, he'll probably have to go through years of daily bashing now, for one mistake. Especially bashing from people he doesn't know. There is a name for that and that's called bullying. Even as said before we don't know what happened in their relationship. Maybe he's an a*****e. Maybe she did something and he was trying to get comfort somewhere else. Maybe they had a break. We can't know. That's just unfair to do that to someone over ONE mistake that doesn't concern their private relationship. This is why you should be very careful when texting, you never know what people use your text for...

I hope you get to be AJ's lawyer one day as defending some random guy on Bored Panda won't make you any money

You actually make really good points here and I do agree, I just mean that we really don't know these people's personal story so we can't make assumptions. Like what if she had recently cheated on him or something? What if she was abusive and he was afraid of her? The list goes on. Like I get that people should just break up but life can be so complicated. And I get that maybe he is just a douche but who knows?

Then he should break up with her, not cheat and try to hide it.

We know nothing about Allie, but we DO know that AJ is shopping to cheat on her. For all we know, AJ is a manipulating sociopath. Why question Allie's personality when the evidence we DO have is that AJ is the one misbehaving?