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Jewelry Store Employee Shames Man For Buying A ‘Pathetic’ $130 Engagement Ring, He Gets Defended By His Fiancée
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Jewelry Store Employee Shames Man For Buying A ‘Pathetic’ $130 Engagement Ring, He Gets Defended By His Fiancée

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Ever since the fifteenth century when Archduke Maximilian of Austria gave Mary of Burgundy a gold ring with diamonds, many brides have been obsessed with diamond rings. Not Ariel Desiree McRae from Nashville, Tennessee, though. According to Ariel, it really is the thought that counts. And while many of us probably agree with her, a rude Pandora employee shared a different opinion about the engagement ring that Ariel and her fiancé were buying. She called the couple’s $130 ring ‘pathetic.’

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Incredibly hurt, Ariel didn’t want to make a scene. But when she came back home, she wrote a powerful Facebook post in which Ariel listed all of the things why that situation was so, so wrong. As of this article, over 108K people liked her thoughts and over 126K shared them.

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“My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us does,” Ariel wrote. “We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore, so we didn’t.”

“I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.”

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“While we were purchasing my rings, however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, “Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.” When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn’t afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again “Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?” He was so upset at the idea of not making me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough.”

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“Old Ariel would have ripped that woman a new one. Mature Ariel said, ‘It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that matters.’ We bought the rings and left.”

“Y’all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum balll machine ring,” she continued. “When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with a said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love?”

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“My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.”

“But here I am though, Court-House married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side and happier than I could ever imagine.”

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After her post went viral, Ariel wrote an update to it. “This post keeps growing much to my surprise, and I’ve been asked a thousand times how we met. So here is the short version! My husband and I met online at the age of 20, talked on the phone (and I mean actually talked not text) for 6+ hours a day for two days. He then drove an hour out of his way to take me on a date. I wore a tacky Christmas sweater (if you think I am lying, ask him) We ate wings, had a burping contest, and drove around listening to music and singing. I fell in love with him on the first date.”

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“If he had asked me to marry him the first time we met, I probably would have said yes. To be honest, we had wanted to elope three months into dating, but decided to take some extra time to get established beforehand. Ultimately we couldn’t wait any longer.. so we eloped. I’ve never been this happy in my life and I couldn’t imagine spending it with anyone else ever.”

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Ariel’s story proves that a couple who have similar virtues and have their priorities straight are on the right track. However, buying an expensive engagement ring isn’t totally unreasonable in itself. For example, according to a paper by Lee Cronk and Bria Dunham from the Department of Anthropology and Center for Human Evolutionary Studies at Rutgers University, “Male income has the strongest effect on ring cost. Although this is not surprising in light of a general correlation between men’s incomes and the amounts they spend on consumer goods, it is still an important finding. While the cost of a ring might tell a woman little that she does not already know about a man’s income, the fit between a man’s overall spending habits and the cost of an engagement ring he offers might give a woman valuable information about his willingness to commit to the relationship and invest in her and her offspring.”

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    Snowmonkey
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love my engagement ring, it was a university project at a local county university. It's not worth much but the girl we brought it from was so proud that it fit me because it was sized based off her little sister. She did some fantastic work, once we decided to get married she made us our wedding bands (she wanted to because we were the first people to ever buy her work). I look at them everyday and smile

    Lola
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least you are able to tell a sweet story about your ring, as opposed to saying how he bought it at a fancy jewelry store and how he is still paying for it years later.

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    Daria B
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even have an engagement ring. ♥ My man himself is more valuable anyway.

    toldyouso
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its a sad thing that love to some people only happens if they get material (and expensive) stuff from each other. Honestly i saw some 1$ rings on aliexpress which i honestly find waaaaay more beautiful than some of those really expensive ones.

    Lissa forest
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the Store Thought the ring was Pathe5WHY was it in there to begin with?? THAT'S Pathetic, I guess it's so, when you purchase it, they can shame you into buying a more expensive ring that you can't AFFORD.

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    Daniel (ShadowDrakken)
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why in the world would she buy that ring after the salesperson treated her that way? They should have walked out without a purchase and gone to the competition.

    Brandy Cleveland
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding set belonged to my husbands mother. His father passed away when he was 5 months old. The set has more sentimental value than monetary to my husband and I. No one even really knows how much he paid for the rings or where he even got them. 11845241_8...b4c374.jpg 11845241_897587890290937_4879610171871689375_o-5c76c51b4c374.jpg

    Keley Babs
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    an antique, no matter how cheap or expensive it is, is WAY better than some overpriced ring from Americus Diamond or something. And family heirloom to boot? YOU HIT THE JACKPOT, GIRL!!

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    Amery
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding set is a $50.00 Avon Sterling Silver / CZ set; still wearing it and loving it 20 years later. (And our house is paid off, LoL~!)

    Maci Mae
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm only 14 and I've already vowed to not spend all my money on rings, a wedding, or a house. I would be fine with a ring pop as a ring!

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You need a house, sweety. If you don't spend all your money on a fancy wedding, or ring, you could put that money toward a house. Owning your own home gives you security. You don't have to keep paying rent toward something you will never own. Once you get the house paid for, that's one less financial burden for the two of you. I bought a house before I got married, but most couples try to get a house after they are married. It's an investment, not a waste of money. It took me three years to pay off the house; now I'm living rent free.

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    Erik Granqvist
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A marriage is a begining, not an end. Why make you and your soon to be totally broke or even in debt just for a ring? Thats not the best way to start a family.

    Aunt Messy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More to the point, a wedding is NOT a marriage. Many people don't know that.

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    Ellie
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I where to get married, a ring wouldn't matter at all. I would probably be happier without one because marriage isn't about all that stuff. I don't want a flashy wedding either, just the two of us and a judge ;)

    Laura Zaini
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have changed shop, I would not give my money to such a person

    Angela Baranski
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It wasn't the salesperson who made the cruel remarks, it was another salesperson.

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    Caridina Japonica
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The day after I proposed to my boyfriend (while fighting pneumonia, you know, respiratory distress, nightmates, intensive care and stuff), he rushed into my room, grinning all over his happy face. Over night he had learned everything about register office, restaurants nearby and asked me whether I wanted a ring. I don't wear any rings, he does't wear any jewellery. Eventually, we declared an already bought bracelet (Lava pendant from Iceland) to be my engagement ring. Now we are discussing what to do/wear at/after our wedding. Any ideas?

    Jen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That put a big smile on my face. It's such a cute story. You two wear whatever feels right for you (I wore a comfortable handmade traveling suit in pink with an ivory silk camisole), get married wherever makes you happy (we were married in a courthouse with modest rings), travel as near or far as you like (we never had a honeymoon), do the things which bring you joy (had lunch afterwards with family at a local diner). Your nuptials should be as unique as your relationship, and it sounds to me like you've already got a good handle on that. Don't let anyone else's expectations dictate how you should handle a very personal issue; as long as you and your intended are happy you're doing it right. We're looking at our 22nd anniversary this year. Best of luck to you both.

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    Ingrid Törnroos
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Almost every diamond have a bloody and violent past. How on earth could a stone like that represent love and commitment? There are just a few sources of ethical diamonds, so a "normal" engagement ring represent mostly slavery and violence.

    Frozengeckolover
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have a diamond mine in Arkansas. I haven't found one, but if I do, I'm gonna make some kind of unique bracelet out of it.

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    Keley Babs
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care if a man gives me a damn TWISTY TIE for a wedding ring. Just love me for me and all the other expensive rings can just sit there in the jewelry store all lonely and never worn.

    Krystal Grabman
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have no strong feelings either way regarding rings, as long as they aren't too big. What I think is ridiculous is that the average cost for a wedding is $25,000+. I would rather spend money on the ring than waste that money on one day. I see (and love) my rings every day of my life, but all I have to show for the wedding is a few pictures. I wanted to elope, but his mother threw a fit, so we had a wedding. Biggest waste of money ever.

    Krystal Grabman
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I should clarify. No ring is too small, and some people prefer them. My husband bought me a gorgeous ring that he picked out himself; he hit it out of the ballpark! However, rings can absolutely be too big, and that's just tacky.

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    Sierra Hall
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ring doesn't make the marriage last. They were considered luxury items and it wasn't until the De Beers company put out an ad about diamonds are forever that they became a "need". So thank you commercialism for making everyone think that diamonds actually mean something.

    Aileen Grist
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was made for me out of silver and alexandrite. It cost £23 in 1991. Love that ring, unfortunately is has become rather fragile, so hubby bought me another silver ring. In fact he buys me rings - silver ones - for my birthday each year. I take them off at times too - when I was asked about this I told them that I'm married in my head and heart and not on my finger.

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll bet the alexandrite ring is absolutely gorgeous! I love unique things. I have a very flawed sapphire that I found in a creek years ago, I'm thinking of putting it in a setting of some kind. I like that it's flawed, it makes it more unique.

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    Charlie Brown
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I laughed at this simply because it took me back to this day in 2008 when I asked my wife to marry me. Like this couple we didnt make much money she worked in a conveince store and I a mechanic. I didnt even have a ring all I had was a 300$ tax refund check in my pocket and she said yes and we went to walmart (at her request) and she picked out her ring its a small 1/4 caret diamond. To this day she wears that ring like its a 20k Tiffany's special. I made my band from a bolt nut from work because I hate jelwery. 4/4/19 marks 10 years we've been married. We have a 7 year old son and in may we get to welcome two beautiful girls in to this world. Its not the size of the diamond its the thought. Rings tarnish but true love shines bright forever.

    Heidi W
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a beautiful ring, but I would have put it back on the counter and walked out of that store upon hearing that comment. Rude! That store would have lost my business, and the manager or someone would have heard about it. But congratulations! I think your ring is absolutely perfect. You look so happy together!

    Adam Cantor
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know what's funny, the jewelry store employee basically called their own inventory "pathetic". You're selling the s**t and you call it pathetic??? I hope your boss isn't reading this!! When my wife and I got married we had shopped for rings for weeks, all the ones we saw that she liked were way too expensive and out of my price range. We ended up buying wedding bands/rings but to this day she still doesn't have an "engagement" ring, and she could care less! We both decided the money could be well spent elsewhere (like saving up for a home), and almost 2 years later we're still happily married! Surprise...you don't need an over-priced circular object with a bunch of shiny things embedded in them to have a happy marriage or love each other "until death do us part".

    Manyin Tom
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I split up with my GF which we've dated for over 10 years , over disagreement on Ring. She wanted a 20k Tiffany diamond ring, her point was, she has spent 10 years of a woman's precious youth on me, a 20k Tiffany ring is just fair. The thing is, I was able to buy that ring, but the issue is our difference in value. 10 years is a long time to give up on, but its better to end it there.

    diane a
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont blame you - wanted to be paid for her time? - you were better off out of there

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    Claudia
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So how exactly did she Destroy that Jewelry Store Employee ?

    Hilzillah
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! Why write a 'powerfull' Facebook post? Just tell the employee to stick his opinion where the sun don't shine.

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    Aine
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is bonkers. The rings are gorgeous (and so is this young lady, I might add). These people are in love. Why would anyone think themselves so very important that their opinion on something totally unrelated to them needs to be voiced out like that, in people's faces?

    KT Trondsen
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when my now husband proposed to me, he used a ring he'd gotten from his mom. It wasn't anything special but I was just so over the moon because I loved him so much. Money doesn't matter when you have love.

    Maria Campbell
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know that if I were to ask anyone in a relationship/marriage what was the sweetest most loving thing their partner did for them that didn't cost money, most would be quiet. I find most people these days simply put too much value on the materialistic things. If the partner were to pass away suddenly, what would be the sweetest memories? The expensive ring, or the cup of tea/coffee first thing in the morning, the flashy new car or the getting up in the middle of the night to change the crying newborn's nappy/diaper? I know MY memories would be full of sweet little gestures my man has done for me, and I am hoping he feels the same way back. Ariel, you are one very lucky woman, in both having such a sweet caring husband and having the maturity to know what his love means.

    kat lia
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand why people are so obsessed with diamond engagement ring and weddings to the extent that they will start their life together with tons of loans and debts. And a month or a year after they get divorce. I am glad that this particular couple are practical and realistic. They know the real meaning of marriage.

    diane a
    Community Member
    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like they assessing -"is this a 0.5 carat guy? - a 0.75 carat guy? - or can I get a whole 1 carat out of him?" - pure selfish. My ring was pretty cheap, if it had worn out after 20 years, we would have chosen another one together. an engagement ring should be what you both can realistically afford at the time.The woman should be prepared to pay half if she wants something flashy the man cannot afford. The man should just say "this it the amount I can/will pay for a ring - anything above that is up to you."

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    Elisabeth Bergbom
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so in love with this. People who care about the price of the ring don't know true love. So y'all gold diggers out there, if you would've looked more at each others hearts instead of being dazzled by the ring the divorce rate in the world maybe wouldn't be so high. This couple is happy. Just because your marriage isn't happy because your husband works 24/ 7 to afford your shopping and pay back the money for your 5kkkk ring because he didn't see that you were a gold digger. The most important thing in a relationship is that you can be yourself and that you love each other truly (with this I mean that you loving with the heart and not with the eyes)

    Amanda Cravey
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bridal set was $70 and his band was $20 and I later bought him a $2 silicon band. We got married at the courthouse with our parents as witnesses. We just celebrated our 1 year anniversary. I love this man more than anything and I don't want another ring.

    Gonzalo Terán
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have me at "burping contest". It says it all. Best thing to find out with your partener is to share a laugh every time you can. Perfect match, I´m sure it will work well for both of you. Ring prizes? Who the f**k cares? Burping contest overrides everything.

    elfin
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is nothing wrong with the cost of the rings. There is everything wrong with strangers complaining that the man didn't spend "enough" money. The fact that his fiancee was delighted with his choice just shows that he picked a good woman.

    HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Expensive diamonds and all that is just good marketing from decades ago, my wife has a £300 ($400) ring that i got her when we first moved in together, we were both quite skint etc and she loves it and wouldn't swap it for anything (well thats what she tells me at least). This is all shallow nonsense.

    Hugo Raible
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I probably earn 10x more than that guy, but I won't spend so much on a worthless piece of metal and carbon. That's better invested in an awesome honeymoon journey.

    diane a
    Community Member
    5 years ago

    If you walk around wearing Taylor Burton diamonds - is going to be assumed it is costume jewellry - there is a line between what is genuine - and a reasonable size for your situation - and what is so over the top it has to be fake. i worked as a nanny for a member of the British Aristocracy. Her engagement ring was so valuable she couldnt wear it - kept it in a bank vault - too scared to even keep it in her house (we hid it in the freezer) sent me to get it a few times. Bit pointless

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    Effseven Six
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not afraid to say it, my engagement ring cost 20 dollars on etsy. I wear it next to the custom wedding ring the engagement ring is modeled after. We couldnt afford much when we got engaged, and to this day he asks if I'd like my little sterling silver engagement ring to be made into white gold, but I wont have it. I LOVE it so much. It reminds me of how we started small, and how we've evolved together in life.

    Carmen Elena
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This world must be terribly wrong if we think marrying a ring is more importan than marrying the person that gives everything they have just to make you happy. F... the ring!! I want true love. Congrats to this lovely couple!!

    Angela Baranski
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people don't think the ring is more important than the person they marry, so this world isn't as bad you think.

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    Hamsini darshan
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband proposed me via text since he was living aboard,so no engagement ring. It's not about the worth of the ring,it's the thought and effort is matters.

    Xandra
    Community Member
    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those are very pretty rings, and much more wearable with everyday clothes. I wouldn't wear flashy gold and diamond jewelry with jeans, for instance.

    Car Alarm
    Community Member
    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aww, they're so cute and happy together! It's pretty clear the price of a ring matters to neither of them. I wish everyone could see it that way. And since I just remembered this, story time: My parents got engaged before they even got rings because neither of them had a lot of money. My dad didn't even propose by going down on one knee with a ring, he just whispered into her ear. Nearly 20 years later, they're still happily married. So yeah, money really does not matter if you truly love each other.

    Reilly Beryll
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just give me a ring-pop. I’d rather use the extra money to buy some delicious pepperoni rolls! And maybe a new two-dollar rack movie.

    Lizard Queen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grandpa bought a wedding set at a p**n shop. Grandma wore it and loved it. It was what my husband used to propose, and I still wear it. Also, for brides on a budget: p**n shops, estate sales, and art shows are the BEST places for quality rings at inexpensive prices.

    Gregg V
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sort of the opposite of this story... A famous Venture Capitalist in Silicon Valley was known to be very cheap. He and his future feminist wife had split dinner bills down to the penny, found an engagement ring ad in the paper rushed down to the store advertising a sale, got the ring, had it appraised and gave it to his future wife and bragged about his great deal on his wedding day. Now, 30 years later, the former billionaire got divorced with his wife getting $500 million. Sometimes, being cheap, cheating on your wife, instead of Love as a foundation has its consequences. That said, he is now re-married to his new wife 20+ years younger - so we'll see if he finds happiness, but it did cost him a lot of money. I hope he bought her a better ring with love and not money this time. ;-)

    Liz Roman
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a former employee of the Pandora franchise and let me tell you how many times I've had men come in and get promise rings or engagement rings from our store. I trained my girls to never judge just to make their experience memorable. Whomever that tacky woman in the Tennessee store is needs to be reminded that your place is to sell something they love, to create a beautiful memory not push your own opinion on the price of jewelry. Very happy for the lady that loves her rings and don't forget to use a polishing cloth so you never lose your sparkle!

    Any One
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once gave a woman I loved an engagement ring I purchased for $10 that she wore it as though it was priceless. Unfortunately due to our youth and immaturity we never had that marriage. Later in my life with success came fortune I was able to afford that 10k ring but ended up giving it to the wrong one. Moral of the story a good woman won't care about any ring.

    Susan Coughlin
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't want or get an engagement ring. I've been wearing my 30th anniversary ring - with three tiny diamond chips, one for each decade! - for the last six years. It's rose gold and matches my very simple tricolor gold wedding ring.

    Stephanie Gwynne Green
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay yeah, im a british girl, but not money orientated. This couoles story really touched me. Its nice to know that money dosnt make our OWN worlds and lives go round, but in cold hard reality, it does. Im happy with charity shops ect. And to be honest materialistic goods of any kind should not be the declaration of our soul. Money dosnt matter, but how we choose to be good kind thankful humans does. I wish eternal happiness on these couples like this. And atleast their kids will have been taught a valuable (pun not intended lol) lesson. Money doesnt define us, but the kidness ect does, our actions of freewill. We need more love in this world, instead of people dragfing us down because we cant afford fancy things.... when did the world become so materialistic. It isnt sad, just super tragic. You cant buy memories, you make them. Its happening every day , and it is unfair. My heart goes out ot this guy who did this for his girl. Subtle meanings of love are the best in my eyes. Flashy is trashy if you dont do it right. Best of luck to all those out there, like this couple. Spread the loving peace and not war XD

    Si
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can people just stop attacking women for having engagement rings and wedding dresses or anything else that costs money? Overall women have far fewer assets than men do, people routinely spend a lot of money on once in a lifetime trips or events or things they love.

    Caroline Driver
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought the great de Beers diamond marketing rip off was well known, but perhaps not. I'd be happy with just a nice ring I really liked. Something outrageously expensive I'd be petrified the entire time about losing.

    Sansa Blacktyde
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These two have a solid foundation for a strong and loving marriage. The woman in the Pandora shop has obviously been disappointed in life and it has made her shallow and bitter. I know who I would rather be friends with!

    KCN
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would love to see a picture of the rings made out of quarters!

    Anubis
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the cheap things are nice too, my mother and step mother got married in a dog park under the only tree there.

    Kitty Katty
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are an adorable couple, I love the story of her first date

    DeAnna Anderson
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I broke my left elbow and needed surgery and 2 pins put in. I also have nerve damage in my hand and fingers so I was unable to get my ring on for a year and a half, let alone wear it for any length of time. Now that another year has gone by I can wear it maybe 2 or 3 days a month. I miss it, but when I can wear it I am more grateful for it. We are coming up on 33 years in May and our marriage is so much more than the ring. I think some people these days want the big, flashy, expensive ring to sell to pay the divorce lawyer when they can't talk to one another and work out their issues. We made a promise to each other: There will never be anything we can't work out a long as we do it together. It has served us well.

    Greenfairytina
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was a light up jelly ring we purchased at Walmart spur of the moment. We had no money at the time to spare and 98¢ was just fine with me. He knew id be wearing my grandmother's wedding set when we got married anyway. We stayed together for 15 years and even now, we're still great friends with a deep love. It's not about the money, nit when there's real love.

    Phil Boswell
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We were very glad that we didn't buy a hugely expensive engagement ring after our daughter "borrowed" it for a school project and it ended up in landfill…

    SirWriteALot
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Married now, engagement ring was in the €500 price range, I think. Wedding rings were €50 bought on location because we wanted them to remind us of the honeymoon. Fell apart (no s**t, cheap c**p) so we got better ones at home, but still cheap. It's amazing to think back when you were buying the engagement ring and feeling poor because everyone and everything is telling you to shell out 3 salaries. I didn't even have steady income back then.

    Batwench
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that not only are the couple lucky to have found each other the rings are lush as well. Love is worth more than any metal and stone ring.

    Carol Emory
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband never bought me an engagement ring, he used my great-grandmother's old ring (engagement and wedding band to be precise.) He had a new gold band that maybe cost $40. Then my rings had to be cut off my hand when my fingers swelled during my pregnancy. My husband removed his so I wouldn't feel bad about not wearing mine and we put them in a jewelry box that was later stolen during a move. We've never replaced them. We never needed to. We know how much we love each other..and we don't need a ring to say it. Oh..and that research paper by Lee Cronk and Bria Dunham needs to be shredded for it's antiquated theories.

    Pauline Guien
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole Wedding business seems crazy, the money spent on one day is no guarantee of a happy marriage.

    Julia JM
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read a lot, but this is one of a few times when I really enjoyed the story/ article. What I see here, is not $130 ring. I see a brave and confident woman who lives her life free from "trends" and who doesn't give a damn about stereotypes. It is true happiness. Ariel made this ring worth millions. Beautiful couple, beautiful ring ♥

    Full Name
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had tons of girls when I was young tell me that any man that didn't cough up a big diamond was not worth marrying. Well that helped me narrow down the field just a little bit.

    BETTY
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband was the type to shower me with diamonds and beautiful gifts whenever he was able. But I will tell you this, I would give it all back and more if I could only have him back for even a day. He passed away four years ago this week. My heart is still broken.

    Melody Lanzatella
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ONLY reason that engagement rings are even a tradition is because JEWELERS started it!!! It was a sales ploy!! (that is also the ONLY reason that diamonds are worth ANYTHING!) DONT FALL FOR IT!

    Safy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was purchased from a p**n shop. We got married at the courthouse. And I wouldn't change a thing. There are some people that truly want and crave the "typical" AND THAT IS OKAY. There are some that are pressured into the "typical", and then there are some of us that are just focused on other things. For me, none of the stuff matters... my small wedding in the courthouse was surprisingly touching, intimate and everything I never knew I wanted.

    R.s. Potter
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't stand to wear rings or bracelets (I've lost a lot of watches because I kept taking them off), so I honestly don't know what I'd do if I got married. Get a ring tattooed on my finger, maybe? I certainly wouldn't want my better half to spend a fortune on a piece of jewelry, I'm just too frugal to see the point.

    Merle Stroud
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We didn't have engagement ring we couldn't afford it, we got married with a 45 dollar gold band. We got him a band a few month later, on our 10th university I got a new diamond ring as a surprise. On our 30th he got me a new band of diamonds, on our 35th I got him a ring with a row of diamonds. Our 40th is coming up we've talked about another band with diamonds, but I'm pretty happy with what I have.

    Fernando Jones
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I literally bought mine and my spouse's rings for $30 a piece, and after 3 years, we're good. I had to get a smaller size one, but I've kept the same one in a drawer, and my spouse still wears theirs. Price is a stupid thing to fuss about. It's just a symbol, and my spouse refused for that symbol to be the cost of a car.

    Amoureuse
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They have the thing so many others are missing: love. It's a materialistic world for a lot of people. What good does a shiny massive ring do if you die tomorrow? To love and be loved, that matters even if you die tomorrow.

    Biana Weatherford
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine came from a vintage shop. It was "inexpensive" but the diamond was a pretty good sized carat...not that it mattered. He picked the ring himself and it was SO ME! I couldn't wait to get that on my finger. I thought I treated it casually because it wasn't 6 months worth of income, or whatever. But when I left it behind in a motel...I freaked! We had to drive back about 5 hours. That's priceless.

    Rebekah
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are stupid, and stuff like that... this woman has incredible eyes!!! And I'd love a ring hand-pounded out from a quarter.

    Jessica MüRi
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bought the engagement rings for my husband and me. They were like 50 Euros, together. We are married for almost 10 years now and I couldn't be happier. I don't want my husband to spend his money on me. I want him to spend his time with me and to be by my side, when I need him. Who cares about expensive things more than about love?

    Shana
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll never understand the need to get +5k rings (or 10k dress and such) anyway. I mean, to each their own ofcourse but I rather put that money towards a house or something you really need/can actually use.

    Broken Bay
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's amazing how the jewelry industry managed to convince so many people that expensive jewelry is necessary in order to marry someone.

    Tessa Gray
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    4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are giving me so much hope for me and my boyfriend right now (We met online) He's really sweet and perfect for me. I don't really care about anything material, as long as I have him (:

    Eric Maybel
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    4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any woman who doesn't think she won the lottery by just gaining my acceptance is not for me anyway.

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Y'all are going to think I'm weird, but my husband didn't buy me the ring I wear. When we decided to get married, he said he would save up and let me pick out whatever ring I wanted. I told him if I was going to pick it out, I already had a ring my grandmother gave me that looked like a wedding diamond (It was. She bought it at a p**n shop years before). No need to buy another one if I already had one. I teased and said he could get me an engagement ring from a gumball machine. He did. I still have it too.

    Felicity Daimler
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe if these two fatties would stop stuffing their faces, they'd save enough by buying a normal amount of food instead of enough food for an entire town every day and have the money to buy a decent ring. Just a thought.

    Ann Abdelzaher
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My initial engagement ring was a $30 silver and cz ring, 8 months later he upgraded to a 10kt gold $238 diamond ring..and re-proposed 10 years later he bought me a "better ring" but I still wear the $238 ring on my pinky.. this year we celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary and 22 years together.

    Barbara Klein
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first husband would say “ Stick with me and you’ll have rocks as big as diamonds !” ....that’s exactly what I got, but that was ok...we had love to share.

    Jeannie Carle
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please remember it wasn't "the store" who said that - it was only a "pathetic" employee. She should have been reported and fired. I LOVE her rings - sooo pretty - and unique. Sure, the expensive diamonds are beautiful - and just maybe one day, a few years down the line, working together - they can have the ones she wanted - but far more importantly - she has the man she wanted, by her side, working with her - not FOR her. He isn't a "sugar daddy" - he's her much-loved husband.

    Monica A. M.
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my now husband and I began discussing marriage, we discussed the fact that due to my occupation, an engagement ring was not something I would be comfortable wearing(frequent hand washing, rips gloves, afraid it would be damaged) and I asked him to not buy one. Since he has a hobby of making knives, I asked him to try his hand at making us matching wedding rings. It would be something nobody else would ever have and would cost him more in time than materials. It's priceless to have something he worked hard on and it's exactly what I wanted(Damascus steel). I've got the very best husband and the matching homemade ring to prove it.

    Leanne Jones
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Entire wedding cost £1000 We just wanted to be married...and the pressure of an over the top wedding was not for us thank you very much. Got married in front of the people who meant the most to us,had pizza and then an absolutely banger of a party on the night and 16 years later people still tell us it was the best wedding they have attended and my niece says that's her wedding "goal" (which I think is a compliment lol)

    Lindy Mac
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have slapped that ring down on the counter so fast and left the store, and gone somewhere else to buy the ring we could afford. That twit is not going to be the one paying the bill... what a classless sales person. And maybe first ask for the manager/owner to tell them how their sales people intimidate ( or try to) the customers. Actually, putting it on BoredPanda reached a lot more people. So long Pandora jewelers!

    WhatEvenIsLife
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding ring is actually three $45 rings stacked on top of each other. They're just plain, simple, slim bands but one is white gold, one is yellow gold, and one is rose gold, and I think they look really pretty stacked together. It's simple, but a little different, a little unique. It suits my personality, and that should be the point of an engagement or wedding ring - not how much it cost.

    Chris Sprucefield
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Diamonds are just overpriced, as they are not rare in any way. There are way more beautiful stones made out of Cubic zirconia (CZ) stones, that are really worth the money you spend on them.

    Nancy Massi
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People can be so utterly cruel. When my husband and I got engaged, he had little money and so did I. All my money was going towards college and I still remember how one female student asked me where my ring was, if I were in fact engaged. I said we have no money; she responded "oh well, you're engaged on a whim and a prayer. I wouldn't marry anyone unless I got a big engagement ring." She was married for five years and divorced. My husband and I are still together, years afterwards. It isn't about the ring, it's about the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

    Elizabeth Butler
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those rings are beautiful and the story is even more so. The price of diamonds has been artificially manipulated by the DeBeers company for decades and they get away with it because they have a virtual monopoly on diamonds (getting that on lab diamonds also, by the way) so they are artificially expensive.

    cybermerlin2000
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went to Pandora to buy my Fiancee a ring and everything looked cheap and tacky and over priced. I went to a local jewellery shop (not a chain outlet) and found the perfect ring. Silver band with 2 small diamonds either side of an amethyst. It cost £250 (Brand New) and when I proposed she said yes (obviously) and it was a perfect fit. The Jewelry shop owner said that if it does not fit then I could bring it back and swap it for the correct size, she even let me borrow the ring guide for the afternoon)! I returned it very quickly and thanked her. My fiancee loves her ring. That was 7 years ago and she does not know that I am writing this but right now she is admiring her ring in the light and smiling. She needs it resized as she has lost a lot of weight but she is very reluctant to take it off as she feels like its betraying my love. The Jewelry shop is still there and the price to reduce it is very cheap.

    Jennifer Erdossy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex insisted on the expensive ring. I wanted an inexpensive colored stone, but it had to be a diamond. He couldn't have his friends thinking he was cheap. I let his values matter more since he was buying it. Someday, I'll find a guy who hears me.

    Linus Magnus
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shallow people everywhere. Materialistic world full of people that doesn't deserve to breathe.

    Trish Christoffersen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The type and cost of a ring shouldn't judge how a couple feels about each other. My ex-husband bought me a very nice ring and I bought him one to match. He cheated on me the first time we were engaged (with his ex-wife) and he cheated on me with her after we were married. I think, sometimes, a less expensive ring shows more love than a flashy one. Good for them - I hope they have a long and loving marriage!

    Janelle Collard
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what true love looks like! Fancy rings do not make a marriage - the people do. Congrats to you both + hope you have many more years together. :)

    Enola Brinkley-Crayton
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We got cheap rings (don't even know where they are) took that money and went island hopping. Our 43-year marriage is not based on "stuff" it is what we do together.

    Liliana P
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with this girl. What matters goes a lot further than how much you spend in the ring. I could not care less about how much it costs. Even though, I would care a lot about who gave it to me.

    Teri Campisi
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never had an engagement ring at all. You can't cook on a diamond!

    Steve Cruz
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This incident confirms the age-old customer service axiom: "A happy customer tells friends and family. An unhappy customer tells EVERYONE!" If money is tight, don't go to Pandora, go to a p**n shop. Best of love to this lovely young couple. (Wouldn't it be cool if ELLEN and Shutterfly heard about this and gifted the couple with money to spend on upgraded rings OR a honeymoon OR paying down some bills?)

    Carmen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish Ariel and her new hubby all the absolute best! They both look so happy and in love!

    Stina Kolling
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "the fit between a man’s overall spending habits and the cost of an engagement ring he offers might give a woman valuable information about his willingness to commit to the relationship and invest in her and her offspring.” You shouldn't marry a man if you don't know about his willingness to commit to you & any children you may have, and if my husband spent thousands of dollars on a wedding ring instead of something practical, I would have thought him an utter fool.

    Kim Lorton
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think her rings are beautiful! There is nothing that says love, like the commitment of being there. I would and have, worn a plain gold band with pride, as I wear my engagement ring. I take pride in the fact, he chose it, and I keep it clean because it means that, he is always loved and I see it anew, each day. I hope your marriage is a long and happy one! We just celebrated 25 years!

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    Hollie Newton
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    £200 but tbh it could have been £50 the ring is gorgeous and I'm beyond happy

    ChiveChilly
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The rings are so beautiful <3 This is just infuriating. And even if they weren't very pretty, so what?!

    Stille20
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1. The choice of ring is a decision made between the couple, no one else. 2. I always hear these people say they don't want to "make a scene", but really I think we as a culture have lost the ability to have a civil confrontation.

    J Toose
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most couples spend more time and money on their wedding than working on their marriage.

    Riz Leslie
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I couldn’t imagine wearing a big rock. So not my style. Why can’t some people recognize that not all of us like wearing jewelry?

    Amanda Ford
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was a cheap-o piece of costume jewelry my mom just had laying around. My (now) husband took me to a store to look at rings, but I had once had a ring worth about $100/$150 and LOST it! I refused to own anything like that again! Our wedding bands were $10 each from Walmart and made of plain silver. My husband's broke several years back and we recently replaced it and apparently they've gone up in value quite a bit! Who knew?

    Cindy Snow
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's not ignore the fact that she probably just wanted a big comission.

    makenzie stephenson
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those Rings Are Gorgeous!!!!!!!!! Beautiful, price doesn't matter, ive seen some expensive s**t thats uuuuuglllyyy, the cheaper, more affordable stuff is mire beautiful most of the time anyway

    Freya the Wanderer
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    GOOD FOR HER! P**s on the snobs who think $130 is too little to spend on an engagement ring. That man has chosen very well. Their marriage is likely to be one that goes on long enough to shame the Energizer Bunny. True love does not see dollar signs.

    Just saying
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If only churches would give the option of doing weddings during the regular Sunday service like they do baptisms etc - it would send a real message about it being the marriage, not a costly party, meal, clothes, and jewellery that is the important thing.

    Elliott
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I plan on having gumball rings for if I get engaged or I propose. I'm not a big person with money, I appreciate what I have and I see more love than money.

    Keley Babs
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet that's a baby boomer journalists headline in the making... "How Millenials Are Killing the Diamond Engagement Ring Industry"...

    Keley Babs
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you found a man that loves you and wants to marry you, you're richer than a lot of us!!!

    Dodger
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is such a wonderful change from the usual "wife facebook shames husband for $130 ring" that you usually see. this is true love.

    Lissa
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The store should give them a FREE UPGRADE for even drawing attention to their PATHETIC Store. And the Salesperson who embarrassed thus man, should Pay for it. Probably just jealous, because she may have an Expensive ring and NO REAL LOVE, like This couple does

    Kimberly Young
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly don't even know what my husband spent on my engagement ring because who the f**k cares? We went out to look at rings together and I made sure not to point out anything too expensive. When he proposed I was so happy I didn't even look at the ring. I just slipped it on quickly so I could hug him. I didn't look until a few minutes later when he asked if I liked it.

    sunnyrei82
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is perfection. Lovely couple. People should keep their noses out of others decisions. If having a nice, fine, expensive diamond ring is what makes you and your loved one happy... cool. If having a simple, inexpensive, sweet one is your taste... cool. If having NONE is your choice... cool too! Love and commitment is what matters, people!

    Bored Moogle
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the exact opposite of those shallow bimbettes who complain that the rings their fiances got them weren't expensive enough.

    Bill
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    High pressure sales tactic. The clerks make a commission. And unfortunately they still made money off the couple.

    Honey
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband did get me a diamond ring but it was more than I was expecting. I am in love with her rings. I'm not saying that I don't adore my rings but I love the man I married. 13 years strong and I would have been happy with a gumball ring or even no ring. I married my best friend. What more can a girl ask for?

    Iris Engler
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love is not expensive gifts; it is not how beauty your partner is or if he/she is pleasant to your family and friends! It is a great feeling two people share for each other. My man gave me a ring after we were together less then two weeks. A simple silver ring but it means more than any diamond to me. Because accepting it was my sign to aprove my will to do all I can to give that relationship a chance to grow and I know he gave me that ring with a honest and pure heart

    KarmaQueen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you love the ring then that is all that matters. Do not get caught up in that some women want an expensive ring to show them how much their significant other loves them. My wedding ring contains no diamonds and is just a silver band. I love it and it fits me as a person. The ring you got is beautiful and I would proudly wear it and show it off.

    Cassie
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your rings are lovely and your perspective is spot on.

    vp
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was at that moment I knew...my marriage was probably f****d. When my future wife vocally wished the diamond on her engagement ring was bigger. Props to this couple who'll definitely last longer than us.

    Moe Richardson
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After 5 years, my husband 'upgraded'/replaced my cheaper wedding set. It's beautiful, but I have $10 sterling silver rings I care about more.

    Kurtz Frausun
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I proposed to my (now ex-wife) with a plastic ring I scored from a vending machine. I took a knee and said "I'm a poor artist, but I can give you the wealth of my heart's love if you will be mine." It's the intention. Not the value of the ring.

    2-10-11
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a diamond engagement ring, a cheap one, even though it was low profile, it still got in the way when i was playing with and caring for my little 'uns, finally took it off and stuck it in a drawer, now wear different bands, depending on my mood. And sometimes costume jewelry, l like being able to change things up, always a ring on the finger, just not always the same one. I love the rings they chose, very vintage look. I hope the story is true and not a clever ploy to crowd fund the wedding through sympathy. Internet making me bitter and disillusioned. Happy almost spring (or fall, hi southern hemisphere!) anonymous internet.

    Notsoswift
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pandora should step up here and not leave a negative impression about their employees linger

    Sleepy Panda
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got a pretty CZ ring for my engagement, for our ten year anniversary my husband wanted to get us real diamond but after learning about the industry scams we decided to go with lab created diamonds instead.

    Vicky Zar
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Woman like this pandora type are giving every other woman a bad name. I was more furiose with my husband because he bought a too expensive engagement ring! I thought it a waste of money. Still do.

    Nomadus Aureus
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly... I just don't understand this whole ring thing. When someone says that they want a ring that costs thousands because they're worth it. All I'm hearing is that they value themselves to be worth only the cost of a ring. I do admit, I'd be very disappointed with a ring from Poundland (Dollar Store for you guys in the US), because I just don't like the vibe. But despite having my heart set on the same ring since middleschool, I'd love to get a gum machine one. It's funny. It's cute. And it suits my playful nature. I'd love it with all my heart. (The ring I'm in love with costs £85.00. Don't even know if that's a lot or not for an engagement ring. Tbh, it's probably a lot. It's not like I could just buy it for myself right now.)

    Kjorn
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's funny because my wife and i was almost the same thing. we met only in 1999 and just hanging out for few Week before going out. i propose to her few years later and now 20 years later still together with 3 kids. Our wedding ring cost 100$ both i think. Marriage, wedding ring it's a symbol for so many woman. Why focus on the symbol and not the act? if you think a 5000$ ring is more important than the love of your life you're not worthy of him and seriously need to think about your life

    Lola
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What some idiot at Pandora said is completely irrelevant. What bothers me about this story is the fact that she mentions how she had pear shaped diamond rings on the Pinterest page that he obviously has seen. That right there to me is wrong. If you didn’t care about the diamond, then you wouldn’t be hinting by pinning those rings. A lot of men feel pressured by the rings because of society. A women who truly just loves him and couldn’t care less about a diamond ring won’t even bother looking one up, never mind posting about it so the bf can see.

    Rose mary
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't a person just like jewellery? Wedding jewellery is not the only jewellery a woman buys or wears(usually). Sometimes people like me just love seeing them- designs, colours, that aura, etc but don't want to own or even wear any of the stuff which I love to admire.

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    Sasy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is horrible and I hope Pandora have reached out to apologise for this. Not only was she so out of line, but she actually called the products that she sells pathetic, no matter what price point any item in the store is that you work for, none of it is pathetic and if you truly think it is, do yourself and your Bosses a favor and leave. I think both rings are Beautiful and when it is love, it could be a cheezels ring for all it matters. Jewellery store people may have a slanted view of reality, I once asked to look at a bracelet, I was asked if it was for me or a gift, I said a gift...the salesperson stopped opening the drawer and said there were cheaper ones in the other case, I stared daggers at this person and told her that there is no budget when it comes to my Mum. I felt like I had been Pretty Woman'd.

    Catherine Waite
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have complained at least sent an email to the company's headquarters. That not ok. But I'm glad that you could find a set you liked that is not ridiculously over price. I just wish my partner could understand that. He keeps saying he does not have the money to get me a ring and I'm over here yelling dude by me a gummy ring, and I will preserve it in resin and love it. But he can't see it. either that or he is using it as a ploy to delay. hmm. Either or he is my best friend and a numpty but my numpty. Just wish he could see I don't care about the money. I hope the two of you lost of continued love and happiness. And you keep rocking your rings with pride.

    dan pres
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My brother spent $1.50 for his... It took 6 tries at a gumball machine to get a ring. 20 years later, and she still wears it on their anniversary. I bought my wife the ring she designed. I spent $1,500. It's been lost, and so was our love. Divorced 4 years ago. You get what you pay for... right.

    Amber Zenteno
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband worked hard for 3 months at his construction job to buy me a $3,500 ring. It was a testament of how hard he is willing to work for us. I stare at it everyday and am reminded that he would do anything for me. He wanted me to have a beautiful ring my whole life. I would have been happy with any ring but he wanted the best. There is nothing wrong with having a nice ring!

    Lissa
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the Store Thought the ring was Pathe5WHY was it in there to begin with?? THAT'S Pathetic, I guess it's so, when you purchase it, they can shame you into buying a more expensive ring that you can't AFFORD.

    Catherine KY Lim
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A tiny blue stone ring that cost less then $200... from my then boyfriend , who is 9years my junior. Ppl said i was a cradle snatcher and all the hurting things. 23yreas now... his wife... wearing 1carat diamond on my finger.... ;)

    Carl Mape
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    Not buying this story. Pandora is a moderate to cheap jewlery store. It is NOT Tiffanys. The employees do NOT care there what anyone buys. This is just a fake story with probably a bogus GOFUNDME attached to it.

    Carl Mape
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    Fake story. Pandora is not high end like Tiffanys! It's a moderate to CHEAP store. The Employees don't work on a commission and don't care what you buy. No way did the sales lady say this. Fat slobs!!!!

    Sill Marien
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    5 years ago

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    the only thing that is somewhat shameful is the size- it's obviously too small

    Gigglemage
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    5 years ago

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    It's not like I don't get it. Engagement rings are considered a status symbol like a car or fancy house. They show others that your husband can provide for you... and it's that kind of old fashioned thinking that still causes many issues (usually entitlement ones) in society today. You often see ring shaming going on now days where people like the lady selling the ring join up in groups and complain about the rings they received from their "loved ones" not being good enough. My husband gave me a beautiful ring, but I would have been just as happy with the plainest cheapest thing in the world... because it came from him.

    Eddie Diaz
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    5 years ago

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    Nah this is not ok imo. The price is irrelevant however the commitment is the key. 2-3 months salary is the norm for a reason. It shows how committed you are to the other person. For some, that may only be $2-3k others it can be $20-30k but $130 ring? C'mon now that's barely enough for a nice dinner and a movie. Ladies, if a guy can't commit to at least 1 month's salary for the ring that you will wear for the rest of your life.....RUN!

    diane a
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who says 2/3 months salary is the norm??? - you are making it up. Having money to burn does not equate to love and comitment - what planet are you on?

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    Wil Vanderheijden
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    Why is it always a woman that's overly concerned with the value of jewelry? I never read one time where a guy was mocking someone else for not having expensive jewelry.

    Snowmonkey
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love my engagement ring, it was a university project at a local county university. It's not worth much but the girl we brought it from was so proud that it fit me because it was sized based off her little sister. She did some fantastic work, once we decided to get married she made us our wedding bands (she wanted to because we were the first people to ever buy her work). I look at them everyday and smile

    Lola
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least you are able to tell a sweet story about your ring, as opposed to saying how he bought it at a fancy jewelry store and how he is still paying for it years later.

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    Daria B
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even have an engagement ring. ♥ My man himself is more valuable anyway.

    toldyouso
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its a sad thing that love to some people only happens if they get material (and expensive) stuff from each other. Honestly i saw some 1$ rings on aliexpress which i honestly find waaaaay more beautiful than some of those really expensive ones.

    Lissa forest
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the Store Thought the ring was Pathe5WHY was it in there to begin with?? THAT'S Pathetic, I guess it's so, when you purchase it, they can shame you into buying a more expensive ring that you can't AFFORD.

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    Daniel (ShadowDrakken)
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why in the world would she buy that ring after the salesperson treated her that way? They should have walked out without a purchase and gone to the competition.

    Brandy Cleveland
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding set belonged to my husbands mother. His father passed away when he was 5 months old. The set has more sentimental value than monetary to my husband and I. No one even really knows how much he paid for the rings or where he even got them. 11845241_8...b4c374.jpg 11845241_897587890290937_4879610171871689375_o-5c76c51b4c374.jpg

    Keley Babs
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    an antique, no matter how cheap or expensive it is, is WAY better than some overpriced ring from Americus Diamond or something. And family heirloom to boot? YOU HIT THE JACKPOT, GIRL!!

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    Amery
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding set is a $50.00 Avon Sterling Silver / CZ set; still wearing it and loving it 20 years later. (And our house is paid off, LoL~!)

    Maci Mae
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm only 14 and I've already vowed to not spend all my money on rings, a wedding, or a house. I would be fine with a ring pop as a ring!

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You need a house, sweety. If you don't spend all your money on a fancy wedding, or ring, you could put that money toward a house. Owning your own home gives you security. You don't have to keep paying rent toward something you will never own. Once you get the house paid for, that's one less financial burden for the two of you. I bought a house before I got married, but most couples try to get a house after they are married. It's an investment, not a waste of money. It took me three years to pay off the house; now I'm living rent free.

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    Erik Granqvist
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A marriage is a begining, not an end. Why make you and your soon to be totally broke or even in debt just for a ring? Thats not the best way to start a family.

    Aunt Messy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More to the point, a wedding is NOT a marriage. Many people don't know that.

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    Ellie
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I where to get married, a ring wouldn't matter at all. I would probably be happier without one because marriage isn't about all that stuff. I don't want a flashy wedding either, just the two of us and a judge ;)

    Laura Zaini
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have changed shop, I would not give my money to such a person

    Angela Baranski
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It wasn't the salesperson who made the cruel remarks, it was another salesperson.

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    Caridina Japonica
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The day after I proposed to my boyfriend (while fighting pneumonia, you know, respiratory distress, nightmates, intensive care and stuff), he rushed into my room, grinning all over his happy face. Over night he had learned everything about register office, restaurants nearby and asked me whether I wanted a ring. I don't wear any rings, he does't wear any jewellery. Eventually, we declared an already bought bracelet (Lava pendant from Iceland) to be my engagement ring. Now we are discussing what to do/wear at/after our wedding. Any ideas?

    Jen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That put a big smile on my face. It's such a cute story. You two wear whatever feels right for you (I wore a comfortable handmade traveling suit in pink with an ivory silk camisole), get married wherever makes you happy (we were married in a courthouse with modest rings), travel as near or far as you like (we never had a honeymoon), do the things which bring you joy (had lunch afterwards with family at a local diner). Your nuptials should be as unique as your relationship, and it sounds to me like you've already got a good handle on that. Don't let anyone else's expectations dictate how you should handle a very personal issue; as long as you and your intended are happy you're doing it right. We're looking at our 22nd anniversary this year. Best of luck to you both.

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    Ingrid Törnroos
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Almost every diamond have a bloody and violent past. How on earth could a stone like that represent love and commitment? There are just a few sources of ethical diamonds, so a "normal" engagement ring represent mostly slavery and violence.

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have a diamond mine in Arkansas. I haven't found one, but if I do, I'm gonna make some kind of unique bracelet out of it.

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    Keley Babs
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care if a man gives me a damn TWISTY TIE for a wedding ring. Just love me for me and all the other expensive rings can just sit there in the jewelry store all lonely and never worn.

    Krystal Grabman
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have no strong feelings either way regarding rings, as long as they aren't too big. What I think is ridiculous is that the average cost for a wedding is $25,000+. I would rather spend money on the ring than waste that money on one day. I see (and love) my rings every day of my life, but all I have to show for the wedding is a few pictures. I wanted to elope, but his mother threw a fit, so we had a wedding. Biggest waste of money ever.

    Krystal Grabman
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I should clarify. No ring is too small, and some people prefer them. My husband bought me a gorgeous ring that he picked out himself; he hit it out of the ballpark! However, rings can absolutely be too big, and that's just tacky.

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    Sierra Hall
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ring doesn't make the marriage last. They were considered luxury items and it wasn't until the De Beers company put out an ad about diamonds are forever that they became a "need". So thank you commercialism for making everyone think that diamonds actually mean something.

    Aileen Grist
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was made for me out of silver and alexandrite. It cost £23 in 1991. Love that ring, unfortunately is has become rather fragile, so hubby bought me another silver ring. In fact he buys me rings - silver ones - for my birthday each year. I take them off at times too - when I was asked about this I told them that I'm married in my head and heart and not on my finger.

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll bet the alexandrite ring is absolutely gorgeous! I love unique things. I have a very flawed sapphire that I found in a creek years ago, I'm thinking of putting it in a setting of some kind. I like that it's flawed, it makes it more unique.

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    Charlie Brown
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I laughed at this simply because it took me back to this day in 2008 when I asked my wife to marry me. Like this couple we didnt make much money she worked in a conveince store and I a mechanic. I didnt even have a ring all I had was a 300$ tax refund check in my pocket and she said yes and we went to walmart (at her request) and she picked out her ring its a small 1/4 caret diamond. To this day she wears that ring like its a 20k Tiffany's special. I made my band from a bolt nut from work because I hate jelwery. 4/4/19 marks 10 years we've been married. We have a 7 year old son and in may we get to welcome two beautiful girls in to this world. Its not the size of the diamond its the thought. Rings tarnish but true love shines bright forever.

    Heidi W
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a beautiful ring, but I would have put it back on the counter and walked out of that store upon hearing that comment. Rude! That store would have lost my business, and the manager or someone would have heard about it. But congratulations! I think your ring is absolutely perfect. You look so happy together!

    Adam Cantor
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know what's funny, the jewelry store employee basically called their own inventory "pathetic". You're selling the s**t and you call it pathetic??? I hope your boss isn't reading this!! When my wife and I got married we had shopped for rings for weeks, all the ones we saw that she liked were way too expensive and out of my price range. We ended up buying wedding bands/rings but to this day she still doesn't have an "engagement" ring, and she could care less! We both decided the money could be well spent elsewhere (like saving up for a home), and almost 2 years later we're still happily married! Surprise...you don't need an over-priced circular object with a bunch of shiny things embedded in them to have a happy marriage or love each other "until death do us part".

    Manyin Tom
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I split up with my GF which we've dated for over 10 years , over disagreement on Ring. She wanted a 20k Tiffany diamond ring, her point was, she has spent 10 years of a woman's precious youth on me, a 20k Tiffany ring is just fair. The thing is, I was able to buy that ring, but the issue is our difference in value. 10 years is a long time to give up on, but its better to end it there.

    diane a
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont blame you - wanted to be paid for her time? - you were better off out of there

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    Claudia
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So how exactly did she Destroy that Jewelry Store Employee ?

    Hilzillah
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! Why write a 'powerfull' Facebook post? Just tell the employee to stick his opinion where the sun don't shine.

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    Aine
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is bonkers. The rings are gorgeous (and so is this young lady, I might add). These people are in love. Why would anyone think themselves so very important that their opinion on something totally unrelated to them needs to be voiced out like that, in people's faces?

    KT Trondsen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when my now husband proposed to me, he used a ring he'd gotten from his mom. It wasn't anything special but I was just so over the moon because I loved him so much. Money doesn't matter when you have love.

    Maria Campbell
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know that if I were to ask anyone in a relationship/marriage what was the sweetest most loving thing their partner did for them that didn't cost money, most would be quiet. I find most people these days simply put too much value on the materialistic things. If the partner were to pass away suddenly, what would be the sweetest memories? The expensive ring, or the cup of tea/coffee first thing in the morning, the flashy new car or the getting up in the middle of the night to change the crying newborn's nappy/diaper? I know MY memories would be full of sweet little gestures my man has done for me, and I am hoping he feels the same way back. Ariel, you are one very lucky woman, in both having such a sweet caring husband and having the maturity to know what his love means.

    kat lia
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand why people are so obsessed with diamond engagement ring and weddings to the extent that they will start their life together with tons of loans and debts. And a month or a year after they get divorce. I am glad that this particular couple are practical and realistic. They know the real meaning of marriage.

    diane a
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like they assessing -"is this a 0.5 carat guy? - a 0.75 carat guy? - or can I get a whole 1 carat out of him?" - pure selfish. My ring was pretty cheap, if it had worn out after 20 years, we would have chosen another one together. an engagement ring should be what you both can realistically afford at the time.The woman should be prepared to pay half if she wants something flashy the man cannot afford. The man should just say "this it the amount I can/will pay for a ring - anything above that is up to you."

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    Elisabeth Bergbom
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so in love with this. People who care about the price of the ring don't know true love. So y'all gold diggers out there, if you would've looked more at each others hearts instead of being dazzled by the ring the divorce rate in the world maybe wouldn't be so high. This couple is happy. Just because your marriage isn't happy because your husband works 24/ 7 to afford your shopping and pay back the money for your 5kkkk ring because he didn't see that you were a gold digger. The most important thing in a relationship is that you can be yourself and that you love each other truly (with this I mean that you loving with the heart and not with the eyes)

    Amanda Cravey
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bridal set was $70 and his band was $20 and I later bought him a $2 silicon band. We got married at the courthouse with our parents as witnesses. We just celebrated our 1 year anniversary. I love this man more than anything and I don't want another ring.

    Gonzalo Terán
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have me at "burping contest". It says it all. Best thing to find out with your partener is to share a laugh every time you can. Perfect match, I´m sure it will work well for both of you. Ring prizes? Who the f**k cares? Burping contest overrides everything.

    elfin
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is nothing wrong with the cost of the rings. There is everything wrong with strangers complaining that the man didn't spend "enough" money. The fact that his fiancee was delighted with his choice just shows that he picked a good woman.

    HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Expensive diamonds and all that is just good marketing from decades ago, my wife has a £300 ($400) ring that i got her when we first moved in together, we were both quite skint etc and she loves it and wouldn't swap it for anything (well thats what she tells me at least). This is all shallow nonsense.

    Hugo Raible
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I probably earn 10x more than that guy, but I won't spend so much on a worthless piece of metal and carbon. That's better invested in an awesome honeymoon journey.

    diane a
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    5 years ago

    If you walk around wearing Taylor Burton diamonds - is going to be assumed it is costume jewellry - there is a line between what is genuine - and a reasonable size for your situation - and what is so over the top it has to be fake. i worked as a nanny for a member of the British Aristocracy. Her engagement ring was so valuable she couldnt wear it - kept it in a bank vault - too scared to even keep it in her house (we hid it in the freezer) sent me to get it a few times. Bit pointless

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    Effseven Six
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not afraid to say it, my engagement ring cost 20 dollars on etsy. I wear it next to the custom wedding ring the engagement ring is modeled after. We couldnt afford much when we got engaged, and to this day he asks if I'd like my little sterling silver engagement ring to be made into white gold, but I wont have it. I LOVE it so much. It reminds me of how we started small, and how we've evolved together in life.

    Carmen Elena
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This world must be terribly wrong if we think marrying a ring is more importan than marrying the person that gives everything they have just to make you happy. F... the ring!! I want true love. Congrats to this lovely couple!!

    Angela Baranski
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people don't think the ring is more important than the person they marry, so this world isn't as bad you think.

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    Hamsini darshan
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband proposed me via text since he was living aboard,so no engagement ring. It's not about the worth of the ring,it's the thought and effort is matters.

    Xandra
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those are very pretty rings, and much more wearable with everyday clothes. I wouldn't wear flashy gold and diamond jewelry with jeans, for instance.

    Car Alarm
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aww, they're so cute and happy together! It's pretty clear the price of a ring matters to neither of them. I wish everyone could see it that way. And since I just remembered this, story time: My parents got engaged before they even got rings because neither of them had a lot of money. My dad didn't even propose by going down on one knee with a ring, he just whispered into her ear. Nearly 20 years later, they're still happily married. So yeah, money really does not matter if you truly love each other.

    Reilly Beryll
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just give me a ring-pop. I’d rather use the extra money to buy some delicious pepperoni rolls! And maybe a new two-dollar rack movie.

    Lizard Queen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grandpa bought a wedding set at a p**n shop. Grandma wore it and loved it. It was what my husband used to propose, and I still wear it. Also, for brides on a budget: p**n shops, estate sales, and art shows are the BEST places for quality rings at inexpensive prices.

    Gregg V
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sort of the opposite of this story... A famous Venture Capitalist in Silicon Valley was known to be very cheap. He and his future feminist wife had split dinner bills down to the penny, found an engagement ring ad in the paper rushed down to the store advertising a sale, got the ring, had it appraised and gave it to his future wife and bragged about his great deal on his wedding day. Now, 30 years later, the former billionaire got divorced with his wife getting $500 million. Sometimes, being cheap, cheating on your wife, instead of Love as a foundation has its consequences. That said, he is now re-married to his new wife 20+ years younger - so we'll see if he finds happiness, but it did cost him a lot of money. I hope he bought her a better ring with love and not money this time. ;-)

    Liz Roman
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a former employee of the Pandora franchise and let me tell you how many times I've had men come in and get promise rings or engagement rings from our store. I trained my girls to never judge just to make their experience memorable. Whomever that tacky woman in the Tennessee store is needs to be reminded that your place is to sell something they love, to create a beautiful memory not push your own opinion on the price of jewelry. Very happy for the lady that loves her rings and don't forget to use a polishing cloth so you never lose your sparkle!

    Any One
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once gave a woman I loved an engagement ring I purchased for $10 that she wore it as though it was priceless. Unfortunately due to our youth and immaturity we never had that marriage. Later in my life with success came fortune I was able to afford that 10k ring but ended up giving it to the wrong one. Moral of the story a good woman won't care about any ring.

    Susan Coughlin
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't want or get an engagement ring. I've been wearing my 30th anniversary ring - with three tiny diamond chips, one for each decade! - for the last six years. It's rose gold and matches my very simple tricolor gold wedding ring.

    Stephanie Gwynne Green
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay yeah, im a british girl, but not money orientated. This couoles story really touched me. Its nice to know that money dosnt make our OWN worlds and lives go round, but in cold hard reality, it does. Im happy with charity shops ect. And to be honest materialistic goods of any kind should not be the declaration of our soul. Money dosnt matter, but how we choose to be good kind thankful humans does. I wish eternal happiness on these couples like this. And atleast their kids will have been taught a valuable (pun not intended lol) lesson. Money doesnt define us, but the kidness ect does, our actions of freewill. We need more love in this world, instead of people dragfing us down because we cant afford fancy things.... when did the world become so materialistic. It isnt sad, just super tragic. You cant buy memories, you make them. Its happening every day , and it is unfair. My heart goes out ot this guy who did this for his girl. Subtle meanings of love are the best in my eyes. Flashy is trashy if you dont do it right. Best of luck to all those out there, like this couple. Spread the loving peace and not war XD

    Si
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can people just stop attacking women for having engagement rings and wedding dresses or anything else that costs money? Overall women have far fewer assets than men do, people routinely spend a lot of money on once in a lifetime trips or events or things they love.

    Caroline Driver
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought the great de Beers diamond marketing rip off was well known, but perhaps not. I'd be happy with just a nice ring I really liked. Something outrageously expensive I'd be petrified the entire time about losing.

    Sansa Blacktyde
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These two have a solid foundation for a strong and loving marriage. The woman in the Pandora shop has obviously been disappointed in life and it has made her shallow and bitter. I know who I would rather be friends with!

    KCN
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would love to see a picture of the rings made out of quarters!

    Anubis
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the cheap things are nice too, my mother and step mother got married in a dog park under the only tree there.

    Kitty Katty
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are an adorable couple, I love the story of her first date

    DeAnna Anderson
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I broke my left elbow and needed surgery and 2 pins put in. I also have nerve damage in my hand and fingers so I was unable to get my ring on for a year and a half, let alone wear it for any length of time. Now that another year has gone by I can wear it maybe 2 or 3 days a month. I miss it, but when I can wear it I am more grateful for it. We are coming up on 33 years in May and our marriage is so much more than the ring. I think some people these days want the big, flashy, expensive ring to sell to pay the divorce lawyer when they can't talk to one another and work out their issues. We made a promise to each other: There will never be anything we can't work out a long as we do it together. It has served us well.

    Greenfairytina
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was a light up jelly ring we purchased at Walmart spur of the moment. We had no money at the time to spare and 98¢ was just fine with me. He knew id be wearing my grandmother's wedding set when we got married anyway. We stayed together for 15 years and even now, we're still great friends with a deep love. It's not about the money, nit when there's real love.

    Phil Boswell
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We were very glad that we didn't buy a hugely expensive engagement ring after our daughter "borrowed" it for a school project and it ended up in landfill…

    SirWriteALot
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Married now, engagement ring was in the €500 price range, I think. Wedding rings were €50 bought on location because we wanted them to remind us of the honeymoon. Fell apart (no s**t, cheap c**p) so we got better ones at home, but still cheap. It's amazing to think back when you were buying the engagement ring and feeling poor because everyone and everything is telling you to shell out 3 salaries. I didn't even have steady income back then.

    Batwench
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that not only are the couple lucky to have found each other the rings are lush as well. Love is worth more than any metal and stone ring.

    Carol Emory
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband never bought me an engagement ring, he used my great-grandmother's old ring (engagement and wedding band to be precise.) He had a new gold band that maybe cost $40. Then my rings had to be cut off my hand when my fingers swelled during my pregnancy. My husband removed his so I wouldn't feel bad about not wearing mine and we put them in a jewelry box that was later stolen during a move. We've never replaced them. We never needed to. We know how much we love each other..and we don't need a ring to say it. Oh..and that research paper by Lee Cronk and Bria Dunham needs to be shredded for it's antiquated theories.

    Pauline Guien
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole Wedding business seems crazy, the money spent on one day is no guarantee of a happy marriage.

    Julia JM
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read a lot, but this is one of a few times when I really enjoyed the story/ article. What I see here, is not $130 ring. I see a brave and confident woman who lives her life free from "trends" and who doesn't give a damn about stereotypes. It is true happiness. Ariel made this ring worth millions. Beautiful couple, beautiful ring ♥

    Full Name
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had tons of girls when I was young tell me that any man that didn't cough up a big diamond was not worth marrying. Well that helped me narrow down the field just a little bit.

    BETTY
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband was the type to shower me with diamonds and beautiful gifts whenever he was able. But I will tell you this, I would give it all back and more if I could only have him back for even a day. He passed away four years ago this week. My heart is still broken.

    Melody Lanzatella
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ONLY reason that engagement rings are even a tradition is because JEWELERS started it!!! It was a sales ploy!! (that is also the ONLY reason that diamonds are worth ANYTHING!) DONT FALL FOR IT!

    Safy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was purchased from a p**n shop. We got married at the courthouse. And I wouldn't change a thing. There are some people that truly want and crave the "typical" AND THAT IS OKAY. There are some that are pressured into the "typical", and then there are some of us that are just focused on other things. For me, none of the stuff matters... my small wedding in the courthouse was surprisingly touching, intimate and everything I never knew I wanted.

    R.s. Potter
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't stand to wear rings or bracelets (I've lost a lot of watches because I kept taking them off), so I honestly don't know what I'd do if I got married. Get a ring tattooed on my finger, maybe? I certainly wouldn't want my better half to spend a fortune on a piece of jewelry, I'm just too frugal to see the point.

    Merle Stroud
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We didn't have engagement ring we couldn't afford it, we got married with a 45 dollar gold band. We got him a band a few month later, on our 10th university I got a new diamond ring as a surprise. On our 30th he got me a new band of diamonds, on our 35th I got him a ring with a row of diamonds. Our 40th is coming up we've talked about another band with diamonds, but I'm pretty happy with what I have.

    Fernando Jones
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I literally bought mine and my spouse's rings for $30 a piece, and after 3 years, we're good. I had to get a smaller size one, but I've kept the same one in a drawer, and my spouse still wears theirs. Price is a stupid thing to fuss about. It's just a symbol, and my spouse refused for that symbol to be the cost of a car.

    Amoureuse
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They have the thing so many others are missing: love. It's a materialistic world for a lot of people. What good does a shiny massive ring do if you die tomorrow? To love and be loved, that matters even if you die tomorrow.

    Biana Weatherford
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine came from a vintage shop. It was "inexpensive" but the diamond was a pretty good sized carat...not that it mattered. He picked the ring himself and it was SO ME! I couldn't wait to get that on my finger. I thought I treated it casually because it wasn't 6 months worth of income, or whatever. But when I left it behind in a motel...I freaked! We had to drive back about 5 hours. That's priceless.

    Rebekah
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are stupid, and stuff like that... this woman has incredible eyes!!! And I'd love a ring hand-pounded out from a quarter.

    Jessica MüRi
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bought the engagement rings for my husband and me. They were like 50 Euros, together. We are married for almost 10 years now and I couldn't be happier. I don't want my husband to spend his money on me. I want him to spend his time with me and to be by my side, when I need him. Who cares about expensive things more than about love?

    Shana
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll never understand the need to get +5k rings (or 10k dress and such) anyway. I mean, to each their own ofcourse but I rather put that money towards a house or something you really need/can actually use.

    Broken Bay
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's amazing how the jewelry industry managed to convince so many people that expensive jewelry is necessary in order to marry someone.

    Tessa Gray
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    4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are giving me so much hope for me and my boyfriend right now (We met online) He's really sweet and perfect for me. I don't really care about anything material, as long as I have him (:

    Eric Maybel
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    4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any woman who doesn't think she won the lottery by just gaining my acceptance is not for me anyway.

    Frozengeckolover
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Y'all are going to think I'm weird, but my husband didn't buy me the ring I wear. When we decided to get married, he said he would save up and let me pick out whatever ring I wanted. I told him if I was going to pick it out, I already had a ring my grandmother gave me that looked like a wedding diamond (It was. She bought it at a p**n shop years before). No need to buy another one if I already had one. I teased and said he could get me an engagement ring from a gumball machine. He did. I still have it too.

    Felicity Daimler
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe if these two fatties would stop stuffing their faces, they'd save enough by buying a normal amount of food instead of enough food for an entire town every day and have the money to buy a decent ring. Just a thought.

    Ann Abdelzaher
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My initial engagement ring was a $30 silver and cz ring, 8 months later he upgraded to a 10kt gold $238 diamond ring..and re-proposed 10 years later he bought me a "better ring" but I still wear the $238 ring on my pinky.. this year we celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary and 22 years together.

    Barbara Klein
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first husband would say “ Stick with me and you’ll have rocks as big as diamonds !” ....that’s exactly what I got, but that was ok...we had love to share.

    Jeannie Carle
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please remember it wasn't "the store" who said that - it was only a "pathetic" employee. She should have been reported and fired. I LOVE her rings - sooo pretty - and unique. Sure, the expensive diamonds are beautiful - and just maybe one day, a few years down the line, working together - they can have the ones she wanted - but far more importantly - she has the man she wanted, by her side, working with her - not FOR her. He isn't a "sugar daddy" - he's her much-loved husband.

    Monica A. M.
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my now husband and I began discussing marriage, we discussed the fact that due to my occupation, an engagement ring was not something I would be comfortable wearing(frequent hand washing, rips gloves, afraid it would be damaged) and I asked him to not buy one. Since he has a hobby of making knives, I asked him to try his hand at making us matching wedding rings. It would be something nobody else would ever have and would cost him more in time than materials. It's priceless to have something he worked hard on and it's exactly what I wanted(Damascus steel). I've got the very best husband and the matching homemade ring to prove it.

    Leanne Jones
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Entire wedding cost £1000 We just wanted to be married...and the pressure of an over the top wedding was not for us thank you very much. Got married in front of the people who meant the most to us,had pizza and then an absolutely banger of a party on the night and 16 years later people still tell us it was the best wedding they have attended and my niece says that's her wedding "goal" (which I think is a compliment lol)

    Lindy Mac
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have slapped that ring down on the counter so fast and left the store, and gone somewhere else to buy the ring we could afford. That twit is not going to be the one paying the bill... what a classless sales person. And maybe first ask for the manager/owner to tell them how their sales people intimidate ( or try to) the customers. Actually, putting it on BoredPanda reached a lot more people. So long Pandora jewelers!

    WhatEvenIsLife
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding ring is actually three $45 rings stacked on top of each other. They're just plain, simple, slim bands but one is white gold, one is yellow gold, and one is rose gold, and I think they look really pretty stacked together. It's simple, but a little different, a little unique. It suits my personality, and that should be the point of an engagement or wedding ring - not how much it cost.

    Chris Sprucefield
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Diamonds are just overpriced, as they are not rare in any way. There are way more beautiful stones made out of Cubic zirconia (CZ) stones, that are really worth the money you spend on them.

    Nancy Massi
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People can be so utterly cruel. When my husband and I got engaged, he had little money and so did I. All my money was going towards college and I still remember how one female student asked me where my ring was, if I were in fact engaged. I said we have no money; she responded "oh well, you're engaged on a whim and a prayer. I wouldn't marry anyone unless I got a big engagement ring." She was married for five years and divorced. My husband and I are still together, years afterwards. It isn't about the ring, it's about the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

    Elizabeth Butler
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those rings are beautiful and the story is even more so. The price of diamonds has been artificially manipulated by the DeBeers company for decades and they get away with it because they have a virtual monopoly on diamonds (getting that on lab diamonds also, by the way) so they are artificially expensive.

    cybermerlin2000
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went to Pandora to buy my Fiancee a ring and everything looked cheap and tacky and over priced. I went to a local jewellery shop (not a chain outlet) and found the perfect ring. Silver band with 2 small diamonds either side of an amethyst. It cost £250 (Brand New) and when I proposed she said yes (obviously) and it was a perfect fit. The Jewelry shop owner said that if it does not fit then I could bring it back and swap it for the correct size, she even let me borrow the ring guide for the afternoon)! I returned it very quickly and thanked her. My fiancee loves her ring. That was 7 years ago and she does not know that I am writing this but right now she is admiring her ring in the light and smiling. She needs it resized as she has lost a lot of weight but she is very reluctant to take it off as she feels like its betraying my love. The Jewelry shop is still there and the price to reduce it is very cheap.

    Jennifer Erdossy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex insisted on the expensive ring. I wanted an inexpensive colored stone, but it had to be a diamond. He couldn't have his friends thinking he was cheap. I let his values matter more since he was buying it. Someday, I'll find a guy who hears me.

    Linus Magnus
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shallow people everywhere. Materialistic world full of people that doesn't deserve to breathe.

    Trish Christoffersen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The type and cost of a ring shouldn't judge how a couple feels about each other. My ex-husband bought me a very nice ring and I bought him one to match. He cheated on me the first time we were engaged (with his ex-wife) and he cheated on me with her after we were married. I think, sometimes, a less expensive ring shows more love than a flashy one. Good for them - I hope they have a long and loving marriage!

    Janelle Collard
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what true love looks like! Fancy rings do not make a marriage - the people do. Congrats to you both + hope you have many more years together. :)

    Enola Brinkley-Crayton
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We got cheap rings (don't even know where they are) took that money and went island hopping. Our 43-year marriage is not based on "stuff" it is what we do together.

    Liliana P
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with this girl. What matters goes a lot further than how much you spend in the ring. I could not care less about how much it costs. Even though, I would care a lot about who gave it to me.

    Teri Campisi
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never had an engagement ring at all. You can't cook on a diamond!

    Steve Cruz
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This incident confirms the age-old customer service axiom: "A happy customer tells friends and family. An unhappy customer tells EVERYONE!" If money is tight, don't go to Pandora, go to a p**n shop. Best of love to this lovely young couple. (Wouldn't it be cool if ELLEN and Shutterfly heard about this and gifted the couple with money to spend on upgraded rings OR a honeymoon OR paying down some bills?)

    Carmen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish Ariel and her new hubby all the absolute best! They both look so happy and in love!

    Stina Kolling
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "the fit between a man’s overall spending habits and the cost of an engagement ring he offers might give a woman valuable information about his willingness to commit to the relationship and invest in her and her offspring.” You shouldn't marry a man if you don't know about his willingness to commit to you & any children you may have, and if my husband spent thousands of dollars on a wedding ring instead of something practical, I would have thought him an utter fool.

    Kim Lorton
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think her rings are beautiful! There is nothing that says love, like the commitment of being there. I would and have, worn a plain gold band with pride, as I wear my engagement ring. I take pride in the fact, he chose it, and I keep it clean because it means that, he is always loved and I see it anew, each day. I hope your marriage is a long and happy one! We just celebrated 25 years!

    Ishi Ishi
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    Hollie Newton
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    £200 but tbh it could have been £50 the ring is gorgeous and I'm beyond happy

    ChiveChilly
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The rings are so beautiful <3 This is just infuriating. And even if they weren't very pretty, so what?!

    Stille20
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1. The choice of ring is a decision made between the couple, no one else. 2. I always hear these people say they don't want to "make a scene", but really I think we as a culture have lost the ability to have a civil confrontation.

    J Toose
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most couples spend more time and money on their wedding than working on their marriage.

    Riz Leslie
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I couldn’t imagine wearing a big rock. So not my style. Why can’t some people recognize that not all of us like wearing jewelry?

    Amanda Ford
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring was a cheap-o piece of costume jewelry my mom just had laying around. My (now) husband took me to a store to look at rings, but I had once had a ring worth about $100/$150 and LOST it! I refused to own anything like that again! Our wedding bands were $10 each from Walmart and made of plain silver. My husband's broke several years back and we recently replaced it and apparently they've gone up in value quite a bit! Who knew?

    Cindy Snow
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's not ignore the fact that she probably just wanted a big comission.

    makenzie stephenson
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those Rings Are Gorgeous!!!!!!!!! Beautiful, price doesn't matter, ive seen some expensive s**t thats uuuuuglllyyy, the cheaper, more affordable stuff is mire beautiful most of the time anyway

    Freya the Wanderer
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    GOOD FOR HER! P**s on the snobs who think $130 is too little to spend on an engagement ring. That man has chosen very well. Their marriage is likely to be one that goes on long enough to shame the Energizer Bunny. True love does not see dollar signs.

    Just saying
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If only churches would give the option of doing weddings during the regular Sunday service like they do baptisms etc - it would send a real message about it being the marriage, not a costly party, meal, clothes, and jewellery that is the important thing.

    Elliott
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I plan on having gumball rings for if I get engaged or I propose. I'm not a big person with money, I appreciate what I have and I see more love than money.

    Keley Babs
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet that's a baby boomer journalists headline in the making... "How Millenials Are Killing the Diamond Engagement Ring Industry"...

    Keley Babs
    Community Member
    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you found a man that loves you and wants to marry you, you're richer than a lot of us!!!

    Dodger
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is such a wonderful change from the usual "wife facebook shames husband for $130 ring" that you usually see. this is true love.

    Lissa
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The store should give them a FREE UPGRADE for even drawing attention to their PATHETIC Store. And the Salesperson who embarrassed thus man, should Pay for it. Probably just jealous, because she may have an Expensive ring and NO REAL LOVE, like This couple does

    Kimberly Young
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly don't even know what my husband spent on my engagement ring because who the f**k cares? We went out to look at rings together and I made sure not to point out anything too expensive. When he proposed I was so happy I didn't even look at the ring. I just slipped it on quickly so I could hug him. I didn't look until a few minutes later when he asked if I liked it.

    sunnyrei82
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is perfection. Lovely couple. People should keep their noses out of others decisions. If having a nice, fine, expensive diamond ring is what makes you and your loved one happy... cool. If having a simple, inexpensive, sweet one is your taste... cool. If having NONE is your choice... cool too! Love and commitment is what matters, people!

    Bored Moogle
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the exact opposite of those shallow bimbettes who complain that the rings their fiances got them weren't expensive enough.

    Bill
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    High pressure sales tactic. The clerks make a commission. And unfortunately they still made money off the couple.

    Honey
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband did get me a diamond ring but it was more than I was expecting. I am in love with her rings. I'm not saying that I don't adore my rings but I love the man I married. 13 years strong and I would have been happy with a gumball ring or even no ring. I married my best friend. What more can a girl ask for?

    Iris Engler
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love is not expensive gifts; it is not how beauty your partner is or if he/she is pleasant to your family and friends! It is a great feeling two people share for each other. My man gave me a ring after we were together less then two weeks. A simple silver ring but it means more than any diamond to me. Because accepting it was my sign to aprove my will to do all I can to give that relationship a chance to grow and I know he gave me that ring with a honest and pure heart

    KarmaQueen
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you love the ring then that is all that matters. Do not get caught up in that some women want an expensive ring to show them how much their significant other loves them. My wedding ring contains no diamonds and is just a silver band. I love it and it fits me as a person. The ring you got is beautiful and I would proudly wear it and show it off.

    Cassie
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your rings are lovely and your perspective is spot on.

    vp
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was at that moment I knew...my marriage was probably f****d. When my future wife vocally wished the diamond on her engagement ring was bigger. Props to this couple who'll definitely last longer than us.

    Moe Richardson
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After 5 years, my husband 'upgraded'/replaced my cheaper wedding set. It's beautiful, but I have $10 sterling silver rings I care about more.

    Kurtz Frausun
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I proposed to my (now ex-wife) with a plastic ring I scored from a vending machine. I took a knee and said "I'm a poor artist, but I can give you the wealth of my heart's love if you will be mine." It's the intention. Not the value of the ring.

    2-10-11
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a diamond engagement ring, a cheap one, even though it was low profile, it still got in the way when i was playing with and caring for my little 'uns, finally took it off and stuck it in a drawer, now wear different bands, depending on my mood. And sometimes costume jewelry, l like being able to change things up, always a ring on the finger, just not always the same one. I love the rings they chose, very vintage look. I hope the story is true and not a clever ploy to crowd fund the wedding through sympathy. Internet making me bitter and disillusioned. Happy almost spring (or fall, hi southern hemisphere!) anonymous internet.

    Notsoswift
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pandora should step up here and not leave a negative impression about their employees linger

    Sleepy Panda
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got a pretty CZ ring for my engagement, for our ten year anniversary my husband wanted to get us real diamond but after learning about the industry scams we decided to go with lab created diamonds instead.

    Vicky Zar
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Woman like this pandora type are giving every other woman a bad name. I was more furiose with my husband because he bought a too expensive engagement ring! I thought it a waste of money. Still do.

    Nomadus Aureus
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly... I just don't understand this whole ring thing. When someone says that they want a ring that costs thousands because they're worth it. All I'm hearing is that they value themselves to be worth only the cost of a ring. I do admit, I'd be very disappointed with a ring from Poundland (Dollar Store for you guys in the US), because I just don't like the vibe. But despite having my heart set on the same ring since middleschool, I'd love to get a gum machine one. It's funny. It's cute. And it suits my playful nature. I'd love it with all my heart. (The ring I'm in love with costs £85.00. Don't even know if that's a lot or not for an engagement ring. Tbh, it's probably a lot. It's not like I could just buy it for myself right now.)

    Kjorn
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    5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's funny because my wife and i was almost the same thing. we met only in 1999 and just hanging out for few Week before going out. i propose to her few years later and now 20 years later still together with 3 kids. Our wedding ring cost 100$ both i think. Marriage, wedding ring it's a symbol for so many woman. Why focus on the symbol and not the act? if you think a 5000$ ring is more important than the love of your life you're not worthy of him and seriously need to think about your life

    Lola
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What some idiot at Pandora said is completely irrelevant. What bothers me about this story is the fact that she mentions how she had pear shaped diamond rings on the Pinterest page that he obviously has seen. That right there to me is wrong. If you didn’t care about the diamond, then you wouldn’t be hinting by pinning those rings. A lot of men feel pressured by the rings because of society. A women who truly just loves him and couldn’t care less about a diamond ring won’t even bother looking one up, never mind posting about it so the bf can see.

    Rose mary
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't a person just like jewellery? Wedding jewellery is not the only jewellery a woman buys or wears(usually). Sometimes people like me just love seeing them- designs, colours, that aura, etc but don't want to own or even wear any of the stuff which I love to admire.

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    Sasy
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is horrible and I hope Pandora have reached out to apologise for this. Not only was she so out of line, but she actually called the products that she sells pathetic, no matter what price point any item in the store is that you work for, none of it is pathetic and if you truly think it is, do yourself and your Bosses a favor and leave. I think both rings are Beautiful and when it is love, it could be a cheezels ring for all it matters. Jewellery store people may have a slanted view of reality, I once asked to look at a bracelet, I was asked if it was for me or a gift, I said a gift...the salesperson stopped opening the drawer and said there were cheaper ones in the other case, I stared daggers at this person and told her that there is no budget when it comes to my Mum. I felt like I had been Pretty Woman'd.

    Catherine Waite
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have complained at least sent an email to the company's headquarters. That not ok. But I'm glad that you could find a set you liked that is not ridiculously over price. I just wish my partner could understand that. He keeps saying he does not have the money to get me a ring and I'm over here yelling dude by me a gummy ring, and I will preserve it in resin and love it. But he can't see it. either that or he is using it as a ploy to delay. hmm. Either or he is my best friend and a numpty but my numpty. Just wish he could see I don't care about the money. I hope the two of you lost of continued love and happiness. And you keep rocking your rings with pride.

    dan pres
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My brother spent $1.50 for his... It took 6 tries at a gumball machine to get a ring. 20 years later, and she still wears it on their anniversary. I bought my wife the ring she designed. I spent $1,500. It's been lost, and so was our love. Divorced 4 years ago. You get what you pay for... right.

    Amber Zenteno
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband worked hard for 3 months at his construction job to buy me a $3,500 ring. It was a testament of how hard he is willing to work for us. I stare at it everyday and am reminded that he would do anything for me. He wanted me to have a beautiful ring my whole life. I would have been happy with any ring but he wanted the best. There is nothing wrong with having a nice ring!

    Lissa
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the Store Thought the ring was Pathe5WHY was it in there to begin with?? THAT'S Pathetic, I guess it's so, when you purchase it, they can shame you into buying a more expensive ring that you can't AFFORD.

    Catherine KY Lim
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A tiny blue stone ring that cost less then $200... from my then boyfriend , who is 9years my junior. Ppl said i was a cradle snatcher and all the hurting things. 23yreas now... his wife... wearing 1carat diamond on my finger.... ;)

    Carl Mape
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    5 years ago

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    Not buying this story. Pandora is a moderate to cheap jewlery store. It is NOT Tiffanys. The employees do NOT care there what anyone buys. This is just a fake story with probably a bogus GOFUNDME attached to it.

    Carl Mape
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    5 years ago

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    Fake story. Pandora is not high end like Tiffanys! It's a moderate to CHEAP store. The Employees don't work on a commission and don't care what you buy. No way did the sales lady say this. Fat slobs!!!!

    Sill Marien
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    5 years ago

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    the only thing that is somewhat shameful is the size- it's obviously too small

    Gigglemage
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    5 years ago

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    It's not like I don't get it. Engagement rings are considered a status symbol like a car or fancy house. They show others that your husband can provide for you... and it's that kind of old fashioned thinking that still causes many issues (usually entitlement ones) in society today. You often see ring shaming going on now days where people like the lady selling the ring join up in groups and complain about the rings they received from their "loved ones" not being good enough. My husband gave me a beautiful ring, but I would have been just as happy with the plainest cheapest thing in the world... because it came from him.

    Eddie Diaz
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    5 years ago

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    Nah this is not ok imo. The price is irrelevant however the commitment is the key. 2-3 months salary is the norm for a reason. It shows how committed you are to the other person. For some, that may only be $2-3k others it can be $20-30k but $130 ring? C'mon now that's barely enough for a nice dinner and a movie. Ladies, if a guy can't commit to at least 1 month's salary for the ring that you will wear for the rest of your life.....RUN!

    diane a
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    5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who says 2/3 months salary is the norm??? - you are making it up. Having money to burn does not equate to love and comitment - what planet are you on?

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    Wil Vanderheijden
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    Why is it always a woman that's overly concerned with the value of jewelry? I never read one time where a guy was mocking someone else for not having expensive jewelry.

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