Don't see where she said that it was the only important thing in her life. It is something that she will be wearing on her finger for the rest of her life so lord forbid she be a little upset that she was pushed into a ring she didn't like. I would rather not have a ring than wear the one in the picture. I went 4 years without a wedding ring because we couldn't afford one and it wasn't important to me, but when I did get a ring, I picked it out and honestly the reason why it now means so much to me is because my husband and I both loved it and we got it unexpectedly on a weekend trip together and it reminds me of our time there. All this ring is going to remind her of is how her in-laws stuck their noses where they don't belong.

He should run fast and far

Hear, hear!!

If he proposes and she says yes clearly they want to marry and my experience is that in most of the relationships where it takes so long to propose it is because someone has misgivings or commitment issues. I didn't say all, but I feel its often a sign of underlying issues, which its clear in this case exist ( communication is bad MIL a bit too involved) and she specifically says she has been waiting a long time for the proposal, which makes me think she at least has wanted to be married for years and he has not, which again not addressing partner expectations is an issue

She wanted a yellow diamond with yellow gold settings. What she got wasn't even close and she acquiesced after he and his mother badgered her. I see no reason to be grateful for being badgered into something you don't want after being asked what you do want and having your wishes ignored. And it doesn't matter how much the thing you didn't want cost, the partner still explicitly ignored her wishes after asking what she wanted.

Sister has been with her boyfriend for 16 years. There is not a single person in this world who mean more to her and who has supported her more. I don't see the need to get married. I only did because I was 21 and needed financial aid when my parents didn't do their taxes. Had our 10 year anniversary so it worked out but when we first started dating, we had both agreed that we never wanted to get married. Him marry me to help me with school meant the world to me because marriage went against both of our strong beliefs.

It is an issue if one partner feels like they have been waiting a long time for a proposal ( as specifically mentioned above). Its clear these two don't communicate and are often not on the same page. If they both agreed not to get married that would be fine, but that's not what is stated

And she would be better off. Who needs a partner who completely ignores your wishes and instead does what mommy wants?

It has nothing to do with the ring and all about being asked to make a choice and then have your partner blatantly ignore you. Which bodes terribly for marriage

Yeah and no. He asked her what she wanted. He got her what she didn't want bc he didn't want to spend any money. He should've told her he wasn't listening to her and doing whatever his mom said instead.

If he didn't have money he should have been clear about the budget before telling her to pick what she wants. Instead, he asked her what she likes, then completely ignores what she says because his mom wanted her to have grandma's diamond. It has nothing to do with the money or really even the ring but about not being heard and not having one's choices respected. And "your true love" would be happy with a candy ring if you asked and she said the ring wasn't important. If you say "here honey pick a style" and then get her a candy ring not so much. Not sure why this is hard to understand.

your argument is so stupid. first off, she did ask for something fancy, and he could’ve outright told her he couldn’t afford it, if that was the problem. secondly, feminism has nothing to do with this, you moron. it’s as if you were comparing fish and bulldozers. third, as a woman (and i’m sure i can get more to disagree too) i disagree with the fact that the price of the ring is worth “my price.” just because my fiancee buys me a $1000 or $35000 ring, it doesn’t determine how i think of myself, my self-worth if you will. i agree that, if you really love someone, any ring is acceptable, but *i* would still love a pricy ring, since it shows my fiancée but dedication into the relationship, instead of going to a candy shop and grabbing the first candy jewelry he saw. good day.

I agree. My husband proposed without a ring. He knows nothing about jewelry and knew nothing about diamonds. So I researched and we picked my ring out together. It was affordable and beautiful. If I gotta wear and look at it "Till death do us part" I want to be happy with it.

Samantha - well put. I agree.

If somebody just got engaged and the ring us her priority, not her partner it says a lot about how shallow that person is. Does she even care for him? Or is she marrying just because she wants the party and ring?

Yes, she is spoiled and ungrateful. She’s upset she didn’t get a 2ct. diamond. TWO CARATS! Most women are lucky if they get 1/4 carat diamond anything in their lifetime. You’re quick to assume the fiancé didn’t listen to her. Maybe she didn’t get her dream ring because he couldn’t afford? A 2 ct. canary diamond is expensive af. It could also be the reason he chose to use his grandmother’s diamond instead of buying a canary. Regardless, she wasn’t listening to him or her MIL either. It seems like it might have been a big deal to MIL to pass grandma’s diamond on to her and she didn’t care. She ignored MIL feelings. He didn’t have to propose to her. He didn’t have to buy a ring. Whether it’s the ring she wanted or not, it’s ungrateful to complain. Honestly, I’ve been engaged twice and the design of either ring didn’t really matter. I was just happy someone wanted to spend the rest of their life with me.