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Have you ever been extremely passionate about a topic just to years later look back and be embarrassed that you ever felt that way? Maybe it was supporting a certain politician or animal rights group in college, but since then you’ve realized they don’t represent your beliefs as much as you once thought. The beauty of being human is that we can form opinions on anything, and those opinions aren’t static.

Last week, Reddit user Pineapple_WarpDrive reached out to fellow members of the Ask Reddit community to pose the question, “What is something you changed your stance on after learning more about it?” And a very interesting conversation was sparked. We’ve gathered some of the most eye-opening responses for you to read right here, and as you make your way through the list, we implore you to keep an open mind. Perhaps your opinions will be changed too!

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#1

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Understanding why people shake their baby.

Of course it is absolutely horrible and it seems like it should make sense that nobody should even think about doing it but I have an understanding of how it can happen now.

I had my own daughter 4 years ago and swore up and down that nobody but a monster would shake their child but let me tell you that sleep deprivation is hell and it is terrifying.

When my daughter was a newborn, she was crying very hard one particular night and nothing we did seemed to soothe her crying. My insanely sleep deprived brain started trying to take over and I could feel the urge to shake her.

Luckily, I had just enough cognitive function to recognize that I was in a very vulnerable and bad situation. I set my daughter back down in her crib and walked away for a little while so as to wake myself up some more.

That is the most scared I've ever been of what the human brain is capable of.

sk8t-4-life22 , Jill Sauve Report

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I’m sure you’ve heard someone say before that “people can’t change”. While this may have been uttered by a bitter, pessimistic individual, it’s actually a pretty common belief to hold. Whether it’s in reference to someone who cheated on their partner, someone struggling with addiction or a student who just won’t do their homework, feeling this way about another person isn’t likely to encourage them to change their habits. 

But this list is a prime example that people can change. I think the issue is less about whether or not people can and more about whether or not they want to. People can certainly enact change within themselves, but we aren’t often successful in trying to alter anyone else. Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, addresses this in a piece on his website saying, “For a person to truly change, they must feel that the change is theirs, that they chose it, they control it. Otherwise, it loses all its effect.”  

#2

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Assisted Suicide. I was against it, but after seeing my uncle suffer with extreme Rheumatoid Arthritis for a few years before eventually dying from it, I’m all for it now. If we put down our pets when they’re suffering, why can’t we do the same to our humans with their written consent?

mcflurvin , Marcelo Leal Report

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Inga Paškevičiūtė
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A human life riddled with pain and agony is not a life anymore. Some people get so in their own feelings that they forget their loved ones are essentially suffering. "How can I play God and decide who gets to live and who gets to die?" What about basic compassion? Assisted suicide is cherishing human life, it's giving the opportunity to the suffering people to die with dignity.

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In the case of wanting someone else in our lives to change, we often have to sit back and fight the impulse to impose our own opinions. It can be painful, but as Mark notes, “The best attempts at helping someone often backfire. You can’t make someone be confident or respect themselves or take responsibility—because the means you use to do this destroys confidence, respect, and responsibility.” 

So what does he recommend to gently guide loved ones towards better choices while maintaining our relationships? First, he notes that leading by example can be an effective tactic. If you think your partner is drinking too much and it’s beginning to negatively impact their life or health, you can set an example by inviting them to stay in with you more often or opting for nonalcoholic drinks in their company. It might not cause them to reconsider their own choices, but it does present them with an option they might have previously not even considered. 

#3

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Universal healthcare. When I actually learned more about healthcare systems in other countries and then compared it to my own (I live in America) it really showed me just how far behind we are. For years I staunchly thought it was a horrible idea, but now I’m pissed everyday cause the US doesn’t have it.

Irrilogical , ational Cancer Institute Report

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Ian Reynolds
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really don't understand how people think universal healthcare is a bad idea, it exists in all EU countries plus the UK, and people aren't weighed down with medical debt.

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#4

Abortion. Grew up Christian (not anymore). I started shifting more left but didn’t know if I could call myself pro-choice. So I researched it. 70%+ of abortions are done by women who live below the poverty line. 60% of those (45% of all) are done by women who also already have a child.

So its a mother who already struggles to feed her child making an impossible choice. Maybe instead of telling her what to do, we can figure out how to provide her basic needs and healthcare and educate her so she can get out of poverty.

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Kanuli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if you eliminate the poverty no one should be allowed to force you to keep a lump of developing cells in your body. One which will change your body and life forever, and you might potentially not even survive it. Especially if it was conceived after rape, or if it generates a risk to the person carrying it.

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Next, Mark recommends providing them with better questions, rather than answers. Avoid explicitly sharing your own opinions, and ask the other person questions that allow them to reflect on their actions. Mark provides the example of rather than telling someone they need to request a raise, you could ask them, “Do you believe you’re fairly paid?” They won’t feel judged, and it’s empowering for them to come to their own conclusions. Whether they agree with you or not, they’re at least considering the topic you raised.

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Lastly, Mark notes how important it is to provide help unconditionally. Whether you think you know what’s best for them or not, resist the urge to tell them exactly what to do. Make yourself available, so they can take you up on the offer if they want to. Lots of people don’t want to hear advice, but they may relate to a personal story you share of a similar situation. And you’re not forcing them to do anything, especially change; you’re just opening up their mind.  

#5

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Homosexuality. I “knew” that the Bible said it was wrong (fewer times than it said divorce was wrong). In college I actually met a lesbian for the first time. I had known them for months before I found it out though, so my brain was confused.

“But they’re normal! But they’re gay! So does that change anything? How does that affect me? Wait . . . That doesn’t affect me? So then what is the issue?”

I’ve never gone back to that stance.

Jabber-Wookie , Jack Lucas Smith Report

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Kanuli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I even heard the context on which they claim it’s wrong was actually saying “man shouldn’t lay with a boy”, so against pedophiles not gays.

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#6

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Vaccines. My mom has always been an anti vaxxer, so I grew up with all the propaganda. Once i moved out and had to get all my vaccines for my job, I *did my own research* and learned the truth.

TheWeathermann17 , Mufid Majnun Report

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Paul Neff
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are scary levels of bad information against vaccines. It's almost like some people are mad AT science itself...

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When it comes to what we change our minds on, it can be anything and everything. Maybe when you were growing up you hated brussels sprouts because of the way your parents prepared them, but after trying them roasted in the oven and drizzled with a bit of balsamic glaze, they became one of your favorite vegetables. Politics are certainly a common topic that people’s opinions ebb and flow on. Perhaps as a teenager you felt one way because that’s what your parents told you was right. Then when you went to college you joined some activist groups, and your political ideology did a 180. According to the Pew Research Center, even social media can play a role in affecting our political beliefs. In 2018, 14% of Americans say something they saw on social media caused them to alter their opinion on a political or social issue.

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#7

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Jehovahs witnesses. I grew up as one and when I finally started doing research outside of their publications I couldn’t believe what I saw, and I left.

EDIT: I was disfellowshipped because I didn’t have the balls to disassociate myself. There were a lot of horrible things that happened to me in the religion in 2017-2019, so I felt my only way out was suicide. I failed my attempt in January of 2020, and was disfellowshipped in August of 2020, about four months after I got out of rehab. I lost my home, my job, my family, and my friends. Pretty much my entire life foundation. But I’ve built a support system from scratch and now I have friends who love me for me, and not just based on religion.
It’s sad but not many people get to start a brand new life in their 20’s so I’m grateful in many ways as well as grieving those I lost.

ANOTHER EDIT: Thank you for all of the love and the awards! It’s so heart warming to see so many people going through the same experiences. We are never alone and I’m sorry so many of you have been effected by this too.

FINAL EDIT: If you are a Jehovah’s Witness, I really don’t need you commenting on this to tell me I’m wrong and you’re not in a cult. What I’ve been through speaks for itself. So please let me be.

ILUVFLIPFLAPS , Stuart Grout Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be dead if I was a Jehovah witness coz I needed a blood transfusion. How anyone could choose a deity that we don't know actually exists, over saving the life of your own child/partner etc. F**k that s**t.

RedCorvette
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom was one and when she was dying two elders ‘visited’ her in the hospital just to make sure she didn’t get blood transfusion. I threw them out and forbid them to visit her.

Stephanie A Mutti
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me get this straight,,, you suffer, you attempt suicide. The church kicks you out because it's some sort of sin. That's a great god you got there JWs... probably ok with stoning daughters who shame the parent too.

Prune Tracy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad ran away from home at 16 because my grandparents became JWs. We're still considered the "black sheep" of that side of the family to this day. The way they force you to ostracize anyone who doesn't agree with you (including, and ESPECIALLY family) pretty much encapsulates the problems we have in the US right now. Just another cult by a different name.

Terd Fergison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The JWs are one of the most evil organizations that I have ever seen. My Aunt worked for social services for the city of San Francisco, and she told me that in San Francisco the JWs have more child rape and coverups than even the Catholic Church. They don’t believe in blood transfusions. They are a death cult that believes that the end of the world is coming any day now, but they have been making failed end times prophecies since 1878. They often times won’t let their children go to college because they stupidly believe the end is coming. They lie about science and they quote mine and spin scientific facts.

Abc1234
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True, they have this judge system within so when you get hit by your husband you can’t even go to the police

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MimSorensson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But so, so much bad. Bad? I’m sorry - meant horrific beyond all comprehension.

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Rinet Toering
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was growing up and was in school we had a boy in our class who was a Jehovah's Witness. I remember one time when there was a child who treated the class to candy because it was his/her birthday. But that boy couldn't take anything because his religion said no...I still remember how aweful I felt that was...😔

Abc1234
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Syeah, imagine that on top of that your also not allowed to talk to anyone outside the religion because you might get ‘tainted’ with their ‘evil worldly ways’

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LynzCatastrophe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband was raised as one. But the man has always been incredibly smart and started doubting things from a very early age. His father however, I'm pretty sure he hates me. Makes a lot of underhanded comments towards me, apparently I'm the demon who lead his son astray. I purposefully have a dedicated shelf on my bookcase for Pagan books just because it makes him nervous to be in my house.

Jods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re certainly stronger than any JW. And brave. And enjoy all that life has to give without the restrictions of religion.

Angela Philp
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up a Jehovahs witness too and it's astonishing how little they will help members of their own community that are suffering with depression or other mental illnesses

Kate Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My entire family were JWs. My parents were disfellowshipped years ago. My grandmother is still in it and is almost 100, so my parents live with her to help her. They aren't supposed to 'break bread' together (but they do so that rule is overlooked). The brothers and sisters come to the house to talk to her since she can't get to the kingdom hall. but my parents can't be there when they come. Its so ridiculous. they care, feed and help her in every way imaginable, including in the bathroom and with doctors, but they aren't worthy of being in the room. They also constantly try to get her to change her will to give her money to the kingdom hall. They've tried 3 times and my gramma, as much as she truly believes, will not do that. But she's not completely 'all there' and we worry they will get her to sign something when my parents aren't in the room. So now, I go while they've there because I'm allowed. 3 freaking hours of my life I won't get back every week. I hate organized religion.

Abc1234
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your not ‘baptized’ yet right? Myeah my dad tried to lure me in for years, only reason he ever talked to me, insane what that cult does to people

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Abc1234
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I fully support you, I went through the same plus their own ‘judge system’ after several sexual assaults, that cult can burn to the ground and get buried next to their illuminatie pyramid looking Grave founder for all I care

Lisa Valen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What other "religion" goes door-to-door proselitizing their beliefs? How can I not seek medical treatment when a member of my family is ill? What if my child wishes to "fight for their country?"

Abc1234
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Joining the army isn’t allowed so that child will have to get ‘shunned’, voting isn’t allowed either

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AliJanx
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my husband died, I got a recruitment letter from JH offering a place for love and support. Same with father-in-law, when he died. Then with MIL. Then, father's and now mother's passing. A place that preys on people when they are most vulnerable. Yeah, that's where I want to go worship...

ethan kraner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

jehovahs witnesses are idiots, they based their entire religion off of a mistranslation of god's name, done by an idiot roman.

iseefractals
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

JFC...you read something like that and are still confronted with the knowledge that countless people will still be drawn into that BS. "God loves us all.....but if YOU cross us, we'll destroy your f*cking life!" Congrats on escaping that hellscape, and to any and all current cult members out there, either drink the kool aide yourself, or stop trying to force it on others.

Anne Mitchell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was very tolerant of JW's until I discovered their "rules" . They claim to preach the word of Jehovah, but they only pick out the bits of the bible that suit.

Peter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife's best friend when she was at school died unnecessarily because her JW parents refused a blood transfusion. Let's just say we don't welcome them warmly when they come knocking

Lady Lava
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father told me he once let Jehovah's Witnesses in out of curiosity. He was a great debater and had knowledge of the bible. But it turned out those people weren't interested in any kind of discussion, they just want to force their beliefs on others. It was very hard to get rid of them after this. Because they once got in, they kept trying again.

Justacrow
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad you are in a better place with a support group around you.

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Anne Mitchell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was "all understanding" and tolerant until I learnt about their actual beliefs, their dissociation from family and their refusal to help charities.

GPZ
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always found it ironic that, when a young person (or anyone for that matter) chooses a different path that they are completely cut off from the organisation (be it a religion or otherwise). People will want to learn and experience different things but isn't it better to provide a supportive network for them irrespective of their actions. This is literally the lesson of the prodigal son. Similarly I've also never understood the rejecting of medical science on religious grounds- surely knowledge gained through study (isn't that what science is at it's core?) does not go against the teaching of any given deity

Flabuless-Jaye
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. The disciplinaries always seem to victim blame rather than deal with the real problem. I was lucky and walked away when I was 16. About 25 years ago there was an incident when my younger brother was suspected to have leukemia and needed a blood transfusion. My dad refused. The hospital said that the transfusion would happen whether he agreed or not. He did much soul searching and realised he couldn't live with himself if he continued to refuse. Whilst all this wrangling was happening, they realised he didn't have leukemia after all but a rare blood disorder. Had he had the transfusion, he would have died. My brother is in his 30s now and loving life. This was the beginning of the end when it came to my parents and JWs. My dad never wanted to be in a situation where the JW code meant he could lose a child. Once they left, they got divorced and have both re-married. In for a penny, in for a pound!

Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex's family (except he & his Dad) were JW. His sister was f*cking RABID. She was talking talking sh*t about the fact that I and my kids celebrate holidays and birthdays. I mean seriously in my face about it, which almost got her *ss kicked. I respect your right to the religion of your choice and I expect you to respect mine. Absolute B*tch. His Mom was really cool, though.

Mark Kelly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the blood one. I mean people have sexy and aren't humans all gods children, like we are as one?

samuelle wynona
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow... I'm a JW but I never knew that this was not allowed... My mom's family is JW and is very religious but they were never forbidden from blood transfusions.

Abc1234
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s a thing, they even have a card to go in your wallet, at least when I was growing up in it, my dad was an elder

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#8

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Climate Change. Looking at the evidence it's clearly a hoax.

Just kidding, I was a firm denier until I had to do an assignment proving or disproving it in highschool. Realised I couldn't find any decent source to back up my claim. Basically changed my mind on the spot

chuckychuck98 , Melissa Bradley Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's good science. Question everything and believe the evidence

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Helium balloons; helium is a finite resource of immense scientific value and we use it for party decorations

thenewwayfarer , Danilo Batista Report

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Saint Thomas
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, today I learned something ! I thought it was produced chemically, or by some sort of extraction process from other stuff. Turns out it's a natural gaz, and yes, we're slowly depleting the world reserves.

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Certain groups were more impressionable, however. Men between the ages of 18-29, for example, were the most likely to be affected by what they read online, with 29% of them reporting that a social media post changed their views on an issue. The people who note that social media affects their beliefs also credit those sites for inspiring them to become more socially active. 67% of them said that social media is important to them for “finding others who share views about important topics” and 63% of them say social media is important for “getting involved with political or social issues”. 56% of them also noted that social media is important to them personally for “giving them a venue to express their political opinions”.

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#10

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Horse racing. I come from an area that takes great pride in it. I've recently learned more about it and feel that it is animal abuse. They are shot up with steroids and other drugs and die more often than you would even think.

GarciaNovela , Jeff Griffith Report

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Working Hard.

More specifically, working hard in a corporate environment. I like to work hard for things that I own and maintain, my home, my family, my body, my hobbies. But I've worked for almost 20 years for big tech companies. I've started at entry level jobs and worked up to middle management. Support jobs. Sales jobs. I've made 6 figures.

What I've noticed is that they want to pay you less and keep training and experience as a reward. That is to say, you are not working for a paycheck. You are working towards the next thing. But they convince everyone to work hard in an entry level position, working unpaid overtime and you might be rewarded with a higher job. Statistically, you will not be promoted. There are 30 people on your team who all have that same goal and you can't all be supervisor or manager.

Now, I just work for my paycheck. If you would like me to work harder, you can pay me more. I'm not going to go above and beyond for 2 years just to get passed over again.

KevinAnniPadda , KAL VISUALS Report

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Paul Neff
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Competition, in many if not most cases, is utterly pointless. Merit alone rarely accounts for who gets a promotion, rather who got the boss to like them for other reasons. I have seen too many WTF promotions to believe in that system.

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#12

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers I didn't think orthopedic shoes were for me, but I stand corrected.

trace-evidence , ray3578 Report

By 2020, 23% of Americans on social media said that “they have changed their views about a political or social issue because of something they saw on social media in the past year”. That alone (the jump from 14% to 23% over the course of 2 years) is a perfect indication of how people’s opinions change over time. People between the ages of 18-29 were still the most impressionable in 2020, with 34% of them reporting that their views had shifted from social media. The topics that people were most likely to change their minds about were the Black Lives Matter Movement, police brutality/need for police reform, political parties/ideologies/politicians, and race relations in general. One 64 year old woman stated, “Reading articles on the BLM movement has opened my eyes to the degree of systemic racism in this country and the world.” While another respondent, a 50 year old man said, “I used to support BLM, but now I see them as violent domestic terrorists not interested in addressing the real problems within the Black community. BLM is about a communist revolution not about helping the Black community…”

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#13

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Mormons.
My ex-wife’s sister married one.
Before they met, my opinion of Mormons was “oh they’re basically just Christian’s with a couple wacky beliefs. They have multiple wives! How kooky yet ultimately harmless.”

The more of his family & community I met and interacted with, the more clear it became that Mormonism is a cult that preys on weak people like my ex-SIL. She converted within three months. His temple wouldn’t allow her own mother or father inside during the wedding. They had to sit outside in the sun, alone, then pay for a separate “ring ceremony” they were allowed to attend.

Learning more about a different culture or religion usually makes me more accepting, but maaaan f**k Mormons.

wbotis , versageek Report

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Al Christensen
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raised a Mormon. The oppressiveness is very subtle and creates sort of a Stockholm Syndrome among true believers. One of my biggest objections with them is their one-size-fits-all view of life that they claim is God's Plan. Conform conform conform...

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Feminism. I thought it excluded the inequalities men face. I learned that if the problem women face is fixed it takes care of the ones men do as a bonus.

ThomasLipnip , Miguel Bruna Report

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#15

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Homelessness. I used to have no patience or or empathy thinking that if they really wanted to change their circumstances they could find the resources. My mind changed when I began working with special education children and realized most of these people probably have specific learning disabilities that our school system/their families failed to identify or help them with. I also realize how privileged I grew up (my dad was a store manager and my mom a teacher so nothing too special but still we had everything we needed and good relationships with each other) and how much worse some people grew up with and how easily people can get trapped in bad circumstances.

mooch1118 , Clay LeConey Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to think most homeless people were criminals, druggies or alcoholics but after watching quite a few docos and lots of research I discovered that most homelessness is caused by unfortunate circumstances. Things like mental illness (main cause), disability, aged out of the foster system, family abuse, job loss which cause housing loss, medical debt (US) and much more. A lot of homeless turn to drugs and alcohol once they are on the street. It's a way tonumb their reality, as well as pass the time. There is not enough support for homeless people and what services there are, there scattered all over the place or just not enough to go around. Homelessness is FAR more complicated than you actually think.

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While we’re certainly all capable of changing our minds, it can be challenging to get there. We tend to be stubborn, so Dr. Maria Cohut of Medical News Today took a look at why exactly that is. She references a study that investigated “what, exactly, happens in the brain that makes people so unlikely to change their minds”, and notes that facts are often not enough to alter people’s opinions. “For instance,” the researchers of the study wrote, “over the last decade climate scientists have expressed greater confidence that climate change is man-made. Yet, the percentage of the population that believes this notion to be true has dropped over the same period of time.”  

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers All lives matter VS Black Lives Matter. I’m not racist, and I thought saying that “all lives matter” was better than BLM because it included everyone, meaning that everyone is important. Thankful I have a wife who is smarter than me and helped me to realized that BLM is important because of the attention that it shows/brings to the group of people who are being treated unfairly. That’s the nice thing about being open minded is you can change and not feel bad about it.

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El Dee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am still shocked that people didn't understand the message of BLM (the slogan) it that Black Lives Matter TOO. Not sure if it's stupidity or racism that makes people think otherwise..

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Cats! I never grew up around cats, thought they were mean. Now I date a girl who has a cat and I have a cat of my own. I love them so much.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hated cats for years, didn't help that my dad was anti cats, I am allergic to cats and the first time I pet a cat the bugger scratched me. Anyway over the years my mind has changed, I don't hate cats anymore (I hate a lot of cat owners instead lol) If I wasn't allergic I would even consider having one as a pet.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers That case where McDonald's had to pay a bunch of money to a woman who spilled hot coffee on herself.

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Ripley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

McDonald's didn't pay her a bunch of money. All she wanted was her medical costs covered and they wouldn't even do that. And then the badmouthed her to the world to make her the villain. Arseholes. But yeah, I believed this story for years . . .

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According to the researchers, confirmation bias is a strong force. This was tested through an experiment where participants were randomly paired off with partners and shown images of real estate listings. The participants were then asked to evaluate what they would expect the asking price of each property to be, either more or less than an amount set by investors. Each participant then decided how much they would be willing to invest. Next they were asked to take functional MRI scans facing their partners, with a glass screen dividing them. Each participant could see on the glass screen images of the properties, the asking price estimates and how much they said they would  be willing to invest. Then, the participants were shown their partners’ responses. 

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Turns out girls don't have cooties. It's actually pretty great to spend time with one. You don't even have to pick on them to get their attention... Who knew!

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Being sober, took a eightish year landslide to one of the darkest places I've been in my life and not once in those eight years you could of talked me into putting down the bottle of whiskey that was glued to my hand. Been sober coming up on five years now and I couldn't think of being anything other than sober. I won't sit here and say it's not easy, it is honestly one of the hardest things I have to deal with on a consistent basis. But the rewards are priceless.

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Stardust
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congratulations 🥳. It was probably a very tough journey since being addicted to something makes your brain not want to stop it. Congrats again

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Getting therapy. My upbringing is within an asian household so when it comes to dealing with emotions, we tend to shove that into jar and move on.

I used to think that receiving therapy is for the mentally ill, weak etc. I don't have "problems" therefore I don't need therapy. But after recent events in 2021 with certain people I tried therapy and after a few sessions it just revealed some baggage I wasn't even aware of.

Honestly I wish I started earlier when I was in my 20s. I would be more emotionally prepared, and would probably have had healthier relationships with women if I had dealt with the trauma growing up and from my first relationship that devastated me.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have a friend from Shanghai and felt the same about therapy as that's how he was brought up. That was until he ended up in a mental health facility. Now he is much more understanding when it comes to mental health and the necessary support.

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The researchers found that, when their partners agreed with their evaluation of the property value, participants would be more willing to invest more into those houses, especially if their partners had said they would invest larger amounts. Yet when the partnered participants disagreed about the property value, their opinions would fail to influence each other’s final decision as to how much they would be willing to invest in that house. The conclusion researchers came to, after studying the brain activity revealed by the MRI scans, is that our “brains fail to encode opposing views”. We ignore beliefs that contradict our own and cling to ideas that strengthen ours.  

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#22

Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Pineapple on pizza is absolutely delicious as f**k. and the only reason I ever thought it was bad was beause I was bandwagonning on the hate just like everyone else is. It's hard to appreciate a piece of food if you literally go into it with the intent of hating it.

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Zedrapazia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, it was exactly the opposite. I thought it'd be okay until I tried and immediately hated it. However, I don't hate on others what they eat, it's just my personal decision.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Legalization of marijuana. Used to be incredibly anti drug and pro keeping it illegal. Now I fully support decriminalization at the very least (still extremely anti drug personally, but came to my senses regarding real life)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. We were inundated with anti drug propaganda as kids, and up until my late teens I thought you tried weed once and next day you were a junkie (drugs were also non existent in the area where i grew up, so I didn't know anyone who had tried it) Then I read some stuff, and met some people, and though I've never used drugs myself I'm definitely pro legalization and regulation. That's the logical route, based on the science.

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Mother Teresa, my family spoke highly of her when I was a kid, she received a number of honours from Indian government, won the Nobel Peace Prize and the church made her a saint, I thought she was a good person until a friend told me the truth about her and showed me some articles.

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was an attention whore and a hypocrite. Says a lot about the Catholic church that they made her a saint.

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Although opinions can be difficult to alter in brief moments, according to Christopher Soto at NPR, our personalities naturally change throughout our entire lives. Soto first explained that our personalities are organized into the “Big Five” trait dimensions: extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, negative emotionality, and open-mindedness. According to various studies, most of us can become more agreeable, conscientious and emotionally resilient as we get older. Soto notes that these shifts typically happen over decades and are hard to pinpoint to specific causes, but they can be beneficial to our lives. Further developing these specific traits can even lead to happier, longer lasting marriages, according to a study in Sage Journals. This slow personality evolution can also explain how our beliefs can shift over time as well.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Roundabouts. Based on all the complaints, I assumed they were confusing and unnecessary. When my city put in a bunch, I realized that I no longer had to wait 3 minutes at all of the punishment lights. Love roundabouts now.

...Of course that didn't stop the older population of the city from trying to have them removed. One guy even ran for city council on the platform that he would immediately put the stop lights back in. Change is hard, I guess.

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Zero
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mythbusters did a great episode testing the efficiency of them. Even with some mild confusion, traffic still flowed better. And when everyone knew the rules, it flowed a lot faster than a 4-way.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Nuclear Power. I used to be anti-nuke, based solely on the potential worst-outcome of a catastrophic failure. While in college I saw a presentation on the various short-term and long-term negativities of all the different power generation methods and nuclear is actually one of the safest, even including the 3 major incidents of Chernobyl, 3-Mile Island, and Fukushima. Additionally, coal-burning power is so unfathomably bad for everyone involved in every stage from mining the coal to living anywhere close to the plant that it is just orders of magnitude worse than anything else. Nuclear has the best balance of reliability, base-load, safety, and ROI of any method known for generating power.

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Kanuli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, talking about safety is alright. What about the storage of waste? Deconstruction of old reactors (storing that waste too) I would go this way: if we stop using it, we stop developing new methods , netter procedurs and so on. So not a complete no, but still, it’s not forever a go to way of producing electricity.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers People going on morning runs. I kept reading stuff about how it helps with anxiety and depression. I didn't really understand because one, who tf has the energy to get up before the sun rises to RUN??? and two, what if ppl look at me weird etc etc... One day after a major afternoon breakdown which lead to deep sleep i woke up at 4am. Felt sick of looking at my room, changed into leggings and a hoodie, left the house without anyone knowing (i left a note) and started walking. Eventually, i started running. I felt my brain shut up for those few hours i spent running, i reached the next city and stopped to sit down at this random park. It just,, it felt so nice. I ran all the way over to the next city with nothing but my phone, earphones, and a bottle of water. The only way for me to get back home is to run back or call my dad to pick me up. I ran back. When I got home i felt so much better. Started going out to run once a week since then, found a usual spot for people who run, met nice people. Happiest I've ever been. Those sane and healthy f*****s were right.

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Wilko Lunenburg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Started walking (running hurts) for at least an hour every morning and I can confirm it is a great feeling

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While humans have a tendency to be stubborn and hold fast to our opinions, it’s refreshing to read this list of examples that we are capable of being open-minded. Especially because we live in a world that is so unpredictable and constantly changing, we should be allowed to do the same as well. Be sure to upvote the responses that gave you reason to pause and think, then let us know in the comments something you’ve changed your mind about!

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Marriage. It’s really not for everybody.

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#29

College education. I always thought it would benefit everyone to get one. These days, the benefits don’t _always_ outweigh the debts and many people in trades make very good money.

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Caroline Nagel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would recommend to learn a trade. Electrician, carpenter, plumber... are all much more useful than most managers.

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Empathy. I used to always want to give people the benefit of the doubt if it meant they were learning or working on themselves, because I know I’d want the same. Turns out some people will take your kindness and run with it, and you need to cut yourself off from people that do or you’re going to find yourself mentally or emotionally drained. Can’t pour from an empty cup and all that.

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#31

Alcohol as a vehicle fuel. First touted as a sustainable solution to transportation, now exposed as a greenhouse gas nightmare. Corn growing states embraced the idea, got it written into law and now we're kinda stuck with it.

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Giles McArdell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Upvoted as I got taken in by this, seemed such a good solution at first too.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Marxism. When I was growing up it was the great evil from Satan that made you hate God and murder people. When I read it for myself, I discovered it was just a philosophical system and none of those things. In fact, it was about the only thing I'd encountered that explained why things are as they are.

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JustAnother Soul
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it would be an interesting exercise to encourage people to do a little research on whatever is the opposite of what they believe and talk to people who have different views without judgement but just with the hope of understanding things a bit better. Edited to add: within reason

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Multiple genders.

Initially thought it was just a bunch of confused kids taking a stand on something nonsensical out of over-stimulated boredom.

Now i realise its a drive for acceptance and inclusivity, and I'm all for that.

Still convinced that surgery should only be an option at 18 though :)

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Kanuli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should also be taught that on top of genders there are diseases and genetic mutations that can alter your sex or make you born with none or both. I prefer speaking about humans, and humans are complicated. But still a biological being…evolution hasn’t stopped, so why should we stop evolving our views and beliefs?

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Anime.

I always thought it was stupid, cringey, only for weirdo's. Until I found out that my best friend(we didn't know each other for that long when I found this out) basically only watches anime. Like, he's no weeb(no hate, you guys are just really intense about your anime) or anything, but he loves it. So I obviously saw some snippets of him watching Attack on Titan and I thought that it doesn't look too bad. So he said we should start watching the dubbed version together. Needless to say, I have seen/finished about 10 to 20 different anime since he introduced me to AoT last year and I am hooked. Planning on starting to read some manga soon.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is just good storytelling. It often has the benefit of staying truer to the source material too.

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Disc Golf. All the guys I grew up with that played were huge douchebags. Years later a neighbor dragged me out on a nice day and I’ve been playing ever since. 10+ years.

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Corey Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got into it in the mid 90s and have been playing ever since. It's fun, you're outdoors, and you're getting exercise.

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#36

Algebra. It's Like a cool puzzle that makes you feel smart.

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Robert T
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Basic algebra is still very useful, but some of the more complicated stuff I learnt at school, I have literally never found a use for! Mind you, I can still remember x = -b +/- the root of b^2 - 4ac all over 2a after 30 years!

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Someone Asked “What Is Something You Changed Your Stance On After Learning More About It?”, Here Are 30 Of The Most Fascinating Answers Immigration from other cultures. I thought, and still think, that any human should be able to live wherever they want. However, some cultures, when in big numbers, end up forming ghettos in our cities and making them unsafe. i.e: Madrid, Lavapiés, a district in the middle of the city was historically a middle-lower class neighbourhood, but because of massive immigration there are drug raids every day and it's not as safe to walk there at night. Still safe though, Madrid is a very safe city, just not as much as it used to be.

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Ace Girl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit I don't know the details, but I'd wager to guess that poverty due to unsupported population growth and lack of access to good jobs is the more likely culprit, not the ethnic makeup of an immigrant group.

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