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In an ideal world, the romantic relationships we create with our partners would be happy, healthy, and full of light. But as we all know, that’s not always the case.
Only a few things in life shatter this illusion as quickly as being cheated on by someone you trust. As these cheating wife stories show, the affair can make you lose faith in love, your future partners, and sometimes even yourself.
It’s difficult for a person to move on from the whirlwind of emotions they carry after a wife’s affair, But one thing that helps to embark on a healing journey is giving a voice to your experiences. So, in a bid to provide a safe space for the heart-aching souls out there, someone reached out to the Ask Reddit community: “What is your ‘accidentally caught your spouse’ cheating horror story?” they asked, and thousands of people opened up in the thread about their gut-wrenching tales of partners cheating on them.
From accidentally reading unfortunate texts to catching your SO red-handed, we’ve gathered some of the most upsetting, infuriating, and wild responses where the wife was caught cheating.
So, continue scrolling and prepare yourselves for some relationship-changing Reddit cheating stories. If you’re up for it, share your own experiences with us in the comments; we’re here to listen.
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#1
It's so classic and pathetic it will sound sitcomy, but I found long blond hair in our bed. It's a short haired brunette. He had a buzzcut. When confronted he shrugged and said " Well, what are you gonna do about it, anyway, dump me ? you can't, we have a shared lease, so suck it up"
Guess who got dumped the very same day with the help of a very nice, understanding and outraged landlord that rescinded the lease ?
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#2
My husband changed his cell phone from our joint plan to hers. Verizon sent me an email confirming the change and the account his line was added to, which included her name. I asked him, and he lied. I looked her up on Facebook, and it turns out they had just celebrated their 2 year dating anniversary. We had just celebrated 8 years of marriage.
#3
Saw his mum post a picture of her new grandchild on facebook, sure as hell didn't come from my vagina.
Can I Trust My Spouse After She Cheated?
As Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., Ph.D., a psychology professor and a relationship expert, points out, being cheated on is easily one of the top fears people have in relationships. “[Infidelity] represents such a clear violation of trust, it’s often worse than a partner just wanting to break up,” he told Bored Panda.
Lewandowski explains that cheating occurs for a variety of reasons, “but one of the most prominent is not feeling like your current relationship meets your needs. Those needs could be sexual, intellectual, emotional, or a need for personal growth.”
Rebuilding trust after a wife’s affair can be complex and challenging. It’s possible but requires dedication from both partners. Have open and honest communication and seek therapy or counseling to address underlying issues.
Trust can be reestablished over time, but it may never return to the same level as before the cheating occurred. As these Reddit cheating stories show, healing and moving forward can be difficult after a wife’s affair.
#4
Found my wife's notebook. Written on the first page was a 10-step plan detailing how she was going to leave me for another guy.
I turned it into one step.
Inclusion2020 2 years ago
Lmao I just can’t get over why this lady needed to WRITE DOWN a 10-step plan 😂😂She had to have left the notebook out on purpose, right??
#5
Not me but a medical resident who I met on rotation recently. One of the nicest guy I ever met, super intelligent and hardworking, and training to be a trauma surgeon by humble as they come. He had been married for 2 years to his wife. One night he gets off a 30 hour call early and heads home to surprise his wife with some flowers and her favorite dessert (it was the anniversary of the day they first met). Only to find her in bed with a random dude.
He was so exhausted and confused, he didn’t know what to do and just left and went back to the hospital. I saw him at 5AM, sitting in the parking lot, hunched over crying. He didn’t even have his phone with him, he was just sitting there. Man, nothing breaks your heart more than seeing a grown man cry, it’s not something you see often. We called his dad up and he came and picked him up, the guy ended up taking a leave from his residency. Turns out, it wasn’t the wife’s first time sleeping around. Hope he gets back on his feet, he will make an amazing physician.
#6
I didn't "accidentally" catch him, someone purposefully mailed me a letter.
One day, I recieved an anonymous letter that stated my boyfriend of 7 years was seeing another woman. This letter was said to be from a friend of a different woman he was seeing. I confronted him and he denied (of course).
I checked his emails and found google messages from a third woman. I found out he was cheating with three different women for five years. Like why even bother to be in a relationship at that point.
F**k you Alex.
How Do Cheaters Act When Caught?
“Cheating is also a crime of opportunity, in which it’s more likely when people believe they won’t get caught,” Lewandowski adds.
Well, the times of catching partners betraying our trust in the act is a thing of the past. Nowadays, we have the digital world at our fingertips that expands opportunities for cheating. But at the same time, it makes it easier to catch the wife’s affair.
Reactions to being caught cheating can differ widely. A spouse may initially deny involvement, while some might admit guilt immediately. You can expect them to act defensive or angry, as they may feel cornered or embarrassed.
Some cheating wives may express remorse and a willingness to repair the relationship, while others may continue to deny any wrongdoing. Each person’s response depends on their personality, the circumstances, and the nature of the relationship.
Relationship expert Lewandowski added that when we think of catching our partner cheating, we often envision sexual and physical affairs, but as these cheating wife sex stories show, that’s not always the case. “We should also be aware of the potential for emotional infidelity where our partner becomes close and emotionally intimate with another person,” he explained. “Sometimes that may be ‘hiding in plain sight’ because we aren’t considering it a potential form of cheating.
How Many Married Women Cheat?
In 2021, Health Testing Centers polled 441 people to get to the bottom of how frequent cheating in relationships actually is. The responses revealed that a little over 46% of participants in monogamous relationships said they had affairs. One in four also explained they cheated and admitted it to their partner.
#7
Mt St Augustine erupted in Alaska in 1986. They had to evacuate all planes out of Elmendorf AFB due to ash in the air. This sent my unit home from Korea 3 days early. I got home at 2 AM and there was a guy sleeping next to my wife in our bed.
#8
My mom's best friend went to have lunch with one of her other friends from church choir, to meet that woman's new boyfriend.
Surprise. It was my boyfriend.
#9
My husband had been really nasty to me recently, and we got into a huge fight the night before he went on a business trip. By morning we had sort of made up, but I was still salty. He always texts me to tell me when his plane lands and normally I respond, but I was still so mad, I decided to ignore him. I had never done that before, so he called me to ask what was wrong. I said, 'Right now, I’m as mad at you as I’ve ever been.' He mistakenly assumed I had found out about the multiple online affairs he was having and accidentally blurted everything out.
How Do You Tell If a Spouse is Lying About Cheating?
Spotting lies can be complex, as individuals vary in their lying behaviors. However, you can look for some common signs:
- Your spouse’s account of events keeps changing or seems contradictory.
- A cheating wife might act defensive, angry, or avoidant when confronted. They may deflect blame onto you or accuse you of being paranoid.
- Avoiding eye contact or appearing uncomfortable when discussing specific topics can signify deceit.
- Look for nonverbal cues like nervousness or fidgeting.
- They may suddenly become more secretive about their phone, computer, or social media accounts.
It’s important to remember that these signs are not foolproof, and there may be innocent explanations for some behaviors. Consider having an open and honest communication with your spouse.
#10
One of my former co-workers loaded in a SD card with a scanned project file on it. he put it into the conference room PC we were treated to naked pics of his wife f*****g another guy. we were just stunned. this was in a senior budgetary meeting with the outside accountants and auditors. and he was sitting right there and we were looking at his wife and another guy going at it. i reached over and shut the projector off. nobody said anything. he got up and walked out and drove off in his car. left his phone and laptop sitting on the table. he wound up driving to his parents house 3 states away. he was gone for a week.
#11
Walked in on my girlfriend while she was having sex with another guy. “What are you doing here?!” she says. “You gave me a key, remember? I ended up not working today and wanted to surprise you.”
15 years later she reaches out, leaves me a message that she’d like to talk. I figure she’s doing some 12-step thing or something and wants to make amends.
Nope. She wanted to try and sell me on Amway.
#12
I caught my ex thanks to f*****g Pokemon Go of all things.
She mentioned Pokemon Go was using lots of her data. I explained that in her settings she could see how much data an app was using. I proceeded to show her and proved to her it wasn't by pointing out Tinder was using much more data...
It was sad but also funny the way it went down
I've posted this before but it's still funny to remember.
Being cheated on is extremely heartbreaking, whether emotional or physical adultery. These wife-caught cheating stories show that infidelity can take a huge toll on emotional well-being.
It makes us question every decision and even blame ourselves for our loved one’s actions. It’s especially awful when it catches us completely blindfolded, having no suspicions about the hurtful activities happening behind our backs.
“Experiencing infidelity certainly has a negative impact on our well-being,” Lewandowski noted. “Having a partner cheat on you represents one of the most profound violations of trust in relationships. It’s an experience that can alter how a person navigates their future relationships by making them more jealous, more concerned about being hurt and about their partner abandoning them,” he said, adding that the effects of a partner’s infidelity tend to stick with us for a long time.
Cheating and its consequences can turn our whole world upside down, so people usually find it hard to navigate their feelings and get a grip on their emotions. “When dealing with this experience, keep in mind that it’s ultimately more about the partner and who they are than you,” Lewandowski advised.
“Going forward, it’s important to continue to trust future partners and be willing to make yourself vulnerable because those are key elements to healthy relationships. Granted, you may need to keep reminding yourself that the vast majority of partners are trustworthy and are unlikely to cheat, but you don’t want to allow one bad experience to undermine your future happiness as well,” the relationship expert concluded.
#13
Went to log into email and a suggested one that I didn't recognize popped up. I answered all his security questions, and reset his password to find emails between him and the neighbor. We were in therapy to recover from him cheating with her and there they were waxing poetic about their love and when I'd be out of the house so they could be together. The actual horror sorry is that our 7 year old daughter is the one who accidently caught them originally by walking into our bedroom while I was at work.
#14
2 weeks ago I sent a message to a mutual friend asking to borrow a router. He didn't answer, but no worries he lives near by. I'll just stop by and grab it.
I pull up to his house and start heading down the driveway. He has a long country driveway so it's a few seconds before I see my car( I drive a company vehicle during the day) already there.
My heart began to sink, but they are friends, and business partners, maybe it's nothing. I got out of my van and look up to see the other guy shirtless in his bedroom.
At this point my heart is down on my stomach and I am visiblly shaking. I go in and immediately head upstairs. He is alone, now clothed.
I say " I came to borrow the router, also have you seen my wife? The car is here" He then proceeds to give the worst improve I've ever heard. "Huh? no, she was here at some point though". Whatever I knew she was there I just wanted him to admit it.
I go down, take the router, and head back to the van where I finally encounter my wife topless trying to sneak around the side of his house.
And now here I am
Edit: to all those wondering, I kept the router.
Edit 2: it's a plunge router for woodworking.
Mozzarella 2 years ago
Oof the friend was such a d**k for doing that. And also so rude if he knew the other woman was also already in a relationship. Especially to his FRIEND. I have so many trust issues cuz my friends have done this to me so many times before.
#15
My brother discovered a condom inside his fiancé. It wasn’t the brand he uses.
#16
One day my husband was getting ready for work and I saw him packing his GoPro case so he could take it to work. I thought, “hmmm that’s weird, why would he be taking it to work?”
So, when he jumped into the shower, I replaced his GoPro with mine and thought I’d look through the files when he leaves for work. My suspicions were on alert because he had just taken a trip to the PI with some friends. A guys only weekend kind of thing.
Fire up the camera and found 3 videos....
Lo and behold... there he is in all his glory barebacking a Filipino prostitute.
Looking and posing for the camera like he’s some f*****g porn star.
I was enraged but also looking at this fool acting like he’s a f*****g adult film star was hilarious.
#17
Me and my girlfriend were long distance and she had a habit of going quiet sometimes. She’d been texting me for the last few weeks but had made excuses not to come visit.
I went to a party that my friend had organised. I met a friend of his who told me he had a new girlfriend. I was surprised he hadn’t mentioned her, so I asked who she was. This lady introduced me to my girlfriend. She’d told everyone that we broke up, and had been dating my friend for about a month. She didn’t bother to tell me.
#18
Get in his car. The seat was pushed all the way back and there’s a bracelet on the floor.
First thing I asked was if he had cleaned off the seat when he had finished.
He said yes. Then he realized he was talking to his girlfriend, not one of the many friends who knew about his affair.
The best part is we were all packed up for a weekend out of town for his cousin’s wedding. His parents were in the car behind us. I went. We didn’t speak the entire weekend.
#19
Came back from a trip four hours early. Wife was supposed to be at work still. Opened the front door to see her sitting topless on the couch making out with a coworker.
He ran out the door; she ran into a bathroom and locked the door.
Sat on that couch for about an hour because I couldn’t think what else to do. Finally just up and left, so she could come out of the bathroom and put a shirt on.
Mozzarella 2 years ago
Wow. I dont know what to say. Just wow. I dont know what i would do if i found my husband like that. Scream probably
#20
Obligatory not me, but a friend. And I've posted this story twice before:
Early 2000s, my friend's husband was deployed to Iraq. Together, they had a 10 year old son and a happy marriage. One day, while he was deployed, I am at home when another one of our friends calls and screams "Holy S**t, turn on the news right now!" I turn it on to watch a human interest story about a fundraiser at a high school 30 miles away. They're doing Relay for Life or something, and as a "surprise" to one of the participants, they had her "husband" and father of her two grade school children do a video call from Iraq, and displayed it on the football jumbotron.
There on our local news is my friend's husband, telling another woman and two kids how he loves them and can't wait to get back home to them. The news eats it up, about what a great guy he is.
That night, our group of friends convened and decided how we would tell her. I was nominated, so the next day I had to sit her down and tell her what we saw. She called the news station, and they were happy to let her come in and watch the story. They were also incredibly apologetic.
Story has a somewhat crappy ending, I'm afraid. She called him out on his bs, they started divorce proceedings, and he went on to legally marry the mother of his other kids, and mostly ignored his son from the first marriage.
#21
I woke up on Christmas day to my partner's alarm going off. He was the type to have 17 alarms set five minutes apart to make sure he got out of bed. I went into his phone to turn them all off and saw a message preview from his baby mama that was a bit too flirty. I checked and he'd been sleeping with her for a month, including the day before (Christmas eve), while I was at home with his parents and their child, preparing Christmas dinner and he was 'working.'
#22
Not my relationship, but my boyfriend’s Mom took me out to lunch to get to know me better. We really kicked it off and had a great lunch. She had to run home because she forgot to grab a gift for a shower we had to attend after and we found her husband ducking the neighbor on the couch... She was mortified and never the same around me again. Her son and I split because of that (he didn’t think his Dad was wrong because his mom gained weight- as in she was now 140 5’6” and not 120), so I never found out what happened.
#23
I had a long-distance boyfriend. We saw each other when we could and we were waiting for things to align so we could move in together. This last Valentine's Day, he made a big list announcement on Facebook, and part of it mentioned that he had gotten engaged the previous March. I cut off all communication then and there.
#24
Not me, but a friend was watching an NBA game on TV and saw her (now) ex in the stands since he had seats that were close to the court and visible from the broadcast camera. He was supposedly attending with a male colleague but had his arm wrapped around a woman.
Mozzarella 2 years ago
Wow that was stupid. I’m not saying that its acceptable that the dude was cheating, but why the hellwould they go somewhere public? The girlfriends was bound to find out, and it was best for her that she did
#25
Well, he wasn't my spouse, but he had proposed to me that morning. He said he had to go into work to cover a shift, but when he didn't call me for his dinner break, as he usually did when he worked that shift, I got worried (He was an LEO) and called him.
Someone else picked up his phone, explained that the "guy whose phone this is, yeah, I think he went up to a room with his girlfriend, we have it down here waiting for him". They were at a hotel. Turns out he used it as an excuse to sleep with another woman he knew from when they were in the academy together and had been seeing each other for awhile, she was married.
The next morning, when he came to pick me up so we could get our parents to take them to brunch and announce the news, I refused to go with him. In hindsight, I should've waited until we were all at brunch and he had paid the bill to confront him for the free food, but I was young and dumb.
#26
Had been on the road for work. Was supposed to be 10 days, got to go home a day early. Had a friend pick me up at the airport to surprise my wife and 2 children (2years and 8 months). Walked in to my ex and her 'coffee friend' snuggling on the couch. With. My. Kids. In. The. Same. Room.
I was livid. Of course she denied everything. We split up weeks later.
*edit* added years after 2 to avoid all the age questions
#27
Came home early from work, on Christmas eve mind you. As I pulled into the parking lot, I had a weird thought of wanting to see if there were any cars I didnt recognize. Thought it was a silly thought, so I parked my car and went inside. As I walked to the top of the stairs towards our bedroom, my husband immediately walks out and closes the door behind him. I had to ask him twice if there was a girl in there and he finally said yes. He also made me stand in the kitchen so I couldn't see who she was as she walked out.
Took me three years before I could enjoy Christmas again.
Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago
He ‘made you stand in the kitchen’ so you couldn’t see who the girl was, after getting caught cheating? I don’t think he had any grounds to make you do ANYTHING at that point.
#28
Long story short, I suspected something for a few months. Like an idiot, I opened her phone while she was asleep and found exactly what I was looking for, like you always do when searching through someone else’s phone. Even with all of the texts right there to see she still lied about it multiple times. She eventually admitted to it but downplayed it heavily.
She told me about two nights ago that he asked her out on a date and she said “I had to say no” and was visibly sad about it.
In the process of getting a divorce now. Hurts like hell.
Mozzarella 2 years ago
Had to say no. Wow that sounds like she was trying to guilt the person into letting her cheat on them.
#29
I found out my ex boyfriend (dated from 15-18) had been cheating on me when, upon walking into the apartment he shared with his mother and two elementary-aged sisters, the youngest sister asked me “when did you leave?”
I asked her “when was I here?”
She responded, “You were here all night. I could hear you talking to [ex’s name].”
I had not been there for two days at that point. I asked him what she was talking about and he blew bubbles for a few minutes before confessing.
Good riddance.
Edit: not sure if everyone knows “blew bubbles” means having nothing to say yet still talking. It may be local slang. Yes, though, I do think the joke is funny!
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
I just added a new phrase to my repertoire. "Blowing bubbles" is the perfect description!
#30
Caught my now ex husband. Something was way off, I was 6 months pregnant with our second child and my best friend at the time was also off.
Picked up his phone at 2AM when it went off and found a secret password locked messenger (GO messenger?) Password was his birthday, real winner. I found over 7k messages along with photos, some insinuating I was present with either one of them while they were messaging. I was upset and woke him up- he locked himself in the bathroom and pulled the attempted suicide card. There’s another year of trying to work it out shenanigans after this incident but I’m so glad that chapter in my life it over.
Edit: added attempted
What do you think ?
Nathaniel 2 years ago
Cheating makes no sense to me. I mean if you do not love your partner and want someone else, do the decent thing an break up with them!
wowbagger 2 years ago
Sometimes the cheater is a sadistic a**hole. They kind of want you to find out, eventually, after making you feel like you're going crazy for a while.
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birdhouse 2 years ago
I honestly had to stop reading these. I was getting physically nauseous. It is just so disgusting how some people can be.
AK to LV 2 years ago
Usually I click on the 'this post originally had XX images' but the posts were making me sadder and sadder. I cut my losses and checked these response postings instead.
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Lisa H 2 years ago
Somewhere around 10+ years ago, I was seeing this guy. We were just casual, taking it slow. Then one night, I meet up with him at a restaurant, but he texted me right before I left to find him in the parking lot. Okay, so I did. I get in his truck and he drives to the other side of the restaurant and points put his father and sister inside. He says he's not ready to introduce me to them, yet (we were dating for only a month). I say that's fine, let's just go somewhere else. He then says that the reason he's not ready to introduce me to them, yet, is because he was still with his girlfriend, he just "hasn't gotten around to breaking up" with her, yet. I just sat there, silently. I was the other woman. And he waited a month to tell me. Granted, a month isn't long enough to get to know someone well, but it is long enough to develop some real feelings toward someone. That's where I was at. After that night, though, I ghosted him. I wanted to tell her, but had no clue who she was.
Nathaniel 2 years ago
Cheating makes no sense to me. I mean if you do not love your partner and want someone else, do the decent thing an break up with them!
wowbagger 2 years ago
Sometimes the cheater is a sadistic a**hole. They kind of want you to find out, eventually, after making you feel like you're going crazy for a while.
Load More Replies... birdhouse 2 years ago
I honestly had to stop reading these. I was getting physically nauseous. It is just so disgusting how some people can be.
AK to LV 2 years ago
Usually I click on the 'this post originally had XX images' but the posts were making me sadder and sadder. I cut my losses and checked these response postings instead.
Load More Replies... Lisa H 2 years ago
Somewhere around 10+ years ago, I was seeing this guy. We were just casual, taking it slow. Then one night, I meet up with him at a restaurant, but he texted me right before I left to find him in the parking lot. Okay, so I did. I get in his truck and he drives to the other side of the restaurant and points put his father and sister inside. He says he's not ready to introduce me to them, yet (we were dating for only a month). I say that's fine, let's just go somewhere else. He then says that the reason he's not ready to introduce me to them, yet, is because he was still with his girlfriend, he just "hasn't gotten around to breaking up" with her, yet. I just sat there, silently. I was the other woman. And he waited a month to tell me. Granted, a month isn't long enough to get to know someone well, but it is long enough to develop some real feelings toward someone. That's where I was at. After that night, though, I ghosted him. I wanted to tell her, but had no clue who she was.
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