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Person That Suffers From Allergy Went On A Date With A Cat Owner, Guy Caused A Scene When Told The Relationship Wasn’t Going To Work
Living life is like playing the lottery – you never know what you’re gonna get, and some folks get allergies. Well, not the very best choice, but definitely pretty unpleasant.
Indeed, allergies have been interfering with many of our lives for decades, changing routines, habits and hobbies. Especially when it’s an allergy to possibly the most wonderful creatures on this planet. Yes, we’re talking about cats.
As it happened to the author of the original post in the AITA Reddit community, which now has almost 1.9K upvotes and over 450 different comments. Yes, the Original Poster is allergic to cats – and this allergy has recently significantly affected their personal life.
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The Original Poster’s friend suggested that they go on a date with her good friend
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The thing is that OP’s friend suggested that they go on a date with her old and good friend. The OP agreed – they liked the man right away, but what they didn’t like for sure was a stuffy nose literally from the first minutes of communication.
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The OP is allergic to cats and they immediately suspected that the man had one at home
The OP immediately decided to clarify – and yes, there was no mistake, the man had a cat at home. Realizing how painful the consequences of allergies can be, as well as how difficult it is to constantly be treated for it, the OP decided to make a difficult decision on the go.
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The OP tried to explain that they’d prefer not to start relationships due to their allergy issues
They explained to the man that it was better for them both to just move on and not continue to communicate – even despite the obvious mutual liking, because the OP did not want to live with a man by taking drugs every day.
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The man was very upset and tried to ask OP to give him just a chance
We must admit, the man was very upset and said that modern medicine is able to cope well with allergies, and in general, this was not a good reason not to start a relationship with him. To this, the OP objected that they were just trying to be honest with him – after all, their relationship would probably be unlikely to progress because of his cat.
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The OP simply paid and left, but their friend called them a jerk for being a bit offensive
Seeing that the man began to insist and gradually lose his temper, the OP simply called the waiter and asked for a split check. When they told their mutual friend about this, she just claimed that the OP was completely wrong – firstly, she offended a really good guy, and secondly, the cat is not a problem. Something could always happen to it later in its life…
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Most of the commenters, however, supported the OP as some of them were familiar with allergies themselves
However, commenters, many of whom were familiar with allergies firsthand, mostly supported the OP – after all, they really tried to be honest with the man, and it is better to refuse right away than to suffer for several months and then still part ways.
Some people recalled that, once in the place of the OP, they nevertheless entered into relationships, and their decisions eventually became something along the lines of masochism. In any case, the general consensus is that the OP did the right thing, honestly – and the man and mostly their friend are not exactly right.
Frankly speaking, we have our own kind of allergy – an allergy to posts without comments, so we will be happy for your opinions about this story, and even better – your own stories. In the end, any narrative of one’s own experience becomes much more important and way more interesting.
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Ivana Bašić 2 years ago
And if he'd offered to get rid of the cat, what kind of a jerk would do that? And after a single date, that would make him stalker material.
Miguel justino C 2 years ago
Ivana nailed this. First off he’s a cat dude and that’s rare, but if he said I’ll put them up for adoption we would have a different AITA. I went on a date with a guy and he said he would get rid of his cats for me, how would he treat children? He was damned if he did or didn’t. Sick of these
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aj 2 years ago
As a cat mum with bad allergies (not to cats fortunately but on allergy meds most of the year) absolutely NTA. I'd never consider dating someone with a pet hair allergy because 1. I would definitely *not* want my partner to have allergy symptoms 24/7 when around me, even meds aren't always enough and 2. having no pets in the future is not going to happen with me so the situation will never get "better" for the person with allergies which would just be unfair to them. It's absolutely 100% fine to not date someone because they're negatively impacting your health, even if it's involuntary.
Bunzilla 2 years ago
My eyes are currently goopy from allergies (even with allergy meds and allergy eyedrops), so I feel this. It just strikes me as weird that the person seems to think it would be totally fine if they just dated, even if the OP was getting symptoms just sitting near them. Don't know why they got so offended by being turned down, kind of a red flag right there. And the friend's comment of, "oh, you never know what'll happen, maybe the cat will run away or die" just seems really weird and creepy to me. People need to stop treating cats as throw-away pets (not sure I'd call myself a cat mom, but I've had cats around me my whole life, including one right now).
Load More Replies... Val 2 years ago
As a catmom of two kitties, I'd say NTA. I wouldn't want to make a person miserable and go through medication just because he/she is allergic to my babies. But also, I won't get rid of my cats. I wouldn't be offended when the other person doesn't want to continue dating for this reason.
Ivana Bašić 2 years ago
And if he'd offered to get rid of the cat, what kind of a jerk would do that? And after a single date, that would make him stalker material.
Miguel justino C 2 years ago
Ivana nailed this. First off he’s a cat dude and that’s rare, but if he said I’ll put them up for adoption we would have a different AITA. I went on a date with a guy and he said he would get rid of his cats for me, how would he treat children? He was damned if he did or didn’t. Sick of these
Load More Replies... aj 2 years ago
As a cat mum with bad allergies (not to cats fortunately but on allergy meds most of the year) absolutely NTA. I'd never consider dating someone with a pet hair allergy because 1. I would definitely *not* want my partner to have allergy symptoms 24/7 when around me, even meds aren't always enough and 2. having no pets in the future is not going to happen with me so the situation will never get "better" for the person with allergies which would just be unfair to them. It's absolutely 100% fine to not date someone because they're negatively impacting your health, even if it's involuntary.
Bunzilla 2 years ago
My eyes are currently goopy from allergies (even with allergy meds and allergy eyedrops), so I feel this. It just strikes me as weird that the person seems to think it would be totally fine if they just dated, even if the OP was getting symptoms just sitting near them. Don't know why they got so offended by being turned down, kind of a red flag right there. And the friend's comment of, "oh, you never know what'll happen, maybe the cat will run away or die" just seems really weird and creepy to me. People need to stop treating cats as throw-away pets (not sure I'd call myself a cat mom, but I've had cats around me my whole life, including one right now).
Load More Replies... Val 2 years ago
As a catmom of two kitties, I'd say NTA. I wouldn't want to make a person miserable and go through medication just because he/she is allergic to my babies. But also, I won't get rid of my cats. I wouldn't be offended when the other person doesn't want to continue dating for this reason.
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