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“She’s Now A Size 30”: Woman Bursts Bestie’s Delusions About Body Positivity
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Bestie Tension Rises After Woman Confronts Friend About Weight And Health Concerns

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Finding a close-knit circle of friends can take time, but once you do, it’s one of life’s greatest treasures. These are the friends you can count on for honesty, even if it means hearing hard truths. They’ll support you through thick and thin—whether it’s lifting you up after a bad breakup or nudging you to get back on track when needed.

With this strong foundation in mind, one woman recently shared the struggle she faced when she felt compelled to address her childhood best friend’s health after noticing signs of physical strain during a hen party. Although she approached the topic with care, the conversation took an unexpected turn, testing the strength of their friendship. Keep reading to see how the situation unfolded.

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    A woman shared her experience of addressing her childhood best friend’s health concerns, only to find their friendship tested by the conversation

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    Simply checking your BMI doesn’t provide a complete picture of your overall health

    Determining whether you’re healthy or starting to fall into the category of obesity is something many people struggle with, but there are several key indicators you can monitor. To gain insights, we reached out to Rubina Joseph, a seasoned nutritionist with over 10 years of experience and more than 2,000 clients. Rubina shared her professional perspective on recognizing potential health concerns linked to weight and how we can take charge of our well-being.

    According to Rubina, “The first and simplest indicator is often your BMI (Body Mass Index), but it doesn’t tell the full story. You should also pay attention to how your clothes fit and how you feel day-to-day. If you’re noticing that things you used to do with ease are suddenly feeling more difficult, that can be a sign.”

    In addition to looking at your weight, paying attention to how your body physically feels is crucial. For example, if you find yourself out of breath after walking up a flight of stairs or feel sluggish and tired throughout the day, these could be signs that your health is being impacted.

    Rubina explains, “Our bodies give us subtle signals. Joint pain, shortness of breath, and poor sleep are often linked to changes in weight, particularly when they happen suddenly.” If you feel these things regularly, it could indicate that your weight is starting to affect your overall well-being.

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    Health risks that come with weight gain, especially when it crosses into obesity, are real and should not be overlooked. One major risk is the development of chronic conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease. “Obesity can impact your metabolism, leading to insulin resistance, which is often a precursor to Type 2 diabetes,” she adds.

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    Gaining excessive weight can lead to numerous negative effects on your body

    It’s important to recognize that the effects of obesity are not always visible at first, but they can manifest in ways that are harder to notice. For example, digestive problems like acid reflux, frequent bloating, or indigestion could be warning signs that your weight is starting to take a toll on your body’s systems.

    “Even seemingly minor issues like persistent heartburn can be exacerbated by excess weight,” says Rubina, who advises her clients to be mindful of any ongoing discomforts that might not seem directly related to obesity but are linked to it.

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    A common concern that arises when trying to gauge your health is how to track progress without simply relying on weight. “The number on the scale doesn’t tell you everything. Body composition—how much fat vs. muscle you have—matters more than just your weight,” she says. 

    She emphasizes the importance of monitoring how your body feels overall, including energy levels, mood, and how you sleep. If you’re eating healthily but find you’re always tired or irritable, it might be time to reassess other areas of your health, such as nutrition or exercise habits.

    Just like in the case shared, it seemed the author’s friend was facing some potential health concerns, and many people pointed out that the author was only trying to be a supportive and caring friend. Addressing a friend’s health can be a delicate subject—on one hand, it’s important to be honest and provide support, but on the other hand, you don’t want to overstep boundaries or hurt their feelings. 

    Would you speak up about a friend’s health, or would you tiptoe around the subject to protect the friendship? It’s not always an easy choice, as the dynamics of each relationship are unique. What do you think is the best approach? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!

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    Many agreed the author was right to prioritize her friend’s health, though some felt it could have been handled more privately

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    Ripley
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's very possible to be overweight and still very fit. That absolutely does not sound like the case here, and hair, nails, and makeup is not "looking after yourself". Technically, I'd say self-soothing rather than genuine self care.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She’s going to have a heart attack. And type 2 diabetes if she doesn’t already.

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    Corvus
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Body positivity isn't a bad thing, but sometimes it seems to evolve into denial and a coping mechanism that does more harm than good. That's the point where the person needs to be told to stop and re-evaluate.

    Sarah Jan Kelly
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Body positivity started as a way to combat unproductive shame. In fact, true body positivity could lead people to want to take care of themselves by exercising a little. Everyone here blaming body positivity for people increasing unhealthy behaviors don’t really understand the roots of Health at Every Size, which is about focusing on healthy behaviors instead of focusing on the scale.”, which can just lead to shame spirals and even less healthy behavior. It’s also supposed to be about practicing nonjudgment because judgment doesn’t lead to long term positive changes.

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    Ben Aziza
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    5 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahh, some of these Redditors man... I swear they have to be in those "Toxic positivity" echo chambers type subs... I have no other explanation for how half the commenters turned on her and full on assumed she did some public humiliation ritual on her friend... As what me and I assume any reasonable person would think... That this was just a private conversation away from others... You know how friends who show concern for others act... But I doubt they know what real life friends are... At least half of Reddit is not fully gone(Yet). ANYWAY Body positivity is about dealing with the things you can't control. About not being shamed irrationally for something you literally cannot influence. Think deformities, Scars, Burns, Atypical body forms and such... Somehow it morphed into "Everyone is perfect and beautiful JUST THE WAY they are!" as a response to anyone pointing any kind of unhealthy practice that is fully under a typical person's control... To be clear, In some rare cases there are genetic mutations that directly cause obesity... RARE is the keyword here..."monogenic" obesity is the word. I know of it but not too many details. Anyway... This new influencer "like Lizzo or whatever her Fing name" driven movement of "Body positivity" is just an online neo cult like the Redpill and other new s**t like that millennials and gen z came up with... Key ppl push this narrative cus they are either lying to themselves and coming up with excuse to normalize their unhealthy behavior... Or even more sinisterly exploiting ppl's insecurities for money. By no means am i excusing the ones inducted into it btw... If you go that far to avoid accountability... YOU and everyone of us ARE acountable for out actions. The "influencer" does not have some magic mind control bs... At the end of they day the person is the one who clicks on the validating tiktok... I remember how they "excommunicated" Adele when she lost weight as she was their "icon"... The vile s**t you would hear thrown at her... Just cus she decided to work at losing weight and get fitter... All in the name of avoiding accountability...

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn’t a Reddit post, Ben; it looks like Mumsnet to me, for what that is or isn’t worth. As for me, I’d thought this “body positivity” thing was dead, as It seemed the pendulum swung back the other way. I seldom hear people mention it anymore and I thought that everyone got smart and realized it’s not an especially healthy or safe way to live.

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    Ripley
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's very possible to be overweight and still very fit. That absolutely does not sound like the case here, and hair, nails, and makeup is not "looking after yourself". Technically, I'd say self-soothing rather than genuine self care.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She’s going to have a heart attack. And type 2 diabetes if she doesn’t already.

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    Corvus
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Body positivity isn't a bad thing, but sometimes it seems to evolve into denial and a coping mechanism that does more harm than good. That's the point where the person needs to be told to stop and re-evaluate.

    Sarah Jan Kelly
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Body positivity started as a way to combat unproductive shame. In fact, true body positivity could lead people to want to take care of themselves by exercising a little. Everyone here blaming body positivity for people increasing unhealthy behaviors don’t really understand the roots of Health at Every Size, which is about focusing on healthy behaviors instead of focusing on the scale.”, which can just lead to shame spirals and even less healthy behavior. It’s also supposed to be about practicing nonjudgment because judgment doesn’t lead to long term positive changes.

    Load More Replies...
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    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    5 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahh, some of these Redditors man... I swear they have to be in those "Toxic positivity" echo chambers type subs... I have no other explanation for how half the commenters turned on her and full on assumed she did some public humiliation ritual on her friend... As what me and I assume any reasonable person would think... That this was just a private conversation away from others... You know how friends who show concern for others act... But I doubt they know what real life friends are... At least half of Reddit is not fully gone(Yet). ANYWAY Body positivity is about dealing with the things you can't control. About not being shamed irrationally for something you literally cannot influence. Think deformities, Scars, Burns, Atypical body forms and such... Somehow it morphed into "Everyone is perfect and beautiful JUST THE WAY they are!" as a response to anyone pointing any kind of unhealthy practice that is fully under a typical person's control... To be clear, In some rare cases there are genetic mutations that directly cause obesity... RARE is the keyword here..."monogenic" obesity is the word. I know of it but not too many details. Anyway... This new influencer "like Lizzo or whatever her Fing name" driven movement of "Body positivity" is just an online neo cult like the Redpill and other new s**t like that millennials and gen z came up with... Key ppl push this narrative cus they are either lying to themselves and coming up with excuse to normalize their unhealthy behavior... Or even more sinisterly exploiting ppl's insecurities for money. By no means am i excusing the ones inducted into it btw... If you go that far to avoid accountability... YOU and everyone of us ARE acountable for out actions. The "influencer" does not have some magic mind control bs... At the end of they day the person is the one who clicks on the validating tiktok... I remember how they "excommunicated" Adele when she lost weight as she was their "icon"... The vile s**t you would hear thrown at her... Just cus she decided to work at losing weight and get fitter... All in the name of avoiding accountability...

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn’t a Reddit post, Ben; it looks like Mumsnet to me, for what that is or isn’t worth. As for me, I’d thought this “body positivity” thing was dead, as It seemed the pendulum swung back the other way. I seldom hear people mention it anymore and I thought that everyone got smart and realized it’s not an especially healthy or safe way to live.

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