“The Whole Table Went Silent”: Person Calls Brother’s GF A Gold Digger After She Googled The Cost Of Their Christmas Gifts

That’s what I think too. My mother does this constantly and I think it’s because she grew up poor and worrying about money and how much things cost has become deeply ingrained, we joke about her being a golddigger sometimes but she absolutely isn’t.

I came to say something similar. I grew up in a family where money was discussed openly. My parents felt that being honest with us kids about the money they make and how they spend it would help us understand how to spend wisely and appreciate what we have. For example, my dad would always tell us how much a meal cost when we dined out. They would tell us how much a Christmas present cost if we asked. It wasn’t until I was in college that I learned it wasn’t normal to discuss money so liberally and it’s actually rude to ask someone how much money they spent. I felt like an a*****e when someone finally called me out and explained it. I have met other people who were raised the same way so it’s possible Lindsey was too.

Growing up in a different socioeconomic background doesn't excuse her blatant lack of good manners and common sense.

My thoughts exactly. Still, never add things up while at someone's house. And unless she scoffs at the Louis Vuitton bag you got them for Christmas because it's not expensive enough, then they're not a gold digger, either.

Her only mistake was not waiting to do it behind their backs like all the rest of us. Every lower income bracket is one part awed, one part horrified, by the spending of those in higher brackets.

I agree...I don't think her behavior sounded to me like "gold digger " behavior! She clearly was not schooled in social graces...but her remarks made her seem as if she was in awe of how people lived and spent money which the way she approached it was none of her business and off-putting for sure. I don't think she should have been reprimanded in front of everyone like that. Had this been my family...I simply would have said...young lady (I would have used her name) it's Christmas let's enjoy each other's company and drop the discussion if money and the price of all the gifts and the things we have that we worked a lifetime for...money and people's finances aren't appropriate holiday discussion .."now who wants a cocktail??"

My dad's girlfriend did this exact stuff. But none of us are wealthy. Usually then goes off about how much money she has(had) and tries to appraise everyone for their net worth as she plies cosmetic surgery from my dad.

My thoughts exactly.

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"Socioeconomic Bracket", that's one of the dumbest sh*t I've ever heard. Y'all come up with these woke wack terms to defend all kinda garbage. So basically, she grew up poorer and that excuses being rude, nosey and not knowing how to mind her own damn business? Where do y'all get this stuff? It's amazing how you people defend and excuse rubbish just because someone was "less fortunate", which you are clearly assuming. Cut it out please. You don't come to someone's house and start asking how much this and that is. People who do rubbish like that, are surely lacking in the social department. Doesn't have a damn thing to do with her "Socioeconomic Bracket". It has more to do with her sociopathy if anything.

I agree She seams to be in the Spectrum, and we say " dumb " c**p like this every time, its not meant as an insult, its ( at least for me ) perfectly normal conversation, and unless someone Tells me not to say this or that, i don't even notice Im being a twat.

This was my first thought too. Whatever the reason though, it sounds obvious that she didn't realize what she was doing was socially inappropriate. Embarrassing her purposely over it is TA move.

I agree! It's almost what i would think is fine saying if i was surprised at how rich someone else is. Also counting, maybe she really likes to count or add up expenses if she sounded so proud after adding them up. I hope if she is autistic, that she'll get diagnosis so maybe her partners family will understand she's harmless

One of my son's friends is autistic and he can come across as very rude because he's waaaay too honest. I just let it go because he's not doing it on purpose.

I, too, grew up very poor, and share my joy when I am able to get something for a song, and hope I don't sound weird when I do that. I don't know if people know why I tell them. I'm not bragging, I'm showing my happiness. (They probably don't understand). It's deeply ingrained in people who grew up with poverty, to worry constantly about money, even when that problem has been 'solved', because you never know when you'll be back there.

100%. My dad always said blue collar people talk openly about money because we're making sure everyone has what they need. We share what we have to make sure everyone can get along alright. It's different when you have (more than) what you need, and you know your peers have what they need. At that point, the money you're talking about is excess. That's the point at which it becomes vulgar.

The thing is you discuss money with family and friends not with someone you have just met and want to make an impression on. The first clue for her should have been the " more than i like" comment about decorations. If she asks about price of 1 thing they coul maybe think it is a bit weird. But itemising their belongings and asking about salary like that shows she has no class. The sole question about salary is a no no unless you are super close even at work . She should know already

I think if he was so uncomfortable someone asking these money questions, evidently he hasn't had the pleasure of experiencing "normal" life. I don't know him, but from how he talks, he does give off a sheltered little boy vibe.

And yes, my family does discuss prices and talk about money very openly. In college I would discuss money with my low income friends and that was normal for us. But it's bizarre that she would do this in a social circle that clearly doesn't appreciate talking about finances. I don't think enough of us are calling out the brother, either. He obviously knew (or should have known) the family's attitudes towards this discussion, and he definitely knew about Lindsay's...disposition. He obviously didn't prep Lindsay/his family enough and even when his sister told him Lindsay was out of line...he evidently didn't feel the need to address it with her. He's happy to demand an apology after the fact, but he could've prevented the whole situation.

I agree. I was raised in poverty, and even when faced with my bffs family (who just nonchalantly talk about selling their small boat for a bigger yatch and stay in million dollar rental beah houses) i didn't say anything. You just... don't. I think asking the prices of some things is one thing (I like this wine, how much is it?) But sitting and Goodland how much an entire family spent on Christmas and then calling them out on it? I think calling her out in kind is fair play. Perhaps the name calling was too much, but calling out someone else's finance when its nothing to do with you is beyond just 'bad manners'.

No, you've got it almost right. "Insane" is not a very good word, though, "neurodivergent" is the correct term, I believe. Of course we have no proof of that, but many people seem to think it's a possibility in this case, hence the excusing comments. Also, "gold-digger" is extremely judgmental and offensive, but you chose to ignore that in your comment.