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“Weaponizing My Femininity”: 15 Y.O. Girl Gets Called A Jerk For Throwing A Tantrum After Getting Regularly Harassed At School
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“Weaponizing My Femininity”: 15 Y.O. Girl Gets Called A Jerk For Throwing A Tantrum After Getting Regularly Harassed At School

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Remember how The Weeknd sang “Save your tears for another day”? Tears at the right time, on the right day, can indeed be a powerful weapon, especially if you have exhausted other options to deal with a particular serious problem.

The heroine of our new story was accused of “weaponizing her femininity” – on the other hand, she had to face aggressive adherents of “traditional values,” and in this situation we can well say that “similar beats similar,” as the ancient sages used to say.

A post about this situation on the AITA Reddit community got over 24.6K upvotes and almost 2.5K different comments, with the commenters’ verdict being almost unanimous – guess what it was as you read this story.

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The Original Poster is a 15 Y.O. who lives in South America and goes to school

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So, the Original Poster is a 15-year-old girl living in one of the countries of South America. About ten years ago, she lost her mother and her dad raised her alone, until about a year ago, when he fell in love with another man, whom the OP also began to call papa. And since then they have lived as one family – two dads, a girl and their dog.

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The OP’s parents are gay and all her friends took it great, except one student

The OP told her school friends about her two dads, and they were just happy for her. But one of the students at the school – let’s call him “Duncan,” on the contrary, began to bully the girl, having learned about her family. The OP decided to seek help from the teacher, “Mr. Smith,” but he sided with “Duncan,” claiming that “the boy is just trying to understand.”

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The OP asked her teacher for help, but he backed the offender

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However, the boy’s “understanding” gradually went too far – he even began to pretend to sympathize with the OP, claiming that both of her dads “would definitely burn in hell.” And “Mr. Smith” again tried to hush up the situation – he said that no one can be judged because of his religion.

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The problem was also that in the country where the OP lives, each class has only one teacher, so she simply had no one else to turn to. After about two months of “Duncan’s” bullying, the girl came up with a plan for how to deal with this extremely unpleasant situation.

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Being told the same homophobic speech again, the OP started to cry deliberately just to draw attention to her

So, when “Duncan” started up his homophobic speech again in the school cafeteria, she just tried to remember the most tragic and heartbreaking scenes from movies and cartoons. The death of Mufasa, sad melodramas, The Fox and the Hound… tears did not take long to appear, and soon they literally poured like a river.

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The situation ended up in the school principal’s office and “Duncan” finally got his sentence

The girl sobbed, “Duncan” tried to figure out what was going on, and it ended up in the principal’s office, to whom the OP told the whole story, despite the fact that both the teacher and “Duncan” tried to interrupt her. As a result, “Duncan” received a five-day sentence, and the principal told the OP to come directly to her office in case of any repetition of the situation by the offenders.

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“Duncan’s” friends started texting the OP saying that she acted just like Amber Heard

By the way, “Mr. Smith” later tried to shame the OP by claiming that she ruined a good boy’s life, and even wanted the girl to apologize to “Duncan.” She, of course, refused, after which “Duncan’s” friends began to text her, telling her that she behaved like Amber Heard.

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People in the comments supported the OP massively and advised her to go back to the principal

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The girl admitted that she did not tell her dads about this situation, so as not to disturb and upset them, but the commenters, of course, supported her. Of course, the OP was advised to go back to the principal and report on the messages and the teacher’s demands, as “Mr. Smith” was rightly considered an accomplice in the bullying.

 

As for “Duncan”, he is, of course, wrong, and as some people in comments have written, perhaps for the first time in his entire life he is realizing that all actions may have very unpleasant consequences. “Duncan” is certainly not a “good boy” and he fully deserved the punishment he was given.

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We also wonder what you think about this situation. Perhaps the OP should still tell her parents, or transfer to another school? So feel free to write your comments, or share your own story if you’ve experienced something similar.

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After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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Saulė is a photo editor at Bored Panda with bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design. The thing that relaxes her the best is going into YouTube rabbit hole. In her free time she loves painting, embroidering and taking walks in nature.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Telling someone to "understand" a bigot is condoning bad behaviour: "The bigot doesn't have to change their behaviour, but *you* have to be nice to them."

Parmeisan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, sometimes being nice is the best way to change someone's mind. The very first time? Sure. Be nice, and tell him why that question is unacceptable. The 10th time? No, Duncan has proven he has no intention of widening his worldview or changing his behaviour. At that point, "understanding" him is only harmful to everyone.

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Leo Domitrix
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The teacher and the bully both need to be removed from the school.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bully who's a student and the bully who's a teacher both need to be removed from the school.

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May light defeat the darkness
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bible thumpers. The book teaches about love and yet its followers use it to justify their hateful actions. You did right girl giving him his own doze of medicine. And that Mr. Smith does not belong to the academe. He needs to go back to school and learn about respecting human rights.

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Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Telling someone to "understand" a bigot is condoning bad behaviour: "The bigot doesn't have to change their behaviour, but *you* have to be nice to them."

Parmeisan
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, sometimes being nice is the best way to change someone's mind. The very first time? Sure. Be nice, and tell him why that question is unacceptable. The 10th time? No, Duncan has proven he has no intention of widening his worldview or changing his behaviour. At that point, "understanding" him is only harmful to everyone.

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Leo Domitrix
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The teacher and the bully both need to be removed from the school.

Something
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bully who's a student and the bully who's a teacher both need to be removed from the school.

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May light defeat the darkness
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bible thumpers. The book teaches about love and yet its followers use it to justify their hateful actions. You did right girl giving him his own doze of medicine. And that Mr. Smith does not belong to the academe. He needs to go back to school and learn about respecting human rights.

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