The fact that the teacher called it "a little teasing" speaks volumes for how the teacher thinks of the situation. She needs to escalate to the administration because the teacher isn't doing anything.

No sorry. Your racist nasty brat is not allowed at my daughters party. Spend less time modelling racist behaviour for your child. She learnt it somewhere

Definitely NTA. Also, I would say she has every right to hand out invitations to everyone in front of the bully. Shows her what bullying someone will lead to. And that teacher is a di ckhead. A little teasing?

She’s only 6. Where is the bully learning this from? Probably her mom. She isn’t born racist… Hopefully she learns from someone and finally realizes it’s not okay.

Everybody has the right to decide who they want to see at their birthday party. The little brat feels excluded? Good. It's time for her to learn that her actions have consequences.

Kids need to hear it, have boundaries and don't let others bully you, but if you're not nice, people won't want to be friends with you. This kid intimidates OP's daughter. How can you have a party if you're scared? The only sad thing is that she won't learn much because apparently the parents don't get it, either.

When I was a kid, the only ones who invited the whole class to their birthday party were the rich kids, whose parents had big houses and could afford things like bouncy houses, food and party favors for 30 kids. The rest of us - if we were even allowed to have a party - were given a modest number we could invite: 6, 8, maybe 10. Did that result in some hurt feelings when someone didn't make the cut? Of course. On the other side, it created a world where each kid had a few precious close friends, a bunch of casual friends/schoolmates, and a few a*hole kids who we tried to ignore. I think that created a much healthier perspective than today's model, where kids are told they're supposed to be friends with everyone, and it's wrong to exclude people who treat them badly.

NTA. The teacher is an idiot for calling it “teasing”. The bully’s mother needs to know the extent of her child’s behaviour. As a child I decided who would come to my party and I would hand out my invites in a school break. I invited my friends. Those who weren’t my friends didn’t get upset at all. They didn’t expect an invite. Back in my day full inclusion would have been seen as a wacky idea. It’s not real. It doesn’t teach anything about the real world. Inclusion says that even if you are a total jerk you’ll still be rewarded with party invites. No, wrong. You’re a git and because you’re a git you’re not getting invites.

I never understand this whole "invite the entire class to your kid's birthday" thing. When I was a kid we would only have our actual friends over for our birthdays, not the whole class. Unless it's a really tiny class, that seems ridiculous.

You don't have the right to invite who you want to come to your house???? What is that teacher smoking?

I'm still waiting for a valid explanation of what a little is. Please help out. Former bullied and teased child into teenager status. Thank you.

NTA, and report that "teacher".

So the bully’s parents even try to harass (bully) you into an invitation for their kid! Ugh, the audacity… 🤦🏻‍♀️Totally NTA!

NTA. Bullies shouldn't be invited to anyones parties, even their own. especially not people who they bully. she can invite who she likes, and if she likes everyone in the class apart from the bully, then it's only fair to invite everyone except the bully. I hope afterwards all of the guests talk a lot about what a great party it was and how much fun they all had, and make that nasty brat realise that it's their own fault they weren't invited.

NTA. The fact that the mother is feeling a bit guilty now shows how more thoughtful and humane she is than the bully's mother. While I understand this thing of inviting the whole class if you're handing invitations at school, it does seem like the mother did it as of spite to the bully, and the part of me who was bully and wants justice thinks it's great XD

How do you give invitations out at schools? Here (UK) you don't have your child's classmates emails or addresses so giving them out at school would be usual. Obviously you can do it without making a big show of it but it would be hard to hide.

Oh, dear, Li'lBullyGirl might just learn that actions have consequences. Golly gee darn.

I'm so sick of this, I keep reading about these classroom rules where a child has to invite everyone in the class to their birthday. No they don't! Some parents can't afford that kind of party and the child only wants their 3-4 close friends. Schools cannot dictate private functions off school property in the name of "hurt feelings"

NTA but agree don’t do it at school. If it was me, I would be reaching out to the bully’s parents again and being quite blunt about how problematic the bullying is. 6 years old, there’s enough time to inspire change in the child’s behaviour. Generally, they’re mimicking something or someone. Perhaps pointing that out would be a indirect way to assess if it’s coming from the parents

Is that teacher a moron or what. These events are meant for family and friends. Clearly that bully isn't a friend. More like an enemy at this point for her incessant jackassery. Dumb*ss parents should shoulder the fault no doubt. But it's not the victim that should be paying the price for these incompetent parents, at her own expense no less.

Is the teacher paying for the party? Is it the teacher's party? If not, then why do they get to decide who gets invited or not? To be honest, if the kid's bullying acts have been reported to the teacher before and they still say this, I'll be reporting the teacher to school administration asap.

What a stupid question to even ask.!!

I find it funny that someone thinks they have the right to tell someone else "you have no right" when it's an OUTSIDE EVENT NOT PART OF THE SCHOOL. The girl is a bully and she needs to learn NOW instead of letting it slide her whole life. NTA

"A little teasing" -- and this is why bullying continues. Too many (usually male) adults simply don't take it seriously.

"Can you state this into an email ? That would be easier for the school to fire you as soon as I tell them"

not the a🎨🎫🍞🍓🥭e because bullies do not deserve invites. If the bully shows uninvited, call the police.

Maybe handing out the invitations in front of the child was a bit harsh,but then sometimes it is ,when the shoe is on the other foot.I would be putting in a formal complaint about the teacher.It's people like that who are always the first to their offer "Thoughts and Prayers" when a bullied child suicides.As for the other Mum,if she approaches you tell her that no amount of Her bullying You is going to change your mind ,and to speak to you again once her kid has some counselling and after her AND her kid have apologized to your child.