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“It’s All For Show”: People Support Dad Taking Legal Action After Bullying Goes Too Far
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“It’s All For Show”: People Support Dad Taking Legal Action After Bullying Goes Too Far

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Depending on many factors, going to school can be an exciting experience for students, or it can feel like a terrible punishment that never ends. And often, it’s your classmates who have the biggest impact on whether you love or hate your education.

When it was brought to one dad’s attention that his daughter had been relentlessly tormented at school, he immediately informed administrators of the bullying. But they failed to do anything about it. So now, he wants to go a step further and ensure that the school, as well as the bully’s family, are held accountable. Below, you’ll find the full story that he recently posted on Reddit, as well as some of the replies concerned readers shared. 

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    This father has informed his daughter’s school many times that she’s being bullied

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    But because they haven’t done anything to stop it, he’s considering pursuing legal action

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    About one fifth of students have experienced bullying

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    We’ve all been told a thousand times that bullying is wrong. “Treat others how you want to be treated,” right? But for some reason, it’s still a prevalent issue, and it’s poisoning countless schools around the globe. According to StopBullying.gov, nearly 20% of students between the ages of 12 to 18 in the United States report that they’ve experienced bullying.

    Over 15% of these students say they’ve been tormented by a peer who was more powerful than them, and 14.5% say that the bullying has happened repeatedly. Bullying is more prevalent in middle schools than in high schools, as over a quarter of middle schoolers say they’ve been victims. But it’s certainly still a problem for older kids, as over 15% of high school students say they’ve been the targets of bullies.

    When it comes to who is bullying their peers, 56% of victims say that their bullies had the ability to influence what others thought of them at school. Over half of the bullies were also considered more popular than their victims. And 35% of bullied students assumed that their tormentors came from families that had more money than their own.

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    So where is this bullying taking place? The most common location is actually in the classroom, with school hallways and stairwells coming close behind. 

    The cafeteria is another popular choice for bullies, as well as outside on school grounds and over the internet or via text messages. Bathrooms and locker rooms are less common, but bullying does still occur in both locations, as well as in gyms and on school buses.

    Parents and administrators must work together to put an end to bullying

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    While some might assume that bullying is a rite of passage for students or that it “builds character,” it’s certainly not something that anyone deserves to experience. In fact, it can have lifelong effects on victims.

    The National Child Traumatic Stress Network reports that bullying can cause stress, anxiety and depression in victims, as well as anger, feelings of loneliness, isolation, low self-esteem, disruptions in sleeping and eating patterns, health complaints, poor relational skills and more. 

    Students that have been bullied are also more likely to avoid school or drop out, struggle with their academic performance, have separation anxiety, cause self-harm, struggle with an eating disorder and have suicidal or homicidal ideations.     

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    So what can parents and school administrators do to put an end to bullying and protect students? According to the Crisis Prevention Institute, the first step is having a clear definition for what exactly counts as bullying. It might also be helpful to simply remove labels like “bully” and “victim” and instead focus on addressing the behavior. 

    Students should have clear rules and expectations that are easy to enforce, and there must be consequences for when rules are broken. Good behavior can also be positively reinforced to encourage students to treat others more positively. It’s also helpful to engage parents and keep them informed about what’s going on at school. Kids aren’t in the classroom 24 hours a day, so it’s much more effective when teachers and parents are on the same team.

    We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. What do you think of this father’s plan? Then, if you’d like to check out another Bored Panda article discussing similar issues, look no further than right here.    

    Many readers supported the father and encouraged him not to back down

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    Bowtechie
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    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This like the legal version of "when someone shows you who they are, believe them". OP's instincts are spot on. The moment the threat of a lawsuit goes away, things will go right back to how they were. I'm all for OP going scorched earth and not just suing them, but making a media circus out of it too. Shame the ever living F**K out of these people. Their little girl is already going to have to deal with the anxiety this caused for the rest of her life. Time to hit back and hit HARD. (alright, is it obvious I never got closure with my own bullies lol?)

    XenoMurph
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's assault, plain assault, call the police and put it on Facebook so the police can't ignore it.

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    whineygingercat
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing to consider while pending legal actio n: these bullies travel in PACKS. These days, EVERY ONE OF THEM HAS A SMART PHONE. Somebody, or SEVERAL SOMEBODIES, RECORDED THE HAIR CUTTING. DEMAND the cell phones. Not just as evidence, but with the knowledge that if you don't, the video will end up on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok

    Mike Loux
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too true. I was bulled in school, and I would occasionally meet various people by themselves outside of school and they were perfectly pleasant and friendly. The mob rules.

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    Mike F
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read that post when it initially went up and my blood boiled. Those parents need to go a combo of nuclear and scorched earth on the lot of them. I would get the loudest, most vocal attorney (local of course so everyone knows them) and I wouldn't stop until the whole lot of them were forced to live in a camper (caravan for you Brits) and ride bicycles. I would go after the school administration until there was only a memorial plaque for them on wall then I'd take THAT down and spray paint over it. ⚡🔥

    Cee Cee
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    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We Brits know what a camper is and to us it's not the same as a caravan. Those can be towed, campers driven. As for this situation name and shame via the media ideally with a lawyer serving papers on the school. Fed up with mealy mouthed educators failing to deal with bullies.

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    Bowtechie
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    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This like the legal version of "when someone shows you who they are, believe them". OP's instincts are spot on. The moment the threat of a lawsuit goes away, things will go right back to how they were. I'm all for OP going scorched earth and not just suing them, but making a media circus out of it too. Shame the ever living F**K out of these people. Their little girl is already going to have to deal with the anxiety this caused for the rest of her life. Time to hit back and hit HARD. (alright, is it obvious I never got closure with my own bullies lol?)

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's assault, plain assault, call the police and put it on Facebook so the police can't ignore it.

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    whineygingercat
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing to consider while pending legal actio n: these bullies travel in PACKS. These days, EVERY ONE OF THEM HAS A SMART PHONE. Somebody, or SEVERAL SOMEBODIES, RECORDED THE HAIR CUTTING. DEMAND the cell phones. Not just as evidence, but with the knowledge that if you don't, the video will end up on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok

    Mike Loux
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too true. I was bulled in school, and I would occasionally meet various people by themselves outside of school and they were perfectly pleasant and friendly. The mob rules.

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    Mike F
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read that post when it initially went up and my blood boiled. Those parents need to go a combo of nuclear and scorched earth on the lot of them. I would get the loudest, most vocal attorney (local of course so everyone knows them) and I wouldn't stop until the whole lot of them were forced to live in a camper (caravan for you Brits) and ride bicycles. I would go after the school administration until there was only a memorial plaque for them on wall then I'd take THAT down and spray paint over it. ⚡🔥

    Cee Cee
    Community Member
    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We Brits know what a camper is and to us it's not the same as a caravan. Those can be towed, campers driven. As for this situation name and shame via the media ideally with a lawyer serving papers on the school. Fed up with mealy mouthed educators failing to deal with bullies.

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