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Mom Confronts ‘Karen’ After She Forces 6 Y.O.’s B-Day Party Guests To Give Up Their Build-A-Bears
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Mom Confronts ‘Karen’ After She Forces 6 Y.O.’s B-Day Party Guests To Give Up Their Build-A-Bears

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Growing up, your birthday was likely your favorite day of the year. But your friends’ birthdays could have been in your top ten as well. Because even though you weren’t the center of attention, you got to celebrate your besties with a party, eat delicious cake and, if you were lucky, go home with a fabulous party favor.

It’s pretty easy to keep kiddos satisfied during a party, but according to one mom, it’s also surprisingly easy to derail the entire event. Below, you’ll find a story that this mom shared on Reddit, detailing how a Build-a-Bear birthday took an unexpected turn, as well as a conversation with Amy Morrison, founder of Pregnant Chicken.

This mom attended a Build-a-Bear birthday party for her daughter’s friend

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But when it was revealed that the kids would not get to keep their creations, the partygoers were not happy

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Later, the mom provided an update after speaking to the birthday girl’s mother

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Birthday parties can be huge expenses for parents

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Being a parent is never easy, but planning special events, like kids’ birthday parties, can bring much more stress than the average day. Moms and dads want to ensure that their little ones have the most special days possible, while also creating a fun party for friends and ensuring that they spoil the birthday boy or girl without breaking the bank.

According to MarketWatch, parents tend to spend over $500 on their children’s first birthdays, and the average birthday party for a child costs parents around $400, excluding the cost of any presents they may buy. And in the UK, research has found that parents typically spend almost £5,000 on birthdays between the ages of 4 and 11.

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As far as what costs parents the most when it comes to celebrating their little ones, catering, hiring entertainment, paying for activities and ordering a cake are the most expensive aspects of throwing a birthday party. And while it may be cheaper to host the soiree at home, parents noted that home is actually the most stressful place to throw a party.

“Birthday parties celebrate a milestone in a child’s life, but also serve as teaching moments for being a good host and acting with grace”

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We reached out to parenting expert and founder of Pregnant Chicken, Amy Morrison, to hear her thoughts on this story, and she was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda. First, we wanted to know if Amy believes having a Build-a-Bear birthday party implies that kids will get to take home their creations. “I sure do. Anytime I’ve been to a child’s birthday party where there has been an activity for the kids to do – whether it’s ceramics, baking or building a stuffed animal – the kids take home their creation,” she explained.

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We also asked the expert if she thinks this party was a good idea in the first place. “I think it’s important to step back from the idea and ask yourself what everyone is getting out of this,” Amy shared. “To me, a birthday party is for someone to celebrate with the people they care about. Perhaps for others, it’s only to celebrate the person. What’s the message you want your child and their friends to take away from the celebration? Regardless of how this was communicated, I think it would be a hard sell to take away the bear that a kid’s been thoughtfully building during the party.”

As far as what makes a successful birthday party, Amy says her main goal is ensuring everyone has a good time without too much stress, including herself and the other parents. “I always appreciated parents who threw a low key ‘cake and chips’ party where the kids just got to hang out and play a few games or watch a movie,” she shared.

“Birthday parties celebrate a milestone in a child’s life, but also serve as teaching moments for being a good host and acting with grace,” Amy added. “I think the parents throwing this party missed the mark on this one.”

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While it can be tempting to spoil children, this can do them a disservice in the long run

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When it comes to having a Build-a-Bear party, such as the one referenced in this story, Build-a-Bear does have their own party packages that parents can book via their website. They also note that, “Each guest creates the best party favor ever — their own furry friend to bring home and love!” We can’t know for sure why the parents decided not to have a Build-a-Bear led experience for their child. Perhaps it was because they wanted all of the bears to go to their daughter, or maybe they suspected it would be less expensive to do it on their own. But on Build-a-Bear’s website, they note that parties start at £14, or $17, per guest. Considering that most of their “furry friends” cost upwards of £20, or over $24, the party might have actually saved them money.

It’s understandable for parents to want to give their children the best memories possible when it’s their birthday. But there’s a fine line between throwing an enjoyable day for all involved and spoiling the child a bit too much. According to Verywell Family, parents who overindulge their kids can create self-centered, greedy children who aren’t willing to be accountable for their actions.

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It may seem right in the moment to buy that expensive toy that your child wants or to allow them more screen time when they demand it, but this could be doing them a disservice in the long run. “Overindulged kids are less able to delay gratification, and that leads to materialism and ungratefulness,” Verywell Family explains.

We would love to hear your thoughts on this Build-a-Bear drama in the comments below, pandas. How would you have reacted if you had been in this mother’s situation? Feel free to share, and then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing birthday party drama, look no further than right here!

Readers shared their shock in the comments, and the mother responded with additional information about the situation

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Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea.

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SoraPlaysandReviews22
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t know but if this happened to a party my kid went to I’d have zero issue telling the mom no and immediately leaving with the bear 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m not going to avoid confrontation just so things aren’t awkward…especially if it results in my kid crying

Ron Baza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d like to think the same - but sometimes you’re just stupefied by how bizarre someone else’s behaviour is.

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Sivi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh god Karen is making sure their child will have no friends.

Seadog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the poster at the top said. she just guaranteed those kids won't come to another party for that child. And if it continues, you're 100% right, no friends. And can you imagine what kind of person she will grow up to be? Talk about raising a snowflake.

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TheDag
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how? I don't understand like how could your heart not break while telling the rest of the kids to give up their bears for your child. Its crazy to me how people seem to think these days

TheBlueBitterfly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She probably thinks her child *deserves* all the toys. One of those parents who think nothing of ripping a phone or tablet out of someone's hands because "little Khayeleigh wants to use it."

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SoraPlaysandReviews22
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t know but if this happened to a party my kid went to I’d have zero issue telling the mom no and immediately leaving with the bear 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m not going to avoid confrontation just so things aren’t awkward…especially if it results in my kid crying

Ron Baza
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d like to think the same - but sometimes you’re just stupefied by how bizarre someone else’s behaviour is.

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Sivi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh god Karen is making sure their child will have no friends.

Seadog
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the poster at the top said. she just guaranteed those kids won't come to another party for that child. And if it continues, you're 100% right, no friends. And can you imagine what kind of person she will grow up to be? Talk about raising a snowflake.

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TheDag
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how? I don't understand like how could your heart not break while telling the rest of the kids to give up their bears for your child. Its crazy to me how people seem to think these days

TheBlueBitterfly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She probably thinks her child *deserves* all the toys. One of those parents who think nothing of ripping a phone or tablet out of someone's hands because "little Khayeleigh wants to use it."

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