Brother should have broken up with her there and then. OP is taking heat for someone else keeping an a-hole like that around. 17 is not 4yrs old, which is the way she acted.

Girl has issues. It's good the OPs parents don't allow her in their home. They should impress on their teen son that he shouldn't be dating her after what she did. The OP is not obligated to forgive a teen girl of no relation that was a guest at her wedding for being disruptive and causing a scene. The girl has some sort of mental health issues if she thought this was an appropriate reaction to being told no.

I'm giving the brother serious side-eye for staying with this walking red flag.

Okay but can someone explain to me why everyone started leaving after this s**t went down? I mean, if it was in a venue there probably were quite many people - so what, everyone got so invested that their moods got spoiled? Or why? I really don't understand leaving only because of some stunt pulled by a random teenager... It sucks for the wedding couple :(

And once again the injured party is the one being asked to "keep the peace." GF *ruined* OP's wedding day; she is fully justified in her feelings.

I have PNES, not epilepsy, but my seizures are mainly brought on by high stress environments, and as someone who has extreme debilitating social anxiety, a wedding could potentially set one off for me, and if it did, you bet my butt would be apologizing for the disruption mid-seizure. (Which is possible, considering I remain conscious the whole way through my episodes) (And yes, they do hurt. And double yes, they still affect my memory)

For those who think she's holding on to a grudge, NO it's not that simple! She'd only been with the brother four months and despite this, she was invited and went on to ruin the whole day!! Wtaf? She will always want to be the center of attention and will do whatever she deems fit to accomplish it! Four f*****g months???? Who does that in front of a family she has barely met? The brother needs to drop her, because she won't ever like him going anywhere without her, and this will escalate and may become dangerous. The brother will see this eventually and until then, I wouldn't include her in any family events. This maybe what will make the brother see her for what she is. NTA but her and the brother are. I only hope he leaves her because she spirals. This behaviour doesn't go without serious help! I don't care if anyone thinks I'm blowing it out of proportion. I've seen enough stuff like this.

doesn't matter if she's 17 - when will you people learn? that your actions have consequences!

who fakes a seizure???

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Besides ruining the wedding reception, the other thing that really bothers me is the waste of first responder services when they might have really been needed elsewhere. I realize there were two paramedics attending the wedding, but additional resources were used, too.

Brother not his gf have made any moves towards making amends. They aren't sorry. No reason to move on. I can't believe brithe tdidnt break up with her, or that other family members interact with her.

Brother is a stupid kid and he's thinking with his "little" brain the one his hormones control. This girl is too ignorant to be allowed outside without a keeper. OP, no one can tell you how to feel. But the longer you hold on to this the longer it will own you. Stop giving this the real estate in your head. If you let the action go you'll feel better. You don't have to have anything to do with the idiot your brother is dating. You don't have to acknowledge her existence at all, and I wouldn't. She is a waste of space and air, let your brother deal with her.

Asking him if it's the same girl from the wedding LLLOOOOLLL. That's petty and I love it.

Sounds like a manipulative gf for your bro to deal with. I'd keep her iced out. Not worth her drama a they will be broken up before long anyway. Plan a family dinner to re celebrate your reception so everyone can enjoy it. An id be sure to ask if she's coming to any holiday stuff an make sure she's not allowed into it. Waste of emergency services. Feel bad people left because of her antics.

I'm really not sold on this one. MoH isn't there to enjoy the party, that's secondary. MoH is there to deal with, deflect decide, and if it happens take the metaphorical bullet for anything that may remotely distract the Bride from he special day. Same for the BM and the groom - at our reception I never thought to question why a few lads took me outside for a celebratory cigar even though you could smoke indoors back then.. Even if the MoH & BM turn out to be utterly useless, the girl's mum was there. Are we supposed to believe that she and every other person at the reception were so mind-blowingly incompetent that they just stood there looking like Dory from Finding Nemo, and the Bride was the only one capable of... shouting to the conveniently prepositioned paramedics who are both her cousins but also have a baby together ('murrica)? How come the Bride - who's name is obviously "Mary Sue" - was the only one who knew the number for 911, and even then had to be told to call it? No one-

Dang I hear banjo music when I was reading that story.

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If Im reading this right... wedding was a year ago, people left early and didnt end/last as long as she wanted. Blames the 17 y/o acting like a child for that and its been a year now. Yes. Get over it.