What i wanna know is how she expects to be "refunded" for something that is/was free....talk about entitled

You can’t coddle a phobia, what a heartless thing to say. If your child was crying and trembling every time he saw a snake you would be upset if someone brought one to his birthday party knowing they scare him, and you’d get them to leave not insist your child be exposed on a day he deserves more than ever to be happy and secure

So, if you don't invite the r*apist of your friend to an event, you are coddling her and exacebrating her trauma, right?

Since the child is very young the incident was likely very recent. I really don’t think people on here have a good understanding of trauma. PTSD and trauma wouldn’t exist if a little therapy could help so quickly and completely but it doesn’t, it can take a lifetime and sometimes never improve. Also therapy is far less effective the younger the child. It’s not the bride or the child’s fault he’s terrified of dogs and it’s weird that people say his trauma response is either of their fault (bride&stepson)

Millons of people have this problem and noone is entitled to act like OP.

Bruh, it’s literally the day his parents get married and it’s THEIR celebration. Some c**p cousin isn’t entitled to blow that up. She even offered to leave the dog at home if she could get sugar, but then brought him anyway with her sugar. That shows she COULD have left the dog home and set a freaking alarm on her phone to manage eating times, just like I do.

Nonsense, true phobias born from trauma are never easy to overcome, even with therapy. And every case is different. Trauma experienced in childhood is particularly lingering when tied in with developmental factors

If she has an actual assistance or service dog, then her concerns are legit. You can't get a service dog for no reason

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Completely agree with you

There would have been no interaction. A service dog on duty stays right with the person they are serving. That is how they are trained. Telling someone to leave behind a service animal is the equivalent of telling a person in a wheelchair that they cant bring it and have to go the day without. The bride should have been working on her toddler's fear of dogs for a long time before this, the service dog is her cousin's, he will be at a LOT of events with OP and the dog there, coddling is never helpful and a service dog is the best choice to do so with, because they literally wont move without thier patient's permission.

You do not understand what a service animal is and the way you view and treat disabled people is abhorrent. Disgraceful

Because she needed the dog

It's only forced if OP had constantly gone up to folks with the dog, which she didn't! Plus, the dog stayed put at her side, only barking when OP needed sugar. It was only when the toddler SAW the dog was when he began to cry. BTW, the bride is the toddler's MOM!! It was HER job to teach her toddler, especially when they go out in public and encounter animals of different kinds, including service animals!

The bride had two options to choose from by OP: either supply a steady supply of sugar for OP to make it (somewhat) through the wedding without her service animal, or her service animal comes along with her own supply of sugar. Since she chose neither, OP chose self. Or did you miss that part? Edit: for typo

A phobia is not as important to tend to as a life threatening health condition. Yes it sucks, yes it may cause panic attacks, but a health condition may end someone's life, a panic attack wont. And had the bride been a reasonable human, her son wouldn't havs followed her to the dog, as OP was trying to stay away from everyone else.

My first question is "What did that kid DO that caused that response from a dog?" Of course, I bet no adult was supervising the interaction either.

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I've need attacked by a dog and I still have the fear. But hey, let's let these people hate and diminish our experiences, because they want to feel right. I haven't seen anyone read the reddit original post. Basically, all health industry people called B's on the OP and she stopped letting people comment, once those started rolling in. And now here, all I've seen hate towards kids (usual for Internet and their hatred for helpless little people) and being insensitive towards phobias. But their kid phobia doesn't count, because, ya know, they are special. Makes me heated

She neededed the dog though for her health so being told not to bring it says they don't care if she passed out

The dog is considered under the law a piece of medical equipment, so you can't prevent access for a form of medical equipment like this, do your research.

Then you don't know much about executive dysfunction, time blindness, eating disorders, and disassociation. I routinely forget to eat until I'm dizzy and having stomach pains. I'm also usually severely dehydrated. And I only have 3 of those 4 problems. This is very common.

With diabetics there are physical symptoms with which the body gives you the heads up, for lack of a better term, to say that your blood sugar is getting worryingly high or dangerously low and that system is what you're taught to pay extremely close attention as not doing so will land you in a diabetic coma, followed by your death as your organs shut down. With the illness that the OP has, it's that warning system that doesn't work. So they won't get symptoms like uncontrolled trembling, feeling dizzy and nauseous, sweating and rapid temperature fluctuations, or issues with blurred, narrowed or entire loss of vision because their blood glucose levels dropped. This isn't something a person can just be a hypochondriac about and the only reason that she's having to "create a scene" is because the bride thinks that it is ok to risk a woman's life because she deemed her dietary requirements as unhealthy choices made for no reason, not what OP has to do to not become sick or die.

WTF, I have a physical disability, it's people like you that make people with illness and disabilities so much harder, too me she was trying to have a life, why should she be constantly worried or making allowances for petty childish people like her cousin who is pathetic, petty and selfish, why does OP have to reduce her life and constantly tailor her life around her relatives because they are A**hats? Can you answer this to me.

Medical conditions like this mean your body doesnt produce (enough) sugar that can allow you to go days with out. ADHD especially extreme forms can have you forget stuff like eating or bathing. OP did NOT make any scene. The dog was laying down quite while they did their setup. No guest complained. Only bridey made a scene.