You’d think the mere fact that a friendship lasts 25 years can be a testament to mutual loyalty and respect.

But as the story of Mumsnet forum user Poshpaddington shows, numbers mean nothing. It’s how you treat each other that matters. And when her bestie’s wedding was approaching, the woman crossed too many lines.

From hair extensions to shoes and even a hotel room, as the bride’s list of demands grew longer and longer, so did Poshpaddington’s doubts about their relationship.

This woman was asked to be her best friend’s bridesmaid

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But the role came with an ever-increasing set of demands

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Image credits: Poshpaddington

The relationship feels very much one-sided

It’s true, there’s a lot of pressure when it comes to organizing a wedding. The venue has to be beautiful, the music must hit all the right notes, and the photos have to come out sharp.

But reading the story, the bride still sounds excessive. You may have even asked yourself why the author of the post would accept such behavior in the first place.

Well, Dr. Stephen Betchen, who specializes in marriage and family therapy, says that many of us are in the position of being mistreated by (someone they consider to be) a friend.

Part of the reason might stem from our formative years. “If you tolerate friendship abuse, there’s a good chance your threshold for other types of abuse is high,” Betchen explains. If we have suffered from any form of abuse in our youth, we’re more at risk of seeking it out and staying in it as an adult.

Also, “If you have a fear of being alone or of being on your own, you’re more likely to have trouble letting go of even the most negative person in your life,” the therapist adds.

Many people who have experienced loss or abandonment as kids hang on in an effort to cope with or repair a childhood loss.

Whatever the case might have been, the author of the post did bring up her worries about the preparation for the ceremony. If her bestie had valued the relationship as much as she did, most likely, they could have pivoted towards a new and better dynamic. But the bride repeatedly refused to empathize with her.

“True friendships are built on interdependence,” therapist Sam Louie writes. “It’s not one way but a relationship where both can rely on each other as needed. Healthy friends also do not exploit or manipulate others into always caring for their emotional needs.”

And people picked up on it. So it’s probably no surprise that many reactions to the post had a suggestion attached to them to not even attend the wedding.

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People who read the story have been absolutely appalled by the bride’s behavior

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