I’ve never visibly and audibly gasped at a bored panda post as much as i just did, jesus christ help me. what a psychopath. and the parents!! ‘she’s just edgy’ wtf! did they laugh?? that’s f*****g disgusting

I can’t even find any way to explain why a person would do such a thing. I’ve tried. The only explanation I can create is she must be suffering mentally. That’s actually horrific, honestly.

Being edgy ≠ being an a*****e.

Sister obviously did not think much less care that she would hurt feelings by her supposed "prank". Not funny. Especially that her only response was "it's not like it's her actual sister". I mean this is rises way beyond bullying to cruelty and the fact she doesn't see that is a huge red flag. Her family justifying her behavior is ridiculous. She has somehow gotten everyone but op convinced she did nothing wrong. As it's been said, I think she legit may have some mental health issues that make her feel this was warranted but I don't care how much you don't like someone you don't do this. TL/DR: Sister is AH, OP is NTA.

I'm always blown away by how often the parents or extended family take the side of the a*****e in these stories. I don't get how shitty your parents have to be to tell YOU to get over it. If I were her father I would tell her she should skip this wedding as a sign of respect and contrition for the horrible, despicable, unempathetic piece of s**t thing she did.

I went from confused to shocked in 0.5 seconds.

And her parents, "You know she likes to be edgy..." For starters that's not edgy, it's tasteless and mean. And the reason she keeps acting like that is because they allow her to.

The sister is like Cinderella’s stepsisters

Not just uninvited, blocked until she apologizes & grows the hell up. It's your wedding,. Tell the family they're also blocked as long as they continue to take her side

This woman is very odd. Obviously not quite right in the head. It‘s sooo unfunny that i believe, she wanted to hurt. She could fly to the moon, what would i care, but WHY is the whole family not going to the wedding?? Or am i misunderstanding something?They should buy that bloody woman‘s ticket to the moon!!! Betrayal!!

I would 💯agree with you. Your sister is not ten though her behavior clearly was. It was in such poor taste, insensitive and juvenile. Your fiance on the other hand ....pure class. Your sisters conduct is also a gross disrespect to her brother. If you don't put down Your boundaries now with your sister get ready for more of the same of your sister publicly shaming your fiance. She needs to grow the hell up. Dude stand your ground and move away if you can.

😳she did what!? 🤦🏾‍♀️call me highly irrational, but I would've kicked her a*s if I was the fiance 🤷🏾‍♀️

sadly, no one taught her about the consequences of her actions. good for you.

I remember this Prudie column from when it was first published and I audibly gasped at the skeleton revelation like I did just now when I read it again. It reminded me of Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka's Halloween party in 2011 where they served a meat platter, gruesomely displayed as a rotting human corpse, but they labeled it "Amy Winehouse". It was three months after her death. There are some things that are just not funny, nor kind or even necessary. These are two examples.

Let's normalize not standing up for toxic family members and stop making the people who stand up for their significant others the bad guy for setting up boundaries. That kind of behavior should never be tolerated so well done to this guy for standing his ground and speaking up for his fiance!

What the c**p is wrong with people? This was far out of the realm of funny, I don't know what to think. This is going to bother me for days. As much as I love my family, if this had happened to me there would be no fixing this ever. No amount of apologizing, no amount of money, or anything else could ever make it right or wipe the slate clean. If she asked for my forgiveness I would forgive her. But she'd have to take that and go on her merry way. If she never asked for forgiveness, I'd spend the rest of my life asking the Lord to ease my hard heart against my sister and pray for an answer.

It seems like she has a serious psychological condition o.o

I applaud you standing firm. I would at least not have the sis be a bridesmaid in the wedding anymore. She needs to learn that actions carry consequences. Though I applaud your bride for being so forgiving you definitely found a keeper.

You. Are. Not. Wrong.

I would've taken a step further and publicly disown the heartless brat. I'd say something like "I don't want the shame and dishonor of being related to someone like you, (sister's name). You are a cruel, heartless, cynical, entitled brat that should have been a miscarriage instead of plaguing this world with your awful presence." I may sound extreme, but unfortunately, that's exactly what I'd do.

What an absolute biitch

Stand up for yourself. I'm sorry that happened to you. Families that play favorites never change. You need to be your own hero sometimes.

That was like a middle schooler trying to be funny! I'm glad that your fiance even said it was just a prank gone wrong because I'm sure inside she was crushed. If you or your fiance decide she can attend, I think she should only be a guest not part of the wedding party. If this is the hill you choose to die on, then stick to your guns. I don't think any of us would blame you but you do what's right for you and your fiance. You are not the AH so don't even worry about that part !

It sounds like she’s been doing whatever she wants to her whole life, and you’ve finally had enough. Other people in your family may come to feel the same way you do after her next “prank.” Be open to reconciling with them. Because being under a narcissist’s thrall is a powerful thing, and that’s what this sounds like. Triangulation, gaslighting, etc. Do some research on narcissistic behavior and see if it sounds familiar (or borderline personality disorder, or even sociopathic tendencies, it’s all the same spectrum). My brother is a narcissist, and being in contact with him can be exhausting.

She's obviously mentally ill

STAND F R E A K I N G FIRM

Let's assume for second that it was actually a prank gone wrong/bad assessment of how it would be taken. For the same of the argument let's assume that. But she isn't sorry. She said to get over it. That's not someone that deserves forgiveness

That is disgusting and horrifijng and I’m so GLAD OP stood firm!

Your 'sister' is Joffrey Baratheon.

20 is plenty old enough to understand how insensitive that would be, so I don't see how anyone could say it was a childish joke. That's not a prank... It's cruel and wildly inappropriate. I think he's got a pretty sh*tty family for even suggesting he let it go.

I'll bet skeleton girl is a substance abuser. The legal & illegal drugs that are in play in the lives of many is astonishing.. A friend's daughter, on prescribed anti-depressants from her early teens, had had frequent mini-psychotic episodes by the time she was 21, including assaulting a police officer in a city street. It was destroying her life. She's fine now after being carefully weaned off all of the chemicals. It took a couple of years but now she a normal, sober girl whose family is getting to know her for the first time in years. And if a person on prescribed mind drugs also smokes pot or uses alcohol, then you have the potential for some dreadful, grotesque behaviour. All this talk of narcissism and personality disorder...can we first eliminate substance abuse/misuse as a cause of toxic conduct before going to mental illness? I believe that proper studies would show that generational drug & alcohol use are, in many cases, inseparable from narcissism and personality disorders.

this makes me so effing mad, op should fake their death than roll in on a wheelchair w/ a skeleton on their lap. but im just petty like that

Tell your family your sister can come if she has a mental health assessment and in patient treatments for her OBVIOUS disorders.

OMG, what a horrible thing to do! I cannot believe anybody would say, gee, it's just a joke. Stand firm, you are right.

wth people actually do this?

That is borderline evil. Stick to your guns.

NTA don't forgive her or let your sister come, stay firm, that's in very bad taste

What an evil b*tch! If the bride wants him to give in, then do what she wants. However she should NOT have her be in the wedding. She can attend like a guest. Seat her at a table far away for the reception. NOT at the family table!!!!

Unforgivable 😡

If I had a fiance and someone did that to them, I think that person would be joining the relative.

You are NOT the bad guy kid! Very proud of you for taking your fiancées side. It’s despicable what was done!

How horrible & you're right to not accept such horrific behavior.

There is no way I would let this go. Can you imagine what this spoiled brat would do throughout their lives. I would sit my fiance down and say thank you for your live and understanding, however I cannot allow her to disrespect you and your family this way. This is a deal breaker for me and I would never forgive myself for allowing this to pass with no repercussions. Trust me, I love you way too much for this nonsense, and let it go. Your parents can attend it not as they wish. So can your sister if she is truly contrite when she apologizes to you, your fiance and her family.