Woman Sets Her Wedding Date A Day After Her Best Friend’s Ceremony, Guests Decline Her Invitation
Unfortunately, the acronym www has been in use for more than three decades, so I definitely can’t use it to refer to ‘Weird Wedding Wonders,’ which is exactly how we can classify stories like this one that we’re going to tell you today.
Well, it’s one thing when one of the newlyweds loses their nerve right at the ceremony or immediately after it – after all, this is not only a big day, but also a big stress. But the user u/2014olympicgold is telling us about wedding planning. Okay, about some bizarre wedding planning…
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The author of the post got engaged 2 years ago and they appointed their wedding to September 2024 in advance
Image credits: Burak Kağan Güneş (not the actual photo)
One of the bride-to-be’s friends was invited to be the maid of honor – and she accepted this invitation happily
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Then, last year, the future MOH got engaged too – and unexpectedly set her own wedding for the very next day after the author’s
Image credits: Irina Iriser (not the actual photo)
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Moreover – the second bride invited the author’s fiancée to be her maid of honor too!
Image credits: Liza Summer (not the actual photo)
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However, the author’s girlfriend strongly rejected the invitation, and most of their mutual friends RSVP’d No to the second wedding in a row as well
Well, the Original Poster (OP) and his fiancée got engaged back in May 2022, and appointed their wedding for September 2024. Long-term planning, after all, has its advantages – for example, less competition for a wonderful wedding venue, doesn’t it?
So, the wedding was scheduled, the venue was chosen, and the bride-to-be even invited one of her friends to be MOH at the upcoming ceremony. The author notes that he had not liked this friend for a long time, and he clearly expected some kind of trick from her. Well, that’s what happened…
So, in 2023, the MOH-to-be got engaged herself – and what a surprise for the OP’s fiancée when, firstly, it turned out that her best friend’s wedding was scheduled for the day after her own ceremony; secondly, the venue was located about an hour’s drive from the author’s venue; and thirdly, the author’s girlfriend also received an offer to become the maid of honor!
Of course, the woman was forced to refuse such a high honor – well, simply because, as you yourself understand, the next morning after your wedding, you will obviously have other plans than attending another nuptials! Moreover, other guests were also faced with a choice (and the women had lots of mutual friends). And, of course, they made a choice in favor of the wedding scheduled earlier.
Oh yes, and some kind of icing on the cake – the original poster says that the second bride is going to invite the same photographer and florist to her wedding whom his partner chose for their own nuptials too. In general, it definitely looked like parasitizing someone else’s ceremony. And, to paraphrase the good old movie Casablanca, “I think this is the ending of a beautiful friendship…”
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“To be honest, this has never happened in my extensive professional practice,” says Denis Tsikanovsky, a wedding host from Tel-Aviv, Israel, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment over this case. “Planning two weddings in a row per se is associated with many organizational difficulties, and if the guest audience is pretty much the same, then refusals are inevitable.”
“Well, it’s hard to imagine that the bride, literally the next day after her own wedding, instead of going on her honeymoon, will change clothes for the second ceremony a few hours later. An unfortunate decision – that’s all that can be said about the very idea of having a second wedding for a second day in a row,” Denis concludes.
Well, many of the commenters on the original post are also perplexed as to how such a thing could even occur to the second bride. “She wants everyone to be hungover at her wedding?” one of the folks in the comments thought quite reasonably. “She’s being extremely selfish but it will only be in her own detriment.”
Many commenters also sincerely believe that the matter is simple envy. “This woman is jealous of the attention she thinks your partner is getting,” someone aptly presumed. “This is not a friend, did she really think everyone would jump ship from your wedding to do hers?” another person in the comments added.
This suggests a logical decision on the part of the second bride (well, ‘logical’ is not a proper word for a person making up such an idea, but still…) And yes, in the update under the original post, the author wrote that the ‘best friend’ ended up moving her wedding a month earlier – to August. The bride tried to put a good face on the bad game, telling the guests that it was an ordinary mistake, but the OP’s fiancée still said that she would not be at that wedding. And, perhaps, it was right of her to do so. So what do you think?
Most of the commenters criticized the second bride heavily, assuming it could be banal envy in her head
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Well she made her bed and now she'll have to lay in it. This is what a former 'friend' of ours would do. He constantly staged difficulties where none needed to be, like scheduling his birthday on easter weekend to see if people would choose him or their families, or intentionally coming too late to see who would wait for him, or botching plans to see who would 'swing' with it, like buying one frozen pizza for a movie night with 8 friends. Stuff like that only to 'test' his friends if they were 'true friends'. He accidentally blurted it out one time when he was very tired, before that he'd pretend he was just confused or forgot or he hadn't thought of something etc. I then answered him, that he had great friends who'd constantly accommodate him because they loved gim and thought he was just scatterbrained, but he was an absolute a$$hole and didn't deserve any friends. It was the last time I included him in anything or accepted any invitation were he was invited too.
A female spouse-to-be is a fiancée. "Fiancé" refers to a male.
A friend of mine set their date and booked the venue. The wedding was in a city about 1hrs flight or 8hrs drive away from their home town. His sister then got engaged about 6 months later. And she went and set her wedding date to the EXACT same day as her brothers’, except the venue she booked was back in the home town. And it’s not like there was any bad blood between them. They were quite close siblings. Their mom actually attended both.
Well she made her bed and now she'll have to lay in it. This is what a former 'friend' of ours would do. He constantly staged difficulties where none needed to be, like scheduling his birthday on easter weekend to see if people would choose him or their families, or intentionally coming too late to see who would wait for him, or botching plans to see who would 'swing' with it, like buying one frozen pizza for a movie night with 8 friends. Stuff like that only to 'test' his friends if they were 'true friends'. He accidentally blurted it out one time when he was very tired, before that he'd pretend he was just confused or forgot or he hadn't thought of something etc. I then answered him, that he had great friends who'd constantly accommodate him because they loved gim and thought he was just scatterbrained, but he was an absolute a$$hole and didn't deserve any friends. It was the last time I included him in anything or accepted any invitation were he was invited too.
A female spouse-to-be is a fiancée. "Fiancé" refers to a male.
A friend of mine set their date and booked the venue. The wedding was in a city about 1hrs flight or 8hrs drive away from their home town. His sister then got engaged about 6 months later. And she went and set her wedding date to the EXACT same day as her brothers’, except the venue she booked was back in the home town. And it’s not like there was any bad blood between them. They were quite close siblings. Their mom actually attended both.
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