Was the cat really "dropped off" or was that a cover because he or his friend did something to the cat for scratching the car? She spent a month looking for the cat and he just let her without a word or a regret?

What a 🤬monster! You can't just get rid of someone's cat without telling them, but if you're going to be an AH, at least drop the cat off at a shelter, not in the woods. If you're going to have a cat know that cats gonna cat and cats scratch! I really hope the cat is ok and living a good life hunting squirrels, or was found. This is awful! Also, please don't declaw a cat. I have a cat who was declawed by whoever had her before and I feel so bad for her. She still goes through the motions of scratching and it's so sad. She just wants to destroy everything I own and she can't! Not to mention she has trouble gripping and and playing and her paws are sensitive. And if she gets outside (she's an indoor cat) and lost, she can't defend herself. I get the appeal, and her paws are soft, but don't do it!

This wouldn't be a wait around for a month and then end the engagement moment, this would be an immediate relationship ender. The callousness of his behavior is insane.

That $hitbag dumped a poor animal, alone, to likely starve, which is a miserable way for a creature to die. I would end up in jail if anyone did this to one of my pets. That man needs a serious a*s beating.

Do you happen to have his current address....asking for a friend!

Good you called it off. That was an inhumane thing to do

Good job calling this off. He could have apologized all day I still would not want to be with someone who is capable of just abandoning a pet.

In the UK this guy could have been prosecuted for doing that. Should have been. And in all my years of cat and car ownership I've never once had any of them scratch a car. .. .. .. Quite bizarre the number of responses saying the cat shouldn't be let out - obviously there are some places/environments where it may not be safe to do so but the vast majority of cats globally have some level of freedom to come and go, inside and out. It's what pet doors were invented for and is perfectly normal (and safe).

That's so sad. Your ex's friend is to blame for a large part of it and your ex clearly put his friend's needs above yours. Your ex and his friend didn't have the right to manipulate you and treat you that way. I currently own my first cat as a pet and I could see how heartbreaking that situation would be. I would've probably moved out as well

What in the ever loving f**k

If he did that to a cat, imagine what he would do to a colicky or teething infant.

The wedding would've been called off due to the funeral.

I would instantly discard an S.O. if I found out that they were the sort of person who could do such a thing and feel justified in it, much less actually did it. All respect and trust would be gone. I would feel like I was standing in the presence of something inhuman; twisted and evil.

Being cruel or abusive towards animals is a major warning. The police here in the Netherlands will investigate for domestic abuse too if they get an animal cruelty situation. Why? Because it goes together so often.▪️▪️▪️ Abusers can only keep their mask on for so long. When the mask starts to drop it's animals first and humans next. I know, because I've been in a situation like that. I first noticed that the cat was afraid of my ex, and several weeks later he turned on me. I was lucky to get away quickly, and I got great support from the police and family.

A housecat didn't cause that damage.

Yeah, that POS would have had his manhood removed by scissors that same night. If he got medical attention fast enough, it wouldn't be fatal. Just swing by the store and buy a brand new sharp pair, and put them to good use.

Gurrl, you know you aren't the AH here. You dodged a bullet. even if you lost every cent of your wedding budget, you came out ahead not being legally tied to this bratty man-child.

Lol at poll - is animal abuse a red flag? See just about any serial killer for answers there.

Thank heavens they never had children. I would be on edge constantly, afraid my child would displease ex and dropped off at firehouse or hospital. You may think this is BS but think about ex's solution to a scratch on car. Spilled drink, vomit, pee...

I'da dropped his a*s off in the woods somewhere tied to a tree with honey poured all over him.

Anyone who gets to know me knows that I greatly prefer cats, any cats, to people. If by some fluke I did meet someone and they ever hurt my cat, I would go scorched earth on that entire relationship. Nothing would be off limits. Scorched. Fecking. Earth.

Abandoning somebody else's pet?

Why do people write stuff like this online and add unnecessary details. Who cares why she needed a new garbage can or that she spent time looking for it. It's not important to the story. If you want to embellish, at least do it in an entertaining way. I didn't get past the first two paragraphs.

He didn't give her cat away, or give it to a shelter. He dumped it in a park to fend for itself. Why would anyone stay with a person who would do this to an animal they loved? He's clearly a complete a*****e.