The MIL needs a lot of therapy. Also, a sense of humor. And, y'know, a restraining order maybe.

I'd wear a firetruck red dress just to stand out like a flippin beacon! MIL can do one!

BRIDE spreading FAKE NEWS!!! This day was YUUGE for MIl, and made the BIGGLIEST effort to let BRIDE PARTICIPATE!!! I DEMAND a judge declare this A FAKE WEDDING and that the MIL is REAL BRIDE. She would be MOST STABLE GENIUS MOM-WIFE in HISTORY!!!

I love this! The bride didn't take away her shine. MIL had no shine to begin with. MIL is confusing shine with malignant narcissism.

For those saying the husband needs to set boundaries, how do we know they haven't been set? Is the husband supposed to stop MIL from buying perfume? a car? We don't know if the husband's reaction was to disinvite her or not. What we know is the couple came up with a gracious way to have MIL present without upstaging the bride. Husband kept the colors secret. He had his wife's back. I love it when people can politely and graciously put rude people in their place.

I think what she did was awesome. But her MIL wears her perfume, buys the same car, wears a wedding gown, sounds to me like mom wants to marry son. Talk about needing therapy. With a majorly large T!!!!

It's not her day, it was never her day, it was never going to be her day. She has a disgusting Jocasta complex and needs psychiatric help.

MIL can be happy that she didn't get uninvited for her s**t. OP did a great job, so NTA! her aunt should google the word bully once more before calling OP one. if there is a bully it's clearly MIL

I won't EVER get how anyone could dress in a colour/style not-really-suitable for a wedding without bride's and groom's approval (I mean: dress which is black, white or 'too original' in any way). When my beloved only sister was getting married (I was maid of honour but in Poland there are no maids who are supposed to get a specific colour of a dress), I had a hard time finding anything I liked - I really hate shopping and nothing fits me like, ever, I have no sense of style at all and I usually wear black clothes which I knew would look odd in the middle of the summer and didn’t even consider it. Every single dress I tried I sent to her a picture from a changing room so that she would approve - she wanted me to look and feel good in whatever I chose. In the end I bought longer white dress with black dots for the wedding and ultra-mini red dress for the party (which I guess wouldn't be appropriate in the church and even though I'm atheist I didn't want to make people uncomfortable). She agreed to both of them and encouraged me to buy them but STILL! I consulted my mum and aunt too so that I was sure it would really be OK. If any of my girls said the dress is not appropriate - I wouldn't buy it even if I'd have to spend another 5 hours looking for a dress/dresses. It shocks me that ANYONE could wear sth controversial for someone else's wedding out of spite...

I LOVE THIS! I would have contacted guests and asked them all to wear white as well. Imagine a sea of white with the bride in a blush pink bridal gown and the groom in a light grey suit with a blush vest and crisp white shirt. What a beautiful way to make the bride and groom stand out on their special day while really putting MOTG in her place.

So creepy that she wants to copy you. Just, eww. I want my son to see and smell his wife when I see him. Eww. My mother's wedding dress was pink, I don't get the white thing. But his mother! Cut the umbilical cord, and stop trying to compete with his chosen MATE. Can I say EWWW, one more time. Go NC with her if you need to.

That bride was ingenious! Way to go! I know her husband is trying to have her back with mixed results. He really should set her straight i.e. no more Valentine's Mom Day. Wtf is that?!

One of the greatest things I've ever heard. Be warned this will continue through your entire marriage. She will continue to try to overstep and just wait until grandbabies come along. Stand your ground.

MIL needs serious help. Imagine what her life must be like. This bride did something beautiful. It wasn’t mean at all. She was given a chance to shine and didn’t recognize it.

MIL sounds jealous of OP, with all the copycatting

OP is not the assh*le, MIL is. I think the pink wedding dress and white bridesmaid dresses are a nice, creative touch…and a perfect revenge scheme.

Love it! NTA... I know all weddings say the focus is on the bride for me the special day is the couple that is getting married not just one person. The MIL needs help big time. Make those boundaries now before the children are born.

"Whats the problem? I went out of my way to make sure you could wear a dress you were in love with. I don't see why you're so upset."

My daughter had a boyfriend who's mother insisted on doing everything with them. Eventually the broke up. Stand your ground. She needs some serious counselling.

Hey, you let her wear what she wanted on "her" big day! LOL. You were perfect in your response. Good for you. And, if you end up having a baby someday, don't invite her to the shower. She is a MIL-ZILLA.

It wasn't a mistake to allow her to come bridal gown shopping because she revealed her "true" colors and let you know that she was planning to wear white as well. Image how she would have ruined your wedding had you not known what she was about to do???

I don't know what a pikachu face is, but it's not important. The wedding party must have looked very smart and a bride in pink must have made for beautiful photos. Excellent choices all around.

It was around 1840 when white wedding dresses became popular fashion because Queen Victoria did it. Before then they were more colorful, society needs to bring it back. I'd rather have a colorful dress, I don't look good in plain white it washes me out. Dark colors compliment me better.

Good luck and God bless you as you embark on your bumpy ride. You seem like you will handle it well though. Serious boundaries must be set up NOW though. For instance, if she insist on vacations, make it a weekend with his mother and your parents. And the Valentines Day date. Make that a hard NO. Your husband can have dinner with her on February 15, which is National Side Chick Day. Lastly if you are called mean names by his mother and aunt don't get angry(that would be hard not to do) just say I'm sorry you feel that way. YANOTTAH!!!

Sadly this sounds like a doomed marriage, that MIL is going to be nothing but problems unless her husband grows a pair and tells his mother to back off and out.