There are moments when our friends make decisions that leave us puzzled. We might love them dearly, but we certainly don’t always agree with their choices. Regardless, we do what friends do: we voice our opinions, even if they differ, and ultimately support them. They’re our people, and we’ll always have their backs.

This Redditor, however, found herself in a bind with her friend’s relationship choices. One, in particular, she wasn’t the biggest fan of. When her BFF asked for her input on her fiancé’s behavior, the Redditor did what came naturally – offered her honest opinion, which unfortunately backfired.

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Supportive friends can’t stay silent forever, especially if a partner seems detrimental

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The poster found herself in a fix after giving her two cents on her friend’s partner, which ended the engagement

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Whilst planning the wedding, the fiancé and his mother took over, shutting down every decision the bride-to-be made

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Tired of dealing with this behavior, she sought advice from the author who suggested she test her fiancé

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This did not end well for the bride-to-be as the fiancé called off the wedding after she claimed she and her family were broke

The Original Poster (OP) is caught in the crossfire after a suggestion to her recently engaged friend Leila backfired. Leila has been engaged to Steven for a short period, despite a five-year relationship marked by controlling behavior and materialism on Steven’s part. The author has expressed concern about Steven’s character, and the way he treats her.

Tensions escalated when Steven prioritized his own desires over Leila’s for their honeymoon. This, coupled with controlling behavior from his parents, led to a tearful Leila seeking advice from the OP and another friend.

While one friend suggested a family meeting, the author proposed a more drastic approach – telling Steven that Leila’s family had lost their fortune. The intent was to expose any ulterior motives Steven might harbor. Leila, under pressure, went along with the lie.

The plan backfired spectacularly. Steven promptly called off the wedding, leaving Leila devastated and blaming Sarah for the failed relationship.

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Looking out for a friend can be a tricky tightrope to walk. We want to support their choices but also be honest when we have concerns. The author, in this case, clearly cared about her friend Leila and her well-being. However, the attempt to expose potential gold-digging motives through an elaborate lie backfired.

“We all have our tastes in people, and since you don’t get to choose who your friends get together with, there’s always a chance they could land with someone you wouldn’t have chosen for them yourself.” Verywell Mind pointed out.

“We all have traits we prefer in people, but they might be different from our best friends—even if you’re super close. Whether your friend’s partner is new or the situation is long-term, hanging out with someone you don’t like always kind of sucks. It can be especially frustrating if you have concerns over your friend’s relationship dynamic—i.e. you think their partner isn’t treating them right—and make the situation all the more hair-raising.”

One reason you might not like your friend’s partner is because of how they’re treating your friend. If you suspect abuse or even treatment that looks like it could potentially become abuse, the right step will likely be to talk to your friend about it. Friendships can help protect others from abusive situations.

While the author’s plan backfired, it’s important to consider the urgency of the situation and her genuine concern for Leila. Leila’s controlling fiancé, Steven, displayed red flags throughout their five-year relationship. The author likely felt a strong sense of responsibility to protect her friend from potential unhappiness, especially after the honeymoon incident.

The elaborate lie may not have been the best course of action, but it stemmed from a desire to expose a fundamental truth: Did Steven truly love Leila, or was there a materialistic motive behind his commitment? In a way, the author created a scenario where Steven could reveal his true colors, even if it meant potentially upsetting the relationship.

Anyway, what do you think? Did the author go too far? Were there alternative ways to approach the situation? Let’s hear your thoughts in the comments.

People in the comments sided with the author, praising her for watching over her friend

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