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Bride Doesn’t Include Wedding Dinner Price In Her Wedding Invites, Is Surprised To See Many Guests Canceling On Her After They Find Out
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It’s entirely up to the newlyweds what their most awaited day in life is gonna be like. But often, they do surprise their guests and not necessarily in a good way with the decisions they make. Like, asking their guests after they already RSVPed to pay for their meals and not understanding why the guests suddenly feel uncomfortable.
Well, this is exactly what happened to one anonymous guest who “received the most beautiful wedding invitation and responded well before the deadline with our choice for dinner and space for two.” The author wrote that a couple of days later, they received a follow-up voice message thanking them for responding and asking them to pay $75 per food per person.
Now the confused guest wants to ask people if “anyone has heard of this happening?” adding that this is not a destination wedding. Scroll down through the whole story below and be sure to share what you think of the incident in the comment section!
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Recently, one confused wedding guest shared how they responded to invitation ahead of the deadline, requested a plus one, and selected their meal options
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Then, they received a follow-up voice message thanking them for the RSVP and requesting a $150 fee for the food they’re going to eat, which was not indicated before
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“I honestly never heard any bride and groom asking their guests to pay for their food,” Aurelie Della Maggiore, the luxury wedding planner and event designer at Lucy Till French Weddings, told Bored Panda.
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She added: “That’s also not something I will recommend to my client to do. If you don’t have the budget to afford a wedding dinner, then my advice will be to cut the guest numbers and to a have a intimate wedding, or to do a stand-up cocktail instead of a formal served dinner to try to cut the costs down.”
Aurelie also said that “if you plan to have your guests pay for something at your wedding, such as transportation or extra activities, I will recommend adding that information into your wedding website but maybe not into the formal invitation.”
And this is how people reacted to the whole incident
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GirlFriday Premium 2 years ago
My niece was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and she happily said yes because she is close to the couple. The next week, she and the rest of the wedding party got an email from the bride and groom with what they would be expected to spend. First and foremost was that each member of the bridal party was to pay $2,500 for "the privilege of being in the wedding" and it went on from there with the expected costs of dresses, tuxes, $1,000 each for the cost of the bachelor and bachelorette parties, gifts of no less than $250 for the engagement party and $500 for the reception, etc. She called the bride and asked if it was a joke. When she was assured it wasn't, niece noped right the eff out of the bridal party.
- 2 years ago
$2,500 admission? Wow. That's a corporate merger, not a marriage! And "privilege"??? Are they celebrities who shall remain unnamed or just legends in their own minds?
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Linda Powder 2 years ago
I wouldn't even pay that to attend the wedding of a favorite celebrity, never mind a couple of peasants, nobodies. Screw that.
LH25 2 years ago
Good for your niece. I can't even with the demand for that much money to just be in the wedding.
Lisa Murray 2 years ago
I agree the next thing you know the bride would be reaching out again. "To all those who payed for my wedding, this is for the divorce, oh and fyi i am hiring the best lawyer in the country" 🤣🤣🤣
Marsha M 2 years ago
That's insane, do they think everyone in the bridal party is rich? I'd have to take out a loan to pay that ! Not a chance of that happening!
Lisa Murray 2 years ago
Why is it the bridal partys job to pay for anything? If anything the bride usually buys her party a gift. Its her way of saying thankyou for helping me out.
Darlene Fierro 2 years ago
Wow $4250 + the cost of the dress?! That's insane. So you have to take out a loan to be in the wedding? 🤣 They expected the wedding party to pay for the wedding. I bet they also charged the guests.Glad your nice said peace!!
Klaatu Verrata (Cough) 2 years ago (edited)
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I seriously cannot believe how low class people have gotten these days. Our wedding was low key, NO GIFTS PLEASE, all paid for by us, and EVERYONE had an amazing time. If someone tried to tell me they wanted me to pay an entire week's pay to attend their wedding, I'd have to tell them it was nice knowing them, but time to move on. 😆
Robin Cook 2 years ago
Or in my case, I couldn't get a loan even if I wanted to, which I definitely would not want to :) and that is like 1/3 of my yearly income. So, yeah, that's defintely a hell to the no!!
Anthony G. 2 years ago
Always humbling too see my 4 month salary total is someone's weekly pay
Weed in the Garden 2 years ago
Nice choice of words. Depressing, aggravating, frustrating also come to mind.
Levin - 1 year ago
Damn I guess things in the US are very different. Here in Asia, when you’re invited to a wedding, you’re expected to pay ~$200 USD as a gift. Few actually enforce this rule, but most people do it just to not be a jerk, as they know that the food they’re receiving in the marriage i costs way more than what they paid. I guess it’s a bit different in the US cuz of different saving habits. For reference I come from a middle class family in Hong Kong
Shirley Herberger 2 years ago
Totally unacceptable behavior on brides part. I have never in my life heard of a bride behave this way. Elope
M 2 years ago
These brides need to understand that the people in your wedding party are doing you a favor for being there for you. You should be gracious and honoring. These stories certainly show the terrible decline of good manners and thinking of your fellow human before yourself.
Molly Spurgeon 2 years ago
Thank you! Literally just going to and being in or at a wedding is an expense in and of itself. Whether it's actual monetary costs or getting the time off work or traveling or just the act of dedicating that time to that couple when "free" time is often scarce for many in certain cultures to begin with.
Meyah Na 1 year ago
I agree, weddings usually are the most boring thing and you have to pay for nice clothing to attend plus a gift. It's already a favor made to the groom and bride to attend and the good meal is the only compensation people get. So if they have to pay for it best is to just decline.
Dancy Chandler 2 years ago
I'd reply with a pre bill of $3000 for them to pay me for the grace of my presence at their little nuptials. . :D
Dancy Chandler 2 years ago
Hey, future kids schooling is spendy! How do you think they'll afford their luxe life without you?!
RedOphelia 13 2 years ago
"that each member of the bridal party was to pay $2,500 for "the privilege" of being in the wedding" . Not privilege there, just a big ol' money grab. The bride and groom actually expected people in their own wedding party to pony up almost 5k a piece for that whole fiasco. Unbelievable!
Huzzir Zakaria 2 years ago
Who's actually getting married there? With that much money, these attendees of maids n others better have their own wedding for God's sake!
Altezzoso Burton 2 years ago
Ah. They're trying to weed out the 'poor' people and the 'unloving' people. 🤦
Rebecca Ann 2 years ago
The entitlement and audacity these people have is just amazing. Where TF do these ppl come up with this s**t 🙄🙄🙄
Lianna Bolt 2 years ago
Wtf?!?! That is beyond messed up. This is the issue with ppl who have been told they were special too many times. Pay money for the privilege of being in the wedding?! This woman seems severely mentally unstable. Good luck to groom, he’s gonna need it.
Kristina Cowan 2 years ago
I had to read that a few times to believe it. Who the **** has people pay 2500 for the privilege of being part of a wedding, besides the other stuff mentioned!?
Vera Miller 2 years ago (edited)
Why do people think it's an honor to go broke on their behalf? Nope not me! Even if I were rich, I would not pay. I would decline, and watch Netflix (while eating Cheetos and drinking Juicy Juice).
Molly Spurgeon 2 years ago
... I have no words. I sincerely hope your niece has better friends now lol
Jasmine Gross 1 year ago
Some people have a way of turning the happiest things into horrible experiences for everyone else
Fat Harry 2 years ago
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JJ Day10Machine 2 years ago
I don't know you or your cat, but please tell the kitty "psp psp psp" and give them a pat pat pat for me 😻
William Stevenson 2 years ago
Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is too dark to read.
- 2 years ago
$75 per person will get you a nice hassle-free meal at a local restaurant. You get to support a local business and leave a good tip for your server.
Joe Edwards 2 years ago
I can take my GF and daughter for a good meal at a restaurant and pay $75 TOTAL
Load More Replies... Marsha M 2 years ago
Right? I've personally never paid 75 to eat for one person, one meal. And likely, never will.
John Kiser 2 years ago
Yep, they got more expensive food likely on purpose instead of you know the usual fair.
Klaatu Verrata (Cough) 2 years ago
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That's exactly why we did a buffet of gourmet finger foods at our wedding--and didn't charge anyone a single red penny. We traded DOWN for our wedding. Lol
John Kiser 2 years ago
I've been to one with swedish meatballs and tons of other like buffet style foods that aren't super pricy, potluck like ones, and catered. The buffet ones have been the most enjoyable to me. People worry too much over food at these things. I think getting an overpriced meal ends up feeling like it is trying to show off instead of making it enjoyable for everyone including the bride and groom.
April Dancer 2 years ago
Food is food as far as I'm concerned. Doesn't matter if it's lobster and caviar or a packet of crisps. You'll be flushing it down the loo later on exactly the same way.
Red Panda 2 years ago
A friend of mine wanted to know a good restaurant he could take his gf's parents to. I recommend one of my favorites. After the meal, he complained that it had cost $60 for himself, the gf, her parents, her sister and BIL. I said "You paid $60 for *six* people and you're complaining?!"
Kristen Adorno 2 years ago
Lol, we spend $75 total (more like $65) for me, my husband, and 2 children to eat at a nice restaurant around here!
Steve Montag 2 years ago
My wife and I go to a local seafood place. $75 gets a margarita, a bloody Mary, an order of fried shrooms, 6 oysters Rockefeller AND a very good chicken Caesar salad.
Vladimíra Matejová 2 years ago (edited)
no idea how expensive food is in the US. here you can have a decent meal for 5-12€ ( soup and main course, soft drink), depending on location. of course you can go to some fancy royal-like place with exorbitant prices but my daily menu food would be 6-7€ in the capital. for weddings you have more courses+buffet+drinks+decoration so it was 3 years ago around 30-50€/person in total ( at that time I had daily menu for 3€ :-D ) but that is like a lot of food and we had to take a lot of food home and we ate it for several days after the wedding. is it 75€ for just one meal? or is it like food for many hours? still the bride is totally rude
Marnie 2 years ago
I don't think I've ever been to a restaurant that charged more than $12 for an entre.
Erin Giles 2 years ago
Where do you live? You're paying 12 bucks? It's 6 dollars (plus tax) for a Big Mac meal where I am in Florida lol
Melissa Fisher-Greenfield 2 years ago
Is that on special lol Here in Good ole Maryland, you cant even get a mcdouble small fry and drink for $6!
Brett Bond 2 years ago
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That may be true but you also have to empty your tray in the garbage when you leave, on your way out the door.... Oh snap! Lmao
AustrianGirl 2 years ago
I guess that would be around 70€ which translates to about 2 weeks of food if I cook for myself. No way I'd spend that much on just one meal!
Amy Baskall 2 years ago
But I get to chose anything on the menu, it isn't chosen for me. And it's still tacky.
GirlFriday Premium 2 years ago
My niece was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and she happily said yes because she is close to the couple. The next week, she and the rest of the wedding party got an email from the bride and groom with what they would be expected to spend. First and foremost was that each member of the bridal party was to pay $2,500 for "the privilege of being in the wedding" and it went on from there with the expected costs of dresses, tuxes, $1,000 each for the cost of the bachelor and bachelorette parties, gifts of no less than $250 for the engagement party and $500 for the reception, etc. She called the bride and asked if it was a joke. When she was assured it wasn't, niece noped right the eff out of the bridal party.
- 2 years ago
$2,500 admission? Wow. That's a corporate merger, not a marriage! And "privilege"??? Are they celebrities who shall remain unnamed or just legends in their own minds?
Load More Replies... Linda Powder 2 years ago
I wouldn't even pay that to attend the wedding of a favorite celebrity, never mind a couple of peasants, nobodies. Screw that.
LH25 2 years ago
Good for your niece. I can't even with the demand for that much money to just be in the wedding.
Lisa Murray 2 years ago
I agree the next thing you know the bride would be reaching out again. "To all those who payed for my wedding, this is for the divorce, oh and fyi i am hiring the best lawyer in the country" 🤣🤣🤣
Marsha M 2 years ago
That's insane, do they think everyone in the bridal party is rich? I'd have to take out a loan to pay that ! Not a chance of that happening!
Lisa Murray 2 years ago
Why is it the bridal partys job to pay for anything? If anything the bride usually buys her party a gift. Its her way of saying thankyou for helping me out.
Darlene Fierro 2 years ago
Wow $4250 + the cost of the dress?! That's insane. So you have to take out a loan to be in the wedding? 🤣 They expected the wedding party to pay for the wedding. I bet they also charged the guests.Glad your nice said peace!!
Klaatu Verrata (Cough) 2 years ago (edited)
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I seriously cannot believe how low class people have gotten these days. Our wedding was low key, NO GIFTS PLEASE, all paid for by us, and EVERYONE had an amazing time. If someone tried to tell me they wanted me to pay an entire week's pay to attend their wedding, I'd have to tell them it was nice knowing them, but time to move on. 😆
Robin Cook 2 years ago
Or in my case, I couldn't get a loan even if I wanted to, which I definitely would not want to :) and that is like 1/3 of my yearly income. So, yeah, that's defintely a hell to the no!!
Anthony G. 2 years ago
Always humbling too see my 4 month salary total is someone's weekly pay
Weed in the Garden 2 years ago
Nice choice of words. Depressing, aggravating, frustrating also come to mind.
Levin - 1 year ago
Damn I guess things in the US are very different. Here in Asia, when you’re invited to a wedding, you’re expected to pay ~$200 USD as a gift. Few actually enforce this rule, but most people do it just to not be a jerk, as they know that the food they’re receiving in the marriage i costs way more than what they paid. I guess it’s a bit different in the US cuz of different saving habits. For reference I come from a middle class family in Hong Kong
Shirley Herberger 2 years ago
Totally unacceptable behavior on brides part. I have never in my life heard of a bride behave this way. Elope
M 2 years ago
These brides need to understand that the people in your wedding party are doing you a favor for being there for you. You should be gracious and honoring. These stories certainly show the terrible decline of good manners and thinking of your fellow human before yourself.
Molly Spurgeon 2 years ago
Thank you! Literally just going to and being in or at a wedding is an expense in and of itself. Whether it's actual monetary costs or getting the time off work or traveling or just the act of dedicating that time to that couple when "free" time is often scarce for many in certain cultures to begin with.
Meyah Na 1 year ago
I agree, weddings usually are the most boring thing and you have to pay for nice clothing to attend plus a gift. It's already a favor made to the groom and bride to attend and the good meal is the only compensation people get. So if they have to pay for it best is to just decline.
Dancy Chandler 2 years ago
I'd reply with a pre bill of $3000 for them to pay me for the grace of my presence at their little nuptials. . :D
Dancy Chandler 2 years ago
Hey, future kids schooling is spendy! How do you think they'll afford their luxe life without you?!
RedOphelia 13 2 years ago
"that each member of the bridal party was to pay $2,500 for "the privilege" of being in the wedding" . Not privilege there, just a big ol' money grab. The bride and groom actually expected people in their own wedding party to pony up almost 5k a piece for that whole fiasco. Unbelievable!
Huzzir Zakaria 2 years ago
Who's actually getting married there? With that much money, these attendees of maids n others better have their own wedding for God's sake!
Altezzoso Burton 2 years ago
Ah. They're trying to weed out the 'poor' people and the 'unloving' people. 🤦
Rebecca Ann 2 years ago
The entitlement and audacity these people have is just amazing. Where TF do these ppl come up with this s**t 🙄🙄🙄
Lianna Bolt 2 years ago
Wtf?!?! That is beyond messed up. This is the issue with ppl who have been told they were special too many times. Pay money for the privilege of being in the wedding?! This woman seems severely mentally unstable. Good luck to groom, he’s gonna need it.
Kristina Cowan 2 years ago
I had to read that a few times to believe it. Who the **** has people pay 2500 for the privilege of being part of a wedding, besides the other stuff mentioned!?
Vera Miller 2 years ago (edited)
Why do people think it's an honor to go broke on their behalf? Nope not me! Even if I were rich, I would not pay. I would decline, and watch Netflix (while eating Cheetos and drinking Juicy Juice).
Molly Spurgeon 2 years ago
... I have no words. I sincerely hope your niece has better friends now lol
Jasmine Gross 1 year ago
Some people have a way of turning the happiest things into horrible experiences for everyone else
Fat Harry 2 years ago
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Company of a dog is priceless.
Load More Replies... JJ Day10Machine 2 years ago
I don't know you or your cat, but please tell the kitty "psp psp psp" and give them a pat pat pat for me 😻
William Stevenson 2 years ago
Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is too dark to read.
- 2 years ago
$75 per person will get you a nice hassle-free meal at a local restaurant. You get to support a local business and leave a good tip for your server.
Joe Edwards 2 years ago
I can take my GF and daughter for a good meal at a restaurant and pay $75 TOTAL
Load More Replies... Marsha M 2 years ago
Right? I've personally never paid 75 to eat for one person, one meal. And likely, never will.
John Kiser 2 years ago
Yep, they got more expensive food likely on purpose instead of you know the usual fair.
Klaatu Verrata (Cough) 2 years ago
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That's exactly why we did a buffet of gourmet finger foods at our wedding--and didn't charge anyone a single red penny. We traded DOWN for our wedding. Lol
John Kiser 2 years ago
I've been to one with swedish meatballs and tons of other like buffet style foods that aren't super pricy, potluck like ones, and catered. The buffet ones have been the most enjoyable to me. People worry too much over food at these things. I think getting an overpriced meal ends up feeling like it is trying to show off instead of making it enjoyable for everyone including the bride and groom.
April Dancer 2 years ago
Food is food as far as I'm concerned. Doesn't matter if it's lobster and caviar or a packet of crisps. You'll be flushing it down the loo later on exactly the same way.
Red Panda 2 years ago
A friend of mine wanted to know a good restaurant he could take his gf's parents to. I recommend one of my favorites. After the meal, he complained that it had cost $60 for himself, the gf, her parents, her sister and BIL. I said "You paid $60 for *six* people and you're complaining?!"
Kristen Adorno 2 years ago
Lol, we spend $75 total (more like $65) for me, my husband, and 2 children to eat at a nice restaurant around here!
Steve Montag 2 years ago
My wife and I go to a local seafood place. $75 gets a margarita, a bloody Mary, an order of fried shrooms, 6 oysters Rockefeller AND a very good chicken Caesar salad.
Vladimíra Matejová 2 years ago (edited)
no idea how expensive food is in the US. here you can have a decent meal for 5-12€ ( soup and main course, soft drink), depending on location. of course you can go to some fancy royal-like place with exorbitant prices but my daily menu food would be 6-7€ in the capital. for weddings you have more courses+buffet+drinks+decoration so it was 3 years ago around 30-50€/person in total ( at that time I had daily menu for 3€ :-D ) but that is like a lot of food and we had to take a lot of food home and we ate it for several days after the wedding. is it 75€ for just one meal? or is it like food for many hours? still the bride is totally rude
Marnie 2 years ago
I don't think I've ever been to a restaurant that charged more than $12 for an entre.
Erin Giles 2 years ago
Where do you live? You're paying 12 bucks? It's 6 dollars (plus tax) for a Big Mac meal where I am in Florida lol
Melissa Fisher-Greenfield 2 years ago
Is that on special lol Here in Good ole Maryland, you cant even get a mcdouble small fry and drink for $6!
Brett Bond 2 years ago
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
That may be true but you also have to empty your tray in the garbage when you leave, on your way out the door.... Oh snap! Lmao
AustrianGirl 2 years ago
I guess that would be around 70€ which translates to about 2 weeks of food if I cook for myself. No way I'd spend that much on just one meal!
Amy Baskall 2 years ago
But I get to chose anything on the menu, it isn't chosen for me. And it's still tacky.
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