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Bride Doesn’t Include Wedding Dinner Price In Her Wedding Invites, Is Surprised To See Many Guests Canceling On Her After They Find Out
It’s entirely up to the newlyweds what their most awaited day in life is gonna be like. But often, they do surprise their guests and not necessarily in a good way with the decisions they make. Like, asking their guests after they already RSVPed to pay for their meals and not understanding why the guests suddenly feel uncomfortable.
Well, this is exactly what happened to one anonymous guest who “received the most beautiful wedding invitation and responded well before the deadline with our choice for dinner and space for two.” The author wrote that a couple of days later, they received a follow-up voice message thanking them for responding and asking them to pay $75 per food per person.
Now the confused guest wants to ask people if “anyone has heard of this happening?” adding that this is not a destination wedding. Scroll down through the whole story below and be sure to share what you think of the incident in the comment section!
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Recently, one confused wedding guest shared how they responded to invitation ahead of the deadline, requested a plus one, and selected their meal options
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Then, they received a follow-up voice message thanking them for the RSVP and requesting a $150 fee for the food they’re going to eat, which was not indicated before
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The author later added an update
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“I honestly never heard any bride and groom asking their guests to pay for their food,” Aurelie Della Maggiore, the luxury wedding planner and event designer at Lucy Till French Weddings, told Bored Panda.
She added: “That’s also not something I will recommend to my client to do. If you don’t have the budget to afford a wedding dinner, then my advice will be to cut the guest numbers and to a have a intimate wedding, or to do a stand-up cocktail instead of a formal served dinner to try to cut the costs down.”
Aurelie also said that “if you plan to have your guests pay for something at your wedding, such as transportation or extra activities, I will recommend adding that information into your wedding website but maybe not into the formal invitation.”
And this is how people reacted to the whole incident
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GirlFriday 3 years ago
My niece was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and she happily said yes because she is close to the couple. The next week, she and the rest of the wedding party got an email from the bride and groom with what they would be expected to spend. First and foremost was that each member of the bridal party was to pay $2,500 for "the privilege of being in the wedding" and it went on from there with the expected costs of dresses, tuxes, $1,000 each for the cost of the bachelor and bachelorette parties, gifts of no less than $250 for the engagement party and $500 for the reception, etc. She called the bride and asked if it was a joke. When she was assured it wasn't, niece noped right the eff out of the bridal party.
- 3 years ago
$2,500 admission? Wow. That's a corporate merger, not a marriage! And "privilege"??? Are they celebrities who shall remain unnamed or just legends in their own minds?
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- 3 years ago
$75 per person will get you a nice hassle-free meal at a local restaurant. You get to support a local business and leave a good tip for your server.
Joe Edwards 3 years ago
I can take my GF and daughter for a good meal at a restaurant and pay $75 TOTAL
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Vivian Ashe 3 years ago
Middle class American Gen Xer here. When I was growing up, big fancy weddings were the exception, and I never knew anyone who had a destination wedding. Most "ordinary" people would have their wedding reception in their parent's backyard, with a few relatives providing a potluck-style dinner for the guests. Or they'd rent out an inexpensive space like a church hall or community center. I feel like social media influencers have convinced this generation that they have to have a celebrity-style wedding that they can't afford. Considering that this generation has so many more pressing expenses like housing costs and student loan debt, this seems like such a frivolous luxury to fixate on.
WildHoneyPie 3 years ago
That is how we did it in 1996. We had a wedding in a small church in the mountains. The minister wasn't even going to charge us because he had forgotten our initial meeting and stood us up. But we gave him his fee anyway of course. Then we had a reception in my sister's house with my whole family pitching in with cold cuts and rolls, etc. We did have a wedding cake but it was very simple. People loved our wedding! You don't have to be so elaborate.
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Claire Stanfield 3 years ago
Any event you invite people to, you are hosting them. That means, you are footing the bill. If they give you a cash gift and you use it to offset expenses, then fine. However. Gifts are a bonus, not expected, and none of your guests [non-hosts] should be charged as though they are at a restaurant, or going on a cruise.
VM37 3 years ago
If I invite someone to a drink or a cup of coffe, I will be paying the bill, bc I invited them to come. Same goes for parties and wedding.
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Houseof No 3 years ago
Did no one explain to this bridezilla the difference between a WEDDING and a FUNDRAISER? They are NOT the same thing. Perfect wedding gift for this Bridezilla is a dictionary. Be sure to bookmark and highlight the definition of HOSPITALITY.
M 3 years ago
Omg. Yes! Love this comment so much. These entitlement children need to wait because they are definitely not ready for marriage.
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phil blanque 3 years ago
Ha...the funny thing is that she probably already has a contract with the food vendor for x many meals. She will be obligated to pay this even if no one attends.
S 3 years ago
I would have sent back the invitation with HAHAHAHA no written across it. But I'm a b***h, so
Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago
Easy. If you’re poor enough that you have to ask your friends to pay $75 each for dinner, then your friends are too poor to pay. If your friends are rich enough that $75 a plate isn’t a big deal, then you’re rich enough to just pay it yourself.
Grim Shady 3 years ago
I would agree for the most part, but I have friends from many social circles and economic levels. My wife and I did a community BBQ celebration after our wedding. Cheap, fun, casual, and family friendly.
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Christian Cartmale 3 years ago
Honestly, at my wedding, my wife, her parents, my parents, one of my aunt's and I paid for everything. We catered for 100 people for $2500 or something like that which we split with her parents, rented a big pavilion, set the venue at her folks' ranch (just a house with a horse stable across the driveway) and everyone parked in the pasture. I provided a few cases of beer and two bottles of wine per table of 5. We knew we weren't going to have alot of drinking guests. Ultimately towards the end of the night, I walk up to this little table that I hadn't noticed earlier and I asked my wife where all these bags and s**t came from, asked if we had changed our wedding favours. At this moment she informed me, "No you dumb dumb, these are all our wedding presents" What someone is bringing you for your wedding, should be the last thing on your mind. How much they need to pay you should not be on your mind period. These are the people who raised you, who loved you. They don't owe you.
GirlFriday 3 years ago
My niece was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and she happily said yes because she is close to the couple. The next week, she and the rest of the wedding party got an email from the bride and groom with what they would be expected to spend. First and foremost was that each member of the bridal party was to pay $2,500 for "the privilege of being in the wedding" and it went on from there with the expected costs of dresses, tuxes, $1,000 each for the cost of the bachelor and bachelorette parties, gifts of no less than $250 for the engagement party and $500 for the reception, etc. She called the bride and asked if it was a joke. When she was assured it wasn't, niece noped right the eff out of the bridal party.
- 3 years ago
$2,500 admission? Wow. That's a corporate merger, not a marriage! And "privilege"??? Are they celebrities who shall remain unnamed or just legends in their own minds?
Load More Replies... - 3 years ago
$75 per person will get you a nice hassle-free meal at a local restaurant. You get to support a local business and leave a good tip for your server.
Joe Edwards 3 years ago
I can take my GF and daughter for a good meal at a restaurant and pay $75 TOTAL
Load More Replies... Vivian Ashe 3 years ago
Middle class American Gen Xer here. When I was growing up, big fancy weddings were the exception, and I never knew anyone who had a destination wedding. Most "ordinary" people would have their wedding reception in their parent's backyard, with a few relatives providing a potluck-style dinner for the guests. Or they'd rent out an inexpensive space like a church hall or community center. I feel like social media influencers have convinced this generation that they have to have a celebrity-style wedding that they can't afford. Considering that this generation has so many more pressing expenses like housing costs and student loan debt, this seems like such a frivolous luxury to fixate on.
WildHoneyPie 3 years ago
That is how we did it in 1996. We had a wedding in a small church in the mountains. The minister wasn't even going to charge us because he had forgotten our initial meeting and stood us up. But we gave him his fee anyway of course. Then we had a reception in my sister's house with my whole family pitching in with cold cuts and rolls, etc. We did have a wedding cake but it was very simple. People loved our wedding! You don't have to be so elaborate.
Load More Replies... Claire Stanfield 3 years ago
Any event you invite people to, you are hosting them. That means, you are footing the bill. If they give you a cash gift and you use it to offset expenses, then fine. However. Gifts are a bonus, not expected, and none of your guests [non-hosts] should be charged as though they are at a restaurant, or going on a cruise.
VM37 3 years ago
If I invite someone to a drink or a cup of coffe, I will be paying the bill, bc I invited them to come. Same goes for parties and wedding.
Load More Replies... Houseof No 3 years ago
Did no one explain to this bridezilla the difference between a WEDDING and a FUNDRAISER? They are NOT the same thing. Perfect wedding gift for this Bridezilla is a dictionary. Be sure to bookmark and highlight the definition of HOSPITALITY.
M 3 years ago
Omg. Yes! Love this comment so much. These entitlement children need to wait because they are definitely not ready for marriage.
Load More Replies... phil blanque 3 years ago
Ha...the funny thing is that she probably already has a contract with the food vendor for x many meals. She will be obligated to pay this even if no one attends.
S 3 years ago
I would have sent back the invitation with HAHAHAHA no written across it. But I'm a b***h, so
Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago
Easy. If you’re poor enough that you have to ask your friends to pay $75 each for dinner, then your friends are too poor to pay. If your friends are rich enough that $75 a plate isn’t a big deal, then you’re rich enough to just pay it yourself.
Grim Shady 3 years ago
I would agree for the most part, but I have friends from many social circles and economic levels. My wife and I did a community BBQ celebration after our wedding. Cheap, fun, casual, and family friendly.
Load More Replies... Christian Cartmale 3 years ago
Honestly, at my wedding, my wife, her parents, my parents, one of my aunt's and I paid for everything. We catered for 100 people for $2500 or something like that which we split with her parents, rented a big pavilion, set the venue at her folks' ranch (just a house with a horse stable across the driveway) and everyone parked in the pasture. I provided a few cases of beer and two bottles of wine per table of 5. We knew we weren't going to have alot of drinking guests. Ultimately towards the end of the night, I walk up to this little table that I hadn't noticed earlier and I asked my wife where all these bags and s**t came from, asked if we had changed our wedding favours. At this moment she informed me, "No you dumb dumb, these are all our wedding presents" What someone is bringing you for your wedding, should be the last thing on your mind. How much they need to pay you should not be on your mind period. These are the people who raised you, who loved you. They don't owe you.
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