My hubby needs protein at every meal, hates fish and cannot eat mushrooms. He would have picked the chicken, no questions asked, then had an icebox in the car with a sandwich that he could slip out and scarf if needed. If that wasn't a viable option, then protein bars in a pocket. He meets his needs without adding stress to the bride and groom. And he would choose a time to slip away where it wouldn't cause issues. As a plus one that is most of the reception.

What a weird person? Imagine what he's like to live with or in work etc if he is that a**l retentive about just a wedding meal that's in the future for just some friend of your partner? Can't people like this work out things in their life? Like just have a big meal before you go and eat the dessert or something? Why the insane need to control other people? I would have straight up uninvited him after this dude, non family twat of a man ( who's a plus one!) rang the caterer to my wedding! The nerve! And to request steak as well and not even offer to pay. He is treating her wedding meal like his own personal restaurant.

I can rarely eat what's on offer at a wedding, I just opt for the vegetables. Plate of baby potatoes with salt and butter? Yes, please!

A wedding is one of the most important (and stressful) events for the bride and groom - and that's just it, a wedding is for the bride and groom. They have enough to worry about without worrying about wether a +1 thinks the chicken might be too dry. Going behind their back to the caterer more than justifies not having him a the wedding.

"Stroganoff is too heavy for a wedding meal let'sjust go with steak instead"

It sounds like one of those entitled people who is used to getting their ridiculous requests fulfilled. Was he a child star?

My niece at my reception. Got her invite. Proceeded to return it asking for "noodles and butter." I asked what she meant. She literally wanted plain spaghetti and butter. Like girl your 30 so it's not even the correct name. I know she's a picky eater but damn ur in your 30s.

The invite says "chicken or fish" not "chicken or fish...for life" they don't have a genie or witch there to curse you to eat the same meal every day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the rest of your life. If you absolutely can't eat the food leave early and eat somewhere else.

So he thinks he has a right to spend someone else's money without their permission, by going behind the back of the person paying the bill to demand a pricier option from the caterer? Even if he were the invited guest and not a +1, that would be totally out of line. Why is it the guest he's tagging along with is even still invited?

Very odd behavior. Sounds like a spoilt 5-year old.

The arrogance of this rando plus one causing all this drama. Contacting the caterer for his own special meal is out of line. His gf has apparently coddled his entitled antics, and now expects the rest of the world to do so. The insults calling you a bridezilla and your friend trying to guilt you into this goober's notice me request would be it. UNINVITE! I would be so embarrassed if they were my partner. Is he not capable of feeding himself before or after the event? Either be there to celebrate the wedding or stay home. I seriously doubt anyone would miss him.

His dad should have said to him what mine said to me. "You'll eat what's on the table and say 'thank you' ".

Tou know why people do things like this? It is because the O.P. entertains this c**p. I WISH a M**o would, they know who to try and who not to try with c**p like this.

so he thinks he can sit there and have a steak when everyone else eats what is on the menu... do you honestly think others at his table won't notice he got the preferred treatment.

If my husband acted like that to one of my friends wedding invitations, we'd be divorced. We'd have been divorced long before that by the way he acts though. I can't believe her "friend" justified this behavior. That is the biggest manchild red flag I've ever seen. How women tolerate men like that, I'll never know! My husband is far from perfect (as am I) but he is solid and acts right. Thankful for going on 16 years!

I am lactose intolerant, I have celiac disease, I have irritable bowel syndrome and I'm a vegetarian. I have a very restrictive diet. I went to a wedding in the summer and at dinner, I excused myself and went to a vegetarian restaurant for dinner. Then I came back and enjoyed the speeches and the reception. It's not up to the bride and groom to make sure that my preferences or my dietary restrictions are met. Definitely NTA.

Wow, didn’t realize it was that serious of a problem that someone would spend days trying to figure out how to get someone else to pay for their steak. What a nut job. NTA, I think with this one all you have to do is say sure you can have whatever you want if you pay for it. Otherwise you can choose from whats available. Simple. I bet he will do a 180 and choose the chicken real quick. Lol

He is the plus one..he doesn't get a say in any of this! He will only cause drama at the wedding...Uninvite this "man-child" and his partner will come without him or not...their decision

Winnings are complicated enough to plan without this type of nitpicking. He should definitely just STFU and eat what he can. Or bring snacks. Or have a heavy lunch. I can't imagine bugging people about this. Especially people who are not my friend. They're just my girlfriend's friends.

I think a big thing we're missing is she was very accommodating first off with her vegan friend and as someone with food allergies we appreciate it, and try not to be difficult. She even let this idiot change his meal multiple times, good grief cut him off now

Disinvite them immediately, if he is gonna sit there savoring steak leaving other guests to wonder why they had chicken, salmon if mushrooms, they are not your friends. They will either "brag" about the special food or says their so very special you gave them a nice juicy steak.

As a diabetic, I always take snacks wherever I go - just in case. Usually left in the car until needed. Any of those options would have worked

I'm sorry, but at the point when you're going around the bridal couple to talk to their caterer on your own you need to be disinvited.

Dietary restrictions are one thing. This guy is a straight up a*****e. The OP is NOT in any manner a bridezilla. Her friend is at total fault for not checking her boyfriends attitude too. They are supposed to be honored guests at a happy occasion, not pests.

I would be like, you know what. I recind your invite...problem solved.

He would have hated the meal at my reception. We had a fish fry courtesy of my brother and uncle, my mom made potato salad and baked beans. My SIL made cole slaw, and home made pickles and a few other items from stuff out of their garden, I brought stuff for a build your own salad and we actually paid for a bakery wedding cake. My brother also grilled a few hot dogs and burgers for the kids. It was awesome and fun and not one complaint!!

NTA f**k both these guys and disinvite them

This guest is already full... Full of himself that is. Bride is NTA and this guy should be uninvited.

I wouldn't like any of these options... What would I do? Ask for just the potatoes and veggies and bring my own meat replacement rather than wtf he is doing.

If the guy needs 'Meat' everyday, then why is he with a female 😹😹

I'll be honest: I never expect catered food at a wedding to be super awesome. I usually go through a drive-through between the ceremony and the reception so I'm not hungry and cranky at the reception when it takes forever to get your food

I have a relative who is supertaster

Someone suggested he bring a pocket full of jerky. That works.

I think you’re fun to read… enlightening also…‼️

mushrooms strogunath i have never had that i should ry it sometime i love making steak strogunath

PLEASE NO MORE AITA!!!!