The stress of a wedding can get the best of us, but at a certain point, you have to decide what is worth fighting over. Unfortunately, there are enough stories out there that prove just how volatile people can get. A newly-wed husband turned to the internet for advice after a particularly jarring experience with his bride and a nephew who happened to be wearing white.

The wife threw a massive fit and then decided to confront the six-year-old’s parents over the kid’s outfit. The situation escalated from there, provoking a heated debate among readers. We also got in touch with LifeTraining3452 to learn a bit more about the incident and his thoughts.

People can get very hostile over a wedding not going as they planned

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But one man thought his wife went a bit far when she kicked out a nephew over his outfit

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OP shared his thoughts on the stress caused by marriage

Bored Panda got in touch with LifeTraining3452 and he was kind enough to answer some of our questions about the entire incident. Naturally, we wanted to know if there had been any changes and shifts in the story. “Since my post, my wife and I have talked and we’ve decided on marriage counseling. My wife hasn’t apologized, and she is still staying with her mom, but she’s decided she’ll be coming home sometime this week.”

As often happens with these sorts of stories, readers were not in unanimous agreement, and arguments about who was to blame were thrown around aggressively. As one party, caught in the crossfire, we were curious to hear how OP felt about the advice and opinions of other netizens. “I ignored most suggestions from the comments because the majority suggested getting an annulment, but I am very in love with my wife and she’s never acted the way she did at our reception before,” he shared with Bored Panda.

This raises the question of whether there is something inherent to weddings in general that makes people volatile and perhaps a bit sensitive to things that wouldn’t bother them in a normal way “I think weddings make people more dramatic because people want their weddings to be absolutely perfect, and small mishaps can make them go crazy! I’d like to add that my wife and sister have had no issues prior to my wedding day since I saw a lot of comments wondering about that.”

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Wedding planning often ends marriages before they even begin

Organizing a wedding is basically just a large, expressive party when you break it down into its core components. Event planning is, as many people have learned the hard way, quite stressful. Add in the emotional component and all the expectations and it’s easy to see how a wedding quickly becomes a minefield.

This stress, beyond the regular issues it causes, also has some “fun” bonus effects. Studies show that when a person feels under pressure, they tend to underestimate other people’s stress levels. This includes even one’s partner, which is generally the worst-case scenario for ignoring another person’s concerns. Because neither partner is assisting the other with dealing with pressure, it simply builds and builds and builds, until, like in OP’s story, it simply explodes outwards.

This isn’t to say that anything is acceptable just because you are stressed. The bride did overreact to a very, very minor issue. While the letter of the law, as it were, does “ban” white from weddings, this is to ensure that the bride can get her moment in the spotlight. After all, why spend all that money on a dress if it’s now competing with other white outfits? However, the “spirit” of the law was not actually broken in this case, as it’s pretty unlikely that anyone was paying too much attention to an actual child. Hopefully, OP and his partner can resolve any and all differences and move on from this incident.

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Most readers sided with OP

But a few thought he should have supported his wife and that the whole situation was simply messy

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