Her update doesn't sound like she understood anything or even tried or wanted to see another point of view.

Ok I won't call you a bridezilla, I'll call you an unempathetic (is that a word/the right word?), selfish, egoistic, short sighted, self-centered, closed minded and sour person that doesn't want to share joy with people who are not exactly like you. (yes I said things twice, maybe it gets the message across).

It's useless. She's not gonna get it. One could flatten oneself into a pancake trying to explain to her what she did wrong, but it won't help. She didn't get it then, she isn't getting it now, she will never get it. It would be easier talking to a wall.

How is bridezilla sexist? Is she not a bride is she not terrible. The same thing plays for a male. If you're a groom and you're terrible you're a groomzilla. It's like saying boys and girls men and women, male and female are sexist terms. Not only is she terrible but she is stupid also.

I'm so glad I don't know this person. Couldn't play a song for a few minutes for an elderly couple. I don't care that it's your wedding day you are a selfish person.

So basically she's saying that their families paid for the event, but they couldn't even have a dance of their choice! How selfish and self-centered could you be to not realize this is wrong on so many levels?! Also, the grandparents said something about the song being kind of a tradition in their family for weddings, hence OP deprived them of a once in a lifetime experience: the family tradition dance at their FIRST grandchild's wedding! How would they experience this in the future, as OP stated?! Wedding planned for HER and HER friends, and that's it... Also, the "I hope the feedbacks help my husband see" after which she gets blasted... GOLD!!!

If you don't want people's opinions then don't ask the internet. What a massive AH.

Wow I wish BP would scrape some actual modern content out of Reddit so I could at least go tell this lunatic how wildly out of line she was.

Her update is basically telling everyone to f off. Asking the internet, and then gives them the middle finger. She is self-centered. Maybe the husband will end up divorcing her after all.

"This is MY wedding! Damn anyone else!" I just don't get this type attitude. A wedding is meant to be a joyful occasion marking the joining of two people - two families together with love and respect. At what point did weddings become the time to assert that only YOU matter? What about your spouse? Speaking of privilege and arrogance...The idea that you and you alone deserve to have the day is just so wrong. Frankly, it speaks to a much larger issue: I matter more than you. I do not respect or care about you and your needs if they conflict with my own." The intolerance is just mind-blowing. I give this marriage very little time before it ends. That is unless the husband is just as arrogant and selfish as the bride.

You are an a*****e, as well as an insufferable pile of human trash! You said "f**k them", really? Your behavior is embarrassing, and even when people tell you that your were wrong, you still think you were right. You are a narcissist, and a walking red flag, why your husband is still with you is beyond me. Perhaps you should try AA.

The Reditt thread! 😳 I doubt this woman is still married. Pathological Narcissist!

I feel so bad for the grandparents! I keep thinking of my great-grandparents, whom I was lucky enough to have at my wedding. It was a small ceremony, we did not have dancing, and only snacks at the reception. I tried to make sure all of my grandparents felt included. My great-grandpa kept saying, "I don't want to be a bother; I know I'm old and slow". He always said that about everything, but he was never a bother. He was always there for me growing up, and he was my favorite grandparent. If my spouse had made my grandparents feel left out (or disrespected) at our wedding, I would have filed for anullment the next day. The grandparents in this story were probably very hurt that they didn't feel included in their grandson's big day, but they didn't want to make a fuss about it because they didn't want to bother anyone. I hope the grandson's second wife is nicer to all of the family.

This young “lady” is a piece of work my goodness. She calls them narcissistic gaslighters because they asked for one thing at HER HER HER (MY MY MY) wedding that she should have had the grace to respect. She gave no context to other outrageous requests for control attempted for HER HER HER (MY MY MY) wedding, so a request to play one frigin traditional song is thoroughly reasonable. This isn’t about enforcing boundaries. I already placed my judgement on this bride…gorilla (she doesn’t do criticism well, does she?) before I saw the update with petulance that literally made me laugh out loud. There’s an ocean of difference between giving a little grace to traditions on YOUR YOUR YOUR (MY MY MY MY MY MY MY!!!!!!!) day and being manipulated. But using stories like that as your basis to gaslight is honestly hilarious. I give her husband 10 months before he asks for a divorce or gets committed.

I realize this will likely get me down voted, but honestly, I kinda agree with her. She handled it badly and is self centered, and for that I agree she's a jerk, but I feel like if you want to have a song played you should go check with the people who's event it is first, especially if it clashes with the rest of the music. I also think, however, that if asked she should've let it slide, and that in that situation I probably would've let it slide regardless but I'm not particularly picky about music, and I don't drink

MY, MY, MY, you always knows it is not ending well when it is MY wedding, and not OUR wedding. That poor guy sounds like a "Ken" in a "Barbie wedding".... and who the hell chooses "Hips don't lie" as their couple song, sure it may be the first you've danced to, but it isn't really romantic as such, is it? I pitty the groom who is caught in the middle of it, and is stuck with a girl (not a woman, she clearly never grew up) who Obviously cannot see beyond her own nose, and is incapable of reading the room and learning from it. Honey, when everyone tells you that you are wrong, odds are quite good that you are infact wrong, and they don't need your excuses for your behavior. All that you achieve by presenting them is that you make yourself feel good, in a situation where you ought to put in some hard work into mending things. "Liquid courage"? well if it is that stuff that makes you act like a b***h, perhaps you should hold back a little on your consumption.

Based on the slightly overblown writing style, I think it's yet another fake ragebait story. I find it hard to believe that anyone would seriously think every single detail of their wedding should cater for their preferences only and that some guests should be excluded from being able to join in.

I had been to too many weddings with hard rock bands playing, all the young people and kids dancing, and all the parents and brands sitting around looking like their ears hurt. So when we got married my husband and I chose a jazz swing group. Everybody was happy. All our young friends said, "This is so retro! Where did you find these guys?" And the oldsters danced all night.

holy f**k what an entitled cu nt

The update makes me wonder - is it possible to learn less than nothing?

While she could probably have handled the situation a more gentler....I still stand on she was right to say no. It's etiquette to ask.....if this was a tradition they still were to confer with the couple and has plenty of time to ask to insert this into the wedding. I learned more from the audience than I did the show; a whole lot of you who answered are some hateful sofb and clearly needed to beat up on someone. There have been truly hateful Bridezilla stories but this isn't one of them for me. The vibe set for their wedding was interrupted and hubby sure didn't stop her from changing it back. Only asking her to apologize for the sake of them shutting the f**k up too. Y'all literally jumped on the bandwagon....where is those reading comprehension skills y'all were supposed to learn in JHS....And no one gave her a different insightful look at the situation.... y'all were hateful, nasty and spiteful bandwagon jumping fools, which made her more defensive, so no one learns anything.

I also love how everyone disregarded that : 1. Husband and damn near all the guests were the lively dancer types 2. The only form of a*****e she was in how she cut it, the Bride very well acknowledged that she was saucy so her response to the interruption of the vibe BOTH (future husband/wife) agreed to for the wedding was far from kind. 3. Weddings take time to plan and the description tells how lavish it must have been; so they had plenty of time to ask whether they can input this tradition into the couples wedding. 4. For how it occurred, they didn't ask cuz they knew the answer was no, period, so this was passively aggressive and invasive, they wanted what they wanted. And y'all expected her to be courteous in a situation she was shown none, for three minutes of music they felt entitled to smfh. 5. Apparently none of you read the informative paragraphs after about weddings and music etiquette when Bored Panda reached out to wedding and event lead planner Kathleen Swift and wedding DJ Matthew Reatewhen; especially when the songs deviated from the theme chosen by the couple.

Yes, you are a SUPER AH, not only at the wedding, but your whole life. Your update proves that. Hope your husband realizes the mistake he made. Anyone who would treat his grandparents like that is not worth it. With your attitude, you will be a very lonely person.

First of all: did this brideZilla marry herself? MY this, My that blablabla. Secondly, yes, those grandparents do not get to have special moments at someone else's wedding unless having asked beforehand.

What just happened? That read like someone in a top-speed ramblerant during a meth high. "Fast songs only I like fast songs I'm a dancer so I need fast songs even our first song was a fast song what is this c**p? Buddy Holly has faster songs than this I only dance to fast songs"

While I understand not wanting certain songs played at a wedding, this was not one of those cases.

What an unbearable little b***h. Clearly did a lot of maturing between updates.

Y and your husband are indeed TA!! Both sound like a match made in hell & it's unfortunate that you'll reproduce to create little a**holes. After reading the update it appears the husband was in agreement with no slow songs too. At first I didn't believe it then realized he failed to stop his drunk wife from interrupting the slow song for something fast. I truly hope the grandparents don't leave anything in the will (if any) for their a**hole grandson & his wife, they don't deserve anything. As matter of fact, this will come back & bite them in the a** real hard some day.

I'm glad majority said the bride is the AH..

I think you better dance alone, Karen. ;)

Yea she's 100% in the right here. The massive amount of entitlement from her inlaws and those claiming she is somehow in the wrong both on reddit and here is pathetic and disgusting

YTA - 100%. So sick of hearing narcissistic brides bitching about “their day.” It’s not “your day.” It’s a coming together of families and friends. Not just you. Grow up. And yes - bridezilla fits here. And other words I don’t use for horrible women that also fit here. Don’t you dare come back and turn it back in the commenters.

Her update made it clear that she did not understand the assignment.