But what could you possibly get for $250 a plate? I mean, if it's just a single meal, how can it possibly cost that much? Is the food made of copper and gold or something?

I disagree that the “only time cost is an issue is when people book venues/services they can’t afford…” As is made quite clearly in the article. Any parent of small children will attest to the fact that kids are anything but predictable. They can be sweet and cute as a button all the way to the venue, and then once seated, can become cranky & bored or even curious, to be In a new and unexplored environment! In a blink of an eye they can take off running, or hiding themselves under the brides gown (😡😡), or worse, they might suddenly decide to throw themselves on the floor, deciding it was time for a roof-raising tantrum!! So yes, it’s cost, but as proved clearly by this article, it’s RUDE to disregard the clearly expressed wishes of the bride & groom. I think the least the parents of these kids pay up and to make m amends to the newlyweds anyway possible.

We rented a cheap building and bought everything in the cheapest supermarket. Nobody cared. You don't have to throw an expensive party in Holland.

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Okay, so I looked it up, I was wrong about the fact that pp stands for per person, but I'm still pretty sure OP paid for the adults and based the budget on that.

I went to a wedding that was probably close to that price. Partly because of the expenses per person, but also because there were a lot of guests, including family from overseas. For me, the best part was people hitting the dance floor between courses and having fun (the band was quite good). The ceremony had been rather long and formal, but the reception itself was quite enjoyable.

WHY do idiots judge others' choices in life. Exactly WHOM does a pricey WEDDING OFFEND, and what's the REAL reason, IF ANY, that some one else is offended by it? WHOSE business us it ANYWAY, FOLKS?!?!

Oh that is lovely and so kind for you to do that for your daughter.

So she's only happy when you spend the equivalent of two years salary for most people on a party to flaunt your wealth & compete with other weddings? It's so sad thinking about how you could have spent a quarter of that & put the rest of that money to use helping others. Sadly, the bigger the wedding, the more likely they are to get divorced according to the clergy I work with. Too much focus on material items.

You are the kind of father I think every little girl, young lady, young woman, dreams of having; not because you could afford to give her the wedding day of her dreams, but that you did it and are happy to have made her dream come true! It sounds as if her joy is all that matters to you, and that is a beautiful thing! It must have been a joyous, memorable day, and your daughter is a lucky, lucky girl!

I don't care if people want that and it's nice when you get invited, but if you expect ppl to also give you a 200 gift, because you paid so much, sorry, but busy busy busy, I really can't come. Ppl I know don't expect that, but this is Holland. 20 is a nice gift and it's normal if you ask for money as a gift instead of nonsense stuff. 100 guests x 20 is 2000 and you have your wedding costs back or you throw an expensive party, pay it yourself or invite rich ppl. The stories I read about being expected to buy an expensive dress in some color and also pay 200, you do you, but don't invite me or I just say no.

Even if you are having a wedding that comes out to $25pp, you are still within your rights, as the hosts, to request that guests do not bring their children; it's not a " rich people thing", as much as it is about what kind of wedding they want to have; kids or no kids. Their choice; rich or not so rich! If they want to have a big, casual, backyard bar-b-cue kind of reception, they still have the right to say, "please, no kids". It's very rude, and disrespectful to the hosts, to ignore their request, and then, to put the " icing on the cake", your "not invited" child proceeds to disrupt the ceremony, and ruins the brides gown, kind of making their point for them!

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Weddings, etc, are NOT insignificant things to the rich and cultured. Or WOULD YOU EVEN KNOW!?!?

Problem is (from what I gather): most people do not really have the funds for it!

Based on YOUR standards, not theirs.

Or, even less expensive, check the " unable to attend" or " No" box on the RSVP card; (it's been a while, so I can't recall the wording!), send a $100 gift, and watch " Lifetime" movies all day, in my PJ's, eating junk food, on the couch, or maybe watch the original " Father of the Bride", starring Elizabeth Taylor! Or the newer one, with Steve Martin and Kimberly Williams-Paisley. Or " The Wedding Singer"! Being an older widow,( I hate that word!) who has trouble walking, let alone dancing, that's what I would probably do, though it sounds like a fun time to me!( The original $250pp wedding).These people were exceptionally rude, given that the bride and groom had even gone so far as to provide babysitters, at no cost to their friends; it really doesn't surprise me that these people are continuing their rudeness by not paying the bill sent to them, and I might add, should have included what is no doubt an expensive bill for cleaning the bride's dress! They aren't friends!

They werent asking the guests to pay (except for the rude ones who brought their unwanted children), that is what the COUPLE was paying for thier guests.

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*not a fundraiser 💯