This is sad. All the workers need better payment and tipping isn't the solution.

So very glad I don't live in the USA and the tipping culture would cause me so much anxiety. Only time I'll tip in the UK is for a meal and IF they've provided amazing service. If I've popped to Wagamama and they've literally just brought me my food over and then the bill for a quick lunch- no tip. If I've gone to a nice restaurant for an evening meal and the waiter/ waitress has taken then time to go over everything, served us many items and checked on the table etc and we've been there 90 minutes- 2 hours etc I'll tip between 10-15% depending on what I round it up to. I also kind of tip airline crew as I'm in a wheelchair and so they have to do more for me than most passengers and often have to wait a while after everyone else has left, for the ground crew to get me off. So I'll either buy them some nice sweets that are easily shared or vouchers if I know how many staff they'll be. Neither of these things are expected in the Uk though

I am usually one that defends tipping culture, but yeah this s**t has gotten out of control. Time to abolish tipping and just pay your employees a fair wage.

Uber also asks for tips, but I don't mind that because Uber pockets 25% of the money for each trip. So I calculate how much Uber will be taking and tip that amount. So if the trip costs R66, the tip would be R16.50. So that's how much I tip - usually I just round off, so I'm tipping R17. That's fine.

I would walk out of a bridal shop if asked to tip. I tip only at restaurants where I am seated and served a meal. Then, I tip appropriately for the service. A friend and I had breakfast at a busy family-type place and we received fabulous service from a very harried waitress. We tipped her a lot, and she came up and hugged us at the cashier station. My friend and I are easy customers, just keep our coffee cups filled and we're happy.

Just don't give anything. You pay for a service, they do it, full stop. I for one would have asked jokingly what the tip is for since I already pay for the dress a rather expensive price. As for when the tip is deserved, I don't use a percentage but check the value for the service. if you hang me an item or meal, its price doesn't change the value of your work.

Don't sweat it. If there's no service provided (no one brought your food to your table, or did anything other than take your order & ring you up) do not tip.

Tipping is outrageous. Thanks goodness Australia hasn't become " infected " too much. It's a shocking method of the customer making up the employees wage which the employer should do in the first place. The tipping customer is literally paying part of the employees wage, which results in the employer making a bigger profit. Ha, what nonsense ! I won't be a party to it at all.

"All this noise obscures the real and somewhat legitimate, original reasons why tipping existed in the first place. Particularly in the US, many restaurants had very low wages and it was assumed that tips would make up the difference. " Tipping actually originated with the English aristocracy. A serf would receive a gratuity for having performed superbly well for their master. Time Magazine has a very disturbing reason for tipping being so prevalent in the US (second link below). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gratuity#:~:text=The%20practice%20of%20tipping%20began,for%20having%20performed%20superbly%20well. https://time.com/5404475/history-tipping-american-restaurants-civil-war/

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The nice people who bring me pizza, Walmart, Target + Instacart orders get tips. If you are not *actively* helping me or doing things for me, I don't tip.

Tipping is just out of effing hand anymore. My understanding, as a waitress in the early days, is that “a tip” is a basic gratuity for good service, amount determined by the quality of the service, usually a “standard”, like 10% - 15% - 20% is generally expected. It is NOT a mandatory thing. I felt that in waiting tables, that tips were given because waiters and waitresses were given less in hourly wages BECAUSE they received tips! It is totally out of hand but the US wages are ridiculous and should be addressed.

Need to pay workers a living wage. Tips should be given only for excellent service. If its compulsory fee it should be added on the price tag as should all taxes. Give customers the real cost of items

Employers ripping off employees by not paying them a liveable wage is criminal, then expecting the customer to tip to bring up their income to a level that they can afford the basics in life is even worse. Tipping should be an added reward for good service and is at the discretion of the customer (at least those customers who are not complete A-holes). I'm actually surprised the US government isn't leading a charge on this because all that tip $$ is essentially untaxed income.

I’m a doctor, and I was going to make a joke here about patients eventually being asked to tip their doctors, but then I saw there were two comments about tipping in the medical field. Absolutely not. That should not be done, it seems somehow unethical to me to ask your patient to tip, as they might feel obliged to tip out of fear of receiving less than stellar treatment the next time they need to visit me.

I've never gotten married and due to small family, never been part of a wedding. But I have the impression that shopping for a dress is a multi-day affair in which you send the employee off to fit your every whim. It seems like a personalized service and you tip service industry, so it makes sense to me. Maybe not if it was choosing a dress off the rack and checkout, but all of the "is there another size" or "it's not princess enough" and "I want beads but not too many beads but enough" and having the associate hold their hands throughout the whole ordeal... I'd tip for that level of service.

Tipping in bridal store should be commission. Paid by the owner of the store.

I think it's time to quit using debit/credit cards and go back to paying cash. Avoids that tip question and if you feel they deserve a tip you can just leave what you feel appropriate and not based on any % they suggest.

I thought bridal consultants worked off of commission?! Since when do retail employees get tips? Customer service IS the title of the job. If I have to put up with crappy customers, I better be getting paid a full wage/commission. Leaving it up to the customer to tip isn't fair to the customer nor the employee. Employers need to get over tips as wages. Tips should be a "thank you" not a paycheck.

If I was prompted for a tip on something costing me hundreds of dollars, I MIGHT give a $5 tip. Seriously... giving a real percentage of your purchase when spendinga fortune is ABSOLUTELY LUDICROUS, and if employees need more money, the company should give better wages and IF NECESSARY charge more for the merchandice.

Tipping? at a clothing store? where they get at LEAST better than minimum wage? HELL NO!

The US is seriously effed up.

That is insane! It’s like all the comments when someone does their job, that say “give this person a raise & a promotion”. Shouldn’t people be expected to do their job well as a basic standard? If they do something extra well, or out of the ordinary, then sure, a tip/raise or whatever. But not for just doing your job. Mind you, I’m from a culture where we tend to only tip for extra good service. People should get a decent wage to start with & we have a decent minimum wage hourly rate. Of course it could be better, but paying a decent wage & having expectations of your staff doing their job to a good standard should be the bare minimum expected on both sides.

Her boss charges $10k for a dress that costs less than $1k, i think it’s her boss’s reponsibility to provide a fair share for their employees, not the clients have to pay on the side for the staff. If I see a price that should cover everything(taxes, wages, packaging, warehouse cost,profit, etc)that’s what i’m paying, i may tip if i feel like. Tip is not the employee’s salary, that is built-in to the price of the products/services.

I would not have even given a $50 tip. I actually assume their percentages were a highball request to guilt patrons into giving a $50 "at least"

I see tipping.... If an employee walked me through the experience If I got my dress myself uh uh

The act of tipping has gotten completely obscured from what it was meant for which was a way to say thank you to the person going above and beyond service that their job called them to do. This does not include showing up for your job or doing anything you were hired to do. Companies need to pay their people instead of making customers pay for their item or service and then the employee as well. Too many people need classes on how to price items and do business successfully. If you can't afford to pay people to work you do not need employees.

Tipping has gotten out of hand, if you paid the staff a decent wage, customers wouldn't feel the need to tip. I tip when I feel it's good service, if it's shite then they don't get a penny.

if it was a place that did custom dresses, then i would likely tip, just as i would for an art commission, or a tattoo, or any other custom service. if it's something being bought off a rack, then tipping shouldn't come into it.

In such cases, look hem straight in the eye and ask "A tip? For what, exactly?"

I'm on holiday in the Philippines. A haircut and shave costs US$2 so I give a 100% tip. My wife tips the doctor's receptionist to get to the front of the queue but that might be regarded as a bribe rather than a tip. In Scotland the Scottish government is trying to get employers to pay the real living wage so there would be no need to rely on tips. When I was a Mental Health Nurse we never ever received tips, not even a packet of candies.

"All this noise obscures the real and somewhat legitimate, original reasons why tipping existed in the first place. Particularly in the US, many restaurants had very low wages and it was assumed that tips would make up the difference. " This is not, in fact, where tipping comes from. The English aristocracy started tipping their servants for superb service and the custom spread. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gratuity#:~:text=The%20practice%20of%20tipping%20began,for%20having%20performed%20superbly%20well. https://time.com/5404475/history-tipping-american-restaurants-civil-war/

Maybe the bridal shop is using the word tip for commission? That's all I can think of. But I'm not tipping (if it's purely for them doing their job in helping me find a dress and nothing more) for me doing all the work.

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Seems to me that if you have personal service as in most bridal shops a tip is not out of line. Now if you pull it off a rack and try it on like a pair of jeans then no tip required. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.personal service is no different than a restaurant