You are to hold your breath and sit perfectly still for the duration of my wedding, except at predetermined times when you will shower me praise with and beam with joy for me. You will be not be fat, but neither will you be skinny enough to make me look bad. You will not be ugly, but if you are too pretty you will asked to leave. You will not have cause to celebrate or grieve for two weeks before or after my perfect day. I look forward to celebrating my wedding day with you! (Cash gifts only. $500 minimum.)

I am now closing to my 25th wedding anniversary and barely even remember wedding day... Turns out it is not so important after all, what is important is what happened in the 25 years since the wedding day. Kids born and raised, all good and bad times, being together... that are things to remember, not some one day of your life. But regardless of the importance of the wedding day I am pretty sure I would never ever tell my sister to not attend my wedding, no matter if she would be pregnant, pretty, ugly, crippled or with hunchback.

If I ever get married and there is a pregnant woman there, I will congratulate her! Especially if she's been struggling to get pregnant in the first place, I would be over the moon! Fck this bridezilla! That's your SISTER, b!tch!!!

My niece had her future SIL as maid of honour, she was nearly 8 months pregnant o the day. My niece made sure the SILs dress would accommodate and look good on her growing belly. That's what love is, celebrating all the good things in life however and whenever they show up. These bridezillas are toxic af.

Holy c**p, what did I just read? My sister was 30 weeks pregnant at my wedding and I couldn't have cared less. It was a surprise pregnancy, and I was SO excited at the prospect of being an aunt. My sister was my MOH and I wouldn't have changed that for anything. SHE felt bad because she couldn't wear the bridesmaid dress we had picked, but I didn't care at all. I told her just to get a black dress. Her pregnancy took away zero from my wedding. Zero. And if people wanted to talk to her about her pregnancy, who cares? And then 10 weeks later, my husband and I became an aunt and uncle to our awesome nephew! We used him as our "practice baby" before we had our own kids. That bride should be ashamed of herself. I'd distance myself from that family if they treated me like that.

Honestly, life goes on, people marry and have children. Why is it a competition? I was going to be a bridesmaid at my best friend's wedding until we realized it was five days after my due date. I dropped out and promised to attend if I could. Sure enough, my kid kept me waiting a full two weeks before being born. We went to the wedding, I ate everything that wasn't nailed down, the hotel room my husband and I rented looked like a rock band had trashed it there were so many cups and wrappers tossed around. The wedding was wonderful, the bride beautiful, my kid spectacular and 35 years later we are all still best friends. It's not difficult.

My step-sister was about 7 months pregnant with her 1st at our wedding. Did she get attention for it? Sure, for maybe about 5 minutes at the table where she was sitting. I was told a funny story about that. All the quirky stuff that grabbed momentary attention just became funny and interesting sidebars of the story of our wedding day. Guess what? At all weddings I've attended, attention and conversations weren't 100% about the bride and groom, but normal social interactions with the other guests-- either catching up with family/friends we haven't seen in a while, or getting to know the other guests. You can't expect people's focus to stay completely on you. Weddings aren't about capturing an audience, but rather sharing a happy moment

These wedding stories are getting more and more ridiculous. I don't understand how OP being 30 weeks along will disrupt the wedding in anyway, shape, or form. It seems like brides these days want their wedding to be a Hollywood event and anything that deviates from that plan is unacceptable. Weddings are supposed to be a time for families to come together and celebrate this exciting moment in their lives. This woman is NTA and if I was her I would skip the wedding altogether and just stay home. Her family are a bunch of entitled jerks.

How awful for them that it's not just bridezilla who is being horrible. I just wouldn't bother going to the wedding since no one from her family appear to be pleased for them. I hope she has decent in-laws. For what it's worth, I haven't yet been to a wedding where there isn't at least one person pregnant.

I don’t get this whole attention, thunder stealing mentality. It’s very elementary school. Wedding’s have become so showy lately that they really take away from the actual point of one. I don’t think the point of a wedding is to be the center of attention but to pledge your love to your significant other. Maybe I’m missing something? NTA, your family seems to be tho.

She planned when she wanted to have her baby, just so it wouldn't get in sis's way at her wedding, realizes she'll be 30 weeks, tells sister, and sister goes crazy. Next wedding she has, I'd purposely show up with a newborn.

Yikes. I would not have even considered planning a pregnancy around anyone's wedding! Or any event for that matter. I just don't understand either of these women.

If you're the bride with the gown, the veil, the music, the trip up the aisle, the vows, the toasts and speeches at the reception, etc. and you still can't compete for attention with a 36-week pregnant woman who just sits there, the problem is not the 36-week pregnant woman.

If a guest being pregnant distracts from the happy couple, then either the happy couple are astoundingly dull, have terrible friends and family, or have excessively high expectations for how much attention they will get on their wedding day.

my friend was pregnant wen i get married and on top of that we have the same wedding date so it was her 5th anniversary wen i got married. did i care? sure but in a good way. me and my husband used our mcs mic to say happy anniversary and congrats to them at our wedding. we care about them and wanted them to kno. my parents and family even said congrats and stuff and i wasnt bothered by it at all. i was happy. she wasnt showing at the time of my wedding but still i wasnt going to replace her bc she was pregnant. i asked her to b one of my bridesmaids knowing that she could have a 2nd kid at any time. the same went for one of my other bridesmaids. her and her husband had been trying for awhile to have kids and been having no luck. if i found out shed b pregnant at my wedding id celebrate it. and for those wondering my other friend did end up getting pregnant and she had an adorable son. he was born in the summer after my wedding i got married in october 2020

My sister was about 5-6 months pregnant when I got married. I mentioned it in my wedding speech.

You can be pregnant whenever you damn well please and who cares if you go to a wedding pregnant? But please don't say struggling for 3 month. 3 month is NOT a struggle to get pregnant you don't know how lucky you are

My mom hated her wedding. My aunt objected, her dress broke and she and my dad fought for most of the night. But 32 years later, she doesn’t even think about it because it is about the MARRIAGE!! And the life they built together. She’s even forgiven my aunt for objecting. I mostly feel bad for OP’s baby that it’s resented so much and it isn’t even born!!

So often family is a lesson on what not to do. Who not to associate with. My father taught me how to not love anyone at all. Luckily, my mother was different, so I'm not a total AHole.

Oh those people..."How dare people have a life while I'm planning my wedding??"

Married 38 years now and never wanted a big wedding or all that comes it's that. It's hard for me to believe that that the OP could even question this makes no sense. She has every right to enjoy the blessing in her own life and not worry what her sister thinks. As for the bride, I have no comment because it's too insane.

This is a perfect example of how selfish some people can be and only think they are the only ones that matter in the world. I'm so upset for you that this happened. And you planned around this? Next time you be more selfish!

NTA. Period.

Damn what? Sorry life exists outside of her bubble. Go or don't go but if it's drama and effecting your health don't do it. I've never seen someone preg at a wedding and forgot I was at a wedding. Wtf

If I was in her shoes, I'd tell the sister that if she felt that I was taking away her limelight at the wedding then I wouldn't be there. I'd also tell that she's acting like a b***h.

This is stupid beyond stupid. NTA isn't it time people to grow up. If she's that worried about things ruining her wedding day then she possible just get a court house marriage with a couple of witnesses. Life goes on, babies happen and you shouldn't need to consult anyone except each other on the timing of your pregnancy

NTA for god sake I can't believe what I just read

Man, I'd be calling her every time I was about to have sex for the rest of my life. "Hey, Shauna, just wondering if you were planning anything in about 9 months because myself and Hubby are about to get down to business, but I'd hate to mildly inconvenience you at some point in the future so I thought I'd better check."

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I'm sorry but unless you are actually on all fours delivering up on the altar then it's nobodies business if you are pregnant or not. You are certainly NTA but your sister and family are massive AH. I wish you many congrats on the new arrival and frankly I'd skip the wedding entirely and go for a pamper day instead as you definitely deserve it.

If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far, run fast.

I think I read the whole BP for these entitlement stories and these unbelievably first world problems.

I'm just going to say that this is ridiculous, and I feel like some people do not understand. First, they were not "struggling". Struggling means a year or more of trying with no success. But regardless of that, it's her body, and her family choices. The bride sounds selfish and spoiled, and this thing where brides try to make the entire time before their wedding about them, and then have a special day is stupid.

This post is absurd.