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Guy Wants Girlfriend To Sleep On The Floor Instead Of In Bed With Him, She Asks For Advice
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Guy Wants Girlfriend To Sleep On The Floor Instead Of In Bed With Him, She Asks For Advice

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Living with someone else for the very first time can be a bit awkward. After all, everyone has their own schedules and habits. It takes a while to get in sync. However, in some cases, that’s extremely difficult because folks work very different hours.

Redditor u/Cucumbertrees asked the r/AITAH online community for advice regarding a sensitive situation at home. Her boyfriend recently started working nights, so he comes back home really late (or early, depending on your perspective). However, in order to get some rest, he asks the author to leave the bed so he can sleep ‘properly.’ Scroll down for the full story and the advice the internet gave the woman. Bored Panda has reached out to the author via Reddit, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.

Sleeping next to your partner can be a tad uncomfortable at first for some until they get used to sharing their bed

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One woman asked for advice after her boyfriend, who works nights, asked her to leave the bedroom and sleep elsewhere

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She later shared a lot more context about her and her boyfriend’s living situation

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There are lots of things that couples can do to get better quality sleep together

All couples need to find a way to make things work, whether you’re talking about sleeping arrangements and chore division or childcare and savings.

There will always be at least some friction. There will always be disagreements. So, you need to compromise on some things. But the key thing to keep in mind here is that both sides need to be happy with the decision. If one partner always gets their way at the expense of their better half, it might breed a lot of resentment.

In other words, one person shouldn’t feel like they have to sleep on the floor or on the couch just because their partner works the night shift. If there’s a perfectly good bed in the bedroom, it would be a shame not to use it. Sleeping next to another person can be uncomfortable at times, but that’s part of being in a relationship and living together. All of that prolonged physical contact can help deepen the bond between people.

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On the other hand, nobody’s forcing anyone to hug each other throughout the night. If it’s too hot, you can always sleep without the covers on your side of the bed. And you can invest in some earplugs and a blindfold if things are too noisy and bright.

Alternatively, if the bed isn’t big enough for two people… it might be time to get a bigger and better one. Preferably with a good mattress and sheets and ergonomic pillows. There’s a lot that you can do to improve the quality of your sleep without asking your partner to leave the bedroom at night.

Another solution is to get a different position or move to another company where you don’t have to work nights. If you’re constantly tired and getting into fights with your other half over the quality of your sleep, it might be worth reconsidering your priorities.

Working the same hours as your partner could help you both get on the same page. However, there is a chance that the issues with the bed run deeper. It might be worth talking about the real reasons behind the disagreement before investing in a better couch for one of the people to sleep on.

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Low-quality sleep is going to have a negative effect on your health and how you treat the people around you

Talking to a couples counselor is always an option: if you’re feeling lost or keep going in circles, they can help you see the entire situation from a fresh perspective.

It’s not fair to kick your partner out of bed, but it’s understandable that everyone wants to get quality sleep. It has a massive effect on our overall physical and mental health.

Different people have different needs based on their inherited traits. Some only need a few hours of sleep, while others need a bit more. But broadly speaking, most adults require between 7 to 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep per night, as per the CDC.

Around a third of healthcare workers in the United States get 6 or fewer hours of sleep per day, which many experts consider to be too short.

Getting too little sleep leads to sleep deprivation, which increases the risk of obesity, as well as chronic illnesses. Not only do people who don’t sleep enough feel tired, but they also have longer reaction times and have trouble thinking, remembering, and concentrating.

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The National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute states that poor sleep affects the quality of our work and even social functioning. Someone who is sleep deficient might have trouble judging other’s emotions and reactions. Meanwhile, they’re more prone to feeling frustrated and worried when around other people.

According to the CDC, people on shift work and long work hours tend to have poorer sleep quality and sleep less. Those working night and rotating shifts are the most affected. 50% of night shift workers in the healthcare sector reported sleeping 6 hours or less per day.

What advice would you give the author of the post, Pandas? What would you do if you were in her shoes? Tell us all about it in the comments.

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Many readers thought that the woman did absolutely nothing wrong. Here’s the advice they gave her

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Jonas Grinevičius

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Jonas Grinevičius

Jonas Grinevičius

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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Gabija Saveiskyte

Gabija Saveiskyte

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Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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FreeTheUnicorn
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are living together it's fair to split bills by paym if he makes 70% of the income, he should pay 70% of the bills and not guilt you. But each partner deserves good sleep, would a second bed, a bigger bed or finding a place with two bedrooms be considered? Just because you make less money doesn't mean you owe him better treatment than you receive.

Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree. The comments that because hes making more money he deserves more sleep is kinda wild. Maybe she works 10 hour days as a waitress? Even if she doesnt, sleep is a human need for both of them equally.

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Trillian
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't sleep together how about getting separate bedrooms? Everyone deserves to be comfortable at night and not everyone's sleep habits are compatible.

Spocks's Mom
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I have separate bedrooms. He got tired of me poking him in the ribs when he started his high decibel snoring. Our marriage is better for it.

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FreeTheUnicorn
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are living together it's fair to split bills by paym if he makes 70% of the income, he should pay 70% of the bills and not guilt you. But each partner deserves good sleep, would a second bed, a bigger bed or finding a place with two bedrooms be considered? Just because you make less money doesn't mean you owe him better treatment than you receive.

Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
Community Member
4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree. The comments that because hes making more money he deserves more sleep is kinda wild. Maybe she works 10 hour days as a waitress? Even if she doesnt, sleep is a human need for both of them equally.

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Trillian
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't sleep together how about getting separate bedrooms? Everyone deserves to be comfortable at night and not everyone's sleep habits are compatible.

Spocks's Mom
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I have separate bedrooms. He got tired of me poking him in the ribs when he started his high decibel snoring. Our marriage is better for it.

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